There is absolutely something wrong about the views of tito specially in his context of victim blaming.

As a woman, when I hear someone says, “If you don’t want to be raped, don’t wear revealing clothes,” I
cannot stop the questions that ring in my head. Questions like: “What about rape victims who are old or
children? Are they so irresistable that men cannot help but robbing them of their rights to their own
body?”The idea that clothing contributes to rape is false — and incredibly common.All this “advice”
doesn’t actually stop rape from happening. It didn’t save nuns from being raped.It didn’t save the woman
who never goes out at night. It didn’t save the secondary school girl.What it does however is make life
easier for the rapists. In the process of focusing our efforts on telling the victims what they should have
done, we’re further emboldening the transgressor — for he now thinks that it’s her fault for getting raped.

Linking rape to a woman’s clothes is like generalizing all men as potential “rapists”, that they cannot act
with empathy and rationality, that they have no capacity to respect the inherent rights of others. I believe
this is instinctual. It’s what distinguishes us from animals. We are God’s creature blessed with the ability
to act not just on our biological urge, but also with empathy and rationality.

The way anyone dresses should not be deemed as ‘opportunity’ to sexually assault them.

Victims of any form of sexual violence and abuse are often attacked and put to shame for the crime that
happened to them, citing their type of clothing or activity at the time of the incident provoked their
perpetrators and abusers. Rape culture is real and a product of this precise line of thinking, where the
behavior is normalized, particularly by men,which is absolutely wrong.

The time to retire the Maria Clara Mentality was long ago

This is not the first time people have laid the blame for rape on the victims themselves, whether in the
Philippines or across the globe. But in a country where the age-old image of “Maria Clara” still persists,
the expectation for women to somehow be able to “prevent” rape via the clothes they wear, who they
hang out with, and the like, combined with the misguided belief that it is in men’s nature to rape,
inevitably means that victims regularly get the blame. Lest we forget, at the end of Noli Me Tangere, it
was implied that for all her conservative and “ideal” traits, she still became a victim of rape at the hands
of Padre Salvi. While there is nothing wrong with being conservative or religious, the time to let go of
using her as the current ideal Filipina has long past—and using her idealized traits to justify victim-
blaming even more so.

Instead of teaching women how to dress, we should teach men not to rape. Girls and women do not
report sex crimes precisely because of the tendency to victim-blame. Let’s retire this thinking,
I, like the many women,we don’t need to be reminded about something we live with constantly. People
who survive sexual violence need to know they’ll be listened to, not lectured.

The argument that a woman wearing revealing clothing warrants her assault is an objectification of her
body as nothing more than a sexual conquest. To think that a low-cut top or high-rise shorts can cause a
rape rather than a rapist is essentially saying a victim was “asking for it.” Furthermore, many women can
attest that our bodies are sexualized no matter what clothing we’re in. Fully clothed, women are
harassed and raped because women aren’t viewed with the dignity and respect that distinguishes them
from a sexual object in the first place.

Let’s put this in this context,

If you won’t steal from a rich person, wearing a flashy expensive watch just because they’re alone in a
room with you, then it makes no sense to justify rape because a woman was alone with a man wearing a
short skirt.

Following this train of thought, it’s clear that rape, which is very much a robbery of the victim’s
autonomy and humanity, has nothing to do with their clothing or actions.

The person that makes rape happen is the rapist. No one else. Rape exists because of rapists.The same
way the only person that makes a robbery happen is the thief. That’s why all the critique, punishment
and behaviour changing should be focused on the rapist.

The advice to wear something conservative wouldn’t save a woman from sexual assault. All this
“advice” doesn’t actually stop rape from happening. It didn’t save nuns from being raped.It didn’t save
the woman who never goes out at night. It didn’t save the secondary school girl.What it does however is
make life easier for the rapists. In the process of focusing our efforts on telling the victims what they
should have done, we’re further emboldening the transgressor — for he now thinks that it’s her fault for
getting raped.

So let’s stop victim blaming.Let’s focus our energies where they should be; shaming & punishing men for
rape.

Let us raise a generation of men (and women) that don’t give victims a hard time, while essentially
enabling actual rapists.

Rape culture should start on changing the perception of men about rape.
Rape exists because of rapists’

Rape culture should start on changing the perception of men about rape.

Sexy’ clothes don’t excuse sexual violence

We, as a culture, like to blame the victim because it makes us feel safe
Rape culture is real and a product of this precise line of thinking, where the behavior is normalized,
particularly by men,

Why dress codes can’t stop sexual assault

The idea that clothing contributes to rape is false — and incredibly common.

