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Man is by nature a social animal whose inclination it is to live in the company of others.
Something within us compels us to live in society with others. We are naturally bound to
form relationships with other people. What can we say about the social associations we
make? What does their nature say about us? Aristotle addresses these questions on
three types of friendships: those based on utility, those based on pleasure or delight, and
In the first type, friendship based on utility,peopleassociate for their mutual
because it benefits me when my car is in the shop. I am his friend because he wants my
business. My coworker is my friend because the workday would be more painful if he
were not. My classmate is my friend because I learn more when we study together. This
satisfactory.
In the second type, people associate for the sake of sensual pleasure.We should
understand Aristotle’s use of “sensual” pleasure broadly: while physical types of pleasure
are included in this group, so is general pleasure or delight. The crazy guy who is a friend
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because he’s hilarious fits into this category; so does the person you’ve been partying
to facilitate one’s own pleasure. Again, these are self-regarding or self-focused
relationships.
many forms of them necessary: for instance, business relationships are necessary since
pleasure will end when their objects end. A business relationship will end when a better
one presents itself. A friendship with an exciting person will end if he becomes boring.
On the other hand, one may be uninterested in or blinded to the greater potential in a
selfless ones.
friendship.This type completes the intended designor purpose of Friendship. This entity
is thefinal causeof friendship. Its participantsnecessarily share a set of values and
Each friend, by his own qualities, helps to fully realize what is not only potentially in the
other but also realized in the other. He respects and honors and, therefore, sustains,
encourages, nurtures, supports, and celebrates what the other is and can become.
As you may suspect, these relationships are the most rare of friendships, as they require
mark? Will only few such friendships ever form, given therarityof the truly virtuous
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finding each other? The theoretical Aristotle might implyas much, but, above all,
Aristotle was a practical philosopher, and he offered this teaching to aid more than a few
moral elites. Even between friends of greatly differing quantitative degrees of virtue
(successful “execution” of a virtuous life), qualitative virtue (the desire for the other’s
good for the other’s sake) can be shared rather equally. Consider this paraphrased
quantitatively different virtues but desire the good of the other. Take the
and training and performs for the true enjoyment of the audience. The
enthusiasm, musical education, and love to the concert and wishes for the
best performance for the sake of the art and artist. In this way, people of
Therefore, despite our particular shortcomings, if we bring disciplined, selfless love to
What can we take away from this lesson? First, try to realize, without judgment or shame,
into which categories our friendships fall. Do those friendships of utility or pleasure blind
us to the good in others or ourselves? Do they stunt our growth or that of our friend? Do
they handicap our ability to be as good as we can be? Second, where the answers to the
in virtue is one of habitual decisions toeventuategood of the other. It’s a lifelong task,
but, luckily, those few flourishing relationships will permit the exercise.
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