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Introduction....................................................................................................................1
Forms of Marriage Among The Kalenjin...................................................................1
The contents of the Kalenjin Society with respect to marriage..................................2
Capacity...........................................................................................................................2
Consent for Marriage....................................................................................................2
Formalities of A Kalenjin Customary Marriage........................................................3
1. The Proposal (Kegoyto Tuga)...............................................................................4
2. Dowry Negotiations.............................................................................................4
3. Engagement (Koito).............................................................................................5
4. Dowry payment among the Kipsigis................................................................5
5. Wedding................................................................................................................5
Conclusion......................................................................................................................6
KALENJIN MARRIAGE
Introduction
The Kalenjin are a group of tribes designated as highland Nilotes, they descended from the Maliri people. The
Kalenjin, just like any other community have their own cultural practices; one of them being the different stages
of life. In this article we focus on marriage. The Kalenjin have their own customs they follow, traditions that
they have been passed onto by their ancestors, and will pass on to their children.
Forms of Marriage Among The Kalenjin
1. Polygamy (Syoonik) – This is where a man would marry many wives. The procedure of marriage is the same as
the first marriage but respect was accorded to the first wife who was held at high esteem as opposed to the other
wives. Having many wives was a symbol of pride and wealth. This marriage was mostly common among the
Kipsigis. As a symbol of respect to the first wife the husband had to consult with her before making the decision
to marry other wives. It was unheard of for a man to use cattle accrued to him from his daughter’s marriages to
marry another wife. This was although allowed among the Nandi in circumstances where the man had no sons.
2. Museet – This was mainly done during times of war. The mother of a groom would take his son’s place and
marry a woman on his behalf as an assurance of companionship and protection upon son's death in case that
eventuality his brothers would inherit and bear children on his behalf. Upon son’s return he would live with the
young woman.
3. Kiitunji Toloch – This is where an old woman with no children married a young woman for the purpose of
companionship, protection and helping out with the work in the homestead. The young woman would call the old
woman mother and if she bore children then they would be considered the old woman’s children and were
entitled to inheritance. In the case of Monica Jesang Katam v Jackson Jepkwony and another succession case No
212 of 2010 EKLR. Monica (plaintiff) was the beneficiary of an estate of Cherotich Kimong’ony Kibserea by
virtue of having married her under Nandi customs. Justice Ojwang ruled in her favour.
4. Kipkondit – This was mainly done with the purpose of “raising seed” for deceased husband. A widowed
woman was under the care of her husband’s brother in all social aspects except for sexual relations. Sexual
relations were strictly orchestrated where there was mutual desire. The widowed woman had the freedom to
marry another man who oftentimes was considered “too poor to marry” They would cohabit on the condition that
the children they bore were considered the dead husband’s and were to inherit from him.
Other forms of marriage include: Katunisyetab tororyeet – important ceremony performed late in life to show
respect for couple who had been married for many years. (Kapsirwonin) married another woman so that she can
gave birth on her behalf. Kabwatereret – involves booking of a young child at tender age by an individual so that
he can start paying dowry. Kandiet – involves inheriting widow by close relative
Marriage within the same clan is not acceptable. Marriage of close relative was not allowed. Son or daughter was
not allowed to marry someone of the same age set as his or her father, they married into next older or younger age
set Adultery was taboo for women. It was taboo for a woman to meet her son in law on the path, a woman would
take to the bushes if she saw her son in law coming. If a woman and her son in law needed to talk, they would talk
at a distance
Young Men, now initiated (bakule/batum), would take up the age-sets, this is significant as this confers an
identity to the young men, as it was expected. Generally, the society was calibrated to have the age-sets they
included; Nyongiik (Nyongi), Mainek (Maina), Chumek (Chumo), Saweiyek (Sawe), Kipkoimetiek (kipkoimet),
Kaplelachek (Kaplelach) and Kimnyigeiek (Kimnyigei) et. al. Apart from providing an Identity for the new young
men, the age group that the young men would join after initiation would be the warriors to the community. This is
important to the marriage aspect as the Young men were expected to go on an expedition. The Kalenjin being a
livestock keeping community, would expect the young man who had gone koporu tuga/tich (expedition to bring
in cows) to conquer the enemy and come back with a herd. To this end, a successful young man would be deemed
as Matured (no longer a Ng’etet (uncircumcised young man) now an adult) and responsible (the significance of
the expedition.)
