Text Message Effectively

Text Message Effectively Mission

When to Text
It is important that you are not using texts as an escape from phone game. Prior to beginning a text
conversation with a woman ask yourself, “Am I doing this because I am afraid to call her on the phone?”
If the answer is yes than you are texting for the wrong reason.
At some point in your interactions between
meeting and dating women you will need to
speak to them on the phone. It is in your best
interest to abolish your limiting beliefs about
phone game and get good at it. The goal of
your text message exchange is to build up
more rapport to gain that eventual phone
conversation. If you have a fun and witty text
exchange with a woman then she may begin
to hint around about a meet with texts like
“What are you up to?” or “What are your
plans for the weekend?” These are subtle sub‐
communications that she is interested in hanging out. Have a strong frame and lead the interaction with
responses such as “We’re going on a picnic and you are making the cookies…yum cookies!” or “We’re
going shopping! We need to get you some new clothes! ☺.”
If an invitation is ever denied because the woman says she is too busy then employ Style’s classic line
“Break your plans. I’m more fun.” The point of this line isn’t really too convince the woman to go out
and probably won’t but it will get a laugh and appreciation and increase her likelihood of wanting to
hang out next time. When the invitation is accepted set up a time bridge via text to call her about the
interaction, “I’ll call you in a few and we will make a detailed plan about this picnic. I take my picnicking
seriously!”
There are a few other ways to use text messaging as a social tool. After an initial meet and number close
I find it beneficial to text a girl while still in her presence. The text is usually a reference to an inside joke
or a tiny pebble like “You have food on your face, dork!” The purpose of this “in set” text is to increase
her familiarity with my phone number. The tactic of increasing familiarity is a known marketing tool and

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is elucidated in the book Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion.1 Later, when I make my initial call she
will have my number saved and recognize it, thus eliminating her fear that it is another random guy she
met at a club. In addition to setting up a Day 2, text messaging is useful for relationship maintenance.
Since the invention of the written word women have had a passion for the reading the romantic
thoughts of men, especially when it is about them. Texting is a quick and easy method to let your
girlfriend or girlfriends know you are thinking about them. Shoot out a quick text stating “You are on my
mind”, add a winky face for emphasis and the hint will be understood.
The Rules of Text Messaging
As with any form of communication with the opposite sex, there
are universal rules that all social artists must remember and
employ. Always convey a positive, confident and non‐needy
frame in your texts. An easy way to do this is to bring value to an
interaction, instead of seeking to gain value. A text of “Hey
what’s up?” leaves a woman in the awkward situation of creating
the value for this interaction and makes you seem as though you
are in need of her reaction and reply. Instead of asking open
ended questions of this nature, bring value by using humor.
Imagine that the woman you are about to text is sitting at her
workplace bored. It should be your goal to change her state and
put a big smile on her face. Be quirky and fun and share off the
wall observations from your day. For example your text might
read, “I just saw a guy wearing a fanny pack! Can you believe that?”
Another powerful tool that helps to reinforce her memory of your meeting is the recalling of an inside
joke which you shared. If you gave a woman a nickname, for example, begin your text exchange with
“Hey dork! ☺ I bet you are operating at a level of 100% dorkiness today.” Or recall a specific fun
interaction you had and add a new challenge, “Wow! You sucked at thumb wars. I am going to beat you
again and again.” Remember that the ultimate goal of your text message is to give a further display of
your confident and fun personality later ensuring a successful phone conversation.

1
Cialdini, Robert. Influence: The Psychology of Persuasion. New York, N.Y.: Quill, William Morrow and Co., Inc.,
1984. (available for purchase at http://stylelife.com/phase2xl/store/)



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Initial texts should always be short and to the point. Writing long messages conveys neediness and
lessens the punch of humor. Feel free to use smiley faces to show that a text pebble is not a hardcore
insult. I personally just stick to the winky face and regular smiley so as not to be viewed as overly
childish while still maintaining a fun vibe. Always use proper grammar and do not employ common text,
internet chat or MMORPG abbreviations known as “leetspeak.” Proper grammar is a turn on for women,
so learn to speak and write intelligently. The worse text messaging grammatical mistakes in my opinion
are mistaking similar words such as “you’re” with “your” and vice versa. Before you send your text
always proof read it once or twice.
Texting Examples from the Masters
I present here a few text messages of my own and one from Bravo, the most alpha male I know. Have a
laugh and further educate yourself on how to employ text messaging as you read these texts from our
past sarges. These helped us to learn how to use text messaging to get closer and get the close. The
names have been changed to protect the sarged and the grammar has been corrected to appease
English teachers everywhere.
Pre‐Day 2 Bonding and Passing Shit‐Tests
Gypsy: It was a pleasure meeting you this eve, Miss Anna.
Anna: You want me a little don’t you?
Gypsy: How dare you project your own desires upon me! Besides I don’t get involved with
stylists.
Anna: Desires? No, just drunken notions. I am unlike any other stylist you have ever met. You
know you want me. ☺
Gypsy: There’s something about you that intrigues me. Do I want you? Well…I’m not quite sure
yet. Tell me more about these drunken notions.
Anna: I know you want to see me naked.
Gypsy: I was thinking along the lines of getting to know you better. Apparently, you have
something else on your mind.
Anna: You need to come see my standup sometime. You would really get to know me then.



