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DEEPENING OF LOVE AND SEXUALITY but an act of the will, preferring the good of
another to the good of oneself. Love is not easy.'
LOVE AND MARRIAGE
What does the Church say about love and How does love relate to happiness?
marriage? ➢ "Because true happiness, dear friends, does not
➢ Love is the vocation of every person consist in the pleasures of the world or in earthly
➢ Family is the school of love. Future of humanity things, but in peace of conscience, which we
passes by way of family. have only if we are pure in heart and mind."
➢ The opposite of to love is to use (not hate) ➢ Blessed Pier Giorgio Frassati
➢ No one should use another person as a means
to an end (e.g. for utility or pleasure) What is the difference between love and lust?
➢ Body speaks a language: the gift of self ➢ Lust is a disordered desire for or inordinate
enjoyment of sexual pleasure, sought for itself.
❖ Love – the vocation of every person ➢ Lust is the counterfeit of love.
❖ Family – the school of love
Comparing Love with Lust
➢ The opposite of love is lust (to use) ● Words to describe Lust:
❖ Objectifying devious
Body speaks a language–the gift of self ❖ Lifeless, Temporary
Three Basic Concepts: ❖ Uses criticize, Unattached
1. Language of the Body - includes the body ❖ Disloyal, Selfish, Manipulates
2. Holiness - includes the body ❖ Shallow, Insensitive, Impure
3. Gift of Self - includes the body ❖ Demanding, Blind, Intimidates
❖ Discards, Obsessed
Why save sex until marriage?
➢ Love without regret ● Words to describe Love:
➢ Among those who have already lost their ❖ Gives, Personal, Honest
virginity, two-thirds of them wished they had ❖ Waits, Life giving, Life long
waited longer to have sex (77% of girls and ❖ Chooses, Sympathizes, Committed
60% of guys) ❖ Faithful, Generous, Communicates
❖ Deep, Responsive, Pure
➢ Less likely to divorce ❖ Understands, Kind, Appreciates
➢ When a man is married as a virgin, his divorce ❖ Accepts, Given, Talks, Adores
rate is 63% lower than non-virgin. For women,
it's 76% lower. What is the difference between chastity and
➢ The younger a girl is when she becomes abstinence?
sexually active, the more likely she is to ➢ Sometimes think saving sex until marriage will
experience multiple sexual partners, STDs, out either lead to repression or indulgence.
of wedlock pregnancies, depression, abortion, ➢ Abstinence is the lack of sexual activity. In itself, it
and poverty is not a virtue, but simply abstaining from action.
What is love?
➢ We are looking for love. Sometimes we look for
the right thing in the wrong places. Chastity: A Definition
➢ Aquinas "Love is willing the good of another ❖ A positive virtue, to be thought only in
person." association with love.
❖ Is about living an integrated and well balanced ➢ 'Safe' sex misleads people about the
life. biological, spiritual, and emotional effects of
❖ All Christians are called to chastity, whether sex.
married, single, or celibate.
For better, safer sex put a ring, marriage. Living
Chastity: For this is the will of God, your God’s plan for life and love
sanctification; that is, that you abstain from sexual
immorality–1 Thessalonians 4:3 'Safe Sex' Examined
➢ 46% of teenage girls acquire HPV from their
How dangerous is virginity? first sexual relationship.
➢ Some think that virginity is something dangerous ➢ Doesn't matter where you have been, or what
and it might in fact kill you. you have done, it's always possible to start
➢ The gift of one's virginity is the most perfect again.
present that you can give your spouse on your
wedding day. Oral Contraceptive Pill
➢ Pill can act as an abortifacient.
How important is the body of Christians? ➢ Pill ages the cervix twice as quickly.
➢ We are made in the image of God (Genesis 1:27). ➢ The birth control pill increases a woman's
➢ God became man, in order that man Might chance of having breast cancer, cervical cancer,
become God. and liver cancer.
➢ God would rather die than live without us. He sent ➢ Birth control pills meddle with a woman's
his own son to redeem the world. immune system, making her more likely to
➢ We believe in the resurrection of the body. contract certain STDs.
➢ The body and desire are good in and of ➢ Because of its link to breast cancer,
themselves. The body is able to make visible what veterinarians stopped prescribing Depo-
is invisible. Provera for dogs. However, it's still being given
➢ Glorify God with our Body to women.
➢ Our body is the temple of the Holy Spirit
Modesty
➢ There is a difference between dressing attractively
and dressing to attract.
What are the Important Elements of Marriage? ➢ When women wear suggestive clothing, men will
❖ Free - through personal consent. finish the picture with their imagination.
❖ Faithful - a promise of exclusivity ➢ Modesty is closely related to mystery and helps to
❖ Total - holding nothing back guard purity.
❖ Fruitful - open to the gift of new life ➢ Many believe that modesty in dress is far more
attractive, dignified, and classy.
What about the message of 'safe' sex?
➢ Safe sex is an absolute joke. Women
➢ Its is medically inaccurate and insulting to ➢ Pope John Paul said, "God has assigned as a duty
women. to every man the dignity of every woman."
➢ It generates a false sense of security ➢ Ephesians 6 "Husbands love your brides as Christ
encouraging risky behavior. loved the Church."
➢ Sex has more consequences than a condom ➢ A man who looks at a woman lustfully commits
could ever protect against. There is no condom adultery with her in his heart.
for the heart of the soul. ➢ Purity is about wanting heaven for the women we
love. Women are a gift to be received not a goal to
be conquered. Every woman is somebody's ➢ Chastity is a sure way to happiness as it sets
daughter. Imagine your future bride. you free to love rather than use. It is a stable
A dump him list for girls foundation for a happy marriage. It brings
integration, gratitude and joy, preparing us in
faithfulness that brings us closer to God.
➢ A source of self respect, clear conscience,
less pressure, the wisdom of how to respect
others, improved sex in marriage, help in
finding the right mate, the development of
virtues.
➢ Doesn't matter where you have been, or
what have you done, it's always possible to
start again.
A Final Exhortation
➢ Don't be afraid to be the saints of the new
millennium! Christ is calling you. The
Pornography Church needs you; the Pope believes in you
➢ Trains the mind to want women to be constantly and he expects great things of you.
sexually available and physically flawless.
➢ Is a fantasy based on lies, manipulation and 7 Myths about Sex
profit. It destroys marriages, degrades women, ➢ The sex drive functions in the 3 different
emasculates men and distorts the emotional and planes of the human personality.
spiritual dimensions of sex.
❖ Sex and the Body
Top ten myths about sex ➢ Sex is the most intimate physical bond that
can exist between two persons. It involves all the
senses. Seeing, hearing, smelling, tasting, feeling.
➢ "Sexual intimacy is more than the bringing
together of sexual organs, more than the reciprocal
sensual arousal of both partners, more even than
mutual fulfillment in orgasm. It is the experience of
sharing and self-abandon in the merging of two
persons, expressed by the biblical phrase, 'to
become one flesh'."
Summary