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AIDS Phobia
AIDS Phobia
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The author introduces and defines AIDS phobia. He illustrates the hypochon-
dria type of AIDS phobia from a combined individual, couple, and family
treatment perspective. He describes the treatment process and outcome after
an effective countertransference-based intervention, connects the individual
manifestations of the index patient’s illness to the family dynamics, and con-
cludes with an analysis of the multigenerational contributions to the individ-
ual’s psychopathology.
KEY WORDS: family therapy; psychoanalysis; AIDS; phobia; countertransference.
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soon be fatal. He avidly watches all the normal and usually harmless bodily
symptoms. Any fatigue, spots on the skin, swelling of the lymphatic glands,
diarrhea, night sweats, or slightly increased temperature cause panic and
endless visits to doctors’ offices and tests. A negative result of an HIV test
provides relief for only a few days. AIDS hypochondria is accompanied by
insomnia, decreased work drive, severe relationship problems, and impov-
erished quality of life. AIDS hypochondriacs tend to imagine that they will
be rejected and excluded by their family and friends, but they accept it as
a justified reaction to their imagined disease and a suitable punishment for
their usually single sexual misadventure. Their behavior becomes increas-
ingly incomprehensible for the people around them, and so the fear of being
infected with HIV is not only a psychological problem for the individual,
but, also, it becomes a family issue requiring couple or family therapy.
AIDS Paranoia. In AIDS paranoia, the fear of getting infected involves
feelings of hatred for, and persecution by, those who are infected, and wishes
to scapegoat and attack them (Richter, 1987). Those who suffer from AIDS
paranoia control their own sexual conflicts by means of aggression against
HIV-positive people whom they stylize as their enemies. They tend to pursue
their aims politically rather than to present for therapy.
Many studies have looked at the connection between AIDS phobia and
other phobias (Jäger, 1988; Hirsch, 1989) such as cardiac neurosis or phobia
and hypochondria (Rosenfeld, 1964). A few case studies consider the fam-
ily (Neraal, 1988; Woidera and Brosig, 1990), but most of them offer only
glimpses into the problem and omit the relevance of family therapy. The
following case study of a combined individual, couple and family treatment
offers insights into the dynamics of the AIDS phobic individual, his family
relations, and treatment difficulties. The psychodynamics of behavioral pat-
terns in the microcosm of a single treatment is illustrative of how society at
large deals with AIDS.
at night, and burning sensations on his tongue. Two lymphatic glands have
been removed without benefit. Previously an avoid soccer player, since
falling ill, he has abruptly stopped all sports activities and has become
flabby.
Spontaneously, he told me that his mother’s over-protectiveness, which
he attributes to her having lost her own mother, means that she cannot stay
alone in the house at night. Her anxiety has had an inhibiting effect on
everybody in the family. Like her, Heiner is an anxious type, not as severely
anxious as she is, but still cautious and health-minded. He does not smoke
and tries to lead a healthy life.
His father is the exact opposite of his mother, namely tough and ambi-
tious. He got Heiner and his brother involved in sports, especially in the local
soccer team. The whole family is now involved with the soccer team. For six
years, Heiner has had a girlfriend, Karin, with whom he has a one year-old
daughter. At first, his girlfriend’s pregnancy was an unwelcome surprise be-
cause he still wanted to be single, and so he refused to marry her. His parents
didn’t like her. Even though he and Karin come from the same village, he
demanded that they live together in another town. The arrangement didn’t
go well, and he often went home to his mother. For six years he tried to
“please everybody but he got nowhere.” When he used to complain about
Karin, it was only to escape his parents’ criticism. He said that he felt “like
a relay station” whose function it is to transmit information from one side
to the other.
Heiner told me more about his sporting life as a member of the soccer
club, a men’s club noted for its chauvinism and enormous group pressure.
“There,” he said, “being a man is everything. We travel together to away
games, and after we’ve had a few drinks, each man wants to make the best
impression on the women. As a result, people do things they really don’t
want to do. These men are really wild.” He went with his soccer teammates
to Ibiza, and there he was egged on to have his first one-night stand. Not to
appear like a “a nerdy intellectual” he felt obliged to drink, do dumb things,
and fornicate like the others so as to “be one of the guys.” Throughout
the return flight he experienced “hellish anxiety” with lots of guilt about
sleeping with a prostitute and had to get drunk to calm himself. He still
feels guilty and ashamed that he was so weak. He partly blames his parents,
arguing that, had he married his girlfriend two years ago, then he could
have avoided Ibiza altogether. He thinks that he allows people to influence
him too much and that he does not listen to himself. He believes he is HIV
infected, even though all the doctors have told him that he is clear, and this
fills him with anxiety and depression. He believes that this is his punishment
from God.
