Development of Your Relationship

What did the two of you have in common?

Where did you go for dates?

When did your relationship turn romantic?

How long was it before you decided to get married?

The Wedding

How many people attended your wedding?

Did each of your parents attend?

Was there music or other entertainment?

What kind of cake (or other food) did you serve?

Who were the bridesmaids/groomsmen?

How late did the guests stay?

Did the bride change clothes for the reception?

Did you serve liquor? What kind?

Did anyone get drunk or otherwise embarrass themselves at the reception?

What time did you and the [bride or groom] leave the reception?

Did you go on a honeymoon? When did you leave? How did you get there? What airlines?

Regular Routines

Who gets up first? At what time?

How many alarm clocks do you set in the morning?

Who makes breakfast?

What do each of you eat for breakfast?

Does your spouse drink coffee in the morning?

What time do the working spouse or spouses arrive home?

Who cleans the house?

What day is your garbage picked up?

Who takes care of paying the bills?

Do you have a joint bank account? Where?

Do you have a cat, dog, or other pet? Who feeds it? Who walks it (or cleans its kitty
litter box, cage, etc.)?

Do you and/or your spouse attend regular religious services? Where?

Where do you keep the spare toilet paper?

The Cooking

How many times a week on average do you eat out?

What is your favorite restaurant for special occasions? For weekly outings?

Who does most of the cooking?

Who does the grocery shopping? Where?

Is there a particular food that you eat every week?

What is your spouse’s favorite/least favorite food?

What color are the kitchen curtains?

Do you have a barbecue grill? Do you use it?

Other Family Members

Have you met each other’s parents?

How often do you see each other’s parents?

When was the last time you saw them? Where? For how long?

On important holidays, do you buy individual gifts for your parents-in-law? Do they buy individual
gifts for you?

How do each of you get along with your parents-in-law?

Which other members of your spouse’s family do you see frequently? When was the last time you
saw them? What did you do together?
Home Technology

How many land-line telephones are in your house? Where are they?

Do you have an answering machine on your home telephone? Who checks the messages?

How many televisions are in the house? In which rooms? Do you watch shows together, or
separately? Name one show that you always watch together.

Do you record any television shows?

Do you subscribe to a DVD rental service?

Does your spouse listen to the radio? What station?

How many cars do you have?

Do you have a garage? Who parks in it? Do you use a garage door opener?

Do you have a camera? Who uses it most often? Who takes pictures at important family occasions?

In the Bedroom

What size is your bed (Twin, Queen, or King)?

Do you have a regular mattress, futon, or waterbed?

How many windows are there in your bedroom?

What color are your spouse’s pajamas?

Who sleeps on each side of the bed?

What form of contraception (birth control) do you use?

When was your wife’s last menstrual period?

Where do you keep your toothbrushes? What kind of toothpaste, soap, and shampoo does each of
you use?

Do either of you read or watch television before going to sleep? Do you have lamps next to your
bed?

Have you ever had an argument that resulted in one of you sleeping in another room? Who, and
which room?

The Rest of the House

Do you live in a home or apartment? Who pays the mortgage or rent? How much is it?
Is there a carpet in your front hallway? What color? Is your sofa a regular one or does it have a pull-
out bed?

Have you ever had houseguests sleep there?

What type of curtains or window coverings is in your living room? What color?

How many staircases are in your house?

How many sinks, toilets, and showers are there in your house or apartment in total?

Do you leave any lights on when you go to sleep at night?

Celebrations

When is your spouse’s birthday?

What did you do for your spouse’s last birthday?

How did you celebrate your most recent wedding anniversary?

What religious holidays do you celebrate together?

What’s the most important holiday of the year in your household? Where do you typically celebrate
it?
Have you and your spouse gone to see a movie or other form of entertainment lately? When, and
what did you see?

What did the two of you do last New Year’s Eve? Canada day?