DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES

GEORGINA REYES MORENO

NEXT, I´M GOING TO BE ANALIZING THE SUBJECT ABOUT HOW FAMILIES FUNCTION.
EACH OF THE RELATIVES COVERS A PLACE AND THE TYPES OF MISTREATMENTS THAT
CAN OCCUR INTUTHE FAMILIYS CONTEXT

ADYS FUNCTIONAL FAMILY IS THAT UNE IN WHICH CONFLICT, MISCONDUCT AND OF TEN ABUSES ARE
NEVER LACKING.

A DYSFUNCIONAL FAMILY NOT ONLY LEADS TO DICORCE OR A SEPARATION OT THE PARENTS, BUT IT CAN
CAUSE CHILDREN TO LEAVE THEIR HOMES AT AN EARLY AGE, IT CAN ALSO FALL IN TO HAWK AND DRUGS
ALSO, SSUPOR PSICHOLOGICAL AND EMOTIONAL DAMAGE.

THERE ARE MANY COMMON CHARACTERISTICS THAT REPRESENT THEM FOR EXAMPLE:

DISRESPECT FOR OTHER MEMBERS OF THE FAMILY, THEIR ABSENCE CAN BE THE CAUSE
OF CONSTANT CONFLICS, CONTINUOS CRITICISM AND A GREAT LACK OF CPMMUNICATION
THAT CAN LEAD TO MUCH MORE SERIOUS CONSEQUENCES.

DENIAL FOR NOT ASKING FORGIVENESS WHEN SOMETHING IS WRONG ONE OF YOUR PARENTS CONSTANTLY
CRITICIZED YOU WHEN YOU WERE GROWING UP
THESE HURTS CAN LEAVE YOU WITH LASTING FEELINGS OF ANGER AND BITTERNESS AND EVEN A DESIRE FOR
REVENGE BUT IF YOU DON'T LEARN TO FORGIVE, YOU MAY BE THE ONE WHO PAYS THE HIGHEST PRICE. BY
ACCEPTING FORGIVENESS, YOU CAN ALSO EMBRACE PEACE, HOPE, GRATITUDE AND JOY.

“PARENTS WHO ARE DIVORCED OR PERMANENTLY SEPARATED OR PARENTS WHO SHOULD SEPARATE BUT DON'T
THIS IS THE MOST COMMON THING THAT HAPPENS IN FAMILIES BECAUSE THE PARENTS STOPPED LOVING EACH
OTHER OR JUST BECAUSE THEY NO LONGER WANT TO BE TOGETHER OR ANOTHER OPTION IS CHEATING BETWEEN
PARTNERS BUT THEY LET IT HAPPEN BECAUSE OF THE CHILDREN BUT THAT AFFECTS THEM MORE BECAUSE
NORMALLY IN THESE RELATIONSHIPS THERE ARE MANY ARGUMENTS AND FIGHTS THAT SOMETIMES CAN LEAD TO
BLOWS FROM THE PARENTS”.

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PARENTS WHO FIGHT, ARGUE AND HURT EACH OTHER AND SOMETIMES CHILDREN SEE ALL OF THAT
IT´S ALWAYS SOMETHING TRAUMATIC FOR THE CHILDREN SOME OT THEM GO TO THE PSYCHOLOGIST OTHERS
GET HURT, CUT THEN SELVES AND WONDER WHATS WRONG, THEY GET DEPRESSED THEY STAR
TO LEAVE THEIR FRIENDS
“EMOTIONAL DEPENDENCY ARE DISORDERS THAT ARE USUALLY FOUND IN CHILDHOOD WHEN SOMETHING
TRAUMATIC HAPPENS TO CHILDREN MANY PEOPLE WHO SUFFER FROM IT DO NOT BECOME
AWARE OF THIS TEND TO PRESENT A LACK OF SELF CONTROL AND AN EXAGGERATED NED
FOR ATTENTION”

“ACORDING TO HUNT (2007) “CONSIDERS THAT A DYSFUNTIONAL FAMILY IS WHERE THE INAPROPRIATE
OR IMMATURE BEHAVIOR OF ONE PARENT THE GROWTH OF INDIVIDUALITY AND THE ABILITY TO
RELATE HEALTHY FAMILY MEMBERS”

