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 DEDICATION

It is with great gratitude to God Almighty that I dedicate this book to God Almighty for the
undiluted divine inspiration that gave birth to this book. This book is also dedicated to all my
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 TABLE OF CONTENT

Copy write signature ………………………………………………………………………

Dedication ………………………………………………………………………

Preface ………………………………………………………………………

The Mystery of Children ………………………………………………………………………….

Facts about children …………………………………………………………………………

Contending with the Pharoherodie powers ………………………………………………….

Strange statistics …………………………………………………………………………

Parental Mistakes …………………………………………………………………………

What Parents at thou? ……………………………………………………………………………

Biblical Concept of Nurturing a child ……………………………………………………………

Prophetic Prayers for Children ……………………………………………………………………

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 PREFACE

As we journey from one generation to another; history are made, stories are being told; events
are being recorded, changes are made, traditions are eradicated or elevated; children are born
into the world of new and strange discoveries and invention. Societies are transform, cultures
are amended, customs suddenly going into exile; children becoming parents within a short
period of time; all through these process, parents make the most powerful contribution either
consciously or unconsciously, unfortunately the parents of our modern days are making a lot
of costly mistakes that is endangering the future of our children, and it’s most sympathetic
when such mistakes are transmitted and transfix to our children who latter become parents.

This book is a pullet book for all parents; who need to avoid destiny terminating errors and
mistakes that are capable of causing regrettable memory from one generation to another. We
live in a world of histories; yet our modern day parents have failed to learn from the deadly
mistakes of their grandparents; leaving the future parents in a state of spiritual coma and
disorder which have become the fundamental bedrock of the turbulence society we have find
ourselves… preparing the unborn children to learn in a hazardous parental climate
atmosphere.

The world is changing every single day; technology and scientific discovery invention is
making a tremendous contribution to the ways and manner in which this scientific generation
is bringing our digital children. Moral and culture are gradually fading away in just an-eye
blink; parents are losing spiritual hold over their children, dark influence and shadow-
company are in the high ratio; leading to the raise of irresponsible adulthood in the society.
Beloved the stand of God as not change, the commanded responsibility and duties of parents
to children as not being change nor overrule, unfortunately; giving dark-play for the digital
force to dominate the divine given nature-image of God to parents.

Few years back while I was reading books on marriage; the Holy Spirit whisper something
powerful into my hearing; He said; Son my People only prepared for the pleasure of
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marriage but they failed to prepare for the task of Parenthood. For the first time the word
Parenthood mean so much to me. The Lord said; so many people prayed for marriage, but
never pray that He (God) should give them the wisdom to tutor their children. Many parent
never prepared themselves ahead of the physical, Spiritual, emotional and Psychological
responsibilities attached to nurturing a child, failure of which as resulted to major battle in the
future of their parental obligation. Join me as I begin to download from the throne of
Grace….The Greatest Parental Mistakes.

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 CHAPTER ONE

THE MYSTERY OF CHILDREN

As couples begins their journey of marriage; with a great expectation of the fruit of marriage
which his children; it’s dangerous to neglect your preparation for the second phase of marriage
which is called Parenthood. Many godly parents begin to learn the responsibilities attached to
parenthood at the late moment. It’s at this stage so many parents fail and disappoint God; it’s
at this critical junction many parents begin to lose focus and get distracted; at this stage too
many Parents get carried away and abandon one of the greatest responsibility of marriage, at
this stage parents suddenly change and becomes something else, lot of parents get confuse and
frustrated when they get to the stage of parenthood. It’s at this crucial stage many parents
becomes aggressive and begin to give excuses for their short comings. You get to the
Parenthood stage immediately your first child is born; but the problem is many parents today
do not prepared for it; so they fail in so many areas and a lot of regrettable mistakes and errors
are made at the process of bringing up their children. That is why this book is not only meant
for the married but also for the unmarried as well.

God in his own unsearchable divine wisdom; has designed the world and human the way He
want it to be and the way He also wanted us to govern the affairs of the earth on his behave.
The potency of your in-depth knowledge about the gift of marriage (children) will determine
the depth of your preparation towards Parenthood. A lot of parents are of the opinion that
parenthood is all about giving the child the best education, good food, taking care of them…
yes those are good; they are just the primary aspect; there is something else far more than
that.

Psalm 127:3 Lo, Children are an heritage of the LORD; and the fruit of the womb is his
reward. Vs 4 As arrows are in the hand of a mighty man; so are children of the youth.

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This passage is loaded with deep meanings; the bible makes is so clear that children are the
heritage of the Lord, they are His favorite gift to men on earth, they are His value added
treasures in which He uses to bless marriages, they are the mechanism in which God uses in
multiplying the earth; they are God’s arrows on earth; they are God’s-image and property on
planet earth; they are photo-copy of God’s immediate identity. Genesis 1:27 So God created
man in his own image, in the image of God created he him; male and female created he
them. Vs 28 And God blessed them, and God said unto them, Be fruitful, and multiply, and
replenish the earth… God does not mist words when He was making such generational
irreversible decree when He was blessing man. Children are the out-spoken-words of God to
become the seed of multiplication and also the symbol of the fruitfulness of man. These are
mysteries parents need to understand. If you don’t understand some of these things; you are
likely to underrate the divine potencies in your children.

There are so many things that God planted and programmed in the body system of man that
were not programmed in that of a woman and there are also system created in women not
created in men. The womb of a woman is designed in such a way that she can be able to
conceive and carry the image of God in a baby form for nine months. Many occasions I
wonder the mysterious power of the woman womb programmed for conception of God’s
image; sometimes I imagine many things that human brain can’t comprehend, expect when
doctors try to give few explanation. Have you imagined how the baby in the womb feed by the
digested food of the woman; imagine how the babies will be and nurtured if they are twins or
triplet? Have you imagine how their bones grow when they are in the womb? These are
mysteries; that is why I said children are one of the most adorable and indispensable gift from
God to couples. Unfortunately many parents don’t see it from this perspective; that is why
many parents don’t place much value on their children upbringing. What a costly mistake…
Children are the apple of the Lords eyes.

Matthew 18:1-3 At the same time came the disciples unto Jesus, saying, who is the greatest
in the kingdom of Heaven. And Jesus called a little child unto him, and set him in the midst
of them. And said, verily I say unto you, Except ye be converted, and become as little

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children, ye shall not enter into the kingdom of Heaven. Whosoever therefore shall humble
himself as this little child, the same is greatest in the kingdom of God. Is this not a mystery?

The disciples came to Jesus after a long argument of who among them will be the greatest in
the Kingdom; unfortunately they receive the greatest shock of their ministerial outreach when
Jesus reply them; that whosoever shall be humble as this little ones (child). The children that
God has given to you as parent are potential blessing to be nurture and tutor in accordance
with God’s law; but unfortunately what we see today is the opposite of it. God will not nurture
the gift He has given you; you have to do that by the application of fundamental parental
knowledge you have acquired that is why this book is coming unto you. GIFT are to be
nurtured, valued and appreciated by the RECEIVER and not by the GIVER and how much
valued you place on what you have determine how appreciative it will be in future. I think
there is need to lay down few spiritual facts, which will build our sense of focus through this
book.

FACTs about children

Every child is a gift…

Psalms 127:3 Lo, children are an heritage of the LORD: and the fruit of the womb is his reward.
Every Child is a gift and a blessing to the parents; how you nurture the child will determine if
the child will remain a blessing to you in the future, the bible said the reward of the womb is
the child; which means the womb of a woman is only program by God to conceive a child; is
that not a great gift to mankind. …most times I am grieved in the spirit when I come across
parents who don’t value the gift and treasure of God. The best gift that God can bless a man
with is the gift of a child. Hannah pray and fasted year in year out to obtain such a precious
gift from God; she was not just asking for a child but for a male child which she covenanted to
return back to God. The value you place on your child matters a lot; at the same time, you
don’t place value on your child more than God; who is the giver of children. God saw this in
the life of Abraham; and God have to trial Abraham by ordering him to sacrifice his only
beloved son; Isaac. Genesis 22: 2 And He (God) said, Take now thy son, thine only Son Isaac,

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whom thou lovest and get thee into the land of Moriah; and offer him there for a burnt
offering upon one of the mountains which I will tell thee of. God saw that the love of Abraham
towards Isaac was gradually overshadowing the love he has towards Him; and God had to
prove Abraham. You don’t place value on the GIFT more than the GIVER.

Every child is a star… Genesis 15: 5 And he brought him forth abroad, and said, Look now
toward heaven, and tell the stars; if thou be able to number them; and he said unto him, so
shall thy seed be. Every child born into the planet earth by a woman, either she is born again
or not, either she is a prostitute or not; every child that comes out from the womb of a woman
is a Star. Which means no child comes to the earth star-empty. Every child is born with a star.
The cry of heaven is that many parents are deeply ignorant about the kind of star their children
carries or possess. If you don’t know the kind of star your child carries, you will not be able to
nurture the star to yield fruitful result as a parent. This is where so many parents fail. The
parent of Samson understood the Star of Samson, they understood the potency and the nature
of his star; from childhood he was being nurture obeying the prophetic instruction attached to
his Star.