Stop teaching girls how to dress Teach people not to rape

The way anyone dresses should not be deemed as ‘opportunity’ to sexually assault them.

Victims of any form of sexual violence and abuse are often attacked and put to shame for the crime that
happened to them, citing their type of clothing or activity at the time of the incident provoked their
perpetrators and abusers.

Rape exists because of rapists’

Rape culture should start on changing the perception of men about rape.

“Instead of teaching women how to dress, we should teach men not to rape. Girls and women do not
report sex crimes precisely because of the tendency to victim-blame. Let’s retire this thinking,

The abuse victims had gone through can never be undone. It is disheartening to see institutions sweep it
under the rug instead of taking accountability. We ask for justice. Prove that the core values you’ve
instilled in us are what you believe in

“Rape exists because of rapists. Anyone who tries to justify rape because of how women dress is
appalling and horrendous.
The Time to Retire the Maria Clara Mentality Was Long Ago

This is not the first time people have laid the blame for rape on the victims themselves, whether in the
Philippines or across the globe. But in a country where the age-old image of “Maria Clara” still persists,
the expectation for women to somehow be able to “prevent” rape via the clothes they wear, who they
hang out with, and the like, combined with the misguided belief that it is in men’s nature to rape,
inevitably means that victims regularly get the blame.

Women need to be Maria Claras to protect themselves—that continues to normalize rape. P

Lest we forget, at the end of Noli Me Tangere, it was implied that for all her conservative and “ideal”
traits, she still became a victim of rape at the hands of Padre Salvi. While there is nothing wrong with
being conservative or religious, the time to let go of using her as the current ideal Filipina has long past
—and using her idealized traits to justify victim-blaming even more so.

My answer: I, like the many women who are angered by Ben Tulfo’s statements, don’t need to be told to
be careful. We don’t need to be reminded about something we live with constantly. People who survive
sexual violence need to know they’ll be listened to, not lectured

The question of what a victim is wearing when they were assaulted assumes that if we all covered up
like the Filipino epitome of modest femininity, Maria Clara, we would be safe. Well, as some high school
students have reminded us who may have forgotten Jose Rizal’s works, “Spoiler: Maria Clara was
raped.”

The abuse victims had gone through can never be undone. It is disheartening to see institutions sweep it
under the rug instead of taking accountability. We ask for justice. Prove that the core values you’ve
instilled in us are what you believe in

What you wear is not a statement of consent

 The argument that a woman wearing revealing clothing warrants her assault is an objectification of her
body as nothing more than a sexual conquest. To think that a low-cut top or high-rise shorts can cause a
rape rather than a rapist is essentially saying a victim was “asking for it.”

Furthermore, many women can attest that our bodies are sexualized no matter what clothing we’re in.
Fully clothed, women are harassed and raped because women aren’t viewed with the dignity and
respect that distinguishes them from a sexual object in the first place.

We know that anyone from a nun to a soldier can be a victim of sexual assault — including men

If you won’t steal from a rich person, wearing a flashy expensive watch just because they’re alone in a
room with you, then it makes no sense to justify rape because a woman was alone with a man wearing a
short skirt.

Following this train of thought, it’s clear that rape, which is very much a robbery of the victim’s
autonomy and humanity, has nothing to do with their clothing or actions.

The person that makes rape happen is the rapist. No one else. The same way the only person that makes
a robbery happen is the thief. That’s why all the critique, punishment and behaviour changing should be
focused on the rapist.

All this “advice” doesn’t actually stop rape from happening. It didn’t save nuns from being raped. didn’t
save the woman who never goes out at night. It didn’t save the secondary school girl.

What it does however is make life easier for the rapists. In the process of focusing our efforts on telling
the victims what they should have done, we’re further emboldening the transgressor — for he now
thinks that it’s her fault for getting raped.

So let’s stop victim blaming.Let’s focus our energies where they should be; shaming & punishing men for
rape.

Let us raise a generation of men (and women) that don’t give victims a hard time, while essentially
enabling actual rapists.

As a woman, when I hear someone says, “If you don’t want to be raped, don’t wear revealing clothes,” I
cannot stop the questions that ring in my head. Questions like: “What about rape victims who are old or
children? Are they so irresistable that men cannot help but robbing them of their rights to their own
body?”
Linking rape to a woman’s clothes is like generalizing all men as potential “rapists”, that they cannot act
with empathy and rationality, that they have no capacity to respect the inherent rights of others. I
believe this is instinctual. It’s what distinguishes us from animals. We are God’s creature blessed with
the ability to act not just on our biological urge, but also with empathy and rationality.