The young man would have then met the minimum requirements to take a bride to himself.
On the part of Girls, for a girl to be considered to have the capacity to get married, she must undergo circumcision
(keyatita) on her end she is then secluded and in the seclusion she is taught her responsibilities after which she
will be ready for marriage. The events afterwards are discussed in detail at the formalities.
Consent for Marriage
The Kalenjin Tradition view of marriage was that it was a sacred thing not to be broken (makibete lol.) Marriage
was therefore held in high regard. It is for that reason that it was not upon the young ones to choose who to marry
and who not to. Boisiek (elders) of the family including sigiik (parents) of the children had the preserve of doing
the negotiations on behalf of their children. For consent to be given, however, there were factors that were
considered for consent to be given.
Formalities of A Kalenjin Customary Marriage
The formalities for marriage would begin at the point where boisiek from the man’s side are convinced that the
man was old enough, mature and responsible to have a family and the potential girl to be taken as a wife has
already been circumcised, they would then seek a potential wife for the man. The elders would leave very early in
the morning to the Girl’s home. Here, they would propose the man as the potential suitor for the girl. The
proposal is by way of Kegoito tuga (giving a cow.) The Cow was an unconditional offer, where they did not
really expect the answer from the potential bride’s parents. It is a show of offer to the parents and all this is done
in good faith. It is also worthy to note that this happens immediately after the word spreads that a girl has been
circumcised. It is also noteworthy that the offer does not emanate from only one potential suitor, but the number
varies according to factors like family and the character of the girl among others.
There are considerations that are supposed to be met before the choice of a suitor is made. The same was
supposed to be met by the girl’s family. The Kalenjin are exogamous - marriage within family was very
prohibited. There was a mechanism to ensure this was adhered to in very strict measures.
The society was arranged in clans- they were basically members that shared a common ancestor, there are many
clans within the Nandi’s, they include: Kapchepkendi, Kamelilo, Koilegei, Kabochiik, Kaptalamek among others.
This was the first consideration that was made when choosing a good suitor, while it was not explicit that
marriage should not be within the clan (there are stricter measures that ensured that adherence) the preferred
suitor was one that did not come from the same clan. The very strict measures that were developed gradually yto
ensure exogamy was the development of ortinwek (loosely translates to roads) and tiongik (loosely translates to
animals to refer to totems.)
To properly understand the totem system illustrations are given.
The totem (family that belonged to, or represented by, the oret) Kipyegen which is represented by the animal
Moset (meaning Monkey) were allowed to marry from the oret of Kibois represented by the animal Lelwot (the
fox.) The family that was represented by the oret, Mooi (represented by the tiondo kong’onyot (Crested Crane))
was allowed to marry Kipkenda represented by the tiondo segemik (bees.) Among other totems that existed were
the Talai represented by Ng’etung’do (the Lion) commonly known for their orkoik (seers) powers. It is also
worthy to note that should any ‘mistake’ be made and two potential families pass the sieves that were made to
filter out the possibility of marriage within the clan, then the society had other mechanisms to prevent close blood
relations from intermarrying. In cases where there was risk of intermarrying, but the elders know that there are no
close blood ties, the clan would be split into two, with a significant meaning, say a family from the monkey
‘kipyegen’ would be split into two, ‘kipyegen che tai’ and ‘kipyegen solopik’ (the original clan and the one of the
line of the cockroach where the cockroach here signifies slolpik che kirop got meaning (cockroaches that creeped
the wall of the house/family)). A specific example that exists to date for instance, among the clan that belonged to
‘Kipkenda’ (the Bees) due to probably an intermarriage that occurred way earlier, the clan was split into two,
Segemik che tuen, and Segemik che birien (referring to the red bees that reside on trees and the black bees that
reside on caves and on the ground.)