Judges 13:5 For, Lo, thou shall conceive, and bear a son; and no razor shall come on his head:
for the child shall be a Nazarite unto God from the womb; and he shall begin to deliver Israel
out of the hand of the Philistine. That is a Star.

Genesis 37:9 And He (Joseph) dreamth yet another dream, and told it his brethren, and said,
Behold, I have dreamed a dream more; and behold, the sun and the moon and the eleven Stars
made obeisance to me. Joseph had a dream; He saw the eleven stars bowing to him. The
eleven stars he saw were the stars of his bothers bowing down to him. Joseph mentioned
eleven Stars, but the numbers of stars can’t be counted; but he saw eleven stars; he saw the
eleven stars of his brothers. That is to say the brothers of Joseph also have a star; their stars
were paying homage to the stars of Joseph.

Psalms 147: 4 He telleth the number of the stars; he calleth them all by their names. Taking a
good study of the bible you discover some characters where named before they were born;

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they were named according to their stars; such as Jesus Christ, John the Baptist; Samson,
Moses these are stars of prophecy. Ignorant of the star of your child is ignorant about your
future as a Parent. Every child is an Icon through which God’s mysteries is being unfolded.
The enemies understood this that is why a lot of mysterious battle has being launched against
children right from the foundation of the earth.

Every child has an Angel: Matthew 18:10 Take heed that ye despise not one of these little
ones; for I say unto you, That in Heaven their angels do always behold the face of my Father
which is in Heaven. Jesus unveils a deep revelation to the disciples as they make attempt to
chase away the little children from Him. The importance of little children in His Heavenly
kingdom cannot be underrated that God have to assign them with Angels who behold His
glorious face every single moment. This is a serious matter. The bible says the children have
their angels in Heaven, beholding the face of God. This is why many parents need to be
extremely careful about the way and manner in which they nurture their children, be mindful
of the kind of words you use on them; No wonder Ephesians 6:4 … ye fathers, provoke not your
children to wrath; but bring them up in the nurture and admonition of the Lord. Parents might
be provoking God when they cause their children to get angry; physically, emotional,
psychological and otherwise; anger is not good for children. It causes a lot of pain in their
spirit and heart. Spiritually you might as well be invoking the wrath of the angels of those
children into action against you when you provoke them. Children are very important in the
realm of the Spirit; they are more sensitive and conscious of every moment.

Right from the foundation of the earth God has program the logic and operational formula in
which the earth will operate and in which his divine decree of multiplication will be fulfill.
Unfortunately the devil has also master-launch an acidic war of battle against God’s divine
master plan. That is why parents of this present age can’t afford to be spiritually careless and
ignorant of the craftiness of the devil. The truth is that there is a department in the kingdom of
darkness that specialize in killing stars of children, there are powers that reads the stars of yet
unborn children and they are at liberty to convert such stars as they wish. Carelessness nor

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ignorant is not an excuse in the days of evil; knowledge is the key and application of such
knowledge is what makes the different.

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 CHAPTER TWO

CONTENDING WITH THE PHARO-HERODIC POWERS

The children of this era are face with most terrible and dangerous moment in the history of
mankind; they are in the most terrifying period; a period whereby children die like chicken
across the globe, an era were children are neglected to their faith. There are powers contending
with the children of our age, there are forces killing our children before they become youth;
there are powers wasting the children of our time with all forms of strange sickness and
disease; there are powers terminating the life and destiny of children through the
instrumentalism of satanic traditions and culture invention. There are dark powers rending the
stars of our children impotent, there are powers converting the glory of our children to
vagabond, there are powers trading with the head of our children, there are dark forces angry
that our children are still in existence, there are wicked ancient demons who specialize in
using children for ritual sacrifice these powers are called the Pharo-herodic Powers.

Exodus 1: 15 & 16 And the King of Egypt spake to the Hebrew midwives, of which the name of
the one was Shiphrah, and the name of the other Puah. And he said, when ye do the office of a
midwife to the Hebrew women, and see them upon the stools; if it be a son, then ye shall kill
him; but if it be a daughter, then she shall live.

Matthew 2: 16 Then Herod, when he saw that he was mocked of the wise men, was exceeding
wroth, and sent forth, and slew all the children that were in Bethlehem, and in all the coasts
thereof, from two years old and under, according to the time which he had diligently enquired
of the wise men.

The battle against children as been on-going for over thousands years ago; unfortunately the
battle gets more sophisticated year in year out. It gets complicated and become so
mysterious… even the government of Nations finds it difficult to find a lasting solution. As
science advance, these powers orchestrate hidden means in waging war against the children.

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From the above passage, we saw the agenda of Pharaoh in killing the entire male children of
Israel. Thousands of year’s later king Herod order the execution of all the children below the
age of two. You might be wondering why is it that both powerful kings recorded in the
scripture were in the act of killing children; they are not just killing children they were mostly
interested in killing the future, destiny and stars of tomorrow leaders. Herod was provoked
when He heard about the birth of a King, the Messiah; He heard about the birth of a great star,
he saw the birth of Jesus Christ as rivalry to his throne. He saw it as another king coming to
dethrone and over throne him. Beloved the devil is not just killing children, stars are being
rendered useless, great destiny are being cut short, the image of God Almighty is under a
horrible attack. Remember we are created and fashioned in the image of God; if the Bible says
children are the heritage of God and millions of children are dying every year it means the
heritage of God are being attacked and killed. The inability of King Herod to locate Jesus
Christ and not able to have details about his where about birth for two years, lead to the
execution of millions of children both male and female. In the case of King Pharaoh, they
foresaw the possibility of an outbreak of war and the future children leading the War. Exodus
1:10 come on. Let us deal wisely with them; lest they multiply, and it come to pass, that, when
there falleth out any war, they join also unto our enemies, and fight against us and so get
them up out of the Land. The Egyptian were trying to prevent the source of the Israelite’s
multiplication, they were trying to prevent them from giving birth to male children, because
male children will grow to become warriors. Unfortunately the battle is still going on till date
through various means and these powers are making an aggressive and a dangerous progress.
Except the Christian homes begin to launch an organize attack and contend with such powers,
we might not be able to preserve the future generation. The children of our days are the glory
and stars of our future.

There is no Nation that is free from this catastrophic battle against children which comes in
various form. For those in Nigeria, we can never forget the killing of twins in the Eastern part
of the country which was graciously put to an end by the great legend missionary woman
called Mary Slessor. Whenever I reflect on this barbaric witchcraft tradition; I can’t just

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imagine the numbers of innocent new born babies terminated on arrival all on the altar of
tradition and satanic believe. It grief my heart that there are still some part of Africa and
middle East that still practice the female circumcision till date. My research manager; told me
something shocking; He said Sir; will you believe that there are countries where children are
recruited into the military force and are force to go to war; the successful children are ranked.
Have you imagine how a child of 12 is thought to used deadly weapons like AK47 to kill is
fellow human; been brain washed to hate his fellow mankind. Recently the Boko Harram
Islamic terrorist group in Nigeria where recruiting teenagers male and female between the age
of 12 to 15; unfortunately the bewitched demonized parents release their children to such viper
terrorist after been paid. At the end these children becomes a terror to their community and
nation. In South Sudan according to As Sieff reports over 16,000 children have been recruited
by both government and rebel forces since hostilities flared in late 2013. "They are foot
soldiers and cooks and cleaners, boys and girls as young as 9. Many were taken from their
homes and schools and forced onto the battlefield," Sieff writes.

All this are the evil strategies in which the lives of children are being endangered by these
powers we are referring to. Unfortunately ancient cultures and tradition have contributed
deadly to the evil battles still raging against our children; the evil culture practice gave birth to
child sacrifice which still exists till date in different part of the world. In Mexico, the Aztecs
cultures specialize in human sacrifice and the child is left out to be use for sacrifice; in fact
record have it that it’s a daily sacrifice in Tenochtitlan and sure sacrifice were offered to
Tlaloc the god of rain. In a community called Maya, the Central America the people believed
that supernatural beings had power over their lives and this is one reason that child sacrifice
occurred, they believed infants to be good offerings because they have a close connection to
the spirit world through liminality. There was also a time in Kampala; Uganda’s capital was
badly affected by kidnappings of children for sacrifice purpose. This makes young children to
become victim because they become relatively easy to be abducted. The desire for instant
wealth on the part of so many greed politicians mostly in the Africa continent has created a
deadly market for children to be bought and sold at a price. As a result of this powers waging
war against children; children have become a commodity of exchange. Child sacrifice is more
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than barbaric cultures and traditional issues. It is a commercial witchcraft venture. What do
you say about the high rate of child trafficking that as suddenly become a normal way of life
across the Africa nations and other parts of the world? Nations of the world are still
contending with this wickedness of child trafficking demons that have consume millions of
innocent children…until God begin to raise anointed prophetic men who are ready to lose their
life for the purpose of God on earth, these powers might continue to devour our children
stealthily. Our children are in a combat for survival, generation yet unborn are at risk, only
few spiritual minded leaders are beginning to see this unexplainable child-battle from the
spiritual perspective. Let’s quickly take few of the findings from my research team.

