CIRCLE OF

SEXUALITY
BY BHARTI, KRITIKA AND MANISHA
ABOUT THE SESSION
SAFE, UNSAFE, AND CONFUSING
TOUCH
Objectives:
• To equip participants to sensitize and protect
their children from sexual abuse.
• To help them make their children recognize
what is a ‘bad touch’ or unwanted
sexual touching and what children can do to
protect themselves.
 MATERIAL REQUIRED
Body maps on large sheets of paper (a
child-size outline of a body, front, and
back without clothes), colored pens and
crayons
(Green and Red) or Green and Red Bindi
packets.
 INSTRUCTIONS

1. Make small groups of four or five participants each, and give each
group a copy of the body maps and colored pens or bindis - both green
and red.

2. First ask the participants to take the green pen or bindi. Ask each person in the
group, one by one, to mark with green on the body map if there are some places on
the body that they particularly like to be touched or they can put the green bindi in
that place i.e. any touch they find good, loving, caring or compassionate. Give about
5-10 minutes for the group to mark these areas on the Body Map.
 3. Now ask them why have they marked those areas i.e. what is about that touch
they found good and why? And in each case, who was the person touching you that
made this touch feel good?

4. After this discussion, now. After this discussion, now ask the participants to take the red
pen or bindi. Ask them now to mark on the same body map if there are some places on the
body that they particularly do not like to be touched or they can put the red bindi in that place
i.e.Parts of the body where they do not like to be touched as well as parts of the body where
they have been touched, which have made them uncomfortable, upset, angryand/or confused.

5. After each member of the group has marked their response, now ask them why
have they marked those areas i.e., what is about that touch they found
uncomfortable, bad or confusing? And why? And in each case, who was the person
touching you that made this touch feel this way?
6 Participants can share their body maps with the other groups.

7. Ask the participants where 'bad touch' can happen?

8. Story time- VIDEO

9. Encourage them to express what they feel.

10. At the end, use the information to explain the ‘good’, ‘bad’
and ‘confusing’ touches to them.
 11. Brainstorm with the participants about what they could their
children do if they are caught in such a situation. Suggest some simple
ideas if the parents have not already mentioned them, such as talking to
a trusted adult or running away.

12. End the session by telling the participants that this activity can be
done by them with children at home or in school - individually or in
groups.
STORY TIME

 CHALLENGES
Conveying information without making the audience uncomfortable
Gender Stereotypes
general discomfort with talking about sex, Hesitation while sharing
opinions, and drawing nude figures.
Language accessibility - Naming the body parts was making
uncomfortable, lack of vocabulary in terms of body parts, emotions,
and feelings.
Lack of proper knowledge, myths, and misconceptions - age old
thinking patterns.
Resistance
reflective Questions - subjective in nature
No Experience, not able to relate
uncertainty about response patterns, how to react?
Fear of shame and being misunderstood.
Inhibition - to avoid triggering memories, unresolved traumas
Will the society and its people believe me ?
THE FIVE CIRCLES OF
SEXUALITY
 Sexual power and agency
Power within sexual relations.

of self-
Power within, derived from a sense
worth and understanding of one’s
preferences and values, which enable a
person to realize sexual well-being and
health.
Power to influence, consent, and/or decline.
Power with others to negotiate and decide.
Power over others; using sex to manipulate,
control, or harm other people.
 SEXUALIZATION
Sexual behaviors and practices
Who does what with which body parts,
items, and/or partners.

Understanding the difference

between safe and unsafe touch.
The use of sexuality to influence,
control, and/or manipulate
others…Power
Flirting Media messages, images
Seduction Withholding sex
Sexual harassment Incest Sexual
assault, rape
 INTIMACY
The exchange of emotional closeness between people
Caring Sharing Loving, liking Risk taking
Vulnerability Self disclosure Reciprocity
Trust
Relationship between emotional and
physical closeness.
Understanding healthy physical
boundaries.
 TIPS
1. Clothing rules- I keep my private parts covered in front of
others. though we don't cover our mouths, it is private too.
2. Touching rules- I don't touch my private parts in front of
others.
3. Talking rules- I talk about private parts with safe adults. I ask
questions and discuss concerns regarding these parts with
them.
 TIPS
1. Teach children “you’re the boss of your body”
2. Use the proper words for body parts
3. Keep the right tone
4. Talk about good touch versus bad touch
5. Keep having the conversation
6. Teach Body Parts to Your Child Early
7. Help Them Understand That They are Not at Fault
8. NO, GO, TELL
9. SURAKSHITH APP
How you teach about touch

1. Bath Time
2. Play Time
3. Changing Time
Thank you