Cheating Girlfriend Is Upset I Kicked Her Out & Stopped Paying For Her College.

With regards to the meta post: I know I'm not an a-hole for leaving her. I'm more
concerned with the way I went about it.

My gf and I have been together for 7+ years, have long talked about marriage, and
talked even more about future kids. She quit her job a couple of years back to
pursue a medical degree.

Last week I discovered she had cheated on me with an ex-BF from high-school. I
needed to use her phone to call mine, and went I unlocked her phone it was open on
a WhatsApp conversation between them. I have nothing against the guy personally,
but he's going no where in life and I don't understand why she'd want to be with
him.

Anyway, rather than sadness/heartbreak this actually just made angry. Angry that
I've put so much into this relationship and woman that I thought would be the
mother of my future children. Angry that I've been supporting her through college
including rent/food/tuition. Just angry.

So I arrange a locksmith to change the locks the next day (edit: with landlord's
permission) while she's at class, pack up as much of her stuff as I can find, and
leave it outside. Text her of what I've done, and say if she wants to get anything
else I've missed to have her brother come and get it - I don't want to see or speak
to her ever again.

Anyway, since I did this both my parents and hers have been relentlessly calling
me. They say that what she did is wrong - but it's no reason to throw away 7+ years
- and that if I kick her out she will be forced to drop out and waste years of
education.

What do you guys think? Am I the a-hole here? Should I swallow my pride and
approach this differently?

Edit2: The lease is also only in my name and she's never paid a dime of rent in the
entire time she's been living here.

UPDATE.

I was not expecting to post an update so soon, but I was hit with a bombshell this
afternoon.

Over the weekend, both of our parents had tried to come talk to me. However I had
simply ignored the knocks on the door and eventually they left. However of course
they know that I can't avoid work. So they wait outside my house this afternoon to
ambush me as I get home from work. With them is my girlfriend. They insist I talk
to my girlfriend and I eventually relent and our parents leave.

Once inside, she starts apologising and begging for forgiveness. Saying that our
relationship is the best thing that ever happened to her, she will never forgive
herself.... Basically everything that you'd expect a cheater to say.

...And then she gives the most ridiculous excuse I've ever heard. She says that a
few weeks ago she found out she was pregnant, she started having conflicted
feelings on if she was ready to settle down and start a family, and so she reached
out to her ex for support. This emotional support quickly turned physical

This makes NO sense. We have ALWAYS talked about having kids excitedly.
She takes out two pregnancy tests showing positive results. She also takes out an
unused one and says she can take it now if I don't believe her. So she takes it,
and sure enough she's pregnant. She says it's 100% mine as she didn't cheat on me
until after she got pregnant. I ask to see her phone. She reluctantly hands it over
and, sure enough, she's been texting him non-stop since I threw her out.

I tell her I need time to process this and ask her to wait outside. Once outside I
lock the doors, unblock her on WhatsApp, and send her a long text. I'm reciting
this by memory so I don't have to open WhatsApp and see her reply.

Whether you end up having this baby is entirely up to you. But you should know the
following. First, if the child is mine, I will be a good father and take care of
it, but you will never be anything more than the mother of my child. We will never
get back together. The moment you cheated on me, our relationship was over for
good. Secondly, I will not interact with you at all until the child is born. Don't
reach out to me until then, I want nothing to do with you. Finally, I will not have
ANY role in the kid's life - nor will I sign any birth certificate - until I get a
paternity test. This child could have been the greatest blessing to our
relationship and future, instead you turned them into an excuse to cheat. I will
never forgive you for that.

I have not read her reply, and don't intend to tonight. I also won't post any
updates after this. I get the impression that the kid is probably mine, so I'm
basically anchoured to her for the rest of my life now.