Strange Statistics

In the course of writing this book; my team and I decide to embark on little research about the
children of our time; our discovering from reliable source was so shocking that for once we
never thought of it. According to the World Health Organization and UNICEF 7.6 million
children die before they reach the age of 5, (means a child dies every second) many of which
can be prevented, causes of which include poverty; where 270 million children were estimated
to have no access to healthcare; more than 100 million children under age 5 are
undernourished and underweight, which contributes to 45 percent of all infant deaths. It is
estimated that 1.2 million children are trafficked each year, while 168 million children ages 5-
14 are engaged in child labour, with 85 million of them working in hazardous conditions.
39,000 girls become brides every day, making them expose to all kinds of sexually virus in
their tender age. Over 800,000 children die yearly of diarrhea, while an African child dies of
malaria every 30 seconds, killing 3,000 children every day. Another studies from the Untied
State of America has it that each day 19 children dies daily from gunshot wounds; the most
worrisome of it now is that the rate of child- suicide is gradually increasing in the western
developed countries.

From the above strange statistics; it is heart-disturbing to see the gravity of battles the children
who are the future of tomorrow are going through. Believe me or not; indirectly the devil is
waging an acidic warfare against the future of tomorrow. Here comes the greatest spiritual
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responsibility of every parent to wake up to the task in front of us, if not the future and destiny
of great nation might be in jeopardy. Regrettably parents have neglected their responsibility in
terms of the spiritual role they ought to play;

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 CHAPTER THREE

PARENTAL MISTAKES

As the world progress in the era of civilization; it’s advisable for parents to be more sensitive
as their children grows in a civilized digital world of technology dominated by western
culture; a period whereby parent are losing hold over their children, a dispensation where
children are beginning to lose interest in the things of God and craving for the world. We have
suddenly gotten to a stage where children are now turning against their parents; father against
son and daughter against mother. …all this is as a result of the ignorant mistakes of our
parents. There a lot of parental mistakes that many godly parents made either consciously or
unconsciously I am going to unfold few of them. Mistakes are part of life; errors are easily
corrected; but in terms of parenthood and nurturing of children one need to be extremely
careful and seek for divine wisdom in mentoring the gift of the womb that God has bless us
with. The truth is that there are a lot of parental mistakes that must be avoided if we must have
a better future; mistakes are easily corrected but parental mistakes are not easily corrected.
The inability of prophet Eli to apply the instrumentalism of the rod on his children when they
are messing around with the ladies who came to the temple; brought a national disaster on the
entire nation of Israel; it lead to the death of many in a single day.

MISTAKE 1

Failure TO COMMAND YOUR HOUSEHOLD

Genesis 18:19 For I know him that he will command his children and his household after me,

and they shall keep the way of the LORD.

Colossians 3:21 Father’s provoke not your children to anger, lest they be discourage. It’s very
unfortunate the kind of Parents we have in our time; millions of parents are becoming so lazy
both spiritually and morally and this is influencing the children negatively with negative
consequences in the society and the nation at large. The first mistake so many parent
(including Christians parents) makes is inability or failure to command their household after

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God’s will. God was so sure of Abraham, because Abraham has built a strong relationship
with God. Abraham has being a friend of God so he finds it so easy to lecture and tutor his
household in accordance to the law of God. So many parents have lost their command and
Spiritual authority of their household, so many parents can’t lead the household on spiritual
task, and this is where the mistake begins. The parents of this generation have neglected the
primary divine assignment of them nurturing and tutoring their household, they have
abounded the task for their Pastors; forgetting the fact that the pastors also have a greater task
on him; because the pastor have to mentor his own children, seek the face of God on behave of
the children, attend to those who are sick, give counsel to those who are in spiritual needs, He
has to seek the face of God to be able to feed the Sheep three times a week, he has to create
time for personal retreat with God, he has to settle dispute within the body of Christ; with all
these spiritual responsibilities on your pastor, yet you leave your household in the hands of
your pastor to nurture for you. Parents who are failing in commanding their Household,
parents who fails to teach their household what is right and wrong, such household might not
enjoy the full blessing of God attached to families. The first Church is your Household.

1 Samuel 3:12&13 In that day I will perform against Eli all things which I have spoken
concerning his house: when I begin, I will also make an end. For I have told him that I will
Judge his house for ever for the iniquity which he knoweth: because his sons made themselves
vile, and he restrained them not.

From this above passage, God dealt with Prophet Eli; not because of the sins of his children,
but because he failed to correct them and advice them to stay away from their evil act.
Beloved this is a serious matter that our modern day Parents should not take for granted. So
many want to get married but yet they fail to learn and seek knowledge concerning the
mandate of marriage and Parenthood, thereby making so many deadly mistakes that has
resulted to violent and ruddiness in our society. What a great mistake indeed…unfortunately
there is no way you can tutor your household in accordance to the law of God Almighty when
you being the Parent don’t attend a living Church of God; here comes a complicated issue. If
the Parents fail to command their children in the way of the LORD, I assure you, the devil’s

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children will command them in the way of their master the devil. This is a terrible mistakes all
godly parents must avoid if there will be a better and a violent free society in the nearest
future.

When God talks about nurturing and commanding the household; he was talking of training
them in His own ways, he was referring to bringing them up in the rightful way, nourishing
your household spiritually in the Knowledge of God, raising your family in the perfect
standard of God.

God was so confident about Abraham rearing and directing his household to suit Him (God),
after many years, God also commanded Moses His Prophet to Passed the message to the
congregation… Deuteronomy 6:6&7 And these words, which I command thee this Day, shall be
in thine heart. And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk to them
when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest
down, and when thou risest up. I want us to take a deep look of this passage we just read; And
thou shalt teach them deligently unto thy children, and shalt taklk to them when thou sittest in
thou house, and when thou walkest by the way and when thou liest down and when thou risest up.
Here Moses was telling the congregation of Israel how they should mentor and couch their
children in the way of their Lord. He told them; 1) Teach them diligently: which means let it be a
continuous teaching, do it with all seriousness, don’t take it granted; impact the knowledge of God
into the fear, let the fear of God overshadowed them. That was the message, He told them, when
you are at home with your children teach them the about the Law; when you are walking with
them talk about the Law of God, before you go to bed teach them, when you wake-up early in the
morning teach them. This is a serious matter. The question is how we abiding to this
commandment. The book of Joshua 24:15 the same command was given to Joshua that he made
an open announcement of it… but as for me and my house, we will serve the LORD.

The first thing God Instituted was marriage and the primary assignment given to the Parent
was to bring up their children in the fear and love of God. When this is missing then
something is missing in the home. Let me make something clear; whatsoever you can’t impart
in your children within the age of 3 to 12; they will learn it elsewhere, either positive or
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negative. No wonder there is scarcity of the fear of God in the lives of our children, teenagers
and Youth; this has led to the high rate of cultism, even at the secondary schools and all forms
of unexplainable abnormal behavior in the life of children. All is because our parents are
making this mistake of inability to command and nurture their household.

MISTAKES 2

NEGLECT OF THE CHILD’S TALENT.

This Present century is made up of millions of careless and lazy Parents and either you like it
or not; God will hold every Parents accountable as far as your child talent is concern.

Matthew 25:15 And unto one he gave five talents to another two, and to another one; to every
man according to his several ability…

1Timothy 4:14 Neglect not the gift that is in thee…

The truth is that God will not determine the number of Children you will have, but God will
hold you accountable for whatsoever they become. Every child born either out of wedlock or
otherwise, possess a unique gift or talent. Human are created in the image and beauty of God.
Everything that is needed to make man become whatever he want to become is implanted into
man by God right from his mother’s womb; unfortunately when such child is born the parents
fail to give such child spiritual and little psychological attention so as to be able to discover
the hidden gift and talents that God has embody inside he/she. The heart of God bleeds every
seconds seeing millions of parent attending churches yet they are failing in this basic parental
assignment that God has committed into their hands. Take it from me; it’s one of your parental
duties to help your children in self discovering and nurturing of their God given potential.
When this is achieved, you are sure of your child becoming some one great in the nearest
future; but if you fail in this regard, the world we definitely do it for you. This is where evil
communication corrupt good manners takes is root. There is no single child on planet earth
without a single talent at least every child possess a talent, and let me also remind you that
God’s gift or talent in the life of children is God’s most valued treasure. The reason why
millions of destinies are neither discovered nor fulfill is because the parents who are supposed

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to be the torchlight to the children are not helping the children in the discovery process. A lot
of children/youth are becoming vagabond not because there are no jobs to do, but because
nobody helps them in the process of self-discovery. The truth remains that Children can’t help
themselves when it comes to self-discovering of God’s potential it has to be a collective effort
of the Parents to do that, but because so many Parents have failed in this aspect you see the
children going through the same circle of life their parents went through.

