HEN PARTY

Protocol
A wife is a gift that God gives to those who respect him, because a good wife makes her husband prosper
and rejoices him in the years of his life; moreover: "Blessed is the husband of a good wife, for he shall live
twice as long" (Eccles 26:1-3). But to the woman also God, in his goodness, has reserved his inheritance,
hence he commanded through Moses that she should be given possession in the midst of the brethren (Jos
17:4). And to delimit this inheritance as a sign of ownership, a string called "cuerda de apeo" was used, and
this string or ribbon will soon be draped over their shoulders when they promise to love and respect each
other all the days of their lives before the altar. For the Lord has said: "The portion of my people shall be
measured by a line" (Mic 2:4). So that bond will be marking the part that each of you has been granted in
inheritance. They are for each other, the gift of God. _______________ and _______________ (name of the
bride and groom) will be property forever and will enjoy happiness because "to find a spouse is to find the
best, it is to receive a token of God's favor" (Prov 18:22).
It cannot be separated by man and will unite them forever in the name of God and the Blessed Virgin. Here,
we want to give you as very real symbols, what in your white wedding should never be missing:
Bible "I am the light of the world (says the Lord), he who follows me will not walk in darkness, but will have
the light that is life" (Jn 8:12). "And if they are the light, they will take Jesus and keep his word and bear
witness to this so that the Heavenly Father will love them and the Father and Jesus will come and make his
dwelling in their hearts" (Jn 14:23).
Therefore, the best thing we can wish for you is that your marriage is not a marriage of two but of three:
Jesus, _____________ and _________________ (name of the bride and groom), because then the peace
and joy of the Lord will accompany you forever with love in Christ Jesus.
The Bl essed Virgin The Blessed Virgin is the model of a spouse and mother. No one like her can give us a
better example. Entrust your married life to Mary, our Heavenly Mother; invoke her in your needs, so that
your judgment may be upright like hers. He always knew how to say "Yes" when it came to love.
Christ Jesus died to save all men, He lowered Himself to the unheard of and fulfilled the will of the Father to
die and rise again. Many times during the course of their lives, they will feel sad and humiliated. Think of
Jesus, of his word which is true: "Whoever desires to come after me, let him take up his cross and follow
me". By fulfilling the will of the Father, they will be reborn and live in the Kingdom of God.
You will always need candles in your house, think that the important thing about light is that it helps us to
see things clearly. You know that on many occasions the light of joy will end. For this he has recourse to
Christ who is the light of the world.
Kitchen utensils. These important kitchen utensils are for you to make delicious dishes for
___________________ (boyfriend). Hopefully they will help you to give your life that important and special
seasoning in the kitchen, just as joy and good humor are so important in your relationships.
Cup and saucer: Cup and saucer always go together. Sometimes you ____________(boyfriend) will play the
role of the cup and sometimes you will play the role of the plate. Likewise, you _____________ (bride) will
be a saucer at one time and a cup at other times. The plate receives what the cup spills and serves as
support and support in all situations, especially in the most difficult ones, when it is most full of problems or
difficulties. The cup receives and can be filled with good liquids or bitter drinks. May this sign help you to
remember the mutual support you should always have for each other. Empty your hearts of evil, of
temptations and let the liquids that could rot run away. Seek always to be filled with the best of yourselves
and the best of life.
Honey "Come to me, you who desire me, and be satisfied with my fruits, for my spirit is sweeter than
honey, and to have me is sweeter than to have a honeycomb" (Ecclesiastes 24:19-20). God's wisdom will
direct their lives so that they will walk in paths of eternal life.
Salt Shaker "You are the salt of the earth" (Mt 5:13). Salt to preserve the taste of Christ, that taste that the
brethren must share. Salt that will be spread to fertilize, allowing new shoots of Christianity to be born in
this region. "Have salt in yourselves and live in peace with one another" (Mk 9:50).
Sugar bowl How many tasty sweets you can prepare for ___________ with sugar, this indispensable
product in the home; think that being sweet is very important in marriage for it to last. One of the virtues
most appreciated by men is precisely gentleness.
Rice "Blessed are all those who fear Yahweh, those who walk in his ways, from the work of your hands you
shall eat, blessed are you, for all shall be well with you, your wife shall be as a fruitful life within your house.
Your children, like olive shoots around your table" (Ps. 128, 1-3). May your home be fruitful with that
fruitfulness that is not only manifested in motherhood but also in good works, healing sickness, encouraging
the suffering and treating everyone with charity.
