KOLEHIYO NG LUNGSOD NG LIPA

ETHICS

Republic of the Philippines

Commission on Higher Education
Region IV-A CALABARZON
LIPA CITY
KOLEHIYO NG LUNGSOD NG LIPA
COLLEGE OF TEACHER EDUCATION

GE 108

ETHICS Foundation of Moral Valuation

SELF CARE/SELF DISCOVERY

(The core of studying Ethics)

Submitted by: Submitted to:

Raña May F. Compas Ms. Mary Grace Andal
BSED 1-F Instructor
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SELF CARE/SELF DISCOVERY

1. HOW DO I FEEL THIS MOMENT?

I feel anxious and concern about the health crisis we are now
facing. I am pitiful to those people who are sacrificing their health
and taking the risk to save many lives during this pandemic. Aside
from thinking of the well-being I also think of my own family’s health
safety and security. I feel like I have to do something but I’m lack of
materials and financial support to help others. I suddenly forgot all
my personal problems during these trying times. I feel like I should set
aside all my personal problems and think of others safety and
welfare. I feel the guilt that I can’t even think of little ways to help
others who are in needs. I feel like I’m powerless at this moment and
it makes me feel the guiltiness even more.

2. WHAT DO I CRAVE IN LIFE?

To be honest, I crave for a genuine happiness and not for
somewhat that has something to do with neither materials nor
wealth. All this time, I can’t find the real happiness not because I
don’t have all the luxurious things in this world but because I can’t
fully understand the true meaning of genuine happiness until now.
Maybe because human satisfaction is endless and so we try to seek
for the happiness that we can’t easily see between the lines. Aside
from that, I also crave for peaceful and harmonious society for all. I
am longing to see how beautiful our life might be if we can only
avoid hatred, complexities and disturbance. I am craving for unity
amidst diversity. How I wish that differences will never become a
hindrance to see the beauty of life given to each of us regardless of
dissimilarities of culture, traditions or even the social status of a
person. I don’t only desire for my own happiness but also for
everyone’s happiness as well.

3. WHAT ARE THE POSITIVES IN MY LIFE?

I consider all the great things in life as positives and maybe
sometimes negative situations leads us to a positive outcome.
Positives are all the things in life that we are definite, assured and
certain. Those positives are being able to wake up every day and
live our life in accordance to our choices. Positives are those things
that make us happy and make us feel the contentment. It is knowing
that everything will be alright and will fall out to its place. It is
knowing that we have families and friends beside us. It is the
assurance that we can do something even if it’s impossible. For me,
the positive in life is living our life freely without uncertainty and
hesitations. It is what makes us continue whatever we want to do
with no possibility of doubt.
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4. WHAT AM I THANKFUL FOR?

I am very thankful of everything that God gave to me. I am
thankful that I was able to live with my family in a simple but
wonderful life. I am lucky to grow up with this environment wherein
I’ve learned to value the life or human existence, time and
education. I learned to value my family over any other materialistic
things that others desired to get. Growing up with a simple life is
better than growing up seeking for luxurious things and wealth. I am
grateful that God put me on this situation wherein I need to work
hard to get what I want. I am so blessed to have this opportunity to
pass all the difficult times and stages in my life in order to meet my
goals and pursue my dreams. Moreover, seeing those out of school
youth made me realize that I should be thankful that I have the
chance to attend school for education and make a difference in
my life. Being grateful for all of these will always leave me the lesson
that I should use this opportunities to make a change not only for
myself but also for others.

5. WHAT BROUGHT ME JOY TODAY? THIS WEEK? THIS MONTH?

Seeing my parents and brothers the moment I opened my eyes
today is more than a joy for me. Seeing them always brought me a
different kind of joy and excitement to live my life and continue
pursuing my dreams for them and for myself. Knowing that I have a
shelter, food and everything I need to live is enough for me to feel
the joy today and always. This week also makes me feel joyful
because we were able to catch up with our relatives in our province
and get the assurance that they are doing fine and they are safe
during this heath crisis. I am also happy that this month, one of the
most important person to me ask for forgiveness and he is trying to fix
everything between us, correcting his wrong deeds and changing
himself for the better. I’m happy to finally see him changing even
though things will never work out the same as what we expected like
before, it’s totally fine with me. I might not bring back my love and
trust to him but what really matters now is that we are maturing and
we are slowly building our relationship as friends.

