Compatibility in marriage refers to the ability of two people to live together in harmony

and work together as a team. It’s about having similar values, beliefs, and goals. It’s also
about being able to communicate effectively with each other and being able to resolve
conflicts in a healthy way .
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Here are some signs of compatibility between partners:

 Physical attraction
 You like your partner the way they are
 Freedom to be yourself
 No atom of doubt about your love
 Common goals and interests
 Complete openness
 You are willing to work things out amicably
 You are not ashamed of your partner

 15 Signs of Compatibility
Between You and Your Partner
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15 Signs of Compatibility
Between You and Your Partner
Every successful relationship has one common denominator: the
compatibility of the partners. How compatible are you and your partner? Do
you see any signs of compatibility with your partner?

If you are in a relationship that is still at the infant stage, it would be helpful
to ask yourself, “Am I compatible with my partner?” Co-existing is difficult in
relationships, marriages, associations, partnerships, etc. It requires that
both parties possess certain qualities that are capable of making them
compatible.
15 Signs of Compatibility Between
You and Your Partner

By Rachael Pace, Expert Blogger

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Updated: 27 May, 2021

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Every successful relationship has one common denominator: the compatibility

of the partners. How compatible are you and your partner? Do you see any
signs of compatibility with your partner?

If you are in a relationship that is still at the infant stage, it would be helpful to
ask yourself, “Am I compatible with my partner?” Co-existing is difficult in
relationships, marriages, associations, partnerships, etc. It requires that both
parties possess certain qualities that are capable of making them compatible.

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If you are not sure of the answer, you need to check for signs of compatibility
and conduct what you may want to refer to as a “Relationship Compatibility
Check.” The check (quiz) would help you know whether you and your partner
are compatible.

What does being compatible mean?

What does being compatible mean, then? Being compatible means the ability to co-
exist or live together in unity and harmony, without any disagreement. Some of the
following terms qualify as compatible, agreeable, adaptable, cooperative, appropriate,
attuned, corresponding, etc.

To be in a compatible relationship, you and your partner must agree, adapt to each
other’s lifestyles, cooperate in your goals, and be attuned to one another’s personality.
If you disagree with your partner’s ideas, suggestions or perspective, then it is a sign
that both of you are not compatible.

Sometimes people try to pretend not to see the glaring facts that their relationship may
not work. It is essential to look out for signs of compatibility between you and your
partner if you are serious about getting the best out of a relationship.

15 signs of compatibility between partners

Some compatibility signs show whether a relationship will be successful or not. But
unfortunately, people ignore those signs and assume that if the relationship doesn’t
work initially, it will work later on. It often doesn’t work this way.
Hence, to save yourself heartbreak or any other emotional stress that a failed
relationship brings, you must ensure that you pay attention to the signs that show
relationship compatibility between partners.

If you are in a relationship and it doesn’t seem to be working as expected, you may
want to consider the following questions:

 Do you wish you never entered a relationship with your partner?

 Are you and your partner compatible? 
 How do you know if you are compatible with someone?
 Is there a possibility that your relationship may not be successful?

Carefully and intentionally answer the questions above. It will unveil to you whether
you and your partner are compatible or not. Furthermore, the following tips are
concrete and apparent signs of compatibility to know if you and your partner are
suitable for each other.

1. Physical attraction
One of the earliest signs of compatibility is the presence of physical
attraction between you and your partner. Before asking, are we compatible, ask
yourself if you’re attracted to your partner. Although being physically attractive to
your partner is not all that there is to be compatible.

You cannot develop likeness or affection for someone who is not appealing to you.
Physical attraction sets the foundation for most relationships, and the other factors can
follow.

2. You like your partner the way they are

Compatible partners do not seek ways to change the personality of their partner. They
like their partner the way they are. If any flaws or weaknesses are found in their
partner, they create an enabling atmosphere for their partner to address it personally,
rather than influence or compel their partner to change against their will.

3. Freedom to be yourself
Compatible relationships allow partners the freedom to be themselves. If your partner
likes you the way you are and does not coerce you to change your personality, it is
enough motivation to be yourself and not pretend to be someone else that you are not
as you have that freedom in your relationship.