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The parents see the girlfriend Karin as the main cause of Heiner’s prob-
lems. The mother suspects that Karin got pregnant against Heiner’s wishes so
as to catch him. Turning to her son she said, “Be honest, you didn’t want that
child, did you?” Heiner agreed and added that he was indeed overwhelmed
by Karin’s pregnancy. The father believes that Heiner’s illness broke out
after he got back with Karin who had left him three months earlier. The
brother is brutally honest about how unattractive Karin is and how wrong
she was to have left Heiner. The mother believes that her negative attitude
toward Karin is justified because Karen was mean to have left him and not
even once did she prepare breakfast for him, despite the fact that he was
travelling all day long. Since Heiner always brought his laundry to his mother
and ate meals at her house she thought that Karin did not really take care
of his needs and that he really deserved a better woman.
FORMULATION
AIDS anxiety broke out after Heiner made up with Karin. By em-
bracing his girlfriend and child again, Heiner separated and differentiated
from his mother, but the continuing conflict between loyalty to his mother
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and attachment to his girlfriend brought about deep unconscious guilt feel-
ings for which AIDS would be the perfect punishment. His illness defends
him from further reproaches by his mother because he appears punished
and he needs mercy. The “sick” body is both the punished self and the
mother against whom his deathly aggression is directed. By remaining ill
and misunderstood, he is protesting his role as a relay station and thereby
wins the strength to stand up for his opinions, even at the cost of
self-injury.
I have the impression that the brother stubbornly sticks to his demean-
ing and wounding statements about Karin and her unappealing looks in
order to prove that he, unlike Heiner, is able to keep his distance, to be inde-
pendent, to have his own opinions. At any rate, he achieves this at the cost
of excessive harshness. Whereas Heiner oscillates between various opinions,
the brother shows a brutal certainty.
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and needs her protection, but is deathly disappointed and hurt for having
been abandoned by her. Unconscious hatred against her mother reappears
in the sharpness and coldness towards Karin. Since the age of ten, Heiner’s
mother fought against her hatred of her mother by projection of evil into
the environment and by reaction formation in the form of special love, care,
and sacrifice for the sake of her family.
FORMULATION
system of strategies of denial, distancing, and turning into the opposite. For
instance, he turns his rage towards his father into its opposite, concern for
his health. They are close, yet both refer jokingly to shooting each other.
The father has secured his son’s loyalty with a mixture of threats and
support of masculine pursuits. The son subjugated himself to his father in
order to avoid aggressive conflicts with him. In order to please the father,
he had to deny the softness, weakness and anxiety that his neurotic mother
had inspired in him. He is trapped between his mother’s anxiety-neurotic
relationship and his father’s ambitions. Identifying with masculine and fem-
inine elements, Heiner embraces his parents’ differences, desperately trying
to find a compromise between his father’s and his mother’s expectations.
An increased leaning towards the mother aroused symbiosis anxiety,
whereas a more intense relationship with his father would stimulate
passive homosexual feelings. Heiner feels contempt for his passive and anx-
ious tendencies, which he sees as unmanly, weak, and ultimately as indica-
tive of homosexuality. His AIDS-anxiety is connected to an unconscious
homophobia.
Heiner gained weight, lost his bulky muscles, felt weak, and became
anxious about having AIDS, a physical embodiment of his psychological
state of softness, anxiety and weakness. In this way he turned into the image
of a man that his father has made him feel contempt for. By hurting himself,
he is taking revenge on his father who has been weighing him down with
extreme ideals of manliness, confronting him with his repressed fears of
weakness, and throwing himself back on his mother’s mercy.
According to Richter’s (1972) family typology, Heiner’s family is phobic,
borderline between anxiety-neurotic and paranoid. Clinical studies show
that such a phobic family climate fosters heart-neurosis and hypochondriac
ideas in children (Richter, 1972; Rosenfeld, 1964). The mother has organized
the family like a sanatorium ruled by harmony and togetherness (Richter,
1972) in which conflicts and tensions are to be resolved as quickly as possible,
and a healthy life style is supposed to ban all evil, which then is found in
others such as Karin. Evil then returns from the outside persecutor and since
it cannot exist inside the psyche must be projected into the body (Hirsch,
1989).