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DYSFUNCTIONAL FAMILIES ARE USUALLY COMPOSED OF CODEPENDENT ADULTS, BECAUSE THEIR MEMBERS ARE SO
STRESSED AND IMMERSED IN FAMILY PROBLEMS THAT THEY DO NOT HAVE TIME TO ATTEND TO THEIR OWN NEEDS
(BRADSHAW, 2002). THEY TEND TO ADAPT TO THE SITUATION IN A DESPERATE ATTEMPT TO CONTROL IT AND
BECOME DEPENDENT ON THE SOURCE OF STRESS; THUS, THEY BEGIN TO PROJECT THEIR ATTENTION OUTWARDS,
PREVENTING THEM FROM TAKING CARE OF THEIR OWN NEEDS OR FEELINGS.

“MANY OF THE CHARACTERISTICS OF CODEPENDENCY HAVE BEEN ESTABLISHED AS SOCIAL NORMS. THESE INCLUDE
THE TRADITIONAL NOTION OF MARRIAGE, WHICH CONSIDERS THAT TWO PEOPLE HAVE TO ABANDON THEIR
INDIVIDUALITY TO BECOME A COUPLE; THE PROMOTION OF RATIONALISM, WHICH IMPLIES CONTROL OVER
PLEASURE, SPONTANEITY AND THE EXPRESSION OF EMOTIONS; AND THE RULE OF BEING NICE AND PLEASANT TO
OTHERS (BRADSHAW, 2002). NORIEGA GAYOL AND RAMOS LIRA (2002) STATE THAT CODEPENDENT BEHAVIOR IS
THE DIRECT RESULT OF INEQUITY IN THE DISTRIBUTION OF POWER BETWEEN MEN AND WOMEN, DUE TO WHICH
THEY ARE PLACED AT RISK OF HAVING UNFAIR OR VIOLENT RELATIONSHIPS. CODEPENDENT INDIVIDUALS ARE
UNDER CONSTANT STRESS, WHICH CAN GENERATE ANXIETY, DEPRESSION AND PHYSICAL SYMPTOMS - EXHAUSTION,
ULCERS, HIGH BLOOD PRESSURE, MIGRAINES, RESPIRATORY AND CARDIAC PROBLEMS (D'ANGELO AND MENÉNDEZ,
2011; NORIEGA GAYOL AND RAMOS LIRA, 2002; PÉREZ AND DELGADO, 2003)”.

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IN CONCLUSION I THINK THAT THE MEMBERS OF THESE FAMILIES GROW UP WITH AFFECTIVE
DEFICIENCIES AND TRAUMAS THAT ARE REPRODUCED AGAIN AND AGAIN UNTIL A FAMILY MEMBER
FINALLY RISES UP AND STOPS THE LEGACY IN HIS GENERATION

THAT IS WHY I AM NOT IN FAVOR OF THESE FAMILIES BECAUSE AS I SAID A MOMENT AGO THE
CHILDREN ARE THE ONES WHO PAY, OH SOME WHO FALL INTO DRUGS, OTHERS IN ALCOHOL OR KILL
SOMEONE OR KILL THEMSELVES, I THINK THAT ALL FAMILIES ARE DIFFERENT AND EACH OF THEM HAS
ITS UPS AND DOWNS AS IN ANCIENT TIMES IT WAS VERY NORMAL FOR HUSBANDS TO CHEAT ON
THEIR WIFE NOT ONLY WITH ONE BUT WITH SEVERAL WOMEN AND THAT THE DAUGHTERS SOLD
THEM BECAUSE THERE WAS NO MONEY ALTHOUGH THIS ALSO HAPPENS TODAY AND PARENTS WHO
NOT ONLY SELL THEIR DAUGHTERS BUT ALSO THEIR SONS.
THAT'S WHY I THINK IT'S YOUR FREE WILL THAT EACH COUPLE CAN DECIDE IF THEY'RE GOING TO HAVE
A CHILD OR NOT BECAUSE HAVING A CHILD INVOLVES EDUCATING AND GUIDING THEM IN EVERY
MOMENT OF THEIR LIVES WHILE THEY'RE UNDERAGE AND CAN ALREADY MAKE THEIR OWN DECISIONS
WHEN THEY'RE OF AGE.