The problem is when you as a parent fail to help your child in discovering who he or she is,
such child begin to see him or herself as inferior, they begin to compare themselves with
others, begin to aspire to be like others; which become dangerous as time goes on.
Unfortunately this parental disease is so rampant in the Africa continent. This is one secret of
the western developed Nations; they search for gifted and talented children, right from the age
of three or four their parents have already discover the talent and potential of their children,
from there they begin to nurture the gifts inside the child, but over here in Africa the case is
different.

Hannah gave out Samuel when he was 3; because she knew the child was already a Prophet,
She took Samuel to Prophet Eli to be nurture and Eli did a great work in nurturing the
Prophetic gift inside Samuel. At age 7; Samuel has learned how to hear from God and
communicate to God. Apostle Philip was able to discover the gift of Prophecy in the life of his
five daughters. Joseph the dreamer was gifted with the ability of interpreting dreams and that
was the gift of God inside of Him to make his dream come to pass. Daniel possesses t he gift
of interpretation of Dreams, application of the gift course him to fine favour in the sight of the
king. As the world progresses in this era of record-breaking, innovation and invention; great
kids and young talent are being discovered and launch into the global world, not by chance nor
by influence rather by the discovering of such talents by parents who wants to place their
children at the world front. Children don’t become great only by their own effort; it takes the
primary effort of the parents to bring out the best in the child.

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MISTAKE 3

LOVING ONE MORE THAN THE OTHER…

Any home that want to survive and be free from all form of strife, jealousy, and all forms of
household confusion should strife not to make this particular mistake. Loving a particular
child in the family than the other is a dangerous error that is capable of setting the entire
household on fire. Unfortunately this always results to family battle among the children and if
cares is not taken the battle continue even after the parents have pass away.

Genesis 37:3 & 4 Now Israel loved Joseph more than all his children, because he was the son
of his old age: and he made him a coat of many colours. And when his brethren saw that their
father loved him more than all his brethren, they hated him, and could not speak peaceably
unto him.

The battle of Joseph began right from when his father; Jacob; began to show him more love
than his brethren, the love and care that Joseph got from his father, provoked the anger of his
elder brothers; which lead his brothers planning coup against him and that incident brought
calamity upon Jacob. Parent it’s high time we began to learn from past event if not we may
have to learn in a very hard way. As long you are the one that gave birth to all your children, it
is advisable and wise to love every one of them equally; if not you might be staging an inner
battle among your children in the future. For no reason should you loved your first born more
than your last born or you love your last child more than another, or you love the female more
than the male… unfortunately this mistake is rampant among polygamous homes.

In your quite time go through the book of Genesis 27; you come across the story of Isaac and
his wife Rebekah. It was a family where the Father love the first born and the wife love the
last born; out of the love of Rebekah for Jacob, she device a means in which Jacob can steal
the blessing of Esau from his Father Isaac. Here was a family of four; Isaac the father,
Rebekah the mother and two sons; Esau the first born and Jacob the last born. The battle began
when the father begin to love Esau more than Jacob and the mother loving Jacob more than
Esau.

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A lot of parents are ignorantly staging the ground for a family battle without knowing; every
single epitome of love speaks louder in the ears and mind of children than words; so Parents
have to be extremely careful when showing love to their children. Let your love be equal if
you want peace in your home. Some parents, immediately they gave birth to the second child
they stop giving attention to the first child and as that continues; when they give birth to the
third child they move attention of love away from the second child, focus on the third child,
neglecting the first and the second child. When such child grows up with this psychological
perceptive, he or she begins to look for love outside the home; here comes the temptation from
peer group, influence and affection. Some parents might believe that this is not a costly
mistake; rather it’s a catastrophic error. When one of the children gets more attention than his
siblings the others grows up feeling dethroned, worthless and sometimes inferior. And if cares
is not taken; you might begin to take the battle to the next level, when you begin to compare
your children to each other. The day you begin the comparison among your children, is a
matter of time your children will begin to hate each other. I have seen a family where the
children fought each other to death; I have also seen a situation where an elder brother poisons
his younger sister simply because she is always praise by the parents. He that has ears let him
hear what the spirit is saying to the Parents. God is a jealous God, and He has created Man in
His image, which means every man or woman has a symptom of jealous; as a Parent when you
begin to love one more than the other you are indirectly triggering the jealous in them; and
that can lead to so many havoc in the future. Wisdom is the only ingredient needed as a parent
to be able to love all your children equally.

MISTAKE 4

THE MARRIAGE-POINT-MISTAKE…

I want to kindly use this medium to solicit for your full concentration and mind-focus attention
as you read this particular sub-topic; because of all the mistakes parents make this is one of the
dangerous and regrettable error that can’t be corrected. Read on as I unveil deep truth as lead
by the Spirit of God.

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There is a stage in life that every child will grow up to and that stage is called the
marriageable stage; as for the female 18 years and as for the male 24. In this regard there are
many mistakes parents do made; most often they (Parents) believe they are making the best
decision for their children, unfortunately they begin to regret some of their terrible actions and
decisions when things begin to turn upset down in their child’s marriage. Some parents have
made their children to become a prayer warrior in marriage simply because of the mistakes
they made ignorantly; some are experiencing bitterness in marriage, some wish they never
married, while some children are blaming their parents for the terrible mistakes their parents
made; that have landed them in marital mess and crises.

It’s the Joy of every parents to see their children having an happy home and marriage; but the
kind of contribution you make will determine if your child will have a successful marriage or
not. By the Grace of God upon my life; I was 17 years of age when I started counseling on
marriage; possible it was an additional gift that God gave to me; at the age of 25 I have read so
many countless books on marriage and have counsel hundreds of couples right from my early
age. So I will be unfolding deep mistakes parents are making all in the name assisting their
children when it comes to marriage issue. Considering the fact that the author of this book is
Single; focus on the knowledge you are about to tap from this book. I am going to list few
areas parents should be very careful, when it comes to the marital life of their Children.

The lies of Tribe: Parents please watch this area; so many parents have brainwash their children
about a particular tribe; they have given their children all form of satanic lectures about certain
tribe; telling their children not to married from certain tribe or to married from certain tribe.
Let me make something clear; God is the Author and creator of all tribe across the world.
There is no tribe that is perfectly good and there is no tribe that is completely bad. The prayer
every parent should be praying for their children is for them to come across a good spouse that
can complement their future destiny. This single mistake has caused many children to married
the wrong spouse. My heart bleeds when I was interviewing a young lady from Delta, Nigeria;
who was seeking for a divorce. She told me something that shock me; she was in a
relationship with an Igbo guy who she met at the NYSC service, they both loved themselves

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and respect each other, but the problem began when the Father of the lady said over his dead
body will he allow any of his daughters to marry an Igbo man. At the end, the relationship
broke up and the lady found another guy who was also from Delta. The Parent were so happy
that at last she has seen a guy from their tribe; all through the period of the second
relationship, the lady was not comfortable, she was not getting the love and joy she use to
derive from the first Igbo guy. The Parents force the girl into the marriage. Now the marriage
is in a mess, the lady is demanding for a divorce from the court, the lady has suddenly hated
her parents. The lady is going through hell in her marriage; emotionally, psychologically and
otherwise. Parents, never you mistakenly tamper with the love/emotion of your children. This
stigma from our parents has killed so many marriages. That someone from a particular tribe
did you something wrong many years ago, should not be use as an obstacle against the future
of your children. That an Igbo man or a Hausa woman did you evil, do not mean all Igbo men
or all Hausa women are wicked; then because of that you instruct your children not to married
an Igbo man or a Hausa woman or any other tribe. Parents get this clear; your children are not
getting married to a tribe, nor the community where he or she originates form rather they are
getting married to an individual, a personality, a character and a destiny. As a matter of fact
there are wickedness and witchcraft practices across all tribes of Nation. The only prayer you
should pray let none of them married our children. The world is too small for your children to
begin to carry such mental orientation that you have implanted into their head concerning a
particular tribe. If by divine order, God has destiny your daughter to marry from a tribe that
you hate with perfect hatred, simply because of the past incident that occurred years back; will
you deprived your daughter from marrying such person. Here lies why so many parents have
suddenly become the Principal and Vice chancellor in their children homes and marriage.
Parents please avoid this mistake.

The only reference point back in the scripture was that God commanded the Israelites not to
married from certain countries, not to married from Nations that are under God’s provocative
anger and Judgment. There are some nations God told his children not to married from, the
uncircumcised nations, nations that have rejected God as their God.

