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AITA for going off on a mother in the toy store

I'm (28M) and am my brother’s caretaker (21M mental age 7-8), our parents decided at 18 to
tell us to get out, so when my brother Bill turned 18, I grabbed him and enrolled him to get his
high school equivalency certificate since he didn't finish high school. He lives with me and has
chores which are to clean his room, help with laundry, and set the table for supper. I get paid
by the state and I make sure his needs are met.
At the end of the month for each day he does his chores, he gets a sticker, at the end of the
month that sticker gets counted as $5, and he uses the money for whatever he wants, like toys,
special snacks, etc. He loves this.
He's been so good lately with chores, I took him out for burgers and fries and to the toy store.
My brother is big, not fat, just tall and actually big boned (he's a healthy weight and in good
health). He gets excited and stims by flapping his hands like a bird’s wings. Some people don’t
know how to react to this. The medical term for this is stimming.
At the toy store, he announced he wants a Barbie -- cool, no judgement, so we go look at
Barbies. He's stimming and talking about what he wants. During this a woman and little girl
come to the aisle. Not even two minutes pass and she told us to go to another aisle. She
wanted to look at the dolls, and his weird hand movements were freaking her out. I told her to
wait her turn.
Not even another minute passes and she told my brother to knock it off and go look at
something else. Now, I'm pissed off. I told my brother to get what he wants, and I looked at her
and said her daughter could use a better role model, I'd hate for her to turn into such a grouchy
witch.
I took my brother to pay for his Barbies while ignoring her telling me how much of an a-hole I
am for saying that in front of her daughter.
AITA?
2. AITA For Telling My Sister She Was Dating My Bio-Father?
So, my life has turned into a bloody soap opera recently, and I could use some outside opinions
here.
I (24F) am the product of my mom having an affair. Fortunately, my dad decided to forgive my
mom and keep me, and I had a pretty good upbringing. But I don't really look a lot like the rest
of my family (I'm the only redhead, among other things), and I did ask questions of a 'why am I
the only one that’s different?' while growing up. When I was 17, my mom took me out for ice
cream and introduced me to my real father. She said that she felt I was old enough to know the
truth, and explained about her affair, while making me promise I wouldn't tell my older sister
(now 27F) and hammering home along with my bio-father that he'd never be part of my life and
didn't want me.
It was a lot; I won't lie; but I learned to suck it up and move on with my life. Fast forward to the
present, my big sister has always been attracted towards older men (we like to joke that it's the
result of too many George Clooney movies growing up). Two months ago, she shared a picture
of herself and her new boyfriend. To my shock, he turned out to be my biological father.
I debated what to do for a couple of days, but ultimately, I decided she needed the truth and
told her. My sister did not take it well and dumped him, but she wasn't angry with me.
Honestly, she's kinda amused, says that since she banged my dad, she's my mom and has extra
power to boss me around now.
My mom on the other hand, is furious. She says I divulged something that wasn't my secret to
share, and that I had no business telling anyone. Since my bio-father isn't related to my sister, it
didn't matter if he dated my sister, and it wasn't like they were talking marriage anyway. It's
been two month, and she's still angry, still snide, calls me a traitor, and finds excuses to make
loud comments about how I can't be trusted with anything private or important.
At the time, I thought I was doing the right thing, but I've never seen my mom this angry
before. She's kept this anger for 2 solid months, so I'm starting to worry. Did I actually do
something really shitty?
3. AITA for telling my MIL that I’m not the one with fertility issues
Me (32 M) and my wife (32 F) have been trying to have a baby for several years now.
Unfortunately, she is probably unable to get pregnant. We’ve run several tests, and it’s only
hers that come back with bad news. Additionally, I accidentally got a girl pregnant a few years
before I met my wife (the girl had an abortion). The point is I can produce kids, but my wife
probably can’t.
I don’t blame this on my wife at all. In fact, I’m excited to talk about our other options:
adoption, surrogacy, and fertility treatments. I love my wife so much, and I want to raise kids
together, even if they’re not biologically ours.
I was on the phone with my wife’s mom the other day, and she started saying some weird stuff.
She said it was okay that I couldn’t have kids, but maybe we could find a sperm donor for my
wife. She thought I’d be a good dad even if the kid wasn’t related to me, etc. I was confused, so
I told my MIL that my wife was the one who was having fertility issues. My MIL told me that my
wife told her I was the one with fertility issues.
I was sure it was a harmless misunderstanding, so I talked about it with my wife. She got really
mad at me. She said I had no right to tell her mom that she was having issues getting pregnant.
She said it was something very personal to her, and she felt awful just thinking about how her
mom now knew it was her “fault” that we can’t have kids. It’s not her fault. She didn’t choose
to have problems. She said that it was her mom, and I should have just gone along with it
because she always wants to be good and capable in her mom’s eyes.
I feel bad, but I had no idea she had told her mom it was me. Also, I don’t know why she had to
say who had issues with fertility when she could just say that we are having issues. My wife said
I was an AH for telling her mom. AITA?
4, AITA for telling my daughter she caused her own problems?
My wife and I are both 48 with two daughters, Liz (30) and Ash (24). I’m not sure where to start with this
so I’m just going to jump right into it.

Liz used to date a young man named Pat. They were together for five years starting in college. In their
fourth year together Pat was accepted into medical school while Liz struggled. She worked as a dockside
worker, and desperate for more income Liz took up side jobs and took a job in a local pizza shop to get
management experience. From the outside looking in, Liz was working long hours while Pat was being
crushed in school. They ended up getting engaged however, but Liz cheated on Pat and got pregnant.
Their relationship ended obviously.

Ash went to the same school as Liz and graduated without any hiccups. She works in finance, and she
seems to be very happy in life. We couldn’t be prouder of her.

Last year, Ash approached me and her mother about a guy we knew she had met. It was Pat, and they
had met while they were both working. To make a long story short, they have been dating for over a
year now, and Ash seems to be very happy, while Pat still seems like a great guy.

Liz has not taken this new development well at all and has made a big drama about this. My wife and I
both warned Ash this was going to be a huge problem, but she said she was sorry for Liz but she threw
Pat away. So she didn’t care how she felt about it.

Liz’s life has been difficult to say the least. She has two children as a single parent, and her career has
never really taken off. She doesn’t do bad; however I guess she had higher ambitions. Her life is certainly
tougher than Ash’s, and now that she’s dating a doctor who she once was engaged to, she’s on a
downward spiral.

Friday night Liz came over and asked us to watch her children, but my wife and I weren’t up to it. One is
special needs, and we just don’t have the energy for it sometimes. She had a meltdown where she
unloaded her emotions on us, and I told her that her problems are her own fault.

She chose her degree, she chose her job, she chose to cheat, she chose to have kids, and she chose to be
a single mother. These were all her choices, and I for one am sick of hearing how bad her life is all the
time.

AITA?