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To cite this article: Robert L. Tyson M.D. (1996) The Good Boy Syndrome and Malignant
Academic Failure in Early Adolescence, The Psychoanalytic Study of the Child, 51:1, 386-408
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The Good Boy Syndrome and
Malignant Academic Failure in
Early Adolescence
ROBERT L. TYSON, M.D.
and efforts to avoid narcissistic injury playa central role in their lives.
The clinician may underestimate the severity of the situation, includ-
ing the underlying depression, because of the same factors that mislead
families and teachers-that is, the patient's history of good perfor-
mance and his compliance and good nature. For these reasons, I desig-
nate the clinical picture "The Good Boy Syndrome."
DIAGNOSTIC CONSIDERATIONS
I. At the college level a good performer in high school with a high IQ who flunks out of
college has been called "the student who refuses to succeed" (Baker, 1975).
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psychosis and to Greenacre's (1959) concept of focal symbiosis in which
an intense interdependence between mother and child was limited to a
particular aspect of their relationship rather than being the more usual
comprehensive, total one of mother and child.
Berman (1971) reports boys with a symptom picture somewhat simi-
lar to the "good boy syndrome" but with several differences. The boys
he studied suffered from a passive-aggressive character disorder that
defended against a neurotic depression. In his experience, these boys
had a high verbal score but low performance on the Wechsler-Bellevue
psychological test, which he believes reflects their intense passive-de-
pendent longings. They do poorly if they move away from home, con-
trary to their own expectations and those of their parents. The early
history of his patients is marked by much promise that they never live
up to. Berman sees the problem as beginning with defective parental
identifications during the oedipal phase. Like Newman et al., he finds a
pathological relationship with the boy's mother and her ambivalently
overprotective response in contrast to her expectations of her son's
performance.
The good boy with academic failure, as I speak of him here, suffers
from none of these afflictions though to some degree he may partake
in a disturbed maternal relationship. While he may be unhappy at this
turn of events, he does not appear to be suffering from an overt de-
pressive illness. As Masterson (1970) has pointed out, adolescents gen-
erally defend vigorously against painful depressive affect. Typically
the good boy has made so little trouble for anyone in his whole life that
when his difficulty first appears, he and everyone else are truly sur-
prised. The initial response from family and teachers is sympathetic,
supportive, and understanding. When these responses do not work
and his academic difficulties persist, the understanding diminishes,
and as time goes on, so do the sympathy and the support. When his
depression becomes manifest, he is likely to worry that it is a burden to
others.
The clinician's usual way of proceeding is to rule out all the so-called
major illnesses. Then the diagnosis by exclusion is a "minor illness,"
something 'Just psychological." The hunt begins for an explanation,
typically assigned to some external factor like the flu, and a treatment is
often based on that rationalization. However, this "minor illness" has
sufficient power to ruin the adolescent's life, to foreclose the avenues of
education and training, to interfere with his family relationships, and
to disrupt his friendships by isolating him as a consequence of making
him "different." In the clinician's office he is appealingly pleasant,
intelligent, polite, articulate, and suffering. This is not the challenge
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CLINICAL EXAMPLES
A few clinical examples will illustrate these points. I will describe the
psychoanalytic work with Johnny, Don, and Ted relatively briefly; then
I will give more details about Andy and his treatment. Following the
clinical material, I will outline the common elements that comprise this
syndrome and discuss some of the underlying factors.
Case 1. Johnny was 13 when he was referred for evaluation by his
pediatrician, incidentally an unusual source of referral. johnny was
known to be intellectually gifted and was put into an appropriate class.
