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SUCCESSFUL
PARENTING:
A step by step guide on how to
become a better parent.
Clark S. Davis
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Table of contents:
CHAPTER 1
BECOMING A PARENT
Things that will change when you become a parent
Skills that will help you to be a better parent
CHAPTER 2
HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY WITH
CHILDREN
How to talk to kids when they need help
Steps to take in helping kids resolve conflict
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INTRODUCTION:
Raising kids is never easy. In fact, it's typically
one of the most challenging—and
frustrating—things you will ever accomplish,
particularly when you are learning parenting
skills as you go. No one goes into parenthood
knowing precisely how to handle all that is
thrown at them. But the finest parents are
continually searching for ways to improve.
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But being a good parent helps counteract those
bad experiences—and developing your positive
parenting abilities is a terrific place to start.
This book will help you work on continually
improving your parenting abilities.
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CHAPTER 1
BECOMING A PARENT
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Couples encounter two significant problems at
this time:
● Coping with the challenges of pregnancy,
delivery and the early months of parenting
● Expanding their relationship to make
place for their baby
Pregnancy
During pregnancy, both spouses must adapt to
the woman’s bodily changes. Each person’s
experience of pregnancy is altered by:
● The woman’s physical health
● How the lady thinks about herself as her
pregnancy grows
● How her partner responds to her
pregnancy
● How both couples deal with the changes
in their emotional and sexual connection
The impact of pregnancy on a couple’s
relationship might vary greatly. It may pull
couples closer and also show differences.
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to voice their worries and to be comforted.
Pregnancy typically places new emotional
expectations on males — requests to exhibit
tolerance and kindness, to wipe up tears and to
provide gentle encouragement. This may be
challenging for some males.
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Some dads, though, find the event more
unpleasant than they had imagined. It might be
difficult for guys to find someone they can chat
with honestly about the birthing and the
sentiments it evoked.
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Now we have become three
The physical and practical elements of becoming
parents offer couples with many great and
exciting moments to share as well as presenting
new hurdles to conquer. The most difficult
difficulty might be learning to create a place in
their relationship for the baby.
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Things that will change when you
become a parent
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2. Putting yourself second.
The minute your kid is given into your arms, you
become responsible for the security of a small
person and ensuring this little creature is cared
for and cherished. You worry more about your
kid’s future than yours and take efforts to
guarantee your youngster is cared
for—especially after you’re gone. You invest in
life insurance to make sure your kids are cared
for (in case anything dreadful occurs) and it can
entail taking a little extra out of your salary each
week.
3. Financial responsibility.
Spending money may not have been a huge
concern before you had kids. If you wanted to go
to the movies, you went. When you noticed
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lovely clothing in a store window, you purchased
it.
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You’ll learn how to stay going even if you’ve
had three nights in a row of no sleep. Waking up
throughout the night becomes commonplace and
sleeping in till 7am becomes well-rested. And
happily, there are techniques to obtain more
sleep.
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The sugary beverages and packet of Oreos in
your cupboard are replaced with cereal and
bananas. Plus, your kids will establish better
habits as they watch you eating well and
exercising. Seeing mum nibble on apple slices or
going for a stroll can help your kids adopt good
behaviors.
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can babysit your child. Planning becomes an
essential aspect to your survival.
8. Your marriage.
The time you used to spend with your partner
snuggled up on the sofa watching movies or
reading together evaporates after you have a kid.
That time now goes to changing diapers,
preparing bottles, or catching up on domestic
duties. There’s little time for you and your
spouse to spend together, but you find new ways
to connect with your spouse while you care for
your kid. You’ll learn to enjoy the simple
moments and, in many ways, you’ll fall in love
all over again.
9. Friendships.
When you have a kid, you may find yourself
spending less time with certain friends and more
time with other ones. You could notice that
going out with friends who have kids is more
enjoyable for you. They’re sympathetic if you’re
a few minutes late because your kid had a
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blowout or if you’re a bit irritable following, yet,
another restless night. Plus, your kids can play
together while you get some much-needed adult
discussion.
