LESSONS OF ST.

VALENTINE

by The Talk House

WHAT IS LOVE?
 Who is St. Valentine?
Valentine was a priest in a Catholic Church who lived in
Rome, Italy in the 200s.

his lessons

Love is courageous.

Love is kind.

Love is thoughtful.

Love is forever.

Spread love and not hate.

Erich Fromm, The Art of Loving
“Paradoxically, the ability to be alone is the
condition for the ability to love.”
“Infantile love follows the principle: "I love
because I am loved."
Mature love follows the principle: "I am loved
because I love."
Immature love says: "I love you because I need
you."
Mature love says: "I need you because I love you.”
“Love is an activity, not a passive affect; it is a
“standing in,” not a “falling for.” In the most
general way, the active character of love can be
described by stating that love is primarily
giving, not receiving.”
 The Essence of
Care

“ People will forget what you said, people will

forget what you did, but people will never forget
how you made them feel.” - Maya Angelo

The essence of love is showing that you care.

And when you care, your relationships are sure to flourish.
What are some of the signs of care in your life?
 Are You Taking Your
Relationship for Granted?
things most people take for granted:

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 Are You Taking Your
Relationship for Granted?
things most people take for granted:

Being on the Same Team

Listening
Offering Emotional Support
Acting on Ambitions
Warmly Greeting Each Other
Regularly Hugging One Another
Considering Each Other’s Interests
Acknowledging Each Other’s Input
Take Your Relationship
To The Next Level
 Take Your Relationship
To The Next Level
1. Don’t be afraid to ask for what you want in the
relationship.
2. Know everything there is to know about the person.
3. Be more specific in your queries about each other.
4. Develop a tradition that brings you closer to one
another.
5. Get creative.
6. Resolve all arguments swiftly. Don’t let them linger.
7. Always look for a common ground.
8. Apologize whenever necessary.
 “If you knew how to listen…”

Pay Attention Provide Feedback Respond

Appropriately

Reflect on what has been said by

Look at the person directly. paraphrasing. "What I'm hearing Be candid, open, and honest in
Put aside distracting thoughts. is..." and "Sounds like you are your response.
Don't mentally prepare a rebuttal! saying..." are great ways to reflect Assert your opinions respectfully.
"Listen" to the person's body back. Treat the other person in a way
language. Ask questions to clarify certain that you think they would want to

points. "What do you mean when you be treated.
say..." "Is this what you mean?"

 Let's practice!

Person 1: Tell about the situation when you was not

satisfied with yourself or the situation. What did you
feel? Why? - 3 minutes

Person 2: Listen actively and react to the message. - 1

minute

Change roles.
 how to love
yourself

your family

your friends

your job

your life
THE END
with love, The Talk House