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Genesis 24: 3 And I will make thee swear by the LORD, the God of Heaven, and the God of the
earth, that thou shalt not take a wife unto my son of the daughters of Canaanities, among
whom I dwell. Genesis 28:1 And Isaac called Jacob, and Blessed him, and charged him, and said
unto him, thou shalt not take a wife of the daughters of Canaan. 1 kings 11:1 & 2 But King
Solomon loved many strange women, together with the daughter of Pharaoh, women of the
Moabities, Ammonities, Edomities, Zidonians and Hitties; Of the nations concerning which the
LORD said unto the children of Israel, Ye shall not go in to them, neither shall they come in unto
you; for surely they will turn away your heart after their gods; Solomon clave unto these in
love. The summary of this is that; Parents do not allow your children to get married to an
unbeliever; someone who hate God; drunkards, smokers who possess all form of witchcraft
behavioral character and attitude. So many parents have given out their children to occult
members as spouse; some have gotten married to witchcraft agent without knowing. If your
daughter brings a man to the house and tells you this is the man she wants to married; and the
man possess the fear of God, a strong believers rooted in God and sincerely love your
daughter; you have nothing to fear as a parent. Not the other way round.

The Regrettable Bride Price:

Genesis 34: 12 Ask me never so much dowry and gift, and I will give according as ye shall say
unto me: but give me the damsel as wife.

My greatest prayer for our parents is that may they not sell their children to the enemy of God
unconsciously. Another mistake our Parents should avoid by all means is the regrettable Bride
Price. A lot of Parents are the ones responsible for the marital delay of their daughters
ignorantly; so many parents have chased away the rightful suitors for their daughter through
the instrumentalism of the bride price. Parents; who are not considerate in the demand of bride
Price might end up giving out their daughters to the wrong man. It’s scripturally that a man
must pay the dowry of the woman his soul wishes to marry as a wife; Parent are entitle to the
bride price. Unfortunately so many parents have converted it to money making venture; some
parents now see their daughter as future investment. That you trained your daughter to the

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university level does not warrant you to charge her suitor huge sum for her bride price, by
doing that you are indirectly selling your daughter to the man; that is why so many women
don’t have any say in their marriage, because they are purchase from their parents. She now
becomes a slave in her matrimonial home. This is a mistake every Parent must avoid. There is
something called the witchcraft or wicked dowry: 1 Samuel 18: 25 And Saul said, Thus shall ye
say to David, The King desireth not any dowry, but an hundred foreskins of the Philistines, to
be avenged of the King’s enemies. But Saul thought to make David fall by the hand of the
Philistines. David purpose to married one of Saul’s daughter; possible as one of the promises
of King Saul to anyone who is able to kill the Philistines; unfortunately what King Saul was
indirectly requiring as dowry was barbaric and suicide. King Saul was requiring for one
hundred foreskins (a fold of Skin covering the tip of the male organ) with the intention of
making sure that David was killed. It is not surprising that King Saul’s daughter; Michal was
the only barren woman in the Bible. One thing that work and walk against her was the wicked
and witchcraft dowry of an hundred foreskins that her father; king Saul demanded for. The
question now is what kind of dowries is our fathers demanding from the suitors who wish to
marry your daughter. The truth is parents who lack the fear of God and are still traditionalist,
who believes in practicing tradition will fall victim of this mistake; though we are in an era of
Christianity and civilization. According to a research conducted by a Group of Marriage
Council in the Eastern part of Nigeria; it was discover that the high Price attached to bride
price is the reason why so many daughters of the Igbo’s are yet unmarried and why their Sons
are not making any effort to get marry. A senior associate Pastor friend of mine; once said, the
inability of the sons of Igbo’s to marry their daughters as a result of the high bride price is
responsible for the high rate of money ritual in the Eastern part of Nigeria. This is a dangerous
mistake that our modern parents are making but unfortunately our forefathers did not make
such mistake. It has gone so bad that there was a particular year, the traditional Parliament in
Nigeria’s eastern state of Imo; have to take a move to drastically ensure that bride price
become affordable. This is one factor why so many serious minded suitors don’t get married
from a particular tribe. I did a research recently when I discover 85% of the ladies that came to
me for counseling are all interested in getting married considering the fact that they are aging;

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between the age of 29 and 37. From my finding, most of the ladies are from tribe or family
where their bride price is so expensive, that any man who will marry them might spend all his
life savings and I tell you no reasonable man will take such risk. This is one of the factors
responsible for increase in the number of unmarried ladies. There are cases where I have
personally appeal that the bride Price or dowry should be brought down for the sake of the
Love bonding the two parties.

Choosing Spouse for your Children

Parents who made the mistake of choosing spouse for their children; are indirectly undoing
their children. Nobody not even a pastor anywhere is qualified to choose who your child
marries rather your child himself or herself takes up that responsibility. Many parents have
ended the marital journey of their child from the first day they choose who they want their
child to marry. Times and seasons are changing very fast in this jet age; the scope of reasoning
of our parents decades back is quite different from the perspective in which the youth of today
are reasoning. When you make a marital choice for your children, you should also be ready to
take every responsibility that follows and be accountable for every outcome of the marriage
you choose for your child. In this regard as a Parent; your major duty is to ensure your
children get married to someone who has the fear of God; a man or woman who has the fear of
God will not beat his or her spouse and will respect his or her partner. Parents; please allow
your children to marry whosoever they truly love. Love covers multitude of Sin. In marriage
there will be conflict and misunderstanding, such conflict are easily resolve when true love
exist; but in a home whereby you choose the spouse for your child and there are no ingredients
of love; such home is due for doom. As a matter of fact research has shown that marriages
whereby Parents choose spouse for their children end up in divorce. Show me a sweet
marriage and I will show you homes where Love Speaks.

Wrong concept about marriage: I am sincerely praying from the depth of my heart that God
will deliver our children from every misconception that they have digested and assimilated
from their parents’ poor marital experience. So many Parents have made a terrible mistake by
providing false information and orientation about marriage to their children. Many children
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have seen marriage as hell, full of troubles and all forms of negativity. Let me make it clear;
it’s dangerous for parents to use age factor as barrier. There is no place in the bible where a
certain age was provided as a marriageable age and by constitutional law 18 years above is
due and fit for marriage: Parents please do not deprive your children mostly your daughter
when they wish to get marry to whom they sincerely love. Most times, Parents tell their
daughters that they are not old enough to get married; what is needed is maturity not age; age
is just a number. That someone is age 27 or 30 does not mean he/she is more mature than
someone who is 23 years old when it comes to marriage. Research as proved it over and over
that ladies who get married early to their best friend, who they sincerely love are likely to have
a blissful marriage, healthy, prosperous and live long. Another research have it that ladies who
are unmarried at the age of 27 are likely to marry the kind of men they never wish or dream to
married; out of desperation, worry and anxiety they end up marrying any kind of man that
comes their way. Findings have also show that Parents who refuse their daughter’s in getting
married in their early age, such daughters might ended up becoming prostitute, many become
influenced by their female friends, many end up getting married after unwanted pregnancy
while some end-up losing their virginity to the man they never love.

MISTAKE 5

FAILURE TO TRAIN YOUR CHILD…

Proverbs 22:6 Train up a child in the way he should go: and when he is Old, he will not depart
from it.

It’s what you have as a Parent that you can offer to your child; you can’t give what you don’t
have. The first educational center of every child is the home and that is the fastest place where
every child learns and most times they learn by imitating you as their parent. That is why it’s
very important that parent should be careful of the character and attitudinal behaviors they
exhibit in the presence of their children. Believe me or not, every parent is a couch to their
children either indirectly or directly; consciously or unconsciously we are teaching our
children either something positive or negative; unfortunately what they learn is what they
grow up with and become.
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There is a commandment from God to every parent, it is a divine role that God expects every
parent to play in the life of their children and that is … Train up your child in the way he or
she should go: and when he or she is old, he or she will not depart from it… Sad enough, so
many parents are failing in this Parental assignment; this is why so many of our parents can’t
understand why their children suddenly behave abnormally. When as a father you can’t gather
your household for morning devotion; as a parent you can’t correct or discipline your children
when they going astray, you can’t lecture them about the things of God and on basic spiritual
things; then you are making a big parental mistake.

Proverbs 1:8 My Son, hear the instruction of thy father, and forsake not the law of thy mother;
My question is what instruction and commandments are you giving to your children as a
Parent? Many Parents will go to hell simply because they failed to train their children in the
way of the Lord; I pray for you, may you not fall victim in the name of Jesus. My dearly
beloved parents the days we are now are full of evil, targeted against the children; that is why
you have to nurture, train, and tutor them in the way that they will go, so that when they grow
up, they will not depart from it. It is on this note I want to kindly admonish our Parents, don’t
give birth to the number of Children you can’t nurture or train. Training a child does not alone
include sending the child to educational institution; it also include moral tutorship, discipline,
spiritual empowerment and providing them with all the necessary wisdom and skills they need
to pass through life successfully.