Bread and wine "Strive not for the food of a day, but for other food which endures and gives eternal life: it
is the food which the Son of Man will give you" (Jn 6:27). As you give thanks daily for your food, remember
that from God's mouth comes the bread and from his mouth also the word that we need. May the wine
with which you sprinkle your meals remind you of the joy of Christian fellowship, which was blessed by
Jesus at the wedding feast of Cana (a blessing that had the dimension of God's love: "to overflowing").
Wine, which he later wanted to turn into the food of eternal life.
Coins "God is able to fill them with all kinds of benefits, so that they may always have enough and be able
to share abundantly in every work" (Cor 9:8). "Water quenches the burning flames, alms forgives sins. He
who responds by doing good prepares his future, and when he falls he will find support" (Eccles 3:39; Prov
10:13).
THE SHIP: Your ________(boyfriend) will soon become the captain of this ship. It is the ship with which you
start a new adventure in your life, but you will no longer travel alone, ______(girlfriend) will accompany you
and your duty will be to make her happy. Take the helm bravely and face the storms, the rough seas, the
cyclones that want to threaten them. Sail with the one who will be your wife forever and do not forget that
the peace of a home is similar to the always beautiful peace of the ocean.
Sewing box These threads will be very necessary in your home because they will be useful to baste and
rejoin the small cracks that time could open in your hearts.
Here you should keep the most valuable jewels that will be the virtues that will make you really see with
unparalleled beauty, the beauty of the soul.
Pot Cultivate with dedication this little plant just like the great love that unites you today and try to remove
the weeds of bad friends who would like to harm you.
Cookbook This cookbook will help you prepare the best menus, for when you are alone or have guests. Let
____________(groom's name) help you, he will put the finishing touch or the biggest mess in the kitchen,
but he will be proud to cooperate. Remember that the best seasoning is the one you give to your food and
your daily life.
Fabric. When ____________________ (boyfriend) and you met, you began to weave a new life and your
God-given gifts and talents came together. They met, they knew how to communicate, they shared their
illusions, fears, they loved each other and for that reason they are going to get married. Now, in your new
life, continue to knit your own stitches together, each one contributing their gifts and talents of love,
freedom, understanding, joy, intelligence, communication and above all "forgiveness".
Cleaning (Broom, mop and dustpan) These utensils will help you clean and erase the stains that bad
moments may leave in the way of your love.
Tools. With these tools you will be able to start fixing everything you need in your house, at the beginning
you will use everything to fix your new house, but little by little you will see that the routine will make you
sometimes need to change the decoration, put nails where something is breaking, file roughness in some
parts or screw the screws that over time may loosen. The routine of your life can be the same, smooth the
rough edges you find on your way, using the best tool: understanding.
First Aid Kit In this kit you will find what you need for first aid, remember that many times you will have to
be a nurse, doctor and even a healer. Your ability to use aspirin in time will sometimes help you avoid an
upset. Learn to see with the eyes of the soul the important things and to give the sufficient dose of love,
understanding, scolding, energy or sweetness when needed.
These gifts are given to the bride and groom at the same time that their meanings are read; the reading can
be done by the person giving the gift or by any other person. If there are more gifts for the bride and groom
and the meaning is not found here, it is possible for the gift givers to improvise a few words.
Congratulations!
 HEN PARTY
INTRODUCTION
When a Christian engaged couple wants to unite their lives through the sacrament of marriage, previous
celebrations and festivities are prepared with enthusiasm and joy.
All these celebrations only want to express the wish of congratulations to the future spouses and that the
new family they are going to found will be lasting in love.
However, we have witnessed that little by little these actions have been distorted by introducing to them a
series of obscene aspects, clearly referring to sex for sex's sake, which make no sense and thus create an
unpleasant and sometimes embarrassing environment for the hosts and participants of such meetings.
We as a team of evangelizers, in presenting this BIBLICAL FAREWELL, only wish to offer a more positive
proposal of celebration, in order to take advantage of these moments of fraternal union and make the most
of them.
We propose that the meeting have two very clear moments and that it be convened in this way. The first
moment is properly the spiritual or prayer and the second moment is properly the festive one, where the
music, the joy and the amusing games will make you taste with greater satisfaction the canapés, the
pastries or whatever you have prepared as an ambiguous place to offer.
This should be made very clear to the guests so that everyone participates in the two sharing times and
does not feel uncomfortable. Especially if some are not Christians.
We suggest having an appropriate place to carry out each one if possible and if not, at least have a different
atmosphere. It is also recommended that the "godmothers or godfathers" who are going to give the
symbolic gifts be the ones to buy, decorate and offer them. Each sponsor should read his or her own
excerpt.
The guide or monitor should be a pleasant person, i.e., preferably known to everyone and friendly. The
reader should review the reading he/she is responsible for so as not to say one thing for another. We
suggest that you read slowly, clearly and with good intonation. This is very conducive to people's attention.
