Philippine Nikkei Jin Kai International School

SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL DEPARTMENT

Angliongto Ave. Brgy. Alfonso Angliongto, Buhangin District, Davao City

Navigating the Single Life: A Study of the Experiences and Perspectives of Young
Adult Men and Women

A Qualitative Research Paper

Presented to the
Faculty of the Senior High School Department
Angliongto Avenue, Brgy. Alfonso Angliongto, Buhangin, Davao City

In Partial Fulfillment
of the Requirements for Practical Research 1:
Qualitative Research

Jhen V. Balucos
Jerha Vran I. Ituriaga
Sofia Gaita Therese Pacatang
Cyril L. Sombilon
John Rico G. Tinagsa
 2023

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The research attached hereto, entitled Navigating the Single Life: A Study of the Experiences
and Perspectives of Young Adult Men and Women prepared and submitted by Jhen V.
Balucos, Jerha Vran I. Ituriaga, Sofia Gaita Therese Pacatang, Cyril L. Sombilon, John Rico G.
Tinagsa, in partial fulfilment of the requirements of Practical Research 1, is hereby accepted.

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Acknowledgement
Dedication
 Republic of the Philippines
Philippine Nikkei Jin Kai International School
SENIOR HIGH SCHOOL DEPARTMENT
Angliongto Ave. Brgy. Alfonso Angliongto, Buhangin District, Davao City

Declaration of Originality

We, JHEN V. BALUCOS, JERHA VRAN I. ITURIAGA, SOFIA GAITA THERESE PACATANG,
CYRIL L. SOMBILON, JOHN RICO G. TINAGSA, declare that this research is original to the
best of our knowledge. We further declare that this activity was undertaken by us.

Sofia Gaita Therese Pacatang

Researcher

Cyril L. Sombilon Jerha Vran I. Ituriaga

Researcher Researcher

Jhen V. Balucos John Rico G. Tinagsa

Researcher Researcher
 TABLE OF CONTENTS

Title Page 1
Approval Sheet 2
Acknowledgement 4
Dedication 5
Declaration of Originality3
Abstract 3
Table of Contents 6

INTRODUCTION 7
Purpose of the Study 3
Research Questions 9
Theoretical Lens 13
Significance of the Study 11
Scope and Delimitation 10
Definition of Terms 10
Review of Related Literature 12

METHODS AND MATERIALS 14

Research Design 15
Sampling Procedure and Sample 16
Data Collection Procedure 18
Data Analysis 19
Ethical Standards 20

RESULTS AND DISCUSSION 21

CONLUSIONS AND RECOMMENDATIONS 22
APPENDICES 22
 INTRODUCTION

“Family is supposed to be our safe haven. Very often, it’s the

place where we find our deepest heartache”. –Iyanla Vanzant

Everyone desires and aims for a place to call home and to have
healthy family bonds between family members. According to Senate Bill No.
825, -as introduced by Sen. Jinggoy Ejercito Estrada (2010), "Family is
recognized as the most basic unit of society. Everything learned and
experienced inside one's home is manifested in the way a person acts and
deals with others." The family is where a child initially interacts with the
outside world. As a result, the child receives their first education and
socialization from parents and other family members. However, not all
individuals have the privilege of growing up in intact families, as parental
separation, divorce, or the absence of one parent can lead to a broken family
structure. This can have significant implications for young adults as they
navigate the challenges of adulthood.

