LESSON PLAN IN CHILD DEVELOPMENT

AND ADOLESCENCE FOR TEACHING

I. OBJECTIVES
At the end of the class discussion, the student must be able to;
 Distinguish the different types of parenting in middle childhood;
 Show the different types of parenting in front of the class through role playing
and;
 Share in the class about what types of parenting did you experience;

II. SUBJECT MATTER

 Topic: Child Development and Parenting: Middle Childhood
 Reference: Internet
 Materials: PPT and Pictures
 Strategies: 4A’s

III. PREPARATION:
Prayer: Good morning class. Let us pray first Timkang, can you lead the prayer.
Attendance: Please arrange your chairs then pick up some pieces of paper and please
be seated. Is everybody present?
Review: What was our last topic last meeting?
Okay, thank you
ACTIVITY: “SPELLING BEE”
MECHANICS: The class will be divided into two groups. Then, I will give them a
word for them to spell through reciting it.

IV. SETTING OF OBJECTIVES

 A. ANALYSIS
a. What comes to your mind when you say parenting?
b. Is parenting can affect your development?
c. For you class, is parenting important? Why?

V. LESSON PROPER
Middle Childhood: (7 to 12 years)
Your child’s growing independence from the family and interest in friends might
be obvious by now. Healthy friendships are very important to your child’s development,
but peer pressure can become strong during this time. Children who feel good about
themselves are more able to resist negative peer pressure and make better choices for
themselves. This is an important time for children to gain a sense of responsibility along
with their growing independence. Also, physical change of puberty might be showing by
now, especially for girls. Another big chance children need to prepare for during this
time is starting middle or junior high school.
Positive Parenting Tips
Show affection for your child and recognize her accomplishments.
Help your child develop a sense of responsibility- ask him to help with household
tasks.
Talk with your child about school, friends, and things she looks forward to in the
future.
Talk with your child about respecting others. Encourage him to help people in
need.
Help your child set her own achievable goals.
Help your child learn patience by letting others go first or by finishing a task
before going out to play and encourage him to think about possible
consequences before acting.
Make clear rules and stick to them and be clear about what behavior is okay and
what is not okay.
Do fun things together as a family
Get involved with your child’s school.
Continue reading to your child
Use discipline to guide and protect your child, rather than punishment to make
him feel bad about himself.
Praise your child for good behavior.
Support your child in taking new challenges.
Encourage your child to join school and community groups.
TYPES OF PARENTING STYLES AND THEIR EFFECT ON KIDS
1. AUTHORITARIAN
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You believe kids should be seen and not heard.
When it comes to rules, you believe its my way or the highway.
You don’t take your child’s feeling into consideration.
You set strict rules and expect your children to follow them.
You punish them severely.
You have high expectations and expect that your children will meet them every
single time.
You don’t encourage open communication.
If any of those is true, you might be an authoritarian parent. Authoritarian parents
believe kids should follow the rules without exception.
Authoritarian parents are famous for saying “Because I said so”, when a child questions
the reasons behind a rule. They are not interested in negotiating and their focus is on
obedience.
They also don’t allow kids to get involved in problem solving challenges or situation.
Instead, they make the rules and enforce the consequences.
Authoritarian parents may use punishment instead of discipline. So, rather than make a
child how to make better choices, they’re invested in making kids feel sorry for their
mistakes.
Children who grow up with strict authoritarian parents tend to follow rules most of the
time. But their obedience comes at a price. They are at a higher risk of developing self-
esteem problems because their opinions aren’t valued.
PROS OF AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING
Many people agree that firm parenting is good parenting. When your child knows
their boundaries, they ay be better able to focus on their achievement.
CONS OF AUTHORITARIAN PARENTING
Children don’t see their parents as legitimate authority figures.
Children are more likely to engage in delinquent behaviors (such as
smoking, skipping school and underage drinking) than the children of
those with other parenting styles
Other research shows that children of authoritarian parents are more
depressed than other kids and are more likely to have poorer grades.
 2. AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING
Do any of these statements sound like you?
You put a lot of effort into creating and maintaining a positive relationship with
your child.
You explain the reasons behind your rules.
You enforce rules and give consequences, but take your child’s feeling into
consideration.
You set clear and consistent rules and boundaries.
You have reasonable expectations for your children.
You listen to input from your children.
You are generous with positive feedbacks.
If those statements sound familiar, you may be an authoritative parent. Authoritative
parents have rules and they use consequences, but they also take children’s opinion
into account. They validate their children’s feelings, while also making it clear that the
adults are ultimately in charge.
