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DRAMA TRIANGLE
WORKBOOK
Shift the dynamics from drama to empowerment
3 - Worksheet to
This workbook provides step-by-step guidance with
recognise patterns
instructions and worksheets to help you identify your
prominent role in the drama triangle, recognise patterns of 4. Steps to opt out of
this behaviour and then enable you to consciously opt out of drama triangle
it.
#1 3 ROLES IN DRAMA TRIANGLE
Learn about the 3 roles in the drama triangle to put this workbook to practice.
12 I am always right
14 I understand that some people can’t help themselves and need my support
Take a note of the role in the drama triangle for each of these statements. Refer this
sheet only after filling your scores on pages 3-4 above.
1 Others are at fault for not doing the right thing Persecutor
4 Victim
Bad things just happen to me
6 Persecutor
I have strong beliefs about how certain things should be done
8 Victim
Other situations and circumstances force me to behave in certain ways
11 Victim
I cannot fix my own problems
12 I am always right
Persecutor
14 I understand that some people can’t help themselves and need my support
Rescuer
18 Persecutor
I have to push others to get things moving
Use the reference sheets from pages 5-6 above to find the role in the drama triangle
for each of the statements and add up your total scores
Score
Note down specific situations in which you adopt a role in the drama triangle to
identify these patterns of behaviour.
Capture daily for every instance where you latched onto the drama triangle to
resolve the conflict within yourself or with others
Once you have enough data collected in sheets on pages 9-10 and patterns of
behaviour start to emerge, take a note of these patterns below
DRAMA TO EMPOWERMENT
To consciously withdraw from taking on a role in the drama triangle, locate yourself
the next time you fall into one of these patterns, take a deep breath, pause and fight
against every cell in your body tempting you to act on the first thought that comes to
mind.
You may not be able to do it the first few times, but continue to question your
thoughts instead of letting your subconscious guide your actions. Don’t give up.
After a few attempts, you will feel powerful and in charge of your own thoughts and
shift from reflexive to more deliberate thinking.
For each role that you adopt in the drama triangle, shift from drama to
empowerment by following practices on pages 13-16.
VICTIM TO CREATOR
Move from victim attitude “I need help” to one of a creator “I believe in myself and
can take responsibility for my own experience”.
Change your orientation by consciously shifting your mindset from the problem to the
outcome you desire by following these steps:
Inquire deeply on what prevents you from achieving this goal. Be specific while
identifying these roadblocks and write them down.
Roadblocks
VICTIM TO CREATOR
Take your goal and roadblocks into account and identify how you can achieve this
goal while overcoming your roadblocks.
Break down what you wish you achieve into small tasks and start creating a plan by
capturing the details below.
Don’t go overboard. Start with a day or two and as you make progress, add more
tasks to your plan. Be consistent and continue to invest daily even if for a small
duration of time. Slowly, you will build the momentum and tasks that were daunting
at first will become effortless.
PERSECUTOR TO CHALLENGER
Learn to take responsibility and accountability for your situation by taking things
under your own control and challenge others to do the same.
RESCUER TO COACH
Step1:
Accept that your work is not selfless. It does more harm than good to others and it’s
damaging to your own self.
Step2:
Adopt a coaching mindset by believing that people can take care of their own. Say it
out loud "People are capable of solving their own problems. I will be useful by
enabling them to find their own solutions as opposed to be the one providing it"
Step3:
When guiding others to take responsibility, ask these questions:
1. What's preventing you from solving this problem
2. What solutions have you tried
3. What more can you do
4. What information do you need to move forward
5. Why do you feel this way and what can you do to change it
6. What other alternatives are possible
7. What might you be missing
By showing your trust and support, you can enable them to be the creator of their
own life as opposed to adopting a victim mindset.