Moreover, when parents in a broken family find it difficult to prioritize

their children's well-being or feel overwhelmed by their circumstances, it can
lead to the manifestation of behaviors such as a diminished provision of
emotional support, inconsistent disciplinary measures, insufficient supervision,
or neglect of their children's basic needs. As a result, it can have a substantial
impact on children's growth, emotional well-being, and overall development.
According to Dunn, M. G., Tarter, R. E., Mezzich, A. C., Vanyukov, M., Kirisci,
L., & Kirillova, G. (2002). Origins and consequences of child neglect in
substance abuse families. Clinical psychology review,22(7), 1063-1090. child
neglect can have more severe adverse effects on developmental outcomes
compared to child abuse. Parental substance use disorder (SUD) increases
the risk of child neglect, and children in these families are more vulnerable to
psychiatric problems, psychosocial dysfunction, and substance abuse.
 Furthermore, Individuals who come from broken families are often
susceptible to influence, and the impact of their childhood experiences
typically stays with them as they transition into adulthood. Hence, every child
must deserve a safe and nurturing family environment, one that fosters their
well-being, growth, and potential. Parenting plays a crucial role in shaping the
lives and futures of children. Sanders, M. R., & Turner, K. M. (2018) the
quality of parenting children receive during childhood and adolescence plays
a major role in influencing their developmental competence and ultimately
their life course trajectories.

Effective parenting can mitigate the negative impact of the family

breakdown, provide stability, and equip children with the skills and support
they need to thrive despite their circumstances. In her work titled "Effective
Parenting During the Early Adolescent Transition" (Baumrind, 1991),
Baumrind highlights the importance of authoritative parenting. This parenting
style involves parents who are emotionally responsive, showing love, support,
and commitment. They are also cognitively responsive, providing a
stimulating and challenging environment for their children. According to
Baumrind, authoritative parenting is associated with increased levels of self-
esteem, greater self-reliance, and higher levels of social competence in
children. However, children raised by parents who struggle with emotional
regulation may have difficulty managing their own emotions effectively and
they may struggle with anger, impulsivity, or emotional outbursts Morris, A. S.,
Silk, J. S., Steinberg, L., Myers, S. S., & Robinson, L. R. (2007). On the
contrary, World Health Organization. (2005) emphasizes that supportive
parenting, positive discipline, and nurturing relationships contribute to
children's emotional well-being, resilience, and prevention of mental health
disorders.

Furthermore, “Parent-Child Relationship –Why it’s Important” (n.d)

describes that the Parent-Child Relationship is one that nurtures the physical,
emotional, and social development of the child, children who establish a
secure and healthy attachment to their parents during their early years have
an increased likelihood of cultivating positive and fulfilling relationships with
others as they grow. The importance of raising children well extends beyond
individual families; it also has broader societal implications. A study by Bowlby
and Ainsworth (1958) called "Attachment Theory" emphasizes the critical role
of secure attachment between children and their caregivers, highlighting that it
forms the foundation for healthy relationships and social functioning.
Purpose of the Study

Most studies conducted on broken families are focused on children,

meanwhile this study will fill the gap by studying the lived experiences of
broken families specifically single young adults, 2 male and 3 female
participants that aged around 18-30 inside Davao City.

The purpose of this study is to be able to assess and understand the

lived experiences of individuals who come from broken families and the
potential effects of familial disruption on social behavior, and overall well-
being of single young adults who came from broken families. The study
explores the specific challenges faced by the participants such as financial
difficulties, lack of emotional support, and changes in living arrangements.
The study also investigates the coping mechanisms as well as the resilience
strategies used by the single young adults to conquer such struggles.

Research Questions

1. How do you feel about the separation of your parents?

How did you react within the past few weeks of their separation?

2. Did have had difficulties in building relationships with others such as

peers and to the opposite sex?
Did you develop any coping strategies to survive those difficulties?

3. How does your parents’ separation affect your views about love?
Do you still want to get married someday? For what reason?
Theoretical Lens

This study is anchored on the Family System Theory (1950) by Murray

Bowen. This theory suggests that families are emotional units, people cannot
be understood apart from one another but rather as a member of their
families. The theory also suggests that families function as a system and that
each member’s behavior is influenced by the behavior of others in the system.
They are a system of interconnected, interdependent people. Bowen also
identified eight interconnected concepts that explain the functioning of a family
system: triangles, differentiation of self, the nuclear family emotional process,
the family projection process, the multigenerational transmission process,
sibling position, emotional cutoff, and the societal emotional process. This
theory best supports this study as it explores the challenges and experiences
of young adults who came from broken families.