6. WHAT IS MAKING ME FEEL DOWN?

What make me feel down are the criticisms or disapproval that
I received from the important people in my life. Sometimes, hearing
unpleasant words from them makes me feel like I’ve never been
enough for them. Whenever I hear something that is really insulting in
my part, I am starting to be doubtful of my ability and talent. To be
honest, it’s fine with me to hear the criticisms from others but not from
my own family or friends. It is more hurtful to hear it from the person
who used to know you better that’s why it’s impossible for us to
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neglect their judgments about us. I can handle it if it is coming from
other person who doesn’t even know me because I can turn their
criticisms into motivation and inspiration to continue working to
prove them wrong. Other than that, failing also makes me feel
down because many are expecting something from me. However, I
just think that failing is part of everyone’s dealing and it means that
I’m trying. So, after feeling down, I will just continue until I get the
great outcome.

7. DO I FOLLOW THE ADVICE I GAVE TO OTHERS?

It’s really ironic to say how I gave very remarkable advices to

others but I can’t apply it to myself. My friends used to ask for my
words to help them realize something and I never failed to give them
what they want to hear from me. I’m always there whenever they
need an advice whether it’s about family matters, self-problems, or
even if it’s all about love. But, hearing all those advices coming from
me never satisfied me because it’s embarrassing to say that I
disobey my own advices. I am good at giving advices but I am worst
in applying those advices to myself. I am bad at realizing my
mistakes and even if I am fully aware of what should I do in a
particular situation, I ended up being lost and unfollowing my own
guidance because of being blind and numb. It is hard to follow
especially when I am considering what I might possibly lose in that
situation. So, whether I like it or not, I will refuse to comply with my
own advices even if knowing that it is not the right thing to do but it is
what makes me feel good and comfortable at the same time.

8. WHEN SOMETHING (RECENTLY) DIDN'T GO WITH MY WAY, WHAT DID

I LEARN?
When something didn’t go with my way, I learned that not all
the things we expect to happen will happen in accordance to our
own expectations. I do believe in the adage saying that “Everything
happens for a reason”. Sometimes, we set our limit on our
expectations which only leads us to disappointment. I know that
even if things are not working as what I expected, there’s something
better waiting for me. For instance, entering college, I expected that
everything will be alright but when I saw my first semester grades, I
was dissatisfied and I thought that maybe it is just the beginning of
everything. I also realized that I never gave my best and that’s what I
truly deserve. So, I learned that I should exert effort to boost my
performance at school to get high grades and fill up my
expectation. I might not get the great outcome at first, but I learned
that maybe it happened for a reason, to teach me to make an
effort the next time I meet my expectation to myself. I learned that I
must give my best in everything.
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9. IF I HAD TIME, WHAT DO I DO?

I will simply spend my time with my whole family, friends or my
love ones because I only devote my time to the people who matters
to me the most. If I had time, I will choose to be with them and catch
up with them. If I will not do that, I will just consider it a waste of time.
Being with them is truly great and I can be myself, my true self, in
front of them. They know me better and that makes me feel
comfortable when I am with anyone of them. I also spend a lot of
time at school and doing my assignments so it is also a great break
for me to bond with them to release my stress and problems. I feel
assurance in their presence and that makes me wanted to spend
more time that I had. I treasure them as how I treasure my time.

10. WHAT SCARES ME? HOW DOES IT HOLD ME BACK?

What scares me the most is the failures and disappointments
that I might encounter in doing the things I want or in achieving my
goals. Sometimes, I became hesitant because of these and lead me
to back out and give up easily. I know that this is not good in any
angle we look at but it is so hard to do something that makes you
feel unconfident and uncertain of. However, having those feeling
that holding me back, sometimes, becomes my strength. It is
because the more I feel scared of something the more eagerness I
feel to face what scares me. If ever I gave up, it is because I see
nothing but impossibility of occurrence which is not correct. My
hopes sometimes are not that strong because of lack of support
from the people I am expecting to be by my side and of course
because of the lack of self-esteem.

