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You Age
Aging has its challenges, but meaningful goals
lead to health and happiness.
Posted February 2, 2020 Reviewed by Daniel Lyons M.A.
In general, surveys show that older people are happier people. But
getting older is not a bed of roses, either. Eventually, the losses pile
up. Friends, family members, or partners may die. You may acquire
one or more chronic illnesses or become disabled. You may feel that
your choices are narrowing.
Fortunately, there are still ways to find meaning in your life despite
these losses. “Fortunately,” because recent research reveals that
living with a sense of purpose—acting in accord with your most
cherished values and goals— has numerous benefits for both
physical and mental health. For example, feeling that you have a
purpose decreases your chance of premature death, according to a
study of almost 7000 adults between the ages of 51 and 61.
Amazingly, those without a sense of purpose were almost twice as
likely to die in the four years of the study.
Below are nine paths to purpose that can be helpful to anyone at any
age, but they are especially relevant to older adults. I've drawn on
Frankl's work for #1, #2, and #9. The ninth path may not strike you
as particularly cheerful, but I think you’ll find it bracing and even
inspiring in its own way. By the way, you don't have to choose just
one path. You might find yourself following each of the nine paths in
turn, even in just one day.
1. Work mission.
Some older adults are able to continue the paid work they love to do.
Their motto is: "Never retire." Other active older adults use
retirement as an opportunity to try out a second career. Still, others
find employment where they can because earning an income is
either necessary or a source of independence and pride. Many older
adults find meaning in unpaid work such as volunteer work, personal
projects, or home improvement.
One reason Frankl was motivated to survive the daily torment of the
camps was because of a book he wanted to finish. Although he was
forced to relinquish his manuscript when he entered the camp, he
wrote his key ideas on scraps of paper and stuffed them in his
pockets. After his liberation from the camps, he wrote that book and
many others.
If you are no longer motivated by traditional work goals, however,
you could find your particular purpose in one of the motivators
below.
8. Leaving a legacy.
By a "legacy" I mean writing a will to ensure the smooth passage of
your assets to your children or other heirs. But I also mean
contributing to your family or to the world in many of the ways listed
above. Answering the question, "What kind of gifts do I want to
leave to the world before I die?" may even be an effective way to
guide you toward your current purpose.
How could you apply Frankl’s insight to your life? You might decide
to :
Be a good role model for your children and others even when
your life is painful.
Focus on gratitude — what you do have rather than what you
don't.
Demonstrate courage by accepting what you cannot change.
I am not sure I will be able to do any of these things, but I think the
awareness that I have a choice about how to deal with pain and
suffering as I age will be helpful in itself. It is a revelation to realize
that learning to cope with a tough situation creatively can become a
source of meaning in itself.
Final Thoughts
The experiences of aging — in fact, of life in general — can be bitter,
sweet, tender, or tough. How will you react to them? You might find
it useful to remember these words of Frankl's, summing up his view
of human nature as he experienced it in the camps: "...in the final
analysis, it becomes clear that the sort of person the prisoner
became was the result of an inner decision, and not the result of
camp influences alone." What kind of person do you want to be as
you age? Can you make an "inner decision" that will guide you?