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No one in the world is fully prepared for parenthood. You can read as many
books as you can, but you’ll never know the full extent of becoming a parent
unless you’re in that precise moment.
So, here are 10 vital steps that will guide you to becoming a better parent.
1. Loving Yourself
It may seem that loving yourself is an individualistic approach which only
focuses on unraveling the source of your happiness for your own personal
gain. It may give the notion of self-centeredness, but in reality, loving yourself
has nothing to do with narcissism. Loving yourself offers an opportunity to
appreciate yourself and to acknowledge both your strengths and weaknesses.
By doing so, as a parent, you can help your child to accept his or her own
strong suits and flaws.
4. Being Flexible
Effective parenting is not an exact science. When they say that change is the
only thing that’s constant, you can definitely expect a lot of changes to occur
once you’ve become a parent. Being flexible is another essential aspect of
parenting because you should face the fact that sometimes your hands are
tied and you won’t be in control of the given situation. For instance, even if
you have brought up your child to be polite and proactive, there’s still the
probability that you will receive a call from the school principal, telling you
that your child has just been involved in a fight. In cases like these, parents
develop active listening skills, patience, and an open mind before deciding the
next course of action. It’s not the time to make a scene and to reprimand the
child impulsively. Take the time to understand the given circumstance and
consider both sides of the coin before proceeding.
5. Knowing When and Where to Draw the Line
The conventional outlook of most parents is to perceive their position in the
family hierarchy as being the most powerful or the most superior. It’s a given
fact that parents are expected to have more knowledge and wisdom based
on their level of experience and acquired maturity.
But please keep in mind that assertiveness can also have its limitations.
Misplaced assertiveness may often be perceived as aggression and
authoritarian, which most kids will not easily succumb to or understand.
Knowing when and where to draw the line signifies that parents know how
crucial proper timing can be for intimate discussions such as problems about
grades or bullies and that they must always consider the proper venue for
such personal dialogues with their kids. For example, parents may choose to
speak with their kids in private, using a calm and modest tone while retaining
a sense of leadership.