Testing done independent of the school revealed an IQ of 155. For
about a year he had done poorly in one or another subject-it did not
seem to matter which subject; there was always one trouble spot. His
parents gradually became exasperated, especially because johnny was
in all ways such a good boy and had always done what he was supposed
to. They had helped him with his work, they had talked with the
teachers and the counselors at school, they had obtained tutors with
whom their son got along famously, and at times it even appeared that
his work was better. Eventually, however, the original pattern reap-
peared each time. On the last occasion,johnny was so mortified that he
had received two Cs on his report card that he ran away from home for
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three days. After realizing that they had exhausted all avenues of assis-
tance, his parents finally felt there was nothing else to do but ask for
help. The father, a highly intelligent, hardworking, and successful pro-
fessional, was concerned about his son and wanted to do anything that
might help. He felt closer to the patient than he was to his two younger
daughters, even though the demands of his work kept him away from
home more than either he or his devoted wife liked. The mother was a
sensitive, articulate, insightful, well-organized college graduate who
feared that she had done something wrong in raising Johnny to ac-
count for his present difficulties. Both parents described him as a
delightful boy with a good sense of humor, cheerful and willing, and
with a happy relationship with his younger sisters, an impression con-
firmed when Johnny appeared in person.
In the course of the evaluation, it appeared that Johnny had a pat-
tern of procrastinating on work in one or another course; then just
before the last examination he would attempt to complete all the as-
signments and study all the material to "pull a rabbit out of the hat," to
get a good grade. This feat had been accomplished a number of times,
though no one knew it. Only when he had not been able to accomplish it
had it come to anyone's attention. It gradually became clear that
Johnny himself was surprised he was doing this, totally unaware that it
was a pattern. In fact, it was just this point that got him interested in
treatment, as it offered him a way to learn and to be in control of
himself. Over a period of two years of analysis johnny's marks gradu-
ally returned to where they should have been, and it became abun-
dantly clear that the central focus of his problem had to do with his
need to control his hostile aggression. For Johnny, to succeed meant to
do someone else in. With treatment, Johnny gradually became better
able to put into words more of his angry feelings than ever before, and
incidentally, he no longer appeared always to be such a very pleasant
person all of the time.
Case 2. Don was 15 years old when his mother asked for him to be seen.
She had some psychotherapy a few years before, when Don's brother,
who was six years older, dropped out of high school and left home
following several years of drug abuse and earning poor grades; she
asked her previous therapist for the referral. She was concerned be-
cause Don had always been a straight A-student, but now he was getting
several Bs, which upset him considerably. In addition, she worried he
was becoming progressively more withdrawn, and she was frightened
by his excessively angry responses to rare visits by family members and
neighbors. This came to a head after the maternal grandmother re-
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fused to visit because she did not want to have any contact with her
grandson. On her last visit she was most distraught by his attitude to
her, and she complained that he didn't listen to what she said, often
failed to respond to her remarks and questions, and looked furiously at
her if she said anything.
Don's father was a highly competent, articulate, and intelligent pro-
fessional whose work required long periods away from home, similar to
Johnny's father. He had been bitterly disappointed in his older son and
all his hopes were on Don. He was more open with Don than was the
mother about their hopes for him and the wish that he not be like his
brother. The mother strove to be closer to Don, feeling that if she had
given more to the brother, he would not have fallen into bad company,
consequently disappointing them so. When the times for treatment
were proposed, there was a conflict with Don's sports activities in which
he had been active and successful for several years. The father openly
said he thought sports were more important, the motherjust as openly
said she thought that treatment was more important; they left the
decision up to Don, who, to my surprise, decided to drop sports this
year or until treatment was over, in favor of starting.
Don's entire life and thoughts centered around school and home-
work. If there were no assignments, he either read science fiction
books or watched television. He had gone out for sports because his
father wanted him to, and because his brother had not done so. In fact,
everything about his life was dedicated to being different from his
brother, that is, to being as good a boy as his brother had been bad. A
concrete example of this was the parents' decision after fifth grade to
move him from public school to a strict fundamentalist institution.