There is nothing better that we can offer to those we love than our prayer and our time. Enjoy the meeting
and praise the Lord because He is very good, because He is the giver of all good feelings, because He is love
itself.
MONITOR (A):
Friends and family gathered here. The upcoming marriage of ___________ and _____________ summons
us to this celebration.
Very soon a new home will be born in our society and in the bosom of the Church to bring joy to this world
that today more than ever needs faithful witnesses in love. Of witnesses who make real for us the presence
of Christ, the model spouse of truth.
Let us feel joyful and live this moment to the fullest. Let's get ready to have a fraternal and spiritual meeting
in which we only want to ask God to bless __________ and __________ from now on.
I invite you to open our celebration in the name of the Father + and of the Son and of the Holy Spirit.
ALL: Amen.
MONITOR (A):
 Let's start our biblical bachelorette party in the best way, listening carefully to the Word of God that
today wants to be present through the following story taken from the book of Ephesians of the Bible, which
speaks tenderly to the people regarding the most important gift that Christian couples should live. Let's pay
close attention because after reading, I invite you to share out loud the idea that most caught your
attention or stuck in your mind.
READER (A):
From the letter of the Apostle Paul to the Ephesians. (5,21-31)
Submit to one another out of reverence for Christ. Let wives submit to their husbands as to the Lord. Indeed,
the husband is head of his wife, as Christ is head of the Church, his body, of which he is also Savior. And as
the Church submits to Christ, so the wife must submit in everything to her husband.
Husbands, love your wives as Christ loved the Church and gave himself for her, bathed her and sanctified her
in the Word, through water baptism. For, while it is true that he desired a splendid Church, without spot or
wrinkle or any such thing, but holy and immaculate, he himself had to prepare it and present it to him.
Likewise husbands should love their wives as they love their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.
And no one has ever hated his body; on the contrary, he nourishes and cares for it. This is precisely what
Christ does for the Church, for we are part of his body.
The Scripture says: For this reason a man shall leave his father and mother and be joined to his wife, and the
two shall be but one.
(brief pause) Word of God. ALL: We praise you Lord.
MONITOR (A):
Whoever wishes, spontaneously and in brief words, share with us what struck you most from the previous
reading and why.
You must invite the participation of 4 or 5 people other than the bride and groom. They will listen.
MONITOR (A):
Undoubtedly, these reflections are beautiful and enlightening. After having listened to them, I invite you to
give them the first big applause of the afternoon (evening) to _________ and _________ because God has
set his heart and eyes on them and has called them to live a very special vocation.
At the end, they can be applauded.
MONITOR (A):
Immediately ________ and ________, we are going to give you some signs that have been prepared for you
this day as a special gift. Their friends and family who have brought them here want to express their wish
that what they stand for becomes a reality in their next home. Receive them with much affection, because
your godparents have prepared them with much affection.
THE LIGHTNING CYRUS: They were born into a Christian family, under the love and example of their
parents. They were the ones who taught them to love God and to recognize Him as THE LIGHT that
illuminates the darkness.
THE LIGHT OF GOD is the light of joy that does not turn on with an electric button. The beauty lies in
knowing how to create light from nothing. May your marriage never lack the light of hope, the light of faith,
the light of charity. We wish that together you will be a light to the world; that your home will always be
illuminated with the Light of God.
 (The candle is handed to them and they are given a hug)
THE BIBLE: You know this book, it is the Word of God and the life of His only Son. In your home, you will
certainly have many books, perhaps very good books, but you should never be without THIS BOOK, because
in it you will find all the answers to your questions. May it be your bedside book, because in it you will find
company for your times of loneliness, strength for your moments of weakness, wisdom for your moments
of decision. Open this book! Read it! Don't let it be just an ornament, use it so that you can walk safely
every day of your life.
(The Bible is handed to them and they are given a hug).
THE CRUCIFIX: A crucifix is a must in your new home. The cross is the symbol for Christians of the greatest
proof of God's love that we have. It is the symbol of sacrifice but also of salvation and life. Always
remember that sacrificing for each other is only sanctifying each other. Make sacred every moment of your
life together. Keep in mind that you must carry the cross with joy every day and do not try to carry other
crosses that can only hurt and harm you.
(The cross is handed to them and they are given a hug).
THE SHIP: Your ________(boyfriend) will soon become the captain of this ship. It is the ship with which you
start a new adventure in your life, but you will no longer travel alone, ______(girlfriend) will accompany you
and your duty will be to make her happy. Take the helm bravely and face the storms, the rough seas, the
cyclones that want to threaten them. Sail with the one who will be your wife forever and do not forget that
the peace of a home is similar to the always beautiful peace of the ocean.
