How to raise successful kids—without over-parenting

You know, I didn’t set out to be a parenting expert. In fact I’m not very interested parenting, per
se. it’s just that there’s a certain style of parenting these days that is kind of messing up kids,
impeding their chances to develop Into theirselves. there’s a certain style a parenting these days
that’s getting in the way. I guess what I’m saying is, we spend a lot of time being very concerned
about parents who aren’t involved enough in the lives of their kids and their education or their
upbringing, and rightly so. But at the other end of the spectrum, There’s a lot of harm going on
there as well, where parents feel a kid can’t be successful unless the parent is protecting and
preventing at every turn and hovering over every happening, and micromanaging every moment,
and steering their kid towards some small subset of colleges and careers. When we raise kids this
way and I’ll say we because lord knows, in raising my two teenagers, I’ve had these tendencies
my self, our kids end up leading a kind of checklisted childhood. And here’s what the checklisted
childhood looks like. We keep them safe and sound and fed and watered, and then we want to be
sure they go to the right schools, that they’re the right classes at the right schools, and that they
get the right grades in the right classes in the right schools. But not just grades, the scores, but the
accolades and the awards and the sport, the activities, the leadership, we tell our kids, don’t just
join in club, start a club, because colleges want to see that. And check the box fot community
service. I mean, show the colleges you care about others. And all of this is done to some hoped
for degree of perfection. We expext our kids to perform at a level of perfection we were never
asked to perform at ourselves, and so because so much is required we think, well then, of course
we parents have to argue withevery teacher and principal and coach and referee and act like our
kid’s concierge and personal handler. And secretary. And then with our kid’s our precious kids
we spend so much time nudging,cajoling, hinting, helping, haggling, nagging the sace maybe to
be sure they’re not screwing up. Not closing doors, not ruining their future, some hoped for
admission to a tiny handful of colleges that deny almost every applicant. And here’s what it feels
like to be kid in this checlisted childhood. First of all, there’s no time for free play.here’s no
room in the afternoons because everything has to enricjing, we think it’s as if every piece of
homework, everyquiz, every activity, is a make or break moment for this future we have in mind
for them, and we absolve them of helping out araound the house, and we even absolve them of
getting enough sleep as long as they’re checking off the items on their checklist. And in the
checklist chidhooo, we say we just want them to be happy, but when they come home from
school, what we ask about all too often first, is their homework and their grades. And they see in
our faces, that our approval, that our loves, that their very worth, comes from a’s. and then we
walk alongside them and offer clucking praise like a trainer at the Westminster’ do. Coaxing
them to just jump a little higher and soar a little father, day after day after day. And when they
get to high school. They don’t say, “well, what might I be interested in studying or doing as an
activity? They go to councelors and they say, “what do I need to do toget into the right college?”
and then when the grades start to roll in high schools and they’re getting some b’s or god forbid
some c’s, they frantically text their friends and say, “has anyone ever gotten into the right college
with these grades?” And our kids, regardless of where they end up at the end of high school
they’re breathless. they’re brittle. They’re a little burned out. They’re a little old before their
time, Wishing the grown ups in their lives had said,
“what you’ve done is enough, this effort you’ve put forth in childhood is enough.” And they’re
withering now under high rates of enxiety and depression and some of them are wondering, ill
this life ever turn out to have been worth it? Well, we parents, are pretty sure it’s all worth it.
Weseem to begave it’s like we literlyy think they will have no future if they don’t get into one of
these tiny set of colleges or careers wehhave in mind for them. Or maybe, were just afraid

5:18

Ladies and gentlemen, bullying may seem like a small problem for some people. Most people
may not realize that the damage caused by bullying can be so serious. It can be as serious as
“death” in extreme cases. If you think that bullying is not a serious matter to deal with just
because it merely hurt “feelings” then I have to tell you that you are completely wrong. This
“merely hurt your feelings” thing can be the beginning of various worse scenarios such as
physical assault, suicide, or any other kinds of violent acts carried out in the name of revenge.

As I said just now that bullying is not a serious problem for some people, just because we simply
don’t see the damage. But the thing is, based on my experience as a teacher, I learned that the
effect of bullying can stay undetected for years. During this time, the effect of bullying keeps
corrupting the soul of the victim. They may hold it inside as a grudge, or they may also develop
trauma which may result in self-withdrawal. I believe that this is something that we don’t want to
happen to our children. That is why we have to act right now to stop it, and I mean all of us with
no exception.