Authoritative parents invest time and energy into preventing behaviour problems before
it even starts. They also use positive discipline strategies to reinforce good behaviour,
like praise and reward system.
Children raised with authoritative discipline tend to be happy and successful. They’re
also more likely to be good at making decisions and evaluating safety risks on their
own.
PROS OF AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING
As an authoritative parent, you create a loving and supportive environment for your
children. As a result, your children:
Rate higher on mental health scores.
Have higher levels of self-esteem and quality of life than those raised by
authoritarian or permissive parents.
Are healthier.
CONS OF AUTHORITATIVE PARENTING
While most experts agree that authoritative parenting produces the healthiest outcomes
for kids, it requires a lot of patience and effort to make sure everyone is being heard. In
addition, rules sometimes have to be adjusted and that can be hard for kids-and
parents!
 3. PERMISSIVE PARENTING
Do any of those statements sound like you?
You set rules but rarely enforce them.
You don’t give out consequences very often.
You think your child will learn best with little interference from you.
You don’t set strict limits or boundaries.
You don’t always attempt to control your children.
You have few, if any, rules.
You allow your children to make many of their decisions.
If those statements sound familiar, you might be a permissive parent. Permissive parent
is lenient. They often only step in when there’s a serious problem. They’re quite
forgiving and they adopt attitude of “kids will be kids”. When they do use consequences,
they may not make those consequences stick. They might give privileges back if a child
begs or they make allow a child to get out of time-out early if he promises to be good.
Permissive parents usually take on more of a friend role than a parent role. They often
encourage their children to talk with them about their problems, but they usually don’t
put much effort into discouraging poor choices or bad behaviour.
Kids who grow up with permissive parents are more likely to struggle academically.
They may exhibit more behavioral problems as they don’t appreciate authority and
rules. They often have low self-esteem and may report a lot of sadness. They’re also at
a higher risk for health problems, like obesity, because permissive parents struggle to
limit junk food intake.
PROS OF PERMISSIVE PARENTING
Permissive parents are generally loving and nurturing. Although this isn’t a parenting
style most experts encourage, children raised without limits often praise their upbringing
and credit it with developing them into independent and decision-making adults.
CONS OF PERMISSIVE PARENTING
Kids have more perceived stress and were less mentally healthy than other kids.
Kids may lead to obesity and cavities.
Kids are more likely the victims of bullies. Interestingly enough, the bullies tend to
be the children of authoritarian parents.
Teenage drinking.
 4. UNINVOLVED/NEGLECTFUL PARENTING
Do any of these statements sound familiar?
You don’t ask your child about school or homework.
You rarely know where your child is or who she is with.
You don’t spend much time with your child.
You feel indifferent towards the child, possibly due to situations outside of the
parent’s control
You don’t take care of the child’s physical and emotional needs beyond the
basics
You can act dismissively.
You are lack of responsiveness.
You are emotionally or physically absent from child’s life
You may be physically abusive
If those statements sound familiar, you might be uninvolved parent. Uninvolved parents
tend to have little knowledge of what their children are doing. There tend to be few
rules. Children may not receive much guidance, nurturing and parental attention.
Uninvolved parents expect children to raise themselves. They don’t devote much time
or energy into meeting children’s basic needs. Uninvolved parents may be neglectful but
its not always intentional. A parent with mental health issues or substance abuse
problems. At other times, uninvolved parents lack knowledge about child development.
And sometimes, they’re simply overwhelmed with other problems, like work, paying bills
and managing household.
PROS OF UNINVOLVED PARENTING
There are no documented upsides to this style, though children are resilient and may
become more self-sufficient out of necessity. Overall, the kids of uninvolved/neglectful
parents have some of the worst outcomes compared to kids of other parenting styles.
CONS OF UNINVOLVED PARENTING
Children have trouble controlling their emotions
Children are likely to be depressed
They have academic challenges
They have difficulty with social relationships
They are antisocial
They are anxious
 5. ATTACHMENT PARENTING
Attachment parenting is a child-centric form of parenting in which you create a safe,
secure environment for your child.
You have a lot of physical contact with your child- you hold, carry and even co-
sleep with your child.
You respond to your child’s needs without hesitation. You soothe, comfort and
support in order to make your child feel safe and loved.
PROS OF ATTACHMENT PARENTING
Children are independent.
They are resilient.
They are less stressed.
They are empathetic.
They are able to control their emotions.
CONS OF ATTACHMENT PARENTING
Attachment parenting can become all consuming. You may have to miss a lot of Wine
Down Wednesday with the girls, get used to having no privacy (or sex) and just
generally have little time to or for yourself. On a more serious note, co-sleeping with an
infant can increase risk of sudden infant syndrome (SIDS) and is not recommended.