Furthermore, the emotional dynamics in these families may be

influencing the young adult’s personal lives, which is something that this
theory might further our understanding as researchers. According to the
theory, for instance, communication and behavior patterns may be passed
down through generations, which could contribute to the challenges that
young adults from broken families may encounter when trying to build positive
relationships with their peers or keep a steady concentration on their studies.
 Additionally, one of the key concepts in Bowen Family System Theory
is the differentiation of self which means the ability of individuals to separate
their own emotions and thoughts from those of others in the family system.
This can be particularly relevant for young adults from broken families who
may struggle to separate their own emotions and thoughts from those of their
family members. In conclusion, Bowen Family System Theory can give an
insightful lens through which to look at and understand the experiences of
young adults who come from broken families. It may also offer insights into
useful strategies for supporting their personal success.

This study is also anchored on the Attachment Theory (1958) by John

Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth. This theory suggests that infants and young
children develop attachment relationships with their caregivers or parents who
provide them with emotional and physical care, protection, and comfort.
Because it increases the infant's chances of surviving, attachment is adaptive.
A child's emotional and psychological development into adulthood and their
ability to form healthy relationships can both be impacted by the disruption or
loss of this tie.

This theory also suggests four primary attachment styles that

individuals may develop based on their early experiences with caregivers:
secure attachment, anxious (ambivalent) attachment, avoidant attachment,
and disorganized (fearful) attachment. This theory best supports this study as
it understands how the disruption of these attachment bonds caused by
broken families may impact children’s experiences and coping mechanisms.
Children from broken homes, for instance, may suffer from feelings of
insecurity, anxiety, and mistrust in relationships with others. They may have
difficulty forming close relationships and seeking support from others, which
can lead to isolation and feelings of loneliness. Children from broken families
may develop a variety of coping techniques to deal with these difficulties.
These coping mechanisms may involve avoidance behaviors, such as
avoiding social situations and emotional closeness, or overcompensating
behaviors, such as excessively seeking validation and attention from others.

However, it’s crucial to remember that not all children who come from
broken families will acquire unhealthy coping mechanisms; instead, some can
build resilience and coping mechanisms through positive interactions and
experiences. In broad terms, attachment theory can serve as a helpful
theoretical framework for comprehending the complex experiences and
coping mechanisms of children who came from broken families. Additionally, it
can also provide insights into effective interventions and strategies for helping
these children establish positive attachment patterns and connections.

Significance of the Study

Our study will directly benefit the following individuals:

Young adults who come from broken families – for them to understand that
there are other people who share common family problems, and that they are
not alone in their struggles. For them to be aware of coping mechanisms, that
have worked for others, that they can utilize in face of stress. For them to
realize that just because their parents’ relationship doesn’t work anymore, that
doesn’t imply that they are not loved and cared for.

Parents / Guardians – for them to realize the implications of their family’s

relationship at home to the emotional and mental well-being of their children,
as well as its direct effect on their children’s behavioral performance.

Future researchers – This study will be helpful for future researchers because
it provides insights into the impacts and consequences of family breakdown.
This knowledge can inform the development of interventions, policies, and
support systems to help mitigate the negative effects of broken families and
promote healthier family dynamics in the future.

Scope and Delimitation

The objective of this research is to examine the lived experience and

perspectives of single young adults aged 18-30 years old. The research will
be conducted inside Davao City and will employ qualitative research
techniques to gather data from a sample of single young adults who are from
broken families. The study covers only single young adults who came from a
broken family aged 18-30. Young adults who came from broken families but
are already on a relationship will not be included. Additionally, the research
will use in-depth interviews as a data collection tool.

Definition of Terms

Young Adults. It refers to the transitional stage between adolescence

and adulthood.

Broken Family/Families. When married couples with children in a traditional

family setup choose to separate, we refer to this as a ‘broken family’.

Society. A group of individuals who live in a community consisting of constant

social interaction.

Coping Mechanisms. Strategies used by participants in face of struggle,

stress, and trauma.

Difficulties. It refers to challenges or problems that make a task or situation

harder to accomplish or navigate.