There were instances where these formalities had to be bypassed by the parents of the prospective groom,
especially where all the measures to prevent exogamy had been met, these instances were; ‘kaet sigiik lakwet
puch,’ the girl’s parents denied the man’s offer for no good reason ‘negiit koosit muren amakimeche kosongo’ the
man is quite old and the society does not promote celibacy, and, if there is too tight a competition for the hand of
the girl. In these extraordinary circumstances, the Man’s Parents would elope with the girl, go circumcise her and
immediately after the circumcision, karon koya (very early in the morning, before the cock crows) the man’s
parents would send envoys to place a sinendet (a green plant with thin stems, scientific name, Periploca
lineariploca, generally signifying tumdo successful passout)on top of the girl’s home. This way the parents are
informed of the whereabouts of the girl.
Eight separate ceremonies were observed in connection with the kalenjin traditional wedding. Each ceremony
could not be effected without the local beer popularly known as maiyweek. Involves mainly 8 steps and in each
step involves the use of local brew (maiyweek) upon the acceptance of bride and groom families. Kayaet/yaetab
kooito, Kibendi kooito, Chuteetab njoor, Sueetab tuga, Rateet, Keeset, Keeteitei koroseek and Tyegeetab seguut
Nyoetab kaat (normally if the couple elopes without the consent of their immediate families the husband was
supposed to pay a fine of normally five thousand to twenty thousand to is wife father/family) kiome sanian
koigeny meaning that the assistance from in-laws is endless
According to Kipsigis, bride wealth is not seen as a buying price for a wife but as important aspects which
promotes stability in traditional marriages. The dowry payment acts as; compensation to the girl family for the
loss of her help and contribution in the homestead. Bride wealth seal the marriage covenant and is also a public
expression of appreciation for the coming of a new wife and mother into the man’s family. Dowry signifies that
the wife is not something cheap or insignificant. The bride wealth is a symbol of the girls presence in her home.
Bride wealth promotes friendship and cements relationship between the two families. Payment of the bride wealth
shows that the man is serious with his intention to marry.
According to Kipsigis a man will not be paid dowry for his daughter if he has not paid for his wife. Dowry
payment was always paid by Man family father to promote actual coexistence.
5. Wedding
It's called ‘katunisyiet’ or 'ratet' which means tying. This is where the bride's family now goes to the groom's
home to escort their daughter to her new home and on that process they also check on the dowry they agreed on.
It's a big ceremony and the neighbours and the whole village is invited. It's an expensive affair but the groom
should prove that he will be able to provide for his new family. The bride's father is the one that confirms the
dowry, he wears a traditional cloak made of animal skin, carries a special stick in his hand. He walks to the field
alongside the groom to go have a look at cattle for the dowry. He then marks the cattle for identification after
confirmation. 'Ratet' occurs just after dark in a room, where relations of both parties gather together, they sit
around small pot of beer which is decorated with 'korosek' a sacred plant. The guest drinks through a long tubes.
The groom and bride sit on the opposite sides of officiating elder. The plates of grass (segutyet) is made then
anointed with butter is blessed. Then the leaves of the sacred plant is carried around the groom and bride four
times. The elder is chanting blessings and asking for prosperity of their home. Then the groom ties the bride's
hand with his hand too, also the bride will do the same to show faithfulness in their marriage. When it's done
people celebrate and jubilation continues through the night.
Conclusion
Marriage among the kalenjin, as is evident from the amount of time and resources allocated to the events and
practices, is therefore a very special and important aspect of the community. It brings out the diversity of the
kalenjin community and also it ensures the continuity of the families and the clans and it shows how young men
and women from the community advance from young men and women to mature and old people ready to
embrace marriage and the new life. It is also noteworthy that the Kalenjins, despite being divided into many sub-
tribes share almost all aspects of their culture, therefore, wherever we have pointed one sub-tribe’s practice, it is
not to mean it is exclusive, they are common among most if not all the communities.
We end our submission by saying ‘Kongoi,’ Thank You!
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