6. FREE-RANGE PARENTING
Like chickens that aren’t confined to a cage, the children of free-range parents are given
to room to roam and take risks, but with parental guidance (notice we didn’t say full-on
parental supervision). It’s not “anything goes” with free-range parents (that’s closer to
permissive parenting). Free-range parents loosen the reins, but before they do they give
their kids rules and consequences when they aren’t followed. Free-range parents give
their kids:
Independence
Responsibility
Freedom
Control
PROS OF FREE-RANGE PARENTING
Giving kids control and responsibility helps them grow up to be:
Less depressed
Less anxious
More able to make decisions
Self-reliant
CONS OF FREE-RANGE PARENTING
Your children might get hurt when they’re unsupervised, but the risk is small.
Your kids are safer walking alone the half mile to and from school each day than
with you driving them.
In some states, free-range parents can be charged with neglect. It happened to
Maryland parents when they allowed their children to walk home alone from a
park, although the charges were later dropped.

7. HELICOPTER PARENTING
Know someone who orchestrates every aspect of their kid’s life, from what friends they
have to, what food they eat to and what they do in their free time? Then you know a
concerned, conscientious parent. But society may also label them a helicopter parent.
Helicopter parents:
Try to control many situations (out of love, may we add)
Lack confidence in their child’s- well, any child’s – ability to handle situations as
skillfully as an adult would (fair enough, perhaps)
Constantly offer guidance to their children
Jump to solve their children’s problems
Keep in mind that these parents are acting out of love and concern. They absolutely
want what’s best for their kids and don’t want their precious child’s mistakes to affect
their future.
PROS OF HELICOPTER PARENTING
Kids who know their parents are monitoring their behavior are less likely to:
drink heavily
take sexual risks
hang out with people who drink heavily
CONS OF HELICOPTER PARENTING
Kids who have helicopter parents are more likely than others to:
 lack self-confidence and self-esteem
report higher levels of anxiety and depression as adults
have a fear of failure
be poor problem solvers

VI. APPLICATION
“SHARE THE BLESSING”
Mechanics: The student will be divided into two. Then, they will be going to share
their own experience about parenting style. And they will it summarize it all and
present it at the front through singing.

B. EVALUATION
1. What are the types of parenting styles? Explain each.
2. How there parenting style affects the development of the children?
3. Which parenting styles punish their kids severely?