11. DO THE PEOPLE AROUND ME MAKE ME FEEL ENERGIZED?

Yes, especially when I am going through rough or difficult times
and when I needed someone who I can lean on. Seeing the
important people in my life empowers me during my weakest point.
Even if sometimes I feel like I don’t want to get up and live, they are
becoming the main source of my strength and make me feel the
eagerness to live my life to the fullest. They are my vitamins for being
an essential people who are helping me to grow every day. They are
serving as my battery because they used to be the source of my
power connected to me. They can easily change my mood by
showing their care and love for me.

12. WHEN IS THE LAST TIME I GAVE BACK?

It is when I graduated in Senior High School. I gave back all the
sacrifices and hardwork of my parents by giving them the honor in
front of my fellow students and their parents. I see how they work
hard just to make sure that they will be able to send us to school. So,
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for me to give back all their sacrifices, I did my very best to made it
on top even if it is really impossible for me because I am not a
consistent honor student way back elementary and junior high
school. Unexpectedly, I ranked as valedictorian for the very first time.
I surprised them during the graduation. I saw how happy they are
when we stayed more minutes at the stage because I received lots
of medals and certificates which I honor to them. It might not match
all their hardwork but I am sure that it somehow gave them
happiness knowing that they both completed elementary education
and it is fulfilling for them to see us achieving their dreams for us and
hearing everyone clapping their hands and congratulating them for
having me as their child.

13. WHO OR WHAT INSPIRES ME?

My family is the main source of my strength and inspiration.
They inspire me to achieve excellence. They inspire me to pursue the
things that I’ve seen impossible to achieve. I became inspired to
make a change for our life because I want them to experience the
life that they never experience before. I’m inspired because I know
that they will always be there for me whenever I need them and
they will surely support me with my choices. I know that they are my
number one supporter and believer. I am also inspired by the
success stories of some people who merely achieved success
because of perseverance, dedication and commitment to their
goals. I’ve read some stories that inspire me which left me a lesson.

14. HOW MUCH DO I TRUST MYSELF? DO I LISTEN TO OTHERS MORE

THAN MYSELF?
Before, I barely trust myself a little. I always think of my
incapabilities and always seeking for reassurance of what I must do
because I am lack of trust to myself. Now, I’m trying my best to give
my trust to myself and I am now starting to believe in what I can do
or what are my capabilities. I listen to others always but I am only
choosing the words that have a meaning and the words that may
help me grow. I often listen to others but I chose to listen to myself
more often but still, I’m thinking of what is good for me and for the
people around me. I always consider others even if I’m listening to
my own decisions and choices of actions.

15. HOW DO I FEEL ABOUT ACCEPTING MY "NEGATIVE" QUALITIES? AM

I ABLE TO ACCEPT MY WHOLE SELF?
It is not easy to come up with the realization of my own
mistakes but if I would find out my negative qualities, I will do
something to change it. Because I am not a fan of the saying that if
someone loves us they should also accept whoever we are. That
sounds selfish for me because if we really care for others, we should
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be the one making the changes especially when it is negative, we
should be the one to adjust. I accept my whole self but I know that I
have some qualities that I have to change not only for myself but
also for the people around me. I fully accept the positive in me but I
am trying to change the negative because it will never be good for
me and to my relationship to others if I will not do something to
change it.

16. HOW AM I CENSORING WHAT I REALLY THINK OR FEEL?

I examine and analyze what I think and truly feel about
something by asking myself of how it affects me, how heavy it is,
what or who is the reason of it and how could I remove and
eliminate these thoughts in my mind and feelings especially when it is
no good for me and for others around me. I analyze how it will affect
my behavior towards other and how they will react if ever they
noticed something strange from me. If it is heavy, I am trying to think
for more happy moments as often to forget the heavy ones and
when it comes to feelings, I never talk to someone if I know that I am
being emotional because it will never have a good result after all.