They felt he would be less likely to be influenced there by drug abusing
delinquents, an association that they were convinced had ruined their
older son. Don had embraced the fundamentalist teachings and a glim-
mer of rebellion could be seen in his report of how his mother tried to
convince him of the scientific validity of Darwinian evolution, while he
easily demolished her arguments and demonstrated what he called her
scientific bigotry using what he had been taught in school. To her fears
that he had been brainwashed, he replied that he had a similar concern
about her.
The details of this way of life only gradually emerged over the first
year of treatment, as Don was an extremely cautious and slow conversa-
tionalist. He had decided on treatment after due deliberation because
it would be less "hassle" and also because he agreed he had some
problems that could be helped. He was chiefly concerned about the fact
that his mind would often wander while studying, and that this had
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caused his grades to drop. He became concerned because he feared his
difficulties in studying were getting out of control, and he saw treat-
ment as a way of regaining it. In fact, over the first year of treatment his
ability to focus on his studies did improve and he returned to his
sought-for straight-A status. Thus treatment enabled Don to extricate
himself from what was, for him, academic failure, getting less than
straight As. It is interesting to speculate on the possibility that without
treatment the interference with his concentration might have pro-
gressed to the point that others would have been alarmed about his
academic performance.
While at this juncture many adolescents drop out of treatment, or
get their parents to interfere; Don continued, perhaps because he was
more influenced by treatment compliance, because of his passivity,
than by treatment alliance.
As he slowly talked more about himself in addition to the details of
his subjects, tests, quizzes, grades, projects, grading methods, teachers,
etc., a more complete picture of his complex personality emerged. In
structure and function, Don had an obsessional personality with a few
symptomatic compulsions-for example, he repeatedly checked
whether he had turned off the lights. His feelings of anger and resent-
ment at his mother, and then at his brother, came up and were covered
over and then worked through repeatedly. This initial ventilation less-
ened the pressure contributing to Don's "mind wandering." Often
enough such a complaint from an adolescent is related to sexual preoc-
cupations, but Don made it clear in several ways that he was not ready
to talk about anything in that area. The fundamentalist school's teach-
ings about sex coincided with his needs to control his sexual feelings
and thoughts. Only later was he able to talk about his first love, a girl
with anorexia nervosa who was about to move away. He talked with her
for hours on the telephone until she left the city, after which Don
became quite overtly depressed. Eventually he worked through to find
the sources of his anger and to resolve the associated conflicts over the
next year.
Case 4. Andy's story is more complex and has several elements that
distinguish it from the others. I will give some details from his two years
of analysis. He sought help shortly before his 16th birthday, but he had
already dropped out of school by the time our sessions began. When I
met with his mother prior to treatment, she reported that he was seri-
ously considering dropping out but felt there was nothing she could do
to prevent it. She described his development as normal, if not preco-
cious as he walked, talked, and learned to read early. In addition, Andy,
in contrast to the others described here, actually had dropped out of
school, and he was overtly depressed and realized it. Andy may be an
example of what can happen with the advance of an untreated under-
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as a weapon against his father. Andy felt his mother had planned the
separation from his father like a military campaign in the course of
which she reversed the earlier, pre-divorce alignment of father-son
and mother-daughter. His mother treated him, instead of his sister, as a
confidant, drawing him into opposition to his father whom she
"painted black." At this point in treatment, Andy felt up to taking the
initiative and he began to visit his father weekly and found him "not so
bad." Andy was curious about how his father felt about his being in
treatment and was disappointed to hear him say that he was against it-
a position he assumed was based on his father's declaration that he
didn't need any help to get over his nervous breakdown suffered dur-
ing World War II. It became apparent that Andy was afraid his father
would be angry at him, based on his alignment with the mother during
the divorce, and this fear of his father's anger made Andy hesitant to
visit him. I was able to link this fear to the attacks in the "paranoid"
fantasies, and subsequently to his guilty feelings based on his positive
oedipal wishes. These wishes to be his mother's favorite and to win out
over his father and sister had come very close to being fulfilled in reality
because of the mother's liaison with Andy against the father, and be-
cause of their subsequent triumphant departure from the father to live
together away from him.
