Anugrah Aditama

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Ego State

Ego Status is a way of people to think, feel, and habits of someone that someone
experienced that shaped from their childhood that built from the result of sightseeing
someone from their environment since childhood, how they paying attention to other
people communicating and their progress from rationality. Ego State has three theory of
people that is parents, adult, and children. Three of them have the same kind of effect
of how to express themselves. The first one is Child Ego State, this state is an important
fase for children for their development selves based on their behavior, act, and habits of
themselves. Children always express their feelings and intuitive because they have an
impulsive and a high desire to get their comfortable and their enjoyment. For example,
some kids that always cry because of what they see and what they want for their
pleasure and enjoyment. Functionally, Child Ego State can be known by how children
interact with their closest environment like their interaction with their parents, by that
interaction we can see that there is a spontaneous child that have a fun side from
human behavior that can adapt to their own environment that is Natural Child. Second
there is Rebellious Child which is a habits that cannot take any orders from someone or
parents by doing rebelling stuff, but this state can become a plus for a kind of job that
needs a breakthrough and needs some creativity. And third one is Adaptive Child which
is a habits that is always obey to their parents rules. This state can easily adapt children
from any situation and based on certain condition. Adult Ego State is a step of how
adults think like someone is in a fase of developing something rational with the right
logic. Based on children, they record of what they see by their parents interacting.
Parent Ego State is a fase that has been record since they were a child, this fase is more
like a critic from someone if they can accept those critics, usually those critics were
verbal or based on experience. There is a term that called “Recording Tape” which is a
term that those behaviour that they record from their childhood was the most effective
ways to impact their social expectation and also their obligation of what they must do.
From those three Ego state, the most superego that can determine if they are right or
wrong and if they can determine their value is Parent Ego State.

Cross Transaction is an habits of someone that feels uncomfortable based on their

answer to other people. Example if employee answer to their manager with such an
simple answer “no problem” some people may have an uncomfortable feelings towards
the employee and cannot answer what is right or wrong based on the report.
Complementary Transaction where communicating with someone using their ego
status and get the responds based on their hopes. Usually, complementary transaction
can create a comfortable transaction between two sides individual.
Ulterior Transaction where communication has two meanings from their psychological
fase. The two meanings of the message contains of Social Message of what we are
saying and Psychology Message of what we are meant of.