17. WHAT'S KEEPING ME AWAKE AT NIGHT?

Before going to sleep, I always think of the things that might
happen to me in the near future and what is waiting ahead of me. It
happens every single night. It is impossible for me to sleep without
even thinking about something. It keeps me awake at night and
sometimes I can’t avoid crying when I think of the possibility of losing
everyone including the most important people in my life. I am afraid
that one day, when I woke up; I will never see them again as usual. I
am afraid that I will wake up knowing that I’m all alone. The darkness
added more thoughts in my mind that makes me so upset. Losing
them scared me and keeps me awake at night until I get tired of
over thinking and fell asleep.

18. IN WHAT WAYS DO I FEEL RESPONSIBLE FOR EVERYONE AND

EVERYTHING?
I feel responsible for everyone and everything whenever my
choices and actions directly affect them in positive or negative way.
I feel like I have the obligation to them to ensure that they will be fine
with my actions. If they have engaged with my choices and will
surely be affected with this, I’m always thinking of avoiding
disappointments from them so I choose something that will be
beneficial to me as well as to others. I also feel responsible for
everyone if I have something that I’d promised to them and that
makes me think that I have the duty to fulfill it for them and for the
sake of my conscience or integrity.
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19. HOW "SHOULDS" INFLUENCE MY CHOICE RATHER THAN MY OWN
WISHES AND DREAMS?
Setting and achieving a goal is really hard when we are going
to look at the matter of dreams and practicality. Sometimes,
choosing our own dreams means setting aside the “shoulds” that our
family telling us to do which makes us selfish on the eyes of others. It
really affects my own choices in pursuing my dreams and wishes
because I always questioned myself of how my choices will affect
the important person in my life. It is so hard to conform to the
standards and norms given by the people around us and that will
simply affect how we choose between our own choices and what
should be our choices in life. These “shoulds” influenced my choices
in the way that I will always put into consideration all the possible
outcomes of my choices. As a result, whether I don’t want that
particular choice that I’ve made, I will just do it for the sake of others,
setting aside my own wishes and dreams because for me being
selfless for my family is better than to be selfish. I know that it doesn’t
sounds well and I am fully aware of it. I am just trying to avoid
disappointments and misconceptions about me from others. It also
has something to do with practicalities. “Shoulds” used to indicate
obligation, duty, or correctness and it is used to indicate what is
probable to happen to an action so it really has a big impact to our
choices because the outcomes of our choices is contingent with this
standard given to us.

20. WHAT DO I NEED TO HEAL?

I think what I need to heal and rebuild right now is non-other
than my whole self, my relationship with my father, and my
relationship to God. These past few months I am being so hard to
myself and I can’t see my value and self-importance at all. I was
heartbroken because I shed all my love to the wrong person not
knowing that I am losing myself in the process. I know that this is not
the right time for love but we can’t resist the feelings when it came
out whether it is at the wrong place, time, or moment. When I was
left behind, I felt unloved, unimportant, and unwanted. I felt like I
wasn’t good enough to keep. I was totally devastated because all
those years that we’ve been together, I never expected that we will
end up like this. It was so hard to find myself before but now, I am
trying to rebuild what is being destroyed. I am gradually taking my
steps slowly towards healing, acceptance and forgiveness. Aside
from myself, I also wanted to settle my relationship with my father. I
was having a bitter indignation at having been treated unfairly by
my father resulting to resentment between us. I love him and I want
to reconcile our trust to each other. Also, during those tough times, I
forgot to seek for God’s help because I am starting to ask his
existence to my life. I started questioning Him and why He is letting
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me down, which I regret. But now, I realized that He is doing all those
difficult things for a purpose. I know he has a great plan for me and
for everyone. I wanted to restore my faith and relationship to Him
because above all, He’s the most powerful and the one who will
never leave me until the end.