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Gypsy: Perhaps I shall. It takes intelligence to make people laugh. Maybe that’s what I find
intriguing about you.
Anna: Goodnight.
Gypsy: Buona notte dolcissima.
Anna: Thanks, you’re pretty too.
Gypsy: That would be bellisima. Dolcissima means something else entirely. I just might see you
soon.
Anna: Sounds good. Call me later hot crotch. ☺
Creating a Spontaneous Day 2
Gypsy: Salsa dancing and guerilla magic at Madrid (the club, not the city in Spain).
Jes: HaHa! Made me laugh. That definitely sounds intriguing. I’m actually going to a club on Mill
Avenue with a bunch of very sexy ladies. When you’re done salsa dancing you are more than
welcome to come and join us.
Gypsy: Thanks for the multi‐page Dostoevsky text. ☺ We’re bouncing from Madrid early if you
are lucky we will come to Mill Avenue. Where you at?
Jes: I’m about to go to the club. I‘ll try to keep my texts concise. ☺ When together Capricorns
are twice as strong. So, you should come and dance with us at the club.
Gypsy: I’ll consider it.
She Texts First After Initial Meet
Shea: I’m kind of thinking about you.
Gypsy: Great minds think alike because I was thinking about me too. ;)
Shea: Haha!



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Gypsy: You’re on my mind too. I’m considering getting to know you better. I’ll see you on
Wednesday.
Shea: Are you at home right now?
Gypsy: Yeah, about to hit the sack. I’m just tying up some loose business emails.
Shea: Well, let me say I’m nothing less than stoked.
Gypsy: Stoked because you get to hang with the awesome me.
Shea: Absolutely. Duh!
Gypsy: All right. I have to hit the sack imagine me kissing you good night.
Shea: Ok, and me kissing you too. ☺
Turning a Random Text into a Meet
Laura: Yay, no work!
Gypsy: Really!? Let’s do something fun!
Laura: Like what?
Gypsy: We could go to the park and write essays about Herman Melville!!!
Laura: Oh God! I think I’d cry.
Gypsy: Don’t cry. Instead we can go rub a fat panda on its belly and after we can go to this
bar I know for music and wine.
Laura: Fat panda?
Gypsy: Yep. He’s gold too. You’ve never seen the fat panda? I ride my bike to him all the time
and pat his fat belly for luck.
Laura: Wow! Sounds crazy. What time?
Gypsy: I’m calling you now.



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Laura: Ok ☺
Bravo’s Ultra‐Alpha Text Style
Kate: Hello Mr. Alpha. If tonight’s date sucks....would you like to have a night cap when I am off
work?
Bravo: That is Friday night! I was hanging with the boys today‐rock climbing. Now am too busy
@ work playing catch up. This is Kate right?
Kate: Yes. Alright, well let me know if you want to chill.
Bravo: Time? I’m probably, going to pass, but don’t worry I will get my beer!
Kate: I know! Well thought I would try. I am quite nocturnal and am leaving for California
tomorrow morning. Oh yeah, I loved your shirt.
Bravo: What did you have in mind for this evening? I have a work assignment I NEED to finish,
might be able to hang out but nothing crazy, afterwards I will probably have to come home and
work some more. I might be willing to provide some conversation, but what are YOU going to do
to earn it?
Kate: I think I earned it already by reading your mind. I think our first ever in the history of the
world...beer together should be at...JC's. I really do enjoy their patio. If you are a bit too busy, I
get back Monday, just to let you know.
Bravo: What time were you thinking? Also you must promise not to try and seduce me.
Kate: 9:30ish. No promises are needed. What happens to you is only what you allow to happen,
completely out of my hands. (chuckle and grin accompany this statement.)
Bravo: You speak in riddles! I think you just told me to go wack off??? I am shocked and
appalled at that, I am a high class guy!!! Don’t forget I told you it would never work between us,
the sooner you accept that the better ☺
Kate: There is a devilish grin upon my face, and it is rather large.
Bravo: On that note......see you soon ;)



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