MISTAKE 6

CHOOSING A LIFE CAREER FOR YOUR CHILD…

Mark 1:19 & 20 And when He had gone a little further thence, he saw James the Son of
Zebedee, and John his brother, who also were in the ship mending their nets. And straightway
he called them: and they left their father Zebedee in the ship with hired servants, and went
after him. It is very disastrous and sympathetic that parents are still choosing a life career for
their children in this generation. When divine talent and God’s potential deposited in man are
sure means of survival if they can be utilize to the maximum range. From the above passage
Zebedee was a fisherman by profession and he has introduced two of his sons; James and John
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into the finishing profession. If Jesus Christ has not beckon on them they will have died and
ended up as a fishermen which was not the original plan of God for their lives. In like manner
a lot of Christian parents are still making this costly mistake of choosing a life career for their
children. The only role you have as a Parent; is to help your children in discovering their
potential and advice them to venture into what they have passion for. Few years ago, a father
brought his only son to me for prayers and counseling. He was bitter that his son was
performing woefully in school. I asked the son what was the problem; the boy gave him a
straight answer, that he hate science subjects and his father wanted him to study science by all
means. I told the father, your boy is not performing woefully; you are the one behind his poor
performance. I told the father to relocate him to the art class and leave him there. As of when
the boy was graduating from the secondary school; he was the best student the school ever
produced in the art class, today the father is a happy man. Parents do not force your children
to study any course or discipline that they have no interest in; otherwise they will perform
woefully; and that is why many students can’t perform academically.

The days when parent impose course of study or discipline on children are over; we are in the
jet age where every child want to do exploit and break records in one area or the other,
unfortunately such dreams are being frustrated and truncated by parents who imposed their
choice on their children. It will surprise you that 98% of the world celebrities will never have
being celebrated if their parents imposed their parental will on them.

MISTAKE 7

COMPARING YOUR CHILDREN TO OTHERS

This particular mistake is a terrible mistake most Christian’s parents made. Comparing your
child to someone else child is an act of foolishness, indirectly displaying an attitude of ingrate
to God for giving you such a treasure as a gift. Parent fails in their parental responsibility
when they see nothing good in the life of their children. You can’t see anything good until you
begin to place value on the child that God has given you. A lot of things begin to go wrong in
the brain of the child when he/she notice you as the Parents you are comparing him to
someone else; you are indirectly damaging the uniqueness of that child, making he or she feels
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inferior and pushing your child in becoming a photocopy. No matter the situation never you
compare your child to another, your child can’t be like someone else, neither can someone else
child be like your child. There is a purpose why God brought that child into your family; there
is a reason and a divine purpose why God permit the child to come into the world through
your womb. No child is born with negativity; what matters is the value system you built in
them.

MISTAKE 8

TRANSFER OF INHERITED TRADITION

Colossians 2:8 Beware lest any man spoil you through philosophy and vain deceit, after the

tradition of men, after the rudiments of the world, and not after Christ.

There is nothing that has done more havoc to the Africa children and Africa continent than the
inherited bewitched tradition that have been transfer from one generation to another. It is Very
sad and unfortunate that most of the inherited tradition being transfer by our forefathers down
to this present generation has not done them any good yet they transfer such tradition to their
children. Millions of children have being enslaved and caged by the inherited tradition of their
parents. Unfortunately some of these traditions are barbaric practices that were practices by
our ancestors in the ancients’ days which by now with the high rate of technology and
civilization should have gone into exile. In most part of Africa and the Middle East, the
shocking practice of Female Genital Mutilation is still on. It involves the surgical removal of
all or part of a female’s external genitalia, this as a cultural and religious background dating as
far back as 484 B.C. All effort by the World leaders and World Health Organization and
leaders to put an end to this barbaric tradition as yields no result. Unfortunately such Practices
as being transfer to the children of this generation. A lot of traditions were license and
permitted by God in the Old Testament, but in the New Testament they were abolish and they
became taboo. Take for instance the Israelites do slaughter a sheep or a ram for the remission
of their sins but it was no longer relevant in the New Testament, till date. Unfortunately there
are still some communities across the world that still practices such tradition. It’s the duty of
Parents to educate their children, educate them about the ancient tradition, educate them about
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the havoc surrounding the barbaric tradition, educate them about the evil associated to the
tradition and never transfer such tradition to your children.

Many of the barbaric tradition which as lead a whole community into bondage were instituted
by our illiterate and arrogant forefathers who never attend any formal education, today their
ideology and initiated tradition has led millions to captivity. Some of the initiated traditions
were inspired by demons to enslave a whole generation and the future of the unborn
generation. Customs and cultures are designed to serve as a moral check up standard of living
within societies and communities, unfortunately many cultures have serve as an obstacle to the
advancement of today’s children. I read of a community where it is traditionally permitted to
married their siblings.

MISTAKE 9

withdrawing THE ROD FROM THE CHILD

Proverbs 22:15 Foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; but the rod of correction shall drive
it far from him.

Proverbs 23:13 Withhold not correction from the child: for if thou beatest him with the rod, he
shall not die.

I am praying from the depth of my heart may God help the parents of this generation to be
able to nurture their children in accordance to God’s word. Many parents have form the habit
of pampering their children, even when the children have done wrong and needs to be
corrected. Children need to be corrected in love; and there are circumstances that the rod needs
to be applied. The bible said foolishness is bound in the heart of a child; which means there
are times when the children behaves foolishly, they exhibit a lot of abnormal behavior and
attitude which needs to be corrected with the use of the rod. The bible makes it clear that the
application of the rod on the child will not lead to the death of the child. It’s very unfortunate
that most of the western/developed countries are falling victims of this particular mistake.
There are some countries; parents will be arrested and jailed for beating their children; all in
an attempt to correct their children for wrong practices, such Nations are gradually nurturing
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vagabond children who will later serve the purpose of the devil in such Nation. It is dangerous
when parents over look the foolish attitude of their children. Let me make it clear that God has
made every parent a caretaker over their children and they will be accountable to God, every
parent will give report of how the gift of God given to them is being tutored and nurtured.
Proverbs 29:15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a child left to himself bringeth his mother
to shame. Any child that is not corrected with the use of the rod when necessary, such child
will end-up bringing shame and reproach to the family. The fastest way children learn and
master the godly ways is through correction, and the bible said by this wisdom is provided to
the child. It is what you give to your child that your child will give in return to the society.

MISTAKE 10

DEPRIVING THEM OF HARDWORK

A young man applied for a Job at a large Printing Company. He passed the first interview and
was going to meet the director for the final interview. The director saw his Resume and it was
excellent. At the interview; the director asked him.. ‘Have you received a scholarship for
school? The young man replied; ‘No’. ‘Was it your father who paid for your studies?; asked
the director; ‘yes replied the young man. ‘Where does your father work; asked the director.
My father is a Blacksmith replied the young man. The director asked the young man to show
him his hands. He showed a pair of soft and perfected hands. “Have you ever helped your
parents at their Job?; asked the director. The young man said, ‘Never, my Parents always
wanted me to study and read more books. Besides, he can do the Job better than me. The
director responded; I have a request when you go home today go and wash your father’s hands
and then come to see me tomorrow morning.

As the young man felt his chances of getting the Job were high; he decided to agree with him.
When he returned to his house; He asked his father if he would allow him to wash his hands.
His father felt strange yet happy and showed his hands to his son. His son washed his hands
slowly. It was the first time that he noticed that his father’s hands were wrinkled and had many
scars. Some bruises were so painful that his skin shuddered when he touched them. This was
the first time that his son recognized what it meant for his pair hands to work every day to be
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able pay for his studies. The bruises on the hands were the prices that his father paid for his
son’s education, his schools activities and his future. After cleaning his father’s hand, the
young man stood in silence and began to tidy and clean up the workshop. That night the father
and son talked for a long time.

The next morning the young man returned to the director’s office. The director noticed the
tears in the eyes of the young man as he asked. ‘Can you tell me what you did and what you
learned yesterday at your house? The young man replied.. ‘ I washed my father’s hands and
when I finished I stayed and cleaned his workshop. Now I appreciate and recognize that
without my Parents, I would not be who I am today. By helping my father; I now realized how
difficult and hard it is to do something’s on my own. I have come to appreciate the importance
and the value in helping family. The director said, “this is what I look for in my people, I want
to hire someone who can appreciate the help of others. … A person who knows the hardship
of others to do things and a person who does not put money as their only goal in life; You are
Hired.

Children who always get what they want usually develop “the mentality of it’s my right and
always put themselves first; while ignoring the efforts of their parents. If we are this type of
protective parent; are we really showing love or are we destroying our children. This type of
parent may feel like they are showing love to their children but they are actually destroying
them. It’s great to give your children a great life, but when you’re washing the floor or
painting the wall, please let them experience that too, engage them in domestic house work.
The most important thing is that your children learn to appreciate your effort and to experience
the difficulties and to learn the ability to work with others to get things done.

MISTAKE 11

LEAVING NO INHERIATANCE FOR THE CHILDREN

Proverbs 13:22 A good man leaveth an inheritance to his children’s children…

Let me make something clear; it is very important that parent should strive to leave behind an
achievable inheritance for their children. Our earthly Father; Father Abraham leaves behind

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inheritance for his son Isaac; Isaac likewise left behind inheritance for his son Jacob; Job left
behind possession for this children, likewise Father David… if you critically study the
scripture you discover that great men left inheritance of possession for their children. Nabort
have a vineyard which he inherited from his own father. In this era of transformation, it is
abnormal for parents to permit their children to go through what they went through and it’s a
symptom of failure to leave a life of 100 of age without a single inheritance for your children.
Many parents believe their children must also go through what they went through to attain
success; your child might not survive the risk you of pain you went through to achieve
success.