C. ASSIGNMENT:
1. Research an example of the different parenting styles.
2.
 I. OBJECTIVES
At the end of the class discussion, the student must be able to;
 Recognize the different aspects that contribute successful adolescent stage
parenting;
 Act the different aspects that contribute successful adolescent stage
parenting and;
 Reflect the different aspects that contribute successful adolescent stage
parenting;

II. SUBJECT MATTER

 Topic: Aspects that Contribute Successful Adolescent Stage Parenting
 Reference: Internet
 Materials: PPT and Pictures
 Strategies: 4A’s

III. PREPARATION:
Prayer: Good morning class. Let us pray first Humalatag, can you lead the prayer.
Attendance: Please arrange your chairs then pick up some pieces of paper and please
be seated. Is everybody present?
Review: What was our last topic last meeting?
Okay, thank you
Activity: “PUZZLED LETTERS”
MECHANICS: The students will be divided into two groups. Then, they will be
going to find the different words that inside in the puzzle and give its meaning.

IV. SETTING OF OBJECTIVES

D. ANALYSIS
1. What comes to your mind when you heard the word adolescent stage?
2. Is adolescent need to have a parenting style?
LESSON PROPER
KEY COMPONENTS OF GOOD PARENTING

While the relationships between adolescents and their parents are changing, parents still have a
tremendous influence on their child’s behavior.

CONNECTION

Parents often become less involved in the lives of their children as they enter the middle grades.
However, adolescents still need to maintain a positive connection with their caregivers. Parents
maintain connections with their teens by showing love and positive affect, listening and demonstrating
empathetic understanding, building trust, showing acceptance and giving approval. A good relationship
with caring adults is one of the best safeguards an adolescent has as they develop.

QUALITIES ON HOW PARENTS CHOOSE TO RAISE THEIR CHILDREN

Show love
Listen
Provide support
Show respect
Talk over differences
Be a role model
Give lots of praise and positive feedbacks
Have an honest discussion about their sexuality
Be a good listener
Be clear and consistent in enforcing limits
Teach them the practical tasks of “adulting”

AUTONOMY

EMOTIONAL AUTONOMY – is a psychological separation from one’s caregivers. It includes a progressive

decrease in dependency on their caregivers, individualization, parental de-idealization and perceiving
one’s parents as people.

BEHAVIORAL AUTONOMY – also called DECISIONAL AUTONOMY, is the ability to make about one’s
behavior. Emotional autonomy and behavioral autonomy are highly correlated. As teens become more
emotionally autonomous, they desire to make more of their own decisions. With maturation comes
increased emotional and behavioral autonomy.

HOW MUCH INDEPENDENCE AND WHEN?

Some parents allow too much of the wrong kind of freedom, or they offer freedom before the
adolescent is ready to accept it. Other parents cling too tightly, denying young teens both the
responsibilities they require to develop maturity and the opportunities they need to make choices and
accept their consequences.

TIPS TO BALANCE CLOSENESS AND INDEPENDENCE:

Set limits
 Be clear
Give reasonable choices
Be open to negotiation
Grant independence in stages
Health and safety come first
Say no to choices that cut off nature future options
Guide, but resist the temptation to control
Let kids make mistakes
Make actions have consequences

Despite what we often hear and read, adolescents look to their parents first and foremost in shaping
their lives. When it comes to morals and ethics, political beliefs and religion, teenagers almost always
have more in common with their parents believes.

REGULATIONS

Effective parents regulate their child’s behavior through supervision, appropriate limits, and
discipline. Regulation teaches children self-control and respect for the rules. Regulations present
differently on parenting style.

BAUMRIND’S PARENTING STYLES

PARENTING BEHAVIORS

PARENTS RESPONSIVENESS – the connection that the parent facilitates through love, affection,
warmth and support.
PARENTS DEMANDINGNESS – the parent’s control and management of the child’s behavior; this
includes setting expectations, limits and enforcing consequences.