(The boat is delivered to them and they are given a hug).
LA MACETITA: Plants are like love. In order for them to bloom, the soil must be fertilized. They have to be
watered, cared for, desired. It is necessary to remove the garbage from them and above all to love them
very much. The same goes for the love of spouses. This little plant must be respected above all, for it is alive
as your love. They should shower it with the details of kindness and cordiality. They will have to pay for it
with forgiveness and trust. Take away the garbage of jealousy and lies and so many other things that can
stifle it. To ward off the plagues of bad friendships and neglect. As of today, this little plant depends on both
of us. Take care of it and make it flourish.
(The pot is handed to them and they are given a hug).
THE SEWING BOX: This sewing box is to be kept at hand at all times. Always remember that a stitch in time
is worth more than a thousand patches or a thousand apologies later. With the material of this sewing kit
you will be able to make invisible seams, mend mistakes, darn holes, cut what gets in the way. They may
deal with pin or snap issues that require diplomacy. Here you have threads to unite the disunited. If you
glue a patch, be sure to do it well and with love, so that it is not noticeable and can stay stuck forever. Know
that from now on you are responsible for the highest couture, that of your married life. Be sure to make the
necessary stitches every day and remember that the sacrament locks are there to ensure your sewing.
(The sewing kit is handed to them and they are given a hug).
THE CUP and THE DISH: The cup and the dish always go together. Sometimes you ____________(boyfriend)
will play the role of the cup and sometimes you will play the role of the plate. Likewise, you _____________
(bride) will be a saucer at one time and a cup at other times. The plate receives what the cup spills and
serves as support and support in all situations, especially in the most difficult ones, when it is most full of
problems or difficulties. The cup receives and can be filled with good liquids or bitter drinks. May this sign
help you to remember the mutual support you should always have for each other. Empty your hearts of
evil, of temptations and let the liquids that could rot run away. Seek always to be filled with the best of
yourselves and the best of life.
(The cup and saucer are handed to them and they are given a hug).
KITCHEN UTENSILS: Utensils are important in the kitchen. With them you can prepare delicious dishes to
eat. May these serve to spice up your lives and give you that special and important spice of each day.
Remember that good humor and joy are indispensable ingredients to cook good feelings and cordial
treatment. Do not forget that "you are the salt of the earth" and salt serves to preserve and make food
tastier, so that it spoils us. Be salt to each other, for without salt there is no good taste. Don't let your life
become bland.
(The utensils are given to them and they are hugged)
CLEANING UTENSILS: Don't let your love get dusty, filthy or full of dirt and cobwebs. Have those details that
have conquered them, that are needed and liked. Take care of good manners among yourselves, they are a
sign of education, refinement and respect. Do not vulgarize your home with bad words, gossip or teasing. If
any of this happens, be ready to clean, to scrub, to wash what is dirty, what is stained. Don't let anything
eat away at your love. Dirty clothes are washed at home, don't forget it. May their problems not transcend
the walls of their home and that every night, before going to bed, they may be satisfied to contemplate
each other with clear eyes.
(The utensils are given to them and they are hugged)
BOTIQUIN: This first aid kit will serve to cure your wounds, pains, cuts, burns and other ailments. Someday
they will have differences, and no matter how simple they may be, they must be cured in time. Everything
can be healed if there is the will to do it and the right instruments. Do not forget that to heal sometimes
you have to cause pain, but that pain is redemptive, that pain is healing. They have the perfect doctor, GOD.
Turn to him with confidence that he will alleviate your worries and give you the best prescription. He will
ease your sorrows and make your burden lighter.
(The first aid kit is handed to them and they are given a hug).
IMAGE OF THE VIRGIN MARY: At the end of these gifts I want to give you the Virgin Mary. His life was not
easy, but he always knew how to say YES when it came to doing God's will. He said YES to the unknown with
full confidence. She said YES to the marvelous, to being the Mother of the Word of God. She said YES when
she fled with her baby in her arms to Egypt no matter how difficult the journey. He said YES to educate him
freely and let him go when the time came. But he also said YES to fully enjoy family life and the life of his
community. May she be your example. Go to her as children, always with the confidence that she will
understand you and assist you maternally. With her by your side, you will never lack good wine, the wine of
true love.
(The image of the Virgin is given to them and they are embraced).
MONITOR (A):
We reached the end of the spiritual part of our meeting. Let us give thanks to God for this moment that will
surely be unforgettable by reciting together and especially for ________________(them), the same prayer
that Jesus taught us.
ALL: OUR FATHER.
MONITOR (A): Let's give another round of applause to ________________ and ________________ and
continue from now on commending them to the Lord in the name of the Father + and of the Son and of the
Holy Spirit. Amen. May they be very happy!