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Contents
Preface....................................................................................................
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Introduction.............................................................................................
Index to Activities...................................................................................
Time Checklist........................................................................................
The Activities
1 A Timely Reminder.................................................................... 1
2 Actions Speak Louder................................................................. 5
3 Adjectival Alex........................................................................... 19
4 Against All Odds........................................................................ 23
5 Are we both okay?...................................................................... 27
6 Belonging.................................................................................... 37
7 Circulating.................................................................................. 43
8 Course Contract.......................................................................... 49
9 Crossed Lines.............................................................................. 55
10 Crosstalk..................................................................................... 67
11 Don’t Make an ASS of U and ME.............................................. 75
12 Down the Line............................................................................ 81
13 Fact or Fiction?........................................................................... 87
14 A Gift From the Group............................................................... 95
15 Giving Feedback......................................................................... 99
16 Hole in the Middle...................................................................... 109
17 How shall I tell them?................................................................. 125
18 I wish you hadn’t asked me that!................................................ 133
19 I Fear the Worst.......................................................................... 141
20 I’d Like to Know........................................................................ 149
21 Is there anybody there?............................................................... 165
22 It Looks Like This...................................................................... 175
23 Just a Minute............................................................................... 187
24 Know Your Audience................................................................. 193
25 Let Me Put That Another Way................................................... 201
26 Let’s Sum Up.............................................................................. 209
27 Managing Meetings.................................................................... 217
28 Memory....................................................................................... 235
29 My Interpersonal Style............................................................... 253
30 Ouch!.......................................................................................... 267
31 People and Places....................................................................... 277
32 Perceptions.................................................................................. 281
33 Pictures....................................................................................... 291
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34 Re-entry...................................................................................... 297
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35 Receiving Criticism.................................................................... 303
36 Reflections.................................................................................. 315
37 Self-disclosure............................................................................ 323
38 Simulating a Meeting.................................................................. 333
39 Simulating an Interview.............................................................. 341
40 Skillsquare.................................................................................. 349
41 Stick............................................................................................ 359
42 Team Challenge.......................................................................... 363
43 NEEDS TO BE REPLACED.....................................................
44 That’s not what I said at all!....................................................... 381
45 Two Heads Are Better................................................................ 385
46 Ups and Downs........................................................................... 393
47 We Haven’t Got Enough…........................................................ 403
48 What’s going to happen?............................................................ 417
49 Where am I now?........................................................................ 421
50 Why don’t you say what you mean?........................................... 427
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Preface
We have lived with this book for the past year. We knew what we were
letting ourselves in for when we took it on, but our thanks go to Mags, to
Val, and to Niel for their patience and support.
Our thanks must also go to the countless trainers and writers whose work
is our foundation, not the least of whom are Pfeiffer and Jones who started
it all.
Sue Bishop
David Taylor
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Introduction
About Us
We both became trainers when “chalk and talk” was still popular. Training
was something that was done to you. It was essentially a passive process;
the trainer knew best! Consequently, the result was often something to be
endured and the best that could be said for it was that it was a break from
work.
We suffered this approach as “victims” and as people who were
expected to train in this style. We enjoyed neither experience, and met
plenty of others who were also dissatisfied with this method of training.
We felt instinctively that there had to be a better way; a way that
encouraged active learning. The arrival of participative learning methods
signaled this for us and we have been committed to developing activities
this way ever since.
About You
If you truly value your participants as a training resource, your training
method and approach should demonstrate it. This is nowhere more true
than in the field of interpersonal skills, with which this volume is
concerned. There are two points to remember when using this volume:
first, you must familiarize yourself with the material and think about how
it can best be applied to your participant group; second, you should be the
best possible role model of interpersonal skills.
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Finally, set the tape counter to zero before your first recording.
Record (with reference to the tape counter) items of interest so that
you can find them quickly later.
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Activity Number
Crosstalk
Belonging
Circulating
Crossed Lines
Adjectival Alex
Course Contract
Against All Odds
Page Number
Icebreakers
Assertiveness
Behavior Analysis
Conflict
Decision Making
Delegation
Evaluation
Group Work
Index to Activities
Leadership
Listening
Management
Motivation
Negotiation
Nonverbal Communication
Oral Communication
Perception
Power and Influence
Presentation Skills
Problem Solving
Teamwork
Written Communication
Course Closures
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Index to Activities
Icebreakers
Assertiveness
Behavior Analysis
Conflict
Decision Making
Delegation
Group Work
Leadership
Listening
Management
Motivation
Activity Number
Page Number
Negotiation
Nonverbal Communication
Oral Communication
Perception
Presentation Skills
Problem Solving
Teamwork
Written Communication
Course Closures
Evaluation
Power and Influence
Activity Title
13 Fact or Fiction?
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15 Giving Feedback
Activity Number
Ouch!
Memory
Pictures
Perceptions
Let's Sum Up
Just a Minute
My Interpersonal Style
Activity Title
Page Number
Icebreakers
Assertiveness
Behavior Analysis
Conflict
Decision Making
Delegation
Evaluation
Group Work
Index to Activities
Leadership
Listening
Management
Motivation
Negotiation
Nonverbal Communication
Oral Communication
Perception
Power and Influence
Presentation Skills
Problem Solving
Teamwork
Written Communication
Course Closures
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Activity Number
Stick
Re-entry
Skillsquare
Reflections
Self-disclosure
Team Challenge
Receiving Criticism
Simulating a Meeting
Page Number
Icebreakers
Assertiveness
Behavior Analysis
Conflict
Decision Making
Delegation
Evaluation
Group Work
Index to Activities
Leadership
Listening
Management
Motivation
Negotiation
Nonverbal Communication
Oral Communication
Perception
Power and Influence
Presentation Skills
Problem Solving
Teamwork
Written Communication
Course Closures
Introduction
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Activity Number
Ups and Downs
Where am I now?
What's going to happen?
Activity Title
Page Number
Icebreakers
Assertiveness
Behavior Analysis
Conflict
Decision Making
Delegation
Evaluation
Group Work
Index to Activities
Leadership
Listening
Management
Motivation
Negotiation
Nonverbal Communication
Oral Communication
Perception
Power and Influence
Presentation Skills
Problem Solving
Teamwork
Written Communication
Course Closures
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Time Checklist
This checklist gives an approximate indication of the minimum time
necessary to run each activity. The actual time will depend on size of
group, length of time allowed for discussion, and other variables that can
occur during any course.
Up to one hour…
A Timely Reminder
Actions Speak Louder
Adjectival Alex
Against All Odds
Circulating
Course Contract
Crossed Lines
Down the Line
Fact or Fiction?
A Gift From the Group
How shall I tell them?
Is there anybody there?
It Looks Like This
Just a Minute
My Interpersonal Style
People and Places
Pictures
Re-entry
Skillsquare
Stick
That’s not what I said at all!
Two Heads Are Better
Ups and Downs
What’s going to happen?
Where am I now?
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Between one and two hours…
Are we both okay?
Belonging
Crosstalk
Don’t Make an ASS of U and ME
Giving Feedback
Hole in the Middle
I wish you hadn’t asked me that!
Know Your Audience
Let Me Put That Another Way
Managing Meetings
Memory
Ouch!
Receiving Criticism
Reflections
Self-disclosure
Team Challenge
We haven’t got enough…
Why don’t you say what you mean?
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