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Much has been written on “what to do”. And yes, I have written more about what to
do rather than what not to do. This writing will focus on the ten fatal mistakes that
some leaders make and continue to make. These mistakes, I have found, can
hinder your personal ability to lead others.
I have found that the people who you are trying to lead, will tolerate mistakes if you
make them, learn from them and do not repeat them. So, the mistakes themselves
are not fatal. Continuing them can be, however.
Are you secure enough in your own capabilities to step back and learn more about
habits and behaviors which can be destructive (even if not intended)? It is not easy
to be effective, it takes more work to be effective and to avoid otherwise natural
tendencies in this society today that seems to be focused on always blaming
someone else for everything. Personal responsibility is a lost art. However, for
those who find the path to bringing personal responsibility back will be the most
successful.
Do you want to be successful? Do you want to put your head on the pillow every
night feeling good about yourself, your team and your successes? Then I
recommend that you sincerely listen to the advice in this writing.
1. VALUES SHOULD DRIVE EVERYTHING. Values (and not what you value
which are decidedly different) such as honesty, integrity, work ethic,
accountability, respect and trust must be the foundation of everything that
you do. When you step over the line (and we all do occasionally) step back,
apologize and fix it. People who do not recognize that their reputation,
relative to values, is critical to success are missing the point ---- your values
are critical to your reputation. You can be demanding (but need to be fair),
you can be stubborn (but need to listen) but you can’t regularly throw values
out with the bath water and expect people to follow you. People like to follow
successful people even if it means facing the brutal facts about themselves ---
but they will not follow someone that they know is dishonest. Many leaders
think just because they are the leader that they do not have to live and
breathe values. This is a huge and fatal mistake. Your word must be your
bond. You must remember what you promise.
4. DRAMA IS POISON TO SUCCESS. You have probably met many people who
seem to love drama and may be even stirring up drama about others and
then stepping back while they watch the fighting. These are ill-informed
people who are at their root, destructive. I have never met a person in my life
who shared a story with me where they promoted, encouraged or
participated even slightly in drama or perpetuating drama that resulted in
anything good. Most people who engage in drama are unhappy people. They
are unhappy with their lives, their careers and many people around them.
Mostly they are unhappy with themselves and do not know how to stop the
downward spiral. Let me be clear --- those that promote or encourage drama
are on a downward spiral. Those that listen, follow and/or participate will
only join that person on the downward spiral. Drama is a poison to a
relationship and to a Company. Stop drama at all costs. Those that love
drama do not care about you and may someday turn the drama in your
direction. Those that love drama should never work for us, instead they
should work for the competition so that they hold that Company back and
not us. There is no solution to drama except separation of employment.
Those leaders who do not understand this, do not understand that their first
responsibility as a leader---- is to team.
6. FAILURE TO FACE THE BRUTAL FACTS. None of us are always right. Most
often multiple minds will produce better results than any one mind (i.e.
teamwork). However, one cannot learn, grow and get better at creating
exceptional results if you do not first face the brutality of facts in an open
and honest manner. Face the brutal facts if you want to become more
effective.
9. TITLES DO NOT CREATE LEADERS. Many people think that when they
finally rise in their careers to achieve a manager or officer title that they have
arrived at being a leader. There is nothing further from the truth! So, if you
have a title, stop thinking that you are a leader. You are a leader of people
only if your genuine intent is to lead people to a successful conclusion. Most
people want to be successful people in their careers and their personal lives.
If they trust you and if they see you as someone who has consistently
achieved success, then they will likely want to follow you. However, you must
be able to lead them to great success. Focus on what will make your business
or the part of your business that you oversee successful. Then lead your
team to that goal line. Be firm, fair and consistent. This is not a popularity
contest. Your goal should not be to be liked. It should be to be respected as
someone who takes their team to a successful conclusion. It is hard stuff. But
it is rewarding.