Special Needs Dr. Merriam Silin Families of Young Children with Special Needs Preschoolers with special needs are members of our communities, programs, and families and it is our responsibility to provide high-quality, inclusive support for these children and their families. While these families often experience additional situations and stressors, they have hopes, dreams, and concerns for their children just like other families. You can positively impact families with a preschooler with special needs by empowering them with knowledge, empathizing with their feelings, and collaborating with other support professionals in their lives. Working with Families of Children with Special Needs Families with preschoolers with special needs may go through various evaluation processes and may ask you to complete questionnaires or provide input at the request of a doctor, specialist, or teacher. Other professionals rely on this input, especially when they have limited amounts of time with children compared to program staff who often spend many hours each week caring for, educating, and observing children. This information can be used to determine if a child has a specific condition, support the child outcomes summary process, determine eligibility for specific services, and develop goals for an individualized education program (IEP). You, or a trainer or administrator from your program, may be asked to participate in an IEP review, a time when the team of professionals and families come together to assess progress, create new outcomes, and determine needed services. Preschool children with IEPs may attend your program and their local education agency (LEA). Services on an IEP may only be provided at the LEA, or interventionists and related services personnel may “push in” and provide services within your program. Regardless of how special education services are delivered, working with professionals from outside agencies helps things run smoothly for families and ensures that all of the professionals and caregivers in a child’s life are communicating. This lessens family stress by reducing the need for primary caregivers to act as the in-between messenger of important information. Effective Practices The first step to establish strong relationships with families of children with special needs is to spend time discovering their wishes and concerns for their children and to learn about the meaningful activities they participate in at home. Maintaining this communication throughout a child’s time in your program is essential. Ask questions to learn about strategies that work at home and consider using them in your classroom. Through your interactions you can build trust so both you and families feel comfortable sharing children’s strengths and if there are concerns (Sandall, Hemmeter, Smith, & MCLean, 2005). Before communicating concerns with families, it may be helpful to discuss with a coach, trainer, or administrator your plan to share this information using family-centered practice. Be prepared for families to react in a variety of ways, and know how you can offer support if they choose to take specific steps or access other agencies and resources. For families already receiving support from other professionals, ongoing communication with both families and professionals is critical to maintain consistency between program and home environments. When all the caregivers and professionals in a child’s life are consistently using effective strategies to promote development and outcomes, children are more likely to benefit and learn new skills. In your collaboration with families, acknowledge and respect their strengths and unique background, while realizing their ability to make decisions that are right for them (Hanson & Lynch, 2004). This means that when family wishes and decisions are different from what you would recommend, you will respond to the family’s decisions with respect. Ultimately, meaningful communication and relationship-building will enrich the process for both yourself and families. Think about which of these you can use in your work with families of children with special needs (Turnbull, Turbiville, & Turnbull, 2000): • Recognizing the family as a constant in the child’s life; caregivers and service systems may come and go • Facilitating collaboration between families and professionals • Honoring and respecting family diversity in all dimensions (cultural, racial, ethnic, linguistic, spiritual, and socioeconomic) • Recognizing family strengths and the different approaches that families may use to cope • Sharing unbiased and honest information with family members on an ongoing basis • Encouraging family-to-family support and networking • Acknowledging and incorporating the developmental needs of the child and other family members into your practice • Designing and implementing services that are accessible, culturally and linguistically respectful and responsive, flexible, and based on family-identified needs There are many ways you can demonstrate respect and consideration for families of children with special needs in your classroom. Consider the following: • Acknowledge that families know their child best and ask them questions about services or resources that may be helpful to you. • Establish ongoing communication between home and school. Communication journals are a great way to maintain communication. These are usually sent home with the child and returned the next day. Teachers can share noteworthy observations or events, and families can respond to those or share their own news or reflections. While communication journals can be used with families of all children in your classroom, they can be an especially valuable tool in establishing consistency between home and school environments for children with special needs. • Incorporate children’s books in your classroom library that reflect consideration of multiple abilities and differences. • Invite families to talk about their children with special needs. For example, a family member may come in your classroom and talk about their child’s use of adaptive equipment (e.g., braces, wheelchair, or a communication device). The family member may explain the use of equipment, which can help children and other families understand aspects of their life. This also promotes acceptance of differences. • Be a team player! Work collaboratively with families and other professionals who may be involved in the delivery of services to children with special needs. If disagreements or miscommunication arise, consider the following:
