Oliver Burkeman

Fri 23 Sep 2016 15.00 BST

[La traducción empieza aquí]. Whenever I’m feeling overwhelmed by work or other
responsibilities, my first instinct is to make a plan. This usually involves drawing up a
schedule of rigid severity. I’ll get up an hour earlier! I won’t check Twitter! Even though
years of experience suggest it’s impossible to write for more than five hours a day, this
time, with a will of iron, I’ll power through and write for eight! It’s sort of adorable how
sincerely I believe this will work, given that it never has. My supposedly bottomless well
of self-discipline is revealed to be about a foot deep, and my efforts to transform my
situation through sheer force of will end in a firestorm of recriminations, with me on
both sides of it.

We’ve heard much in recent years about the importance of inculcating “grit” in children
– and quite a bit about the limitations of that approach. The psychological evidence for
the life-changing benefits of grit turns out to be iffy. [La traducción termina aquí].

Besides, it’s pretty obnoxious to imply that all you need to succeed, even if you are born
into poverty, is to knuckle down and tough it out. Yet we rarely question the underlying
assumption that self-discipline is a good trait to have; even the most liberal parents,
who only want their kids to follow their dreams, would rather they did it in a self-
disciplined way. Few people heed the warning of the US psychologist Jack Block, who
undertook a landmark study of more than 100 toddlers, following them for three
decades. True, too little self-control makes you impulsive, easily distracted and prone to
dangerous risks. But too much self-control, Block found, can be a cause of misery, too.

As the progressive educator Alfie Kohn points out in his essay Why Self-Discipline Is
Overrated, the child who always completes her homework the moment it’s assigned
looks like a paragon of virtue. But the truth may be that she “wants – or, more
accurately, needs – to get the assignment out of the way in order to stave off anxiety”.
She may hate leaving anything unfinished, or feel that her worth depends on her
performance. This is sometimes a good way to get your work done (except when it
backfires, as in my case), but it’s no recipe for an enjoyable life. We praise those who
demonstrate “intrinsic motivation”, but sometimes all that means is that they have
successfully internalised society’s drill-sergeant. We call them “driven”, which should
be a clue: they are being yelled at, only by themselves.

When my attempts at unbending discipline fail, I turn to a post the Buddhist teacher
Susan Piver wrote in 2010, entitled Getting Stuff Done By Not Being Mean To Yourself.
It relates her own frustrating attempts at rigid scheduling, and the approach she chose
instead: asking what she felt like doing. This sounds self-indulgent (or, to the hyper-
disciplined, terrifying). But guess what? “I did all the things I yell at myself to do. My
day looked pretty much exactly like my days do when I succeed in being ‘disciplined’.
Only, this time, it seemed effortless.” Maybe you’re not a recalcitrant loser who can’t be
trusted to spend your time wisely? Just a thought.

Fuente: https://www.theguardian.com/lifeandstyle/2016/sep/23/self-discipline-overrated-go-
easy-yourself-this-column-will-change-your-life-oliver-burkeman