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Issue : 50
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The survivor group of 06 member Sinhala and Tamil women headed families, left for war-torn North on the 18th of April 2013 in
search of women headed families in the Mannar and Kilinochchi districts.
For nearly three decades, Sri Lanka was scarred by a bitter civil war driven by ethnic
tension for many years. Much of the Mannar District was under the control of the
rebellious
Liberation tigers
of Tamil Ealam.
As one widow righty says, ‘I feel restless to the very core. I feel like
everyone else’s life is moving, and I stay in the same place. Like I’m running on a treadmill as fast as I can, and everyone else is jogging past me
on solid ground, waving. Some of them are cheerfully enjoying the exercise, others are complaining about how tired they are, but their lives are
still moving past mine while I struggle and sprint and still stay in one place.’
Apart frome social, economic and legal hardships, the widows are subject to
different forms humiliation. They are considered as a bad omen in many Sri
Lankan rural areas. They are marginalized by their own communities and
often subjected to extreme forms
of discrimination and physical,
sexual, and mental abuse.
Therefore, widowhood represents
a form of “social death” leading
them to numerous psychological
ailments. As Ed Payne states in “Collateral Damage” “If men were the principle casualties of
the War, these widows represent its collateral damage.”
The widows of these villages are God fearing. They go to church for prayers every morning
and gather at the church again at 12 noon to pray. They find security, power and strength
in God. They also believe that „When love is lost, they should bow their head in sadness,
but should keep their head up high and gaze into heaven, for that is where their broken
hearts have been sent to heal”.
“The turning point in the process of growing up is when you discover the core of strength
within you that survives all hurt” as Max Lerner says and accordingly slowly but steadily
their livelihood is transformed.. They have learnt the trades of their husbands and have become the breadwinners of their families. It is
remarkable to see the women in these two villages go to the sea and to the lagoon for fishing like their husbands.