SOCIAL MEDIA AND LONELINESS

When we take a shalllow look at social media it just seems like big curse that
made us deppressed jelous and realise what’s out there so we felt small not
enough ext
And that is true big one but social media aslo created safe spaces made people
more aware of their problems made us feel understood
Some people like to debate that is just made us feel detached from reality and
is sense is does but what if that reality is something we want to escape
I want to talk about how important comunities are we as sapiens are always in
the look for sense belonging it’s why we built families
We always heard that human are social creatures but the thing is we needed to
be social long time ago cause we needed food nowdays you really don’t need
to go out of your eggshell to make lot of stuff possible you don’t need to
interact with the cashier or make friend orface people you can just text them
Texting is tricky you don’t need to express something in your voice or read the
preson’s face or deal with their emotion you can just send emoji and that kinda
indicate the tone your going for which make it harder to talk to people in real
life
That’s why lot people develeped social anixety but their is a side of this
loneliness that social media offered for us
In his painting nightthawks edwad hopper is a painting of lonely people in a bar
but offer a 4 screen effect i will just call it that because you feel like you’re just
standing ouside lonely looking at these people which is similair to was social
media does you feel like you’re staring at someone from their personal space
and sharing a moment with them wihtout having to interact
So in the age of individualism krishnamurti explained how it could feel so lonely
so bland but what cause it he said and i quote « it must exist because your
actions right buut you’re going to not agree your daily ation are self centered »
When henry rollins said that « loneliness adds ti the beuaty to life » he meant
only when you go back to the unloneliness kirshanamurti talks about it beyond
the self time’s although self time’s is necessary
Lonliness is disesspearing
But how are we surviving them how did we make it as policticaly driven as this
seem but the « vlogs » and the sense of comunities stuff like youtube and
tiktok these platform that offer video of people doing intimte thing sharing
feeling intrest emtion is what help us as people pleaser who’s trying to stop
what helped me to find myself and accept it what social media knowing that
some peole share my experiences was conforting knowing that lot people have
same intrest as me made me more vocal about them and i felt better about
experesing myself i used to get builled as child and not because of my looks is
was mostly my personality like the fact that i talk a lot i’m also eurodivergent
thinker so it was harder to fit in i had to accommodate to what people like and
since my circle was small it was easy but when i got into college and submited
to clubs and i knew a lot people i had lot of friend groups cause i’m really
extroverted i lost touch who i was and was deppressed for more than year only
when i had the time alone that i needed to connect with what i really like
though these platfrom only them that i felt better about being in social settings
so although social media gave me ed and huge body dysmorphia it also made
lot of people insecure and created these crazy beauty standard it also created
safe spaces for people it made people more familiar with their habits we find
people we relate to we are more comftoble duscusing emotion therapy and
discovering what we like without feeling the social pressure of being too much
of not being « normal » whatever society decided normal is
In the movie graduate it portrays lonelines and being lost in new lens in my
opnion

For leibeniz the monad or th soul is a persists as an unextended self enclosed

windowless being it eihibits an epistemological and we can experess this
monad through social media were it feel more accepted
Our primal instenct to aboid loneliness was with the accomanying need for
prolonged intimacy from the candle to the grave but it seems so hard to find
that now
Socrates defined the self consciouness or the thinking as talking to youself and
in sence social media does offer that you don’t need to comfort someone you
can built your argument and have discussion through video of people you can
learn and expand what you are without feeling alone
That doesn’t mean that social media could give you the intrevorsion dream of
not havng to socialize it is imortant to have comunnity ouside of it a support
system social media is just th safe space for you to find that support system
and to meet people who share what you feel outside of it you can still have
friend and you should cuw it’s important to be grounded by people not
controled by them
Cause solitude is a positve feeling when one is alone however i should be noted
that any unduly prolonged isolation turn into negative feeling of lonieless and
abandonment as kant’s frightening example of carazan