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7 Steps to Transforming Yourself From Who You Are to

Who You Want to Be Take the leap.

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Humans are not meant to stop growing. In fact, no living thing on earth

is meant to stop growing. We are all alive, reaching for the sun.

Progress in life is all about reinvention. I am going to preface all of this by saying
that reinvention is not the same thing as endlessly seeking reward or

achievement. There is a di�erence. Seeking an achievement usually implies an

"end." You win the trophy and then you're "done." That's not what you want to
aim for­­because as soon as you say you're "done," you are no longer reaching

and stretching yourself, which means you stop growing.

Reinvention, however, leaves the end open­­which is actually a good thing.

Reinvention is what allows you endless opportunities to continue exploring new

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Reinvention is what allows you endless opportunities to continue exploring new

parts of yourself. Exploration is growth, and growth in this sense is not outward

facing but inward.

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Whenever you �nd something about yourself you want to change, you need to

look for a way to reinvent it.

1. See yourself outside yourself.

Imagine you are a sculptor. A sculptor looks at his or her piece of stone and

endlessly questions new ways to shape it. And if he or she thinks of something to
change, there is no emotional attachment. They just do it. This is how you need

to see yourself­­as a work of art, always in progress. No need to get upset, or come
down hard on yourself when you see something you do not like. Instead, like an

artist, just get to work.

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2. Find the habit associated with the thing you want to

change.

Far too often, people focus too much on the thing they want to change instead

of the habits that formed the thing in the �rst place. For example: They try to
solve being overweight with doing a lot of ab exercises, without acknowledging
that the problem is their poor diet. To truly reinvent aspects of yourself, you
have to �nd the habit that created that trait in the �rst place­­and then adjust the

habit.

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3. Practice every day, no matter what.

Change is not something you do some days and then take a break from other

days. Change is a shift in lifestyle. It requires daily dedication, to the point where
that new habit takes the place of an old one and no longer requires conscious

e�ort.

4. Set realistic goals.

You can't just wake up one morning and say, "I'm not going to be impatient

anymore!" Yes, you are. And you actually help yourself by acknowledging that a
bad habit like that won't be solved immediately. Instead, set the goal to be more

patient during your team meeting that happens every morning. Use that as an
isolated practice space and subconscious reminder of what it is you want to

practice. Focus on that for a few weeks, and then go from there.

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