What we your children remember you for? What legacy are you leaving behind after your
departure? What name will your children called you after you have departed? How will your
children stage your image when you are no more? Will your child feel your departure or rather
celebrate your years of existence? These and many more are some of the basic questions every
parent needs to answers. Life is shout they say; but your legacy will forever remain after your
departure. Therefore your major priority as a parent is nothing else than to leave behind a
footprint worthy of emulation for your children.

The way and manner in which your child is brought up will determine what name the society
we called you tomorrow as their parent. Remember every child is an ambassador of his
household; your child is your identity outside; he or she is also your signboard that prorate
what you are at home. The ball is in our hands as parent, let us ensure will carry out our
spiritual obligation on our children so as not to disappoint the landlord of the Children; God
Almighty.

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 CHAPTER FOUR

WHAT PARENTS ARE THOU?

I will be putting this golden chapter into two perspective theories; but first there is a
fundamental question; you need to ask yourself as a parent? What kind of parents are you?
The kind of parent you are will greatly influence your children either positively or negatively.
It will determine the kind of legacy you are building ahead of them; it will determine the foot
print they will inherit from you; it will determine the behavioral factorial character and
attribute of your children. This is a serious question that every parent should be able to answer
for self assessment. First let me take it from Psycho-theory: the Psycho theory is picturing
parent from the behavioral, Psychology, emotional perceptive>>>

Are you the Authoritative or Authoritarian type of Parents? These kind of Parents are
authoritative in words and action; most times they don’t give room for the opinion of their
children; the child must do as the parents said; the child has no say of his/her own; even when
the child is 18, the Parents still dictate and control the child to the extent of taking vital
decision for the child. Most times such parents think they are being protective and save-
guiding the where about of the Child; but little did they know they are damaging the inner
capabilities of the child. The child begins to feel he or she is a slave in the family. Children
who grows up from such authoritative atmosphere will always look for a way to stay away
from their parents; such children will always want to spend more time with their relatives than
their parents; such children ends-up keeping secrets from their parents, and they suddenly
possess all kind of ungodly characters. This kind of parents set out rules and regulation that
limit the freedom of the child, denying the child of their childhood; or are you the Isolated
and Overprotective Parents? When parents are isolated and overprotective it is very
dangerous and destructive to the mental faculty of the children; such parents are always afraid;
they keep themselves away from people around them; whom indirectly will have being a
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source of blessing to their marital life, they don’t learn how to associate with people; they are
full of worry and anxieties; they never allow their child to associate with their peers, by doing
that you deny your child from learning what he/she will have learnt as a child and such
children also grow up full of fears and anxieties, just like their Parents. 1 Corinthians 13:11
When I was a child, I spake as a Child, I understood as a Child, I thought as a Child…. Such
parents withhold the rod from the child when the child goes wrong. The overprotective parents
will oppose the use of the rod on the child when the child does something wrong that required
the application of the rod. The question again is what kind of parents are you? Are you the
Neglectful or Busy Parents? So many parents fall under this category of parenting; so many
parents are too busy with work, busy with all form of unnecessary task that have cause them to
neglect their primary assignment of parenting; unfortunately this is where the devil comes in. A
lot of parents are so busy that they give little or no attention to their children, too busy to check
mate their children behavioral attitude as they grow up; too busy to render Spiritual support to
their household, too busy to help their children in their home work and other form of academy
assistance; too busy to pray with the household. They are just too busy. If you are in this
category you might be inviting the host of darkness to pilot the affairs of your home. Children
who grow up from such Parental atmosphere grow up without any sense of who they are or how
to navigate the complexities of life. They lack self-esteem and confidence. What kind of Parent
are thou? It is a deep question that only you can answer.

The other theory is the Spiritual/scriptural theory: this theory is picturing parental kind from
the biblical perceptive. The bible is designed as the best moral and standard spiritual book of
literature that is met to direct us in nurturing our children. Sometimes parent don’t know what
to give to their children, they just believe all they need to do is to provide sound education,
health care and other physical amenities to make the child comfortable and otherwise. That is
good, but unfortunately that is not the best. Matthew 20:20 Then came to him the mother of
Zebedee’s children with her sons, worshipping him, and desiring a certain thing of him. And he
said unto her, what wilt thou? She saith unto him, Grant that these my two sons may sit, the
one on thy right hand, and thee other on the left, in the kingdom. Here was a woman, who

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have seen the wonder working power of Jesus, she has being with Jesus with her two sons, she
has listened to the messages and sermons of Jesus Christ. I strongly believe she was not a rich
woman, possible among the poor in her community; but she has one great desire for her
children, she has a boiling dream for her two sons, there is only one heart-full passion for her
sons. And what was that? She went to Jesus and asked that her sons should be permitted to
occupy a special seat in His kingdom, regardless of the weightily price attached to her
demand? Here was a woman who was interested and passionate about nothing else rather than
the spiritual well being of her two sons, we saw a woman who believes there is need for her
sons to be more closer to Jesus in order for her wish of her sons being in the kingdom be
fulfill. The truth is; if your children are not shown the way of righteous and life the world will
show them the path way to hell and destruction. What is your greatest heart desire for your
children; what is your wish, and what spiritual valued do you placed on them? Unfortunately
there is large scarcity of such kind of parents in our modern and civilized society. In our world
of materialism consciousness hardly can we come across 5 out of 100 parents whose passion
for their children is towards heavenly consciousness and godly moral character; here lays the
bedrock of abnormality among children. Let see another kind of woman/women in the bible:
2kings 6:26-29 And as the King of Isreal was passing by upon the wall, there cried a woman
unto him, saying, Help, me lord, O king. And he said, If the LORD do not help thee, whence shall
I help thee? Out of the barnfloor, or out of the winepress? And he said unto her, what aileth
thee? And she answered, This woman said unto me, Give thy son, that we may eat him to day,
and we will eat my son tomorrow. So we boiled my son, and did eat him: and I said unto her on
the next day, Give thy son, that we may eat him: and she hath hid her son. Psalms 106:37& 38
Yea, they sacrificed their sons and their daughters unto devils, And shed innocent blood, even
the blood of their sons and of their daughters, whom they sacrificed unto the idols of Canaan:
and the land was polluted with blood. I believe you are shocked about the above scriptures. In
what words can you called such? Here is an example of a parents/ mother who placed no value
on her sons, to the extent of killing and eating her only son. The wicked parents are still in
existence, such parents sees nothing good in the life’s of their children, they underrate children
including theirs, with their destructive words they have render many children useless and
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impotent, they have kill and eaten up many children and teenagers. They are being referred as
vipers’ parent: who are after the souls of little children, they derive pleasure in the death of
teenagers and they hunt after their blood. I am praying every dark parents looking for your
children they shall die in the name of Jesus. The Psalms passage makes us to understand that
there are parents who use their children for sacrificed; unfortunately in our modern world of
civilization and western education such practices still occurs in some part of the world. There
are few lessons I believe every parents should learn from the above passages of the scripture. I
have said it before, failure to place value on what God has given to you is an invitation for it to
be taken away from you. The foolish woman saw nothing good in her only son, she fail to see
the potential in her child, she neglect and over look her only sons, she saw her son as a cheap
commodity that should consume as food.… while the other woman went and hide her son.
Why? Because she cherish her only son; the question once again what kind of parent are you?
Mother’s plays major significant roles in the transmission process of a child growth and
development; as child grows from one stage to another, from one level of maturity to another;
from one age phrase to another; likewise there are elementary environmental character and
attribute that grows with the child. It is the basic responsibility of the parents to monitor the
trails and trend in which the child grows with and be able to make a fast amendment if
necessary.

Whatsoever you implant into the life of your child is what the child grows with; and
whatsoever the child grows with is what the child gives back to the society. This will strongly
determine what your child will be called in the future. The scripture clearly pin-point various
categories of children; attribute, behavior and home bringing classify your child either as a
positive ambassador worthy of emulation or otherwise.

Strange children: Psalms 144:7 Send thine hand from above; rid me, and deliver me out of
great waters, from the hand of strange children: verse 11, rid me, and deliver me from the
hand of strange children, whose mouth speaketh vanity, and their right hand is a right hand of
falsehood. If the scripture make mention of strange children it means there are strange
children indeed. But the question is how such children come into being; the truth is

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when you failed as a parent to train your child in line with God’s word; the world will begin to
train and tutor your child in accordance with the world and when that begins to take place;
your child is gradually becoming a strange child. A child becomes strange when he/she begins
to possess questionable characters and attitude from the world system. A child becomes
strange when his behavior is beyond human reasoning; a child can be regard as a strange child
when there is absents of Godliness yet his/her parent are Christ-like. When a child enjoys the
pleasure and confront of the world then the treasure of the word such a child is already
becoming a strange child. These symptoms grows gradually in them, some acquired this
deadly attribute from their school pears, that is why as a parent you have to monitor your child
character day in day out and when you fine some strange character in your child, rebuke it and
correct it immediately. If not such child grows with such and believe such behaviors are
acceptable because nobody rebuke him/her.