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talk to Heiner about his feeling torn between his mother and his father. To
meet his father’s and his own adopted standards, he can’t allow his soft side
to develop and tries to escape into a macho attitude that actually does not
suit him. Heiner agrees with that. For the first time it is possible to talk to
him about such things.
Half a year after the termination of treatment, Heiner’s psychic state
has become more stable. He is not as depressed anymore, can go to work and
has started to exercise again. He and his wife have bought a house in a far
away town where he is working, and soon his wife and children will join him.
He distanced himself from his parents for some months and is now talking
to them again. Although Heiner is now feeling much better, he has not given
up his fixed idea that he is suffering from AIDS. When he had a high fever
due to influenza, he went to research institutes specializing in AIDS, was
convinced that he was dying from AIDS, and made his parents come and see
him. The institutes are still busy testing him for some unique virus that has
not yet been identified. Heiner speaks very well of the institutes. He feels
accepted and taken seriously. Maybe the positive transference that he has
developed for the head of the institute will provide a transference cure for
stabilizing his psychic state.
Why were Heiner’s hypochondriac ideas so tenacious, and why did they
bring relief? He could locate his anxiety in an object that he could under-
stand more readily than his parents’ contradictory and partially unexpressed
expectations. He could feel victimized by fate. He could blame himself for a
single instance of moral failing and accept his punishment for that, but since
it was a family secret he didn’t need to hear remonstrations and reproaches
from his friends. All the aggression he didn’t dare acknowledge towards his
mother and father he could redirect into raging against fate and fighting his
lethal disease or attacking his body fatally because he deserved punishment
and rejection for his moral failing.
Heiner gained freedom from family expectations and interference. His
fixed idea that no one wanted him because he had AIDS made him an
independent person for the first time. Whereas he usually shaped his opinions
according to his parents’ point of view, he could now stick to his own ideas
of what was wrong and what to do about it, regardless of the personal cost,
becoming the strong man that his father wanted and avoiding causing his
mother unbearable anxieties. At the same time, being ill, he was constantly
betraying his adopted ideal of manliness. He couldn’t direct his anger at
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his father because he was stronger, and he couldn’t direct it to his mother
because she was weak and might break down, and then whom would he
depend on? Hating and destroying himself let him express his hatred for his
parents indirectly and cause them tremendous pain and guilt. His illness says
to them, “Look, here is the monster you have made me!”
By remaining immune from all attempts to being talked out of his fixed
idea of an AIDS-infection, Heiner created a sense of himself as a stable
and autonomous person, even if unstable in everyday situations. The mere
fact of having an opinion that others doubted and opposed made him feel
strong, brave and independent. The more people objected to his disease,
the more self-confident he felt. At the same time that he felt bad and weak
from psychosomatic illness, he felt strong being connected to the greatest
authorities in the field of AIDS research. Heiner’s AIDS-hypochondria was
armor against his ego weakness and feelings of inferiority. As the cause for his
desperation and depression, the fear of AIDS was more acceptable to Heiner
than the fear of the break-down of his ego, and the fear of its dissolution if
cut off from his mother. He projected all his fears into his flabby body and his
illness to avoid being frightened or sad. In order to recover, he would have
to be brave enough to feel the fear, the rage and the sadness appropriate to
his inner life, his history, and current family situation.
The family therapist usually meets the family at a time when the neu-
rotic family configuration is changing (Richter, 1972). Heiner’s AIDS-phobia
shows that the collective neurotic defense system within the family has be-
come unstable. Throughout the years, the family had centered around the
anxiety-neurotic mother to cover for her illness. As Heiner tried to separate
from the family, the incompatibility between his desire for independence
and the family’s ideology became obvious. Heiner had to suppress his sepa-
ration and individuation wishes and had to punish himself for that in keeping
with the family rule that nobody should do anything that could endanger the
mutual dependence of the family members, especially their dependence on
the mother as the leading figure. The family lived according to the motto:
“We are a closed society and live in beautiful harmony in our nursery-like
world. Evil exists only on the outside.” He who tries to separate destroys this
family consensus and destabilizes the entire family-neurotic defense system.
Heiner paid for his striving for autonomy with massive feelings of guilt and
fear due to the internalization of previously projected persecutory feelings,
which led to the development of individual symptoms.
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