Review of Related Literature

(Maximum of 30 citations)
 METHODOLOGY

This segment of our study contains the approach of our study, the
research design, the sampling procedure, and methods we used in acquiring
the data about generating the concept of the young adults and to generate
insights about their experiences. We will also follow some ethical standards to
ensure the privacy of the young adults who prefer to keep their accounts
confidential.

Research Design

Qualitative research design is primarily exploratory research. It is used

to gain an understanding of underlying reasons, opinions, and motivation. It
provides insights into the problem or helps to develop the ideas or hypotheses
for potential qualitative research. It is also used to uncover trends in
throughout opinions, and dive deeper into the problem, from (DeFranzo
2011).

This study used Phenomenological analysis. It is used for the treatment

of qualitative data gathered. It is concerned with the detailed examination of
personal lived experiences. The aim of it is to explore in detail how
participants are making sense of their personal ad social world, and the main
currency for phenomenological study is the meaning particular experiences,
events, states hold for participants, by (Smith 2017).

The themes that will emerge from the gathered interviews will be
extracted through interview and observation with the lived experiences of
single young adults who come from broken families
 The study is figured to assess the lived experience of the single young
adults aged 18-30 who came from broken families through qualitative
research method to result in an interpretation based on the statements given
by the participants.

Sampling Procedure and Sample

This study employed phenomenological approach. (Creswell, 2013)

explained, “The collection of data in a natural setting while listening to
participants speak on their lived experiences. The data collection and analysis
for both inductive and deductive establishes repetitions and themes.” This
approach is to analyze the young adult’s perception on encountering the limits
and difficulties, and how they come up with strategies used as a coping
mechanism of the single young adults.

The researchers interview selected single young adults about their

challenges as a catalyst to obtain the sufficient information for this research.
Since people have different ways of seeing and perceiving the world
(Creswell, 2003), it was essential to find different views from the young adults
regarding the challenges they found.

RESULTS AND DISCUSSION

How did the Young Adults react

Table 1

Question 1
How do you feel about the separation of your parents?
How did you react within the past few weeks of their separation?

Formulated Meanings Clustered Themes Emergent Themes

Young adults who are

not yet aware of the
situation. [Y1, Y3, Y4]
Difficulties and
Challenges
Young adults who
experienced having
difficulties about the
situation. [Y2, Y5]
Maturity and
Personal Growth

Young adults who are

slowly moving on. [Y3,
Y5]
Transition and
Healing
Young adults who use
time and patience. [Y1,
Y5]

Difficulties in Socialization and Coping Mechanism

Table 2
Question 2
Did you had difficulties in building relationships with others such as peers, and
to the opposite sex? Did you develop any coping strategies to survive those
difficulties?
 Formulated Meanings Clustered Themes Emergent Themes

Young adults who did

not have difficulties in
building relationships
with other people. [Y3,
Y5] Openness and
Approachability

Young adults who have

social skills. [Y1, Y2, Social Fluency
Y3]

Young adults who are

traumatized by the
situation. [Y4, Y5]

Young adults who Adaptability and

developed their coping Flexibility
mechanisms. [Y2, Y4]

Young Adult’s Views about Love and Marriage

Table 3
Question 3
How does your parent’s separation affect your views about love? Do you still
want to get married someday? For what reason?
 Formulated Meanings Clustered Themes Emergent Themes
Young adults who are
in favor of being
married someday. [Y1,
Y2, Y3, Y4, Y5]
Future Planning
Young adults who have
hopefulness and
anticipation towards
marriage. [Y1, Y2, Y3,
Y4, Y5] Goal Setting
Young adults who had
encountered bad
experiences about love.
[Y4, Y5]

Young adult’s parent’s

separation served as
learning experience for
them. [Y3, Y4, Y5]

