RESUME 4

FAMILY GUIDANCE AND COUNSELING

“ Parenting Concept In Family “

Lecturer :
Prof.Dr.Hj.Neviyarni SM.S.
Soeci Izzati Adlya, S.Pd., M.Pd.

Arranged by :
Lani Zefania N (20006079)

DEPARTMENT OF GUIDANCE AND COUNSELING

FACULTY OF EDUCATION
UNIVERSITAS NEGERI PADANG

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 TABLE OF CONTENT

TABLE OF CONTENT ...................................................................................................... 2

MIND MAPPING ............................................................................................................... 3
DISCUSSION ..................................................................................................................... 4
A . Positive parenting...................................................................................................... 4
B . How to Do Parenting ................................................................................................. 5
C. The Role of Parents in Parenting................................................................................ 6
D. Communicating and Disciplining Children ............................................................... 8
QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS....................................................................................... 11
YEL-YEL.......................................................................................................................... 14

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MIND MAPPING

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 DISCUSSION
PARENTING CONCEPT IN FAMILY

A . Positive parenting
Positive parenting or positive parenting is parenting that is done by apply the
principles of being supportive, constructive, and fun. Supportive means giving
treatments that support child development. Meanwhile, constructive means being
positive behavior by avoiding violence or punishment and doing so in a pleasant.
The principle of positive parenting is that you teach children discipline by not
punishing him. However, precisely by telling which child right and wrong behavior.
Positive parenting needs to be done by every parent in providing support children's
future success, because they can:

1. Improving the quality of interaction between children and their parents.

Parents and children can communicate with each other effectively, build
cooperation kind, support and respect each other.

2. Optimizing children's growth and development.

With positive parenting, children get adequate opportunities to develop their

potential, be confident, independent, disciplined, grow age-appropriate, without
pressure, free from intimidation, and fear.

3. Prevent deviant behavior.

Positive parenting provides opportunities for children to develop character noble

with guidance from parents, so as to prevent children from sharing deviant
behavior, both now and in the future.

4. Detecting abnormalities in child growth and development.

Positive parenting allows for the growth of sensitivity in parents to every stage of
the child's growth and development, so that if deviations or disturbances, can be
detected or known by parents as early as possible possible, which then makes it
very possible to intervene as early as possible

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B . How to Do Parenting
The basic principle of positive parenting is to respect children and make them grow
into independent and responsible person. The following are some steps you can take
You do when implementing positive parenting.

1. Setting boundaries

Having boundaries in parent-child relationships is the key to success in positive

parenting. Having boundaries allows you to be patient and calm. This is because
your position as a parent feels respected. Maybe you have been irritated, impatient,
or angry because of your child's behavior hard to tell. Instead of punishing him (as
a negative attitude), you can to take a break for a moment to just calm down and
control emotions in children.

2. Creating a comfortable environment

Creating a nurturing environment starts with meeting basic needs children for food,
clothing, and shelter. If all this has been fulfilled, then positive parenting will
probably work effectively.

3. Understand the child's feelings

Basically, children really need to feel appreciated and cared for, don't they? no
matter what he does, right or wrong. In this case, you need Give your child full time
and attention in every aspect of his life.

In addition, there are some tips that parents can do in order to provide Positive
parenting includes:

1) Establish positive communication with children

2) Give trust to children, because basically every child has competence (ability),
and this competence will develop when the child is given trust

3) Do not compare children with other children because every child is unique

4) Parents can manage emotions well

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5) Bring the child closer to God Almighty through example, habituation and
practice conditioning in the family

6) Build a child's sense of empathy for the environment and people around him

C. The Role of Parents in Parenting

In general, fathers and mothers have an equally important role in upbringing of their
children. However, there is a slight difference in touch from what is displayed by
father and mother (Verauli, 2009). Mother's role, among others: Cultivating
feelings of affection, love, through love love and tenderness of a mother, cultivate
good language skills to children, teach girls to behave according to their gender by
good. And the role of the father, among others: Growing self-confidence and
competence to children, to grow for children to be able to excel, to teach children
for responsibility. It is the duty of parents to give children the experience they need
children to develop their intelligence perfectly. Of course each parent have different
parenting styles. Therefore, the mother's involvement in nurturing and Raising
children from infancy can have both positive and negative effects for the future
development of children. The difference between parenting and parenting mother
does not become an obstacle in taking care of children, but will make each other
complement each other's shortcomings and carry out their roles well and effective.
Then it will make the child have a good personality and family will be harmonious
and prosperous. The role of parents in positive parenting

1. Be a good role model

Every child will imitate what their parents do. Therefore, people parents are good
role models for them. one of the principles of positive parenting is to discipline
children to be kind and respectful towards others. So from that, show this attitude
at home so that the child can imitate it.

2. Be a creative parent when disciplining children

There are times when a child's bad behavior is inevitable. If this happens, don't give
them punishment. Instead, try to be creative when discipline them. Examples of

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positive parenting can be done by: Invite children to discuss their bad behavior. It
is believed to be help children to learn and improve.

3. Parents play a role in dealing with situations at home patiently

With patience and guidance from parents, children will begin to show more positive
behavior in the future.

Parenting patterns are divided into three types (Hurlock: 1999), namely:

1. Permissive Parenting

Permissive parenting can be interpreted as a pattern that frees children to do what

you want to do without question. This parenting style is not use strict rules even
less guidance is given, so that there is no control or control and demands on
children. Freedom is given full and children are allowed to make decisions for
themselves alone, without parental consideration. Children behave according to
their wishes without parental control

2. Authoritarian Parenting

Authoritarian parenting is when parents impose strict rules and boundaries

absolutely must be obeyed, without giving the child the opportunity to have an
opinion, if the child non-compliance will be threatened and punished. This
authoritarian parenting style can lead to loss of freedom in children, lack of
initiative and activity, so that children become insecure about their abilities.