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Skills that will help you to be a
better parent
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you're going to answer. It's about observing body
language and picking up on hints.
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You also need to make sure your discipline is
constant yet adaptable. For instance, there will
be instances when you'll say no to your kids and
mean it. There will be other moments when you
realize you've made a mistake or maybe reacted
too harshly.
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Be a Good Role Model
Don't do something in front of your children that
you wouldn't want them to do. If you find
yourself demonstrating behavior that you don't
want your kid to copy, then it's a clue you should
adjust how you behave in specific
circumstances. Kids will emulate what you do,
not what you say.
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customer service representative on the phone or
you're having a quarrel with your spouse, try
your best to avoid demonstrating reactive,
immature, or cruel conduct in the company of
your children.
Be Flexible
Sometimes parents struggle with unreasonable
expectations and aspirations for both their kids
and for themselves. When this occurs, parenting
might seem onerous and overwhelming. If you
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discover that you routinely feel that way, you
may need to be more flexible when it comes to
yourself, your kids, and your parenting.
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Likewise, learn to be more flexible and let go of
things that aren't important in the long term.
Both you and your kids will benefit from a more
go-with-the-flow attitude.
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of the time you have together. Showing interest
in topics that they are passionate about is another
fantastic method to show your kids that you love
and understand them.
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parent and being a perfectionist. While it's
crucial to develop your parenting abilities and
aim to be a good parent, don't beat yourself up
when you make errors. No one is a perfect
parent.
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CHAPTER 2
HOW TO COMMUNICATE EFFECTIVELY
WITH CHILDREN
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turned off. Turn off your phone, turn off your
computer, and leave your TV behind.
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Be mindful of your eyes. Although you should
establish eye contact, do it naturally, rather than
glaring the youngster down. Blink as you usually
would, and feel free to sometimes peek down to
see the child’s hands as they speak, or their lips
as it moves.
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There is seldom a scenario when haste to reply is
a smart idea. Take your time. Your interactions
and time spent with youngsters should not be
hurried.
Practice mindfulness.
Stay in the current moment. Don’t allow your
thoughts to wander when you are chatting or
sitting with a youngster. Keep your thoughts and
eyes focused on the work at hand. Even if you
are sitting comfortably in solitude, don’t allow
your thoughts to go to your to-do list—pay
attention to the child’s body language, breathing
patterns, and silent communication.
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How to talk to kids when they need
help
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might be useful in establishing a discussion and
understanding what’s going on in their life.
Listen to them
Take the time to carefully listen to what your
youngster or adolescent has to say. Many times,
all kids or adolescents want is someone who will
listen to them. Try to grasp their viewpoint
before providing ideas. Sometimes your own
concern might push you to attempt to solve
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everything. But in many circumstances the
greatest aid you can provide is to listen intently.
Be genuine
Try to avoid speaking from a script. Teens can
detect when you’re not being real. If you are
open, real, and easygoing, it will help others to
be the same.
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Don’t be scared to admit I don’t know
As a parent or teacher, it is OK to confess that
you don’t have all the answers. However, if a
youngster or adolescent asks you anything, you
should make every attempt to discover an
answer or someone who can assist.
● Calm down
Allow everyone to take a vacation from each
other. Ask them each what they need to do to
calm down. The “wheel” gives some useful
alternatives, including stepping away and taking
a break for a few minutes, counting to 10 (or
100!), or writing down some sentiments.
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them to find out the best approach to calm down
before trying to address the situation.
● Apologize well
“A proper apology will express three things:
remorse, accountability, and repair. Apologizing
for a mistake could seem tough, but it will help
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you mend and enhance your connections with
others.”
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Bad apologies, on the other hand, tend to suffer
from these four shortcomings: Justifying words
or conduct; Blaming the victim; Making
excuses; Minimizing the repercussions. (“It was
only a joke!”)
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