RECOMMENDATIONS

Participant’s answer

Czarhatta Yesha Ceniza Y1

1. My parents separated when I was a baby, and... uhh... to that time, of

course I have no thoughts of my own so I didn’t know about any of the
situation and no one told me what happened or no one explain to me
 why or something... yeah... and as I grow up, I grew up without the
presence of my dad and yeah, I was... uhh. I was with my mother, and
now that I have thoughts of my own and almost a grown up now, and
uhh just recently, my mother explained things, as to why? why it
happned? Why are they not together now, and uhh so far, I am feeling
contented, because not only that they relay it to me in a sense that I
wouldn’t feel any hatred towards my father but like they relay it to me in
a sense that... uhh. I would understand both sides, they gave me my
dad’s side and my mother gave me her side of the story so it wasn’t
really some sort of bias uhmm... what do you call this, bias thought na I
would like side my mother because of this because of that and yeah I
just feel so thankful because uhh... they both cleared their side and you
know, I never had difficulties and making friends or like establishing
relationships between like people and opposite sex because I was
raised to be someone who is like really true to myself and I wouldn’t
even try to mask out my character, my feelings, my emotions like if I
feel this then I will feel this, if I think this then I will think about it and
then say it like I grow up as a person that never sees like a bridge
between people like if I know that you are friendly or something then
yes I would make friends with you and I am really an outdoor person
and yeah I’m a friendly person and yeah I never had any difficulties in
making friends and stuff.

2. Honestly as a person who has very uhmm like distinguished views in

life I don’t really get easily influenced by what’s around me and I thinks
that’s like what’s good in me that what I perceive about love is different
from what I have experienced so for me, my view about love is like
different what I have experienced, what I have seen and yeah it’s just
so amazing that my view about love is different from what I have
experienced like given the fact that my parents are separated uhh I
don’t think that uhh love is like “wala na” like it’s not there or whatever, I
still do like believe in true love like I know true love exists and that it’s
not something that a person would lose uhh everytime or like anytime
like something negative happened to them, I always think that true love
is there like the love is there and you don’t only like experience it with
specific someone, you experience it with your friends, with your
classmates or whoever like love is everywhere and like it’s always been
there and you just gotta find it.

3. Of course I still want to get married someday to someone who

understands me, who accepts me who like love me unconditionally of
 course but that would come sooner, not now because of course given
the fact that I’m still a student, I need to set my priorities straight and
yeah just go with the flow, what comes in, take it and what comes out
then leave it and yeah... people come and go as they say so yeah, I
believe that one day I would get married and have a successful life with
that person.

Jardine Pilapil Y2

1. At first, I was in state of denial, I thought that my father would come

back after the time that he and my mom had fought but as time passed,
I slowly realized the severity of the problem.

2. Because of the problem at home and with my family, my attention

focused and diverted to my friends and barkada’s, they were the ones
who helped me cope with my problems, also to forget about my dad, I
forbid myself from blaming everything that had happened in my life
because of him, even the positive ones.

3. I learned that love should not be rushed, you have to take it slowly and
take the time to know the person you want to be in your life forever,
and yes, I want to get married someday.

Fionah P. Bicol Y3

1. When my parents separated, I wasn’t sure of how exactly it would

impact our living situation as a family in terms of the financial and
emotional aspects of anything else. Today I feel okay with their
separation because I know it’s for the best, I didn’t give that much of a
significant reaction because I accept things the way they are, apart
from that, I also have my mother and my brother at that time to worry
about and I supported them with however I can.
 2. I didn’t struggle that much in building relationships with people, I knew
exactly what I wanted and what to expect from people before choosing
to be with them.

3. I realized that in order for relationships to last, you have to keep

choosing to love your partner, love is choice that you choose to do
every day, love is merely just a feeling, it is a commitment and yes I
would love to get married someday, I believe marriage would give me a
new purpose in life, I am naturally a caring person and I take joy in
having someone to care for.

Ashley Labajo Y4

1. At first, I didn't know that my parents had separated, and no one

opened up to me or explained to me about it. As I grow up, I slowly
realize and accepting the fact that my father is not around to support
me, and my family will never be together again. Sometimes it hurts for
me to see other families who are happily together and mine is not and
I’m just fooling myself that everything is going to be okay even if it’s
not, that’s all from me.