4. No atom of doubt about your love

What makes compatible couples is the presence of absolute and concrete trust
between them. Lack of confidence is a product of doubt in love between you and your
partner or spouse.

Therefore, if you find yourself constantly doubting the love your partner claims to
have for you, then it is likely that both of you are not compatible.
5. Common goals and interests
What makes a couple compatible? It’s simple, you and your partner are compatible if
you two have similar interests and pursue the same goals. However, not all interests
must be shared.

Suppose your partner’s goal is to get married by the end of the year, and your goal is
to further your education before getting married.

In that case, it is obvious your dreams do not align, and as a result, you would likely
not be compatible in your relationship if one of you doesn’t forfeit their goals or find a
way to make it work.

Related Reading: How Important Are Common Interests in a Relationship

6. Complete openness
If trust exists between partners, then there is every possibility that they would be
completely open to one another without any secrets whatsoever, especially those that
can jeopardize the relationship. If you discover that your partner is secretive about his
personal life, it is a sign that you are not compatible.

7. You are willing to work things out amicably

There is no need to ask “how compatible are we?” if you and your partner have minor
arguments. It is not unnatural to have disagreements, little quarrels, or disputes in a
relationship. A compatible partner would be willing to settle any conflict with their
partner amicably without the conflict escalating.

A compatible partner doesn’t involve a third party in the issues about their

relationship, except when it becomes imperative to involve one. The third-party must
be a professional who is knowledgeable in handling disputes between spouses or
partners.

8. You are not ashamed of your partner

Is your partner ashamed of showing off your relationship publicly? Maybe he doesn’t
feel comfortable being with you in the relationship.

If your partner is embarrassed to hold you in public, play with you, or do anything that
depicts that both of you are in a relationship, it could be a sign that you are not
compatible.

9. You like each other’s family

How does your partner claim to love you but hates your family? If you find out your
partner does not like your family, they may likely have misunderstandings and
concerns about your family. Compatible partners appreciate, respect, and honor each
other’s family, even if they do not like them.

10. You are each other’s priority

If your partner does not see the need to satisfy your desires or prioritize your
relationship, then it is likely that you two are not compatible. You are supposed to be
your partner’s priority and vice versa. Your happiness is supposed to be a derivative
of your partner’s satisfaction and happiness.

Compatible partners seek to make each other feel loved and important by meeting one
another’s needs or desires.

Related Reading: Prioritize your Relationship, Partner and Sexual Connection

11. You don’t blame one another

Playing the blame game is detrimental to a relationship. Compatible couples don’t
blame each other for the mistakes of another. If you are in a relationship where
your partner is always blaming you for your relationship not working the way it ought
to, then it is evident that the two of you are not compatible.

12. You have similar philosophies about life

What makes a couple compatible is their ability to see from a common lens. If your
partner’s philosophies or core values are not consistent with yours, it can result in
misunderstandings.

For instance, if your partner has no regard for education and you are very passionate
about going to college, then the two of you are not compatible. Here are some crucial
questions you can ask yourself and your partner to see if your values align.

Watch this video to see if you have any signs of compatibility with your partner or
not.

13. Willingness to grow together

Most successful relationships result from the willingness of the partners to grow
together morally, financially, and otherwise. A partner who is unwilling to grow with
their partner is not one of the signs of compatibility.

14. Patience
Growth requires patience. If you must grow with your partner in a relationship, you
must be patient. Therefore, the impatience of your partner towards you could be one
of the negative signs of compatibility.

15. Sacrifice
Sacrifice is the apex of every successful relationship. Partners should be willing to
sacrifice for their spouse or partner. Sacrifice can be in terms of meeting your
partner’s needs, satisfying their desires, etc. Being able to sacrifice for each other is
one of the most important signs of compatibility.

Physical attraction is often a primal, instinctive reaction to another person, based on

factors such as their appearance, expressions, voice, and scent. While physical
attraction is one aspect of being in a relationship, it is also important to consider and
build upon shared values such as trust, compassion, respect, and honesty . 1

Here are some factors that can make someone physically attracted to you:

 Beauty
 Confidence
 Sense of humor
 Intelligence
 Kindness
 Similar interests