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By
Toketemu Ohwovoriole
Updated on November 29, 2021
Medically reviewed by
Steven Gans, MD
Love addiction is a condition that causes a person to develop an unhealthy and obsessive
fixation with a love interest.1
Someone addicted to love will also find it challenging to create and maintain healthy
relationships. Although it’s more common within romantic relationships, love addiction
can occur in other forms of relationships. It could happen in friendships and in
relationship to children, parents, or even strangers.
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People with this kind of addiction often have unrealistic standards and expectations of
love. When these aren’t met, it only serves to worsen their condition further.
People often argue that love addiction shouldn’t be classified as a mental health condition.
However, others believe people with this condition experience real and debilitating
symptoms.
They often have unhealthy fixations with their partners and seek to control them. Like
with other forms of addiction, a person who is addicted to love may exhibit behavior and
impulses that are out of their control. However, with the proper treatment and care, they
can unlearn their unhealthy behaviors and attitudes towards love and learn how to form
healthy and loving connections.
There are many other symptoms of love addiction that might not be outlined above. This
is because symptoms of the condition are wide and varying, and people express emotions
uniquely. The way a person chooses to express their feelings will reflect in their
symptoms.
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Symptoms of love addiction also vary in severity. While some signs, like calling
frequently, can seem harmless, others like stalking a love interest or restricting who they
interact with are more harmful.
There have been several debates in medical circles and communities about whether the
condition should be classified as an actual mental health condition. This makes
identifying the condition a lot trickier than other established mental health conditions.
If you or someone you know suspects they have a love addiction, speak to your doctor
about it. They are most likely to refer you to a psychotherapist who might conduct a series
of tests and ask you a series of questions to determine if a love addiction is a useful way to
conceptualize your difficulties.
In 2019, some researchers developed a framework to help identify love addiction, called
“The Love Addiction Inventory.” The inventory comprises a series of questions that can be
used to assess a love addiction diagnosis.2
Research also shows a connection between the euphoric feeling you get when you are in
love with the feelings of pleasure a person addicted to substances like cocaine or alcohol
might have.
Researchers drew parallels between the way a person in love and a person addicted to a
substance might act. People in both groups might experience emotional dependency,
cravings, mood swings, compulsions, obsessions, and loss of self-control. When you are in
love, your brain releases chemical messengers that make you feel good, like dopamine.
These same patterns occur with substance abuse and addiction.
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Treatment for Love Addiction
Treatment for love addiction can be tricky. This is because it’s not a universally recognized
mental health condition, and diagnosing it and treating it is typically done at your doctor
or therapist’s discretion. Love addiction may be approached similarly to other forms of
addiction.3 More research does need to be done to determine just how effective
psychotherapy can be for treating love addiction.
Because love addiction isn’t a recognized form of mental health condition, there are
currently no medications typically used for its treatment. However, if it co-occurs with
other disorders such as anxiety or depression, your doctor could prescribe medication to
treat symptoms of the co-occurring condition.
Some research also shows that doctors could prescribe antidepressants and mood
stabilizers to help a person living with the disorder cope with symptoms of obsession and
impulsivity in certain instances of love addiction.3
Many people who are addicted to love cannot identify why expressing obsessive emotions
towards their partners, or love interest is problematic.
If you have a love addiction, here are some tips to help you cope with your condition as
you seek help:
Learn to be alone: If you are not involved with a romantic partner at the time of
your diagnosis, you should take the opportunity to spend some time alone. Explore
the reasons and triggers for your addiction and make some progress in your
treatment before entering a new relationship.
Look out for recurring patterns: A love addict will typically exhibit the same
pattern of behavior with any love interest. Take a look over romantic relationships
you’ve been in and identify any recurring patterns.
Invest in yourself: Taking time to invest in your self-growth is a great way to fall
in love with yourself. With love addiction, people with the condition often neglect
themselves and their own needs.
Rely on friends and family: Sharing your struggle with this condition with the
people who love and care for you can help.
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Join a support group. One of the most comforting facts of living with any
condition is knowing that you are not alone and that there are people who share in
your struggles. Joining a support group exposes you to such people. It also allows
you to speak to people who have overcome the condition.
If you or a loved one are struggling with love addiction, contact the Substance Abuse and
Mental Health Services Administration (SAMHSA) National Helpline at 1-800-662-
4357 for information on support and treatment facilities in your area.
For more mental health resources, see our National Helpline Database.
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