2. I am naturally an extrovert person but for this question, yes, I

experienced difficulties in building relationships with other people
especially every night, I can’t stop overthinking about things, and I can’t
avoid having emotional breakdown and cry because I feel lonely, and I
am fighting this battle every day. I keep myself calm because I know at
the end of the day, no one can help me through it, and I only have
myself in times like this.

3. For me, I think it’s a trust issue since cheating is involved and it is the
main reason for the separation of my parents. Yes, I want to get
married someday and I promised myself that if ever soon I have my
own family, this situation where I am in will not happen.
Alex Pamugas Y5

1. For me, for the first few weeks, accepting the fact that I am a product of
a broken family is hard, but as I grow older, I somehow realized that the
separation of my parents is for the best because in times where they
are still together, argument is very crucial even on the slightest things
and it feels like there’s no peaceful inside our home so it’s better if
they’ll just separate.

2. For me, I didn’t encounter any difficulties in terms of building

relationships with people but maybe I have inferiority for my future
partner if ever she’ll know that I came from a broken family so aside
from that, I don’t really mind it.

3. For me, yes I want to get married someday, I still believe that marriage
and having a healthy family relationship is still possible even though I
came from a broken family and that is one of the learning lesson for me
if ever sooner I will get married, I will not let the same negative cycle
repeat for my family because I know it’s very hard especially for
children to experience such things, there are a lot of neglect will
possibly happen, but for me that time, I just slowly accept the fact
because for me, my parents separation was for the better.

Clustering

QUESTION: How do you feel about the separation of your parents?

Young adults who experienced having difficulties about the situation

[ Y2, Y5]
Y2: I was in state of denial.

Y5: For the first few weeks, accepting the fact that I am a product of a broken
family is hard.

Young adults who are not yet aware of the situation [ Y1, Y3, Y4]

Y1: To that time, of course I have no thoughts of my own, so I didn’t know

about any of the situation, and no one told me what happened, or no one
explain to me why or something.

Y3: When my parents separated, I wasn’t sure of how exactly it would impact
our living situation as a family in terms of the financial and emotional aspects
of anything else.

Y4: At first, I didn't know that my parents had separated, and no one opened
up to me or explained to me about it.

Young adults who are slowly moving on. [Y3, Y5]

Y3: Today I feel okay with their separation because I know it’s for the best, I
didn’t give that much of a significant reaction because I accept things the way
they are, apart from that, I also have my mother and my brother at that time to
worry about and I supported them with however I can.

Y5: I somehow realized that the separation of my parents is for the best
because in times where they are still together, argument is very crucial even
on the slightest things and it feels like there’s no peaceful inside our home so
it’s better if they’ll just separate.

Young adults who use time and patience. [Y1, Y5]

Y1: I grew up without the presence of my dad and yeah, I was... uhh. I was
with my mother, and now that I have thoughts of my own and almost a grown
up now, and uhh just recently, my mother explained things, as to why? why it
happened? Why are they not together now, and uhh so far, I am feeling
contented.

Y5: Accepting the fact that I am a product of a broken family is hard, but as I
grow older, I somehow realized that the separation of my parents is for the
best.

QUESTION: Did you had difficulties in building relationships with others such
as opposite sex? Did you develop any coping strategies to survive those
difficulties?
Young adults who have social skills. [Y1, Y2, Y3]

Y1: I always think that true love is there like the love is there and you don’t
only like experience it with specific someone, you experience it with your
friends, with your classmates.

Y2: My attention focused and diverted to my friends and barkada’s.

Y3: I knew exactly what I wanted and what to expect from people before
choosing to be with them.

Young adults who did not have difficulties in building relationships with
other people. [Y3, Y5]

Y3: I didn’t struggle that much in building relationships with people, I knew
exactly what I wanted and what to expect from people before choosing to be
with them.