Vagabond Children: Psalms 109:10 Let his children be continually vagabonds, and beg: let them
seek their bread also out of their desolate places. I decree may your children not become
vagabond. Here; King David was praying for his enemies’ children to become vagabond.
There is absolutely nothing good that can be fine in the life of a vagabond child; nothing.
Vagabond children are possess with a heart of wickedness and total rebellion; a heart of total
disobedient to parent and hatred towards siblings. You fine no remembrance of any character;
the trend of his father or mother can’t be fine in the child. When a child is growing wings, and
as a parent you are finding it difficult to control such a child or correct him; it is wise and
better to quickly cut off those wings physically and spiritually. Vagabond children have no
regard nor respect for elders. When a child hates dwelling among his household for no reason;
he loves the company of the evil associate; such a child might end up becoming a vagabond.
Parent need to constantly execute a medium of behavioral check and balance on their children
in order to prevent negative influence over their children.

Corrupt children: Isaiah 1:4 Ah sinful nation, a people laden with iniquity, a seed of evildoers,
children that are corrupters:… corrupt children: the sincere fact is many children are under this
category; children under this category can easily be set free, through constant parental prayers.

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Some symptoms of such children are stealing, lying, regular use of abusive words, disregard
for parents and elders. To fight such corruptible virus from your children; engaged them into
family devotion, pray together; teach them how to reach the bible, draw them closer to God.
Children are easily corrupt by influence. A researcher once said kids are quick in learning the
negative things than the positive things. Whatsoever you exhibit and your child emulate is a
seed planted into their subconscious mind which they will grow up with. The question still
remains what kind of parents are we? Answer to this question will also determine who our
children will be and what will become of them.

Rebellious children: Isaiah 30:1 Woe to the rebellious children… may our children not become
rebellious in the name of Jesus. When a child is rebellious, such child brings shame, calamity
and reproach to the household and family. They are also referred to as the wasted children.
Example of such children is the story of the little children who were mocking Prophet Elisha
and they where devour by bear. Such children grew up with abnormal and unacceptable
attitude; unfortunately the rate of such children is increasing daily as a result of spiritual and
physical neglect of parental responsibility on the children.

Backsliding Children: Jeremiah 3:22 Return, ye backsliding children, and I will heal your
backsliding… When the bible talks of backsliding; it means the children were once on the right
track, along the line they divert. That is why the bible says train up a child in the way he
should go; when he is old he will not depart from it. There are children who came from a well
polish Christian background, well train in the way and fear of God, but many begin to
backslide when they have privilege to stay outside their parents’ supervision; many backslide
when they get to the higher institution. The backsliding children suddenly begins to emulate
character they once hate; they venture into all form of evil practice, they suddenly lose the
passion for things of God; such children easily lose focus and chase vanity. An example of the
backsliding children where the two sons of Prophet Eli; this are children who were tutor and
nurture under the prophetic atmosphere of their father; alone the line they backslide and finally
brought disaster and destruction upon their household.

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Lying children: Isaiah 30:9 That this is a rebellious people, lying children, children that will not
hear the law of the LORD. One of the characteristics of rebellious children is consistence lying.
A lying tongue: parents; cultivate the habit and spirit of speaking the truth always; when your
children notice you are always lying, they are likely going to exhibit the same. Children learn
faster from their parents. Train up your children in a truthful manner and approach to life, let
them see the life benefit of speaking the truth always regardless of the circumstance they find
themselves.

Biblical concept:

Isaiah 8:18 Behold, I and the children whom the LORD hath given me are for signs and for
wonders in Israel from the LORD of hosts, which dwelleth in mount Zion.

The original plan of God was children were created as a symbol of signs and wonders; which
is the heart desire of every parent, unfortunately we begin to mist the parental tracks when we
fail to prepared for the task and responsibility attached to raising up a child; many believe
marriage is just coming together of two opposite sex and bearing children; neglecting the fact
that a new dimensional parental assignment begins immediately a child is born.

As a matter of fact the Scripture as not left us in the dark on the basic principles of nurturing
and mentoring our children; of a truth the task attached to up-bringing of a child can be
challenging and most times frustrating as well. It takes a godly wisdom, patient and grace to
be able to successfully nurture the gift of God. The way and manner in which they are tutor
and coach will determine what they will be to you in the future. Proverbs 17: 6 Children’s
children are the crown of old men; and the glory of children are their fathers. The fact
remains children are embodiment of glory to their parents vice versa.

Redraw not the rod from the child: Proverbs 29: 15 The rod and reproof give wisdom: but a
child left to himself bringeth his mother to shame. One of the biblical concept of tutoring a
child is the used of the rod; what it means is that don’t fell reluctant to use the rod when
necessary; when a your child those what is wrong and it demands to be beaten; do it and let
the child known’s why he is beaten. Many children have suddenly become uncontrollable,
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corrupt and rebellious because their parents fail to apply the instrumentalism of the rod when
necessary. Children those not need to be tamper when they execute the wrong doings rather
need to the corrected by any means.

Teach your children the fear of God: Psalms 34: 11 Come, ye children, hearken unto me: I will
teach you the fear of the LORD. As a parent God expect you to teach your children the way
and path of the LORD, failure to do that is an invitation to the agents of devil to lure your
children to the path of darkness and destruction. We live in era of ungodly association
dominating the world and initiating the righteous ignorantly. To survive this evil trend as
parent you have to engage your children with spiritual activities and get them committed in the
things of God from their tender age. Hannah handover Samuel to Prophet Eli at the age of
seven to be used by God; parents…you will be making a terrible mistake if you are waiting for
you child to become a youth before you get them committed with the things of God.

Circumcised your children: Joshua 5:2 At that time the LORD said unto Joshua, Make the sharp
knives, and circumcise again the children of Israel the second time. The kind of circumcision I
want to refer here is the circumcision of the heart, being possess with the fear and passion of
God. Ensure your children are train in such a way their love for God is ultimate, being
dedicated to God.

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 PRAYER FOR YOUR CHILDREN

I want to admonish you to pray for your children; it is a must; if indeed you want the best for
your children. One of the sign of a mother who wishes her sons all the best is her continuous and
frequent prayer for her son. Remember the enemy is still ranging against the children of our
present generation; the devil has intensified his range against the children of our days. Likewise
parents can’t afford to ford our hands and be watching our children being slaughter by rebellious
powers and witchcraft activities. God is still much in the business of rescuing his own image; His
children from the gripe of darkness.

1)Father in the name of Jesus; I thank you for giving these wonder image of yours as children,
I thank you for your treasure of life and for the gift of life upon them, I thank you for your
mysterious wonder working power working in their life; receive all the praise in the name of
Jesus.

2)Every mistake and error I have made in the past, that is now affecting my children, blood of
Jesus, in your mercy erase it in the name of Jesus.

3) Powers limiting the Glory of God in the life of my children; I tear you to pieces by the
power in the name of Jesus.

4) Anything in my life affecting the life and destiny of my children negatively be uprooted
from the root and die in the name of Jesus.

5) Blood of Jesus go into the foundation of my children and begin to purge out every dark
plantation that will want to pull them down in the name of Jesus.

6) Every magicians and astrologer searching for the star of my children; receive the arrow of
madness and die in the name of Jesus.

7) Fear of God overshadowed the heart of my children in the name of Jesus.

8) Every evil pronouncement that I have ever issue against my children (mention their
names) be cancel and be nullify by the blood of Jesus.

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9) As from today, I decree my children shall become a source of blessing and joy to me in the
name of Jesus.

10) Powers of the wicked empowered to overtake my children in the journey of life, go naked
and die in the name of Jesus.

11) Wicked Herod that has issue evil decree against my children; receive Angelic slap and die
naked in the name of Jesus.

12) Let every desert altar of witchcraft that known’s the names of my children; receive the
acidic of fire and burn to ashes in the name of Jesus.

13) Glory of my children; hear the voice of Heaven you shall not go deem, shine forth like the
sun in the name of Jesus.

14) Powers traveling to the moon to make evil incantation against my children; be smitten by
the sun and die in the name of Jesus.

15) Every seed of rebellion and vagabond planted in the life of my children; waiting to
manifest in the future, die to your root in the name of Jesus.

16) My parental mistake shall not affect my children in the name of Jesus.

17) Viper of darkness on an assignment to devour my children; Lion of Judah arise devour
them now in the name of Jesus.

18) I separate my children from every evil peers that will lead them to destruction in the
name of Jesus.

19) Let the consciousness and conscience of my children be active for instruction and wisdom
in the name of Jesus.

20) Let the hand of the Almighty rest upon the life of my children in the name of Jesus.

21) Iniquity in the bones of my children be purge out by the blood of Jesus.

22) Powers that want to afflict my soul through my children eat the dust and die in the name
of Jesus.

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