THE COMBINATION OF THESE TWO PARENTING BEHAVIORS DEFINES THE PARENTING STYLES

1. UNINVOLVED/NEGLECTFUL PARENTING STYLE – these parents are low on responsiveness and

often disengaged from their children. They are also low on demandingness, with little control
over their children’s behavior. As a result, their children can be withdrawn, non-compliant,
aggressive and have insecure attachments to others. They suffer in school and in their
relationships with their peers.
2. PERMISSIVE PARENT – highly responsive but lacks control. These parents are warm and
communicative but provide little structure for their children. They may act as a friend to their
child rather than an authority figure. Children are allowed to make their own rules and
determine their activities. Children may fail to learn self-discipline and be relatively immature.
They have low social competence and may feel somewhat insecure because they do not limit.
These children may also be demanding, rebellious and aggressive.
3. AUTHORITARIAN PARENT – low on responsiveness and high on demandingness. This parent
makes the rules and the children are expected to be obedient. Baumrind suggests that
authoritarian parents tend to place maturity demands on their children that are unreasonably
high and tend to be aloof and distant. Consequently, children reared in this way may fear than
respect their parents and because their parents do not allow discussions, may take out their
frustrations on safer targets- perhaps as bullies toward peers. These children tend to have lower
 self-control and are less independent. They also ay be more aggressive, resistant to correction
or anxious.
4. AUTHORITATIVE PARENT – responsive and reasonably in control. Parents allow negotiation
where appropriate and discipline matches the severity of the offense. As a result, their children
are friendly, socially competent, confident, self-reliant, cooperative, successful and happy.

LEMASTERS AND DEFRAIN’S PARENTING MODEL

1. MARTYR - a parent who will do anything for the child, even tasks that the child should do for
himself or herself. All of the good deeds performed for the child, in the name of being a “good
parent,” may be used later should the parent want to gain compliance from the child. If a child
goes against the parent’s wishes, the parent can remind the child of all of the times the parent
helped the child and evoke a feeling of guilt so that the child will do what the parent wants. The
child learns to be dependent and manipulative as a result.
2. PAL – like the permissive parent described in Baumrind’s model above. The pal wants to be the
child’s friend. Perhaps the parent is lonely, or perhaps the parent is trying to win a popularity
contest against an ex-spouse. Pals let children do what they wand and focus most on being
entertaining and fun. They set few limitations. Consequently, the child may have little self-
discipline and may try to test limits with others.
3. THE POLICE OFFICER/DRILL SERGEANT – similar to authoritarian. The parent focuses primarily
on making sure that the child is obedient and that the parent has full control of the child.
Sometimes this can be taken to extremes by giving the child tasks that are really designed to
check on their level of obedience. This type of parent has a very difficult time allowing the child
to grow and learn to make decisions independently. Furthermore, the child may have much
resentment towards the parent that is displaced on others.
4. THE TEACHER COUNCELOR – one who pays much attention to expert advice on parenting and
who believes that as long as all of the steps are followed, the parent can rear a perfect child.
5. ATHLETIC COACH – helps the child understand what needs to happen in certain situations,
whether in friendships, schools or home life and encourages and advices the child about how to
manage these situations. The parent does not intervene or do things for the child. Instead, the
parent’s role is to guide while the child learns first hand how to handle these situations.

INFLUENCES ON PARENTING

PARENT CHARACTERISTICS
CHILD CHARACTERISTICS
CONTEXTUAL FACTPRS AND SOCIOCULTURAL CHARACTERISTICS
VII. APPLICATION
“ACT ME BRIEFLY”
Mechanics: The student will be divided into two. Then, the first group that can cheer
their group name first will act the parenting style that I will say to them.

A. EVALUATION

1. What are the Lemasters and Defrain’s parenting model? Explain

2. What are the Baumrind’s model of parenting? Explain

B. ASSIGNMENT:

1. Search an example of Lemasters and Defrain’s Parenting model.

3.