Baca juga: Reported Speech: Pengertian dan Contoh dalam Bahasa Inggris

Terjemahan:

Ibu-ibu dan Bapak-bapak, bullying mungkin nampak seperti masalah kecil bagi sebagian orang.
Kebanyakan orang mungkin tidak menyadari bahwa dampak yang disebabkan dari bullying bisa
begitu serius. Dampak tersebut bisa berupa “kematian” dalam kasus yang ekstrim. Jika Anda
berpikir bahwa bullying bukanlah merupakan hal yang serius untuk ditangani karena hal itu
hanya sekedar menyakiti perasaan maka saya perlu menyatakan pada anda bahwa Anda
sepenuhnya salah. Hal yang “hanya menyakiti perasaan” ini bisa menjadi awal dari berbagai
scenario yang lebih buruk seperti kekerasan fisik, bunuh diri atau berbagai tindak kekerasan
lainnya yang dilakukan atas nama balas dendam.

Seperti yang baru saja saya sampaikan bahwa bullying bukanlah masalah yang serius bagi
sebagian orang, hanya karena kita tidak melihat dampak kerusakan yang disebabkan olehnya.
Tapi masalahnya, berdasarkan pengalaman saya sebagai seorang guru, saya jadi tahu bahwa
dampak bullying bisa tetap tidak terdeteksi selama bertahun-tahun. Selama masa ini, dampak
bullying terus saja merusak jiwa si korban. Mereka mungkin menahannya di dalam diri sebagai
dendam, atau mereka bisa juga membentuk trauma yang mungkin berakhir pada penarikan diri
dari masyarakat. Saya percaya ini bukanlah hal yang kita inginkan untuk terjadi pada anak-anak
kita. Itulah sebabnya kita harus bertindak sekarang juga untuk menghentikan hal ini, dan yang
saya maksudkan adalah kita semua tanpa terkecuali.
Pidato perpisahan

Every year, we hold a farewell party for our senior students a couple of weeks before their
graduation. Have you ever asked yourself, why do we hold it before their graduation? Why not
later? Well, the answer is actually pretty simple: the essential meaning of the event itself.

This farewell party is a family event, and we are family. This event is not about the dance or the
music performances. This event is about appreciating the chance that we have to gather around
together for maybe the last time.

I don’t know what will happen tomorrow, nor I know what will happen in the next five or ten
years. Some of you might already be somebody of your dream living so far from this place. Some
of you might still struggle with your dream, fighting so hard to achieve it. But I do know one
thing: that our prayer will always be with you, that we will always be hoping for the best for you
because you are family.

Terjemahan:

Setiap tahun kita mengadakan pesta perpisahan untuk siswa senior kita beberapa minggu
sebelum hari kelulusan mereka. Pernahkah anda bertanya pada diri sendiri, mengapa kita
mengadakan acara ini sebelum kelulusan mereka? Dan mengapa tidak nanti saja ketika mereka
telah lulus? Jawabannya sebenarnya cukup sederhana: makna terpenting dari acara ini sendiri.

Pesta perpisahan ini adalah acara keluarga, dan kita semua adalah keluarga. Acara ini bukan
tentang tarian atau penampilan music yang akan segera kita saksikan sebentar lagi. Acara ini
adalah tentang menghargai kesempatan yang kita miliki untuk berkumpul bersama yang
mungkin untuk terakhir kalinya.

Saya tidak tau apa yang akan terjadi besok, tidak juga saya tau apa yang akan terjadi dalam lima
atau sepuluh tahun kedepan. Beberapa diantara kalian mungkin akan telah menjadi seseorang
yang kalian impikan dan tinggal sangat jauh dari sini. Sebagian dari kalian mungkin masih akan
sedang berjuang dengan mimpi kalian, berusaha dengan begitu keras untuk menggapainya.
Namun saya tau satu hal yang pasti: bahwa doa kami akan selalu bersama kalian, bahwa kami
akan selalu mendoakan yang terbaik untuk kalian, karena kalian adalah keluarga.

Pidato pembukaan seminar

Greetings to one and all. It gives me immense warmth and great pleasure to grace all of your
presence in the interest of the entire committee. It gives me tremendous pleasure to be presenting
the welcome speech amongst the most esteemed personalities who have won accolades in their
respective fields.

Before we begin this seminar, I would like to express my heartfelt gratitude to all of you who
have sincerely committed to this event to make it a success. This event would have been
impossible without the support of each and everyone present here.
Terjemahan:

Sambutan untuk semua yang sudah hadir di sini. Kedatangan kalian di sini membawa kehangatan
dan kebahagiaan untuk kita semua. Juga, kehadiran kalian yang sangat meriah membuat saya
sangat merasa terhormat untuk menyampaikan pidato sambutan di antara semua undangan di sini
yang telah memenangkan penghargaan sesuai dengan keahlian serta kemampuan yang sangat
disegani.

Sebelum memulai seminar ini, saya ingin menyampaikan terima kasih dan rasa syukur sebesar-
besarnya untuk orang-orang yang membantu dan memiliki peran besar atas terlaksananya
seminar ini. Tanpa dukungan kalian, mungkin acara ini tak akan pernah terjadi