Andy now talked about his interest in some of the girls at work, but
he wondered how much he would have to tell me about it. He felt it was
dangerous to trust someone, namely me, for fear he "would be over-
whelmed by some cheap emotion," and he began to make hypo-
chondriacal references to his body, feeling he might have abused it by
smoking. He tested my interest in him by emphasizing his deteriorat-
ing physical state and increased feelings of depression, while at the
same time making plans to move out of his mother's house to share an
apartment with another boy. This aroused my concern, and my advice
to Andy to postpone his move was motivated more from a protective
countertransference than derived from any technical considerations.
However, it did lead him to confess how much he wished his mother
would say she wanted him to stay at home with her.
As Andy always had shared his plans with his mother, he told her
when an apartment might become available; on that day he came home
to find all his belongings neatly packed up and waiting at the front
door. Without his knowing, she had cleaned out his room, apparently
unable to wait until he did it himself. Not surprisingly, Andy took his
mother's action as a rejection of him and as an indication that she must
prefer someone else to him. He cried and for several days suffered
painful feelings of hopelessness, sadness, and confusion. He wondered
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if this was the same sort of thing that had interfered with his school
work. He turned his anger at his mother against himself, with renewed
suicidal fantasies that very slowly dissipated as his rage toward her
decreased. Only now did he recall that over a year before, he had been
briefly aware of intense anger at her when she had insisted on their
moving, putting financial considerations ahead of any awareness of his
feelings about it, as he felt it then. It was following that incident of the
move that his difficulties with school work began, followed by feelings
of goallessness and depression.
During the Christmas holiday, Andy met a girl who lived next to him
at his new apartment. Christine invited him to bed with her, and he
found great pleasure and relief in his first heterosexual encounter. In
the first session of the new year, he blurted out the details of the
homosexual seduction he had briefly mentioned earlier, in which he
had allowed himself to be masturbated by his mother's boyfriend. In
the following sessions he began to worry that I cared too much about
him, then that I might be homosexual, and finally that the treatment
might turn him into a homosexual. Like an antidote to me, he planned
to move into an apartment with Christine and her three-month-old
illegitimate son and talked about taking a "rest" from treatment. I
interpreted his fears of "giving in" to talking with me, which might
make him feel as if he was allowing himself to be masturbated by me.
He agreed with a smile, and he was then able to talk about the guilty
pleasure he had felt at the time of the seduction. In a subsequent
session he fell asleep and had a dream he reported on waking. He was
lying on a beach, a hand came down from nowhere and picked up a
rock and bashed in his head with it. He thought the session was the
beach and that the hand with the rock was mine. At the time, Christine
was getting drunk every night, fighting with everybody, taking drugs,
threatening to kill the baby, etc. He felt trapped between his feelings of
responsibility to Christine and to me and the treatment. At the same
time he feared that failing any of these responsibilities might result in
harm to him. This scene reproduced and reenacted his conflict of
loyalties as his parents' discord had mounted when he was 9 years old.
Also, he feared the increasing positive attachment to me as the ideal-
ized father for whose approval he yearned, and earlier, as the mother
whose love he craved.
At this point Andy recalled several episodes of what he called "school
phobia" between the ages of9 and 13, when he couldn't bring himself
to go to school and cried inconsolably for his mother to come home
from work. The growing dependence on me in treatment had become
a threat to his attachment to his mother; his many thoughts about
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able and disturbed. These girls also served to progressively dilute the
transference, and interpretations not withstanding, Andy seemed to
titrate me into the gradual termination arranged by him. Although he
felt there were still some problems (he would not tell me what they
were), he felt able to cope with them. He said he was more content now
than ever before and that treatment had helped him to come a long
way. He sincerely thanked me in his last session.
DISCUSSION
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