3. Democratic Parenting

Democratic parenting is to instill discipline in children, and respect not absolute

freedom, with understanding guidance between the child and parents, explain
rationally and objectively if the wishes and opinions child is not suitable. In this
parenting pattern, a sense of responsibility grows in children, and in Finally, able
to act in accordance with existing norms.

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D. Communicating and Disciplining Children
Positive parenting rests on two main skills, namely communication effective
(mutual understanding of the situation and condition of parents and children) as
well as positive discipline (shaping children's behavior without violence). One
example is often In the family, parents only want to be heard, they don't want to
hear their children on behalf of all for the good of the child. This condition is
changed by the ability to listen active, how do parents practice listening to their
children's voices and achieving compromise. Communication is a medium for
conveying messages, communication must be mastered by parents and teachers in
carrying out positive parenting for children. Through verbal communication and
nonverbal communication, parents and teachers can know what the child is saying.
Communication is effective when a parent or teacher gives direction to a child, and
the child conveys ideas in a comfortable and understanding atmosphere.

Disciplining children is very important, of course with positive discipline.

Discipline Positive behavior is a way of applying discipline without violence,
threats and punishment, which in practice involves effective communication of
behavior between parents and child. In the application of positive discipline,
children are taught to understand consequences of their behavior. In addition,
positive discipline also teaches children responsibility and respect in interacting
with their environment. Discipline Positive things make children understand that
when he tidy up his bedroom, then he will feel comfortable, not because mama will
punish you if you don't or because they want to get a compliment or a gift. Here are
things parents can do to discipline their children:

Reward good behavior.

Give rewards because the child behaves good is more important than punishment
for bad attitude. Letting the child knowing that he is doing something right will
encourage them to behave well in the future. When the child behaves well, such as
sharing toys with other children or patient during the trip, tell him that noticing his
good demeanor, Don't just be silent when your child is good and punish him when
he is bad.

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Consistent.

If parents want to discipline their children effectively, then parents must be

consistent. Parents cannot punish children for doing something that wrong one day,
and the other day gave him candy to stop doing it, or maybe not saying anything
because the parents are too tired to tell him. And if the child is doing something
well, like defecating properly, make sure parents praise him every time. It is this
consistency that strengthens a good attitude and bad.

Explain the rules.

If parents want their children to know the best discipline method, applied, must be
able to explain why children should not do certain things. Don't just tell him that he
can't be mean to other kids, or to tidying up the toys; explain why this behavior is
good for him, for parents and for the wider community. By making children
understand the relationship between their attitudes and what it means parents will
help them understand why take certain decisions.

Teach children to take responsibility for their actions.

This is an important part of build discipline and shape character. When he does
something wrong, like throwing food on the floor, make sure he admits it and
explain why he did it, instead of blaming someone else or deny it. After the child
has misbehaved, talk to him about why it is occur.

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 QUESTIONS AND ANSWERS

1. Parenting is a process of interaction between parents and children in supporting

physical, emotional, social, intellectual and spiritual development. is the definition
of parenting according to ? …
a. Lee & Wong
b. Wong & Carl
c. Carl & Lee
d. Lee & Robert
e. Robert & Carl

2. Positive parenting needs to be done by every parent in providing support

children's success in the future, because they can…
a. Fostering the process of education and socialization of children
b. Primary education
c. Necessary things for the family.
d. Prevent deviant behavior
e. Everything is wrong.

3. How to create a comfortable environment for children…

a. Making food for the family
b. Creating a nurturing environment starts with meeting basic needs children
for food, clothing, and shelter
c. Sightseeing
d. Around town
e. Give your child full time and attention in every aspect of his life.

4. In general, fathers and mothers have an equally important role in upbringing of

their children. However, there is a slight difference in touch from what is featured
by mom and dad is a statement put forward by?
a. Marwisni Hasan

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b. Verauli
c. Prayitno
d. Elida Prayitno
e. BKKBN

5. The role of parents in positive parenting is …

a. Creating a peaceful family atmosphere
b. First place for children's education
c. Provide protection to family members
d. Develop children's abilities
e. Be a creative parent when disciplining children

ESSAY
6. how important is positive parenting for children …
Answer :
Positive parenting has great benefits for children, including improving the quality
of children's interactions with parents, optimizing children's growth and
development, preventing children from deviant behavior and also being able to
detect abnormalities in child growth and development.

7. Why does parenting affect the growth and development of children?

Answer :
Parenting patterns greatly affect the growth and development of children, because
parenting patterns show how parents pay attention to the wishes of their children.
Parenting patterns applied in the family vary, such as permissive parenting,
authoritarian and democratic, this pattern will affect the development of children

8. What happens if a child gets a poor parenting style?

Answer :

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In fact, choosing the wrong parenting pattern can have several impacts on children,
such as not being able to make decisions, being less smart in building social
relationships, impaired physical development, having less stable emotions, to more
often disobeying parents.

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 YEL-YEL

Sound : Kamu (coboy junior)

Keluarga
Merupakan tempat utama pengasuhan anak
Orangtua
Sebaiknya memberikan pengasuhan positif
Saling mendukung dan menjalin hubungan yang baik
Melakukan pengasuhan positif mulailah dari
Menetapkan Batasan
Menciptakan lingkungan yang nyaman
Memahami perasaan anak
Dan masih banyak lagi
Mulailah berkomunikasi dan mendisiplinkan anak
Agar anak bias menghargai dan memahami orang lain dan orantuanya

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