• Remind yourself that your role is to support families’
hopes and dreams for their child. • Be patient. Dealing with a child with special needs may be challenging at times, and family members need time to navigate this experience at their own pace. • Avoid making judgments for families and their children. • Consider difficult times as opportunities to build trust between yourself and families. • Question your assumptions about working with families of children with special needs and urge other professionals you know to do the same. • Talk with your trainer, supervisor, or coach when in doubt about any aspect of your work with families. 12 Ways to Support Families of Students with Disabilities Conduct a reflection exercise. Reflect on the last educational planning meeting you attended as a teacher. What do you think went right in the meeting? What specific things could have improved it? Write down your responses and use them as a guide to improve your next meeting. Interview a family. Conduct an interview with a family of a child with a disability. How do the family members feel about the educational process for their child? Do they see their relationship with the teacher as a true partnership? Why or why not? Use the insights you uncover to strengthen your work. Learn more about the effects of poverty. Socioeconomic status can affect the performance of students with disabilities and the educational participation of their families. Do some internet research on the various ways poverty may affect the families in your community. Find data on the prevalence of poverty in your community and demographics about who is affected. Have the prevalence and/or demographics changed in the past 10 years? If so, how? Make IEP meetings a positive experience. Are your IEP meetings as comfortable and welcoming to families as they could be? Here are some things to do:
- Provide a summary or an agenda ahead of time
- Create an IEP draft that includes goals that the family values - Meet in a setting that’s comfortable for the family and greet them warmly on arrival - Arrange seating so that all parties have equal status - Provide an interpreter, if necessary, who is familiar with the family’s culture, language, and any jargon that may be used in the meeting - Hand out helpful supplementary materials–a chart to summarize the discussion, a “cheat sheet” of terms - Follow up afterward to see if the family has additional thoughts or questions Communicate regularly. Families often express frustration when they’re not kept in the loop about their child’s progress. Be sure to communicate often with families, and ask them which mode they prefer—telephone calls, letters, email, or occasional face-to-face meetings. If one mode isn’t working well, give another one a try. And when you communicate, challenge yourself to listen as much as you speak, so that families know you respect their views and knowledge about their child. Make it easy for family members to get involved. Share information with families on how to become involved in school activities and take on leadership roles. Point them to resources on how to join and participate in the PTA, volunteer activities, and family councils. Offer families evidence-based practices (EBPs). Tell families how important and beneficial it is to use EBPs with their children, and ask family members if they’d like you to share these practices with them. Explain that consistently using the same strategies at home and school can help their children learn faster and apply their new skills in environments where they are needed. (Be careful not to pressure families to use EBPs.) Help families find high-quality resources. Some of the resources that families find on their own may not reflect best practices. Make a list of legitimate websites and other trusted resources that present EBPs, so you can easily share reliable information with families. Directing them to online learning modules, for example, can save families the cost, time, and travel associated with face-to-face training. Point families to support groups. Use the internet to find professional organizations (e.g., The Arc, Autism Society, Down Syndrome Soci- ety, TASH) that offer support groups for families. Are support groups affiliated with these organizations offered in your community? Is support offered online (e.g., through discussion groups)? Create a list of valid support group networks to share with families and help them benefit from these valuable connections. Think beyond parents. Remember that many families consist of more than the child’s parents. When you’re developing family partnerships, make an effort to include sib- lings, extended family members, and other caregivers who wish to be involved. Respect each family’s culture. There are complex issues at play in the lives of each of your students. Recognize that each family is unique, even within a specific culture. Instead of making generalizations and assumptions, use data on each individual family to guide you in your work. Respect the position of families who cannot or choose not to be involved in their child’s school. Set an example. Lead by example in your school—model positive ways of speaking with and interacting with families, so that other teachers and staff members will follow suit.