How Can I Help Others?

We want to help. What compels us to care for others, to want to help people?
Probably this...

By Perry Marshall

Consider these common headlines:

 An 11-yr-old girl in India is kidnapped and forced into sex slavery.

 A homeless man, possessing just $5, is robbed and beaten to death.

 A U.S. corporate executive declares his company bankrupt, but first takes millions
in bonuses.

 In Africa, people are starving, while food supplies sit a mile away, in a storehouse
blocked by a corrupt government.

These are difficult to read. We want people to be treated well. We want humanity to be
compassionate, caring, fair.

But why do we ache for this?

What happened to our understanding of "survival of the fittest?" Why does it bother us that
the weaker is abused, exploited, and harmed? The stronger winning over the weaker
should be the norm. That should be acceptable to us.

But it is not acceptable. "Survival of the fittest" actually runs against our conscience. We
don't believe that a person should be victimized, just because a stronger person is able to
do it to them.

Our compassion

There is a human nature, a heart of compassion that runs upstream, against normal,
evolutionary processes. Even when something might be to our own benefit and good for
our own survival, oddly enough, we might not want to act on that. We might desire the
exact opposite.

We might, at risk to our own safety, pull an accident victim out of a burning car. We might
move to another country to rescue girls from sex slavery. We might join humanitarian relief
organizations in countries known for guerilla kidnappings and brutal, random murders.

Why do we do it? Why do we find it fulfilling to help others, when it might cost us our lives?

Could it be for the reason that Archbishop Desmond Tutu of South Africa proposes? He
contends that we been created for "goodness."

"It is quite wonderful, yes amazing, that in a hard-headed cynical world such as our own,
those we admire most, indeed revere, are not as we might have expected. [They are not]
the macho, the aggressive, even the successful. No, amazingly, it is such as Mother
Teresa, a Dalai Lama, a Mahatma Gandhi, and a Nelson Mandela.

"Why do we revere such as these? Why?

"It is because they are good, and our hearts rejoice, exult in their presence. They make us
feel good about being human.

"And because, we (all of us) have been made for goodness. We have been made for God,
for laughter, we have been made for gentleness, we have been made for caring, for
sharing, for compassion."1

Created for compassion?

Is this true? God, the source of our lives, says "yes." With intention and foresight, God did
indeed create us for goodness.

"For we are his [God's] workmanship, created in Christ Jesus for good works, which God
prepared beforehand, that we should walk in them."2

"He has told you, O man, what is good; and what does the Lord require of you, but to do
justice, and to love kindness, and to walk humbly with your God."3

There are materialists who will try to convince us that we have no conscience, no internal
draw toward goodness. To them, we are merely led by chemical impulses,
preprogrammed by evolutionary development. They say we have a brain, but no mind. A
body, but no soul. Some of them would argue that as material, physical objects, we cannot
be asked to do more than what is in our self-interest. We are nothing greater than evolved
animals.

These same materialists however, will contradict themselves. They say that we are without
free will, without conscience, but then rightly ask us to make moral choices. For example,
they might ask us to protect our environment and to refrain from using plastic bags,
wasting water, burning fuels that pollute the air. How can they ask for such self-sacrifice?

If we are programmed toward victory over one another, then why sacrifice?

Author Dinesh D'Souza poses this question about our inward motivations. "...evolution
does a good job in accounting for why we are selfish animals, but it faces immense
challenges in accounting for why we simultaneously hold that we ought not to be selfish."4

Our drive toward compassion is embedded in our DNA.

To care for others is how God made us.

"Who, of you, has never experienced when you have done something gratuitously good,
when you have been nice to someone when you needn't have been. You have a wonderful
glow inside of you. You really feel good.
[And] when you have done something lousy, your body tells you. You feel it in your
stomach. Anger, resentment affects you ... affects you. Your blood pressure goes up,
because our nature is in fact to be good. That is, what we are created for."5

Do you want to see righteous actions for the poor, instead of abuse? To see mercy, and
peace? That's exactly what God wants us to pursue. Jesus promised, "Blessed are those
who hunger and thirst for righteousness, for they shall be satisfied. Blessed are the
merciful, for they shall receive mercy. Blessed are the pure in heart, for they shall see
God. Blessed are the peacemakers, for they shall be called sons of God."6

Yet, let's be honest. As humans, we also are capable of selfishness, greed, murder. We
have no problem ignoring the poor, the suffering, the homeless. And that's our dilemma.

"We want to believe in ultimate human goodness, but all too often our hopes are dashed
by selfish and violent acts of our own human family against each other. We cling to the
promise of new scientific breakthroughs to help our hurting world, but we fear that some of
these discoveries may be used in ways that cause more harm than good."7

The challenge: compassion or selfishness?

There lies the problem. We have two conflicting natures within us. One part of us is very
self-centered, focusing on what is to our own benefit, even to the detriment of others. The
other part of us sincerely wants to sacrifice for others. We have an inward conflict that the
animal kingdom does not.

Yet there is a solution. Our better selves actually can win out. But not on our own. There is
an advantage in knowing God. When we experience his love, it takes us beyond our own
human limitations. God can pull us out of our self-centeredness and cause us to care more
deeply about others.

The Bible even boldly states, "We love because he first loved us."8

In the religions of Islam, Buddhism, Hinduism, who do not put Jesus at the center of their
beliefs, their followers still acknowledge that Jesus lived out the life we should aspire to.

In the Gospel of John, we read of Jesus, "So the Word became human and made his
home among us. He was full of unfailing love and faithfulness. And we have seen his
glory, the glory of the Father's one and only Son."9

"Jesus went through all the towns and villages, teaching in their synagogues, preaching
the good news of the kingdom and healing every disease and sickness. When he saw the
crowds, he had compassion on them, because they were harassed and helpless, like
sheep without a shepherd."10

He created us to know his love for us, and demonstrate that same love to others.

Jesus said, "As the Father has loved me, so have I loved you. Now remain in my
love. ...My command is this: Love each other as I have loved you."11