Y5: For me, I didn’t encounter any difficulties in terms of building relationship
with people.
Young adults who are traumatized by the situation. [Y4, Y5]

Y4: I can’t stop overthinking about things, and I can’t avoid having emotional
breakdown and cry because I feel lonely, and I am fighting this battle every
day.

Y5: I have inferiority for my future partner if ever she’ll know that I came from
a broken family.

Young adults who developed their coping mechanisms. [Y2, Y4]

Y2: My attention focused and diverted to my friends and barkadas, they were
the ones who helped me cope with my problems, also to forget about my dad,
I forbid myself from blaming everything that had happened in my life.

Y4: I keep myself calm because I know at the end of the day, no one can help
me through it, and I only have myself in times like this.

Young adults who had difficulties in building relationships with others.

[Y4]

Y4: Yes, I experienced difficulties in building relationships with other people

especially every night, I can’t stop overthinking about things.

QUESTION: How does your parent’s separation affect your views about love?
Do you still want to get married someday? For what reason?

Young adults who are in favor of being married someday. [Y1, Y2, Y3,
Y4, Y5]
Y1: Of course, I still want to get married someday to someone who
understands me, who accepts me who like love me unconditionally.

Y2: I learned that love should not be rushed, you have to take it slowly and
take the time to know the person you want to be in your life forever, and yes, I
want to get married someday.

Y3: I realized that in order for relationships to last, you have to keep choosing
to love your partner, love is choice that you choose to do every day, love is
merely just a feeling, it is a commitment and yes, I would love to get married
someday, I believe marriage would give me a new purpose in life.

Y4: Yes, I want to get married someday and I promised myself that if ever
soon I have my own family, this situation where I am in will not happen.

Y5: For me yes, I want to get married someday, I still believe that marriage
and having a healthy family relationship is still possible even though I came
from a broken family.

Young adults who had encountered bad experiences about love. [Y4, Y5]

Y4: I think it’s trust issues since cheating is involved and it is the main reason
for the separation of my parents.

Y5: I will not let the same negative cycle repeat for my family because I know
it’s very hard especially for children to experience such things, there are a lot
of neglect will possibly happen.
QUESTION: How do you feel about the separation of your parents?

Young adults who have difficulties accepting the fact. [Y2, Y4, Y5]

Y2: At first, I was in state of denial.

Y4: As I grow up, I slowly realize and accepting the fact that my father is not
around to support me, and my family will never be together again.

Y5: Accepting the fact that I am a product of a broken family is hard.

Young adults who are not well informed about the situation. [Y1, Y2, Y4]

Y1: My parents separated when I was a baby, and... uhh... to that time, of
course I have no thoughts of my own, so I didn’t know about any of the
situation, and no one told me what happened, or no one explain to me why or
something.

Y2: I thought that my father would come back after the time that he and my
mom had fought but as time passed, I slowly realized the severity of the
problem.

Y4: At first, I didn't know that my parents had separated, and no one opened
up to me or explained to me about it.

Young adults who have hopefulness and anticipation towards marriage.

[Y1, Y2, Y3, Y4, Y5]

Y1: Of course, I still want to get married someday to someone who

understands me, who accepts me who like love me unconditionally.
Y2: I learned that love should not be rushed, you have to take it slowly and
take the time to know the person you want to be in your life forever.

Y3: Love is choice that you choose to do every day, love is merely just a
feeling, it is a commitment and yes, I would love to get married someday, I
believe marriage would give me a new purpose in life, I am naturally a caring
person and I take joy in having someone to care for.

Y4: I want to get married someday and I promised myself that if ever soon I
have my own family, this situation where I am in will not happen.

Y5: I still believe that marriage and have a healthy family relationship is still
possible even though I came from a broken family.
Young adult’s parent’s separation served as learning experience for
them. [Y3, Y4, Y5]

Y3: I realized that in order for relationships to last, you have to keep choosing
to love your partner.
Y4: For me, I think it’s trust issues since cheating is involved and it is the main
reason for the separation of my parents.

Y5: I know it’s very hard especially for children to experience such things,
there are a lot of neglect will possibly happen.