7 Day Action Plan to a Connected Relationship

Create UN-MESS-WITH-ABLE connection

with your one-and-only
...so you can confidently speak your truth, ask for what you need and create the connected love you crave

Hi! I’m Erica

I am a Transformational Relationship Coach and
Connection Specialist and I teach people how to create
un-mess-with-able-connection in their relationship by
connecting back to themselves.

“You can only connect as deeply with your

partner as you’ve connected with yourself.”
I believe that the quality of your relationship determines
the quality of your life.

I combine transformational education and neuroscience

in a way that powerfully shifts perspectives on what it
truly means be in an extraordinarily connected
relationship. My programs are specifically designed to
give people the tools they need to connect deeply,
communicate powerfully, ask for what they need, and
create a rock-solid relationship full of passion, trust and
loving intimacy.

Signs of a
Disconnected Relationship
• Feeling emotionally disconnected
• Bickering & silly little fights
• Wishing your partner would change
• Not feeling understood or appreciated
• Feeling frustration or irritation
• Not speaking up for what you need
• Feeling bored or like “roommates”
• Feeling resentment / bitter / passive aggressive
• Blame, judgment, criticism, control
Signs of a
Connected Relationship
• Feeling emotionally CONNECTED
• Bickering turns into deeper conversation
• Confidently communication what you need
• Feeling seen, heard, understood, appreciated
• Sharing openly, vulnerably, intimately
• Willingness to heal your past hurts (
• Spark and passion is in the air
• Taking responsibility for how your feel
• Curiosity, Alignment, Empathy

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7 Days to a Connected Relationship
It’s the little things that add up to create EXTRAORDINARY relationships. Focus on just one thing each day
to elevate the passionate connection, rock-solid trust and confident communication with your partner.
DAY 1
TAKE 100% RESPONSIBILITY
Take your power back...
Notice when you blame your partner for how you feel
(your triggers) or for the status of your relationship. It
is YOUR JOB to be the source of your own happiness.
Stop playing victim to your life and start creating the
type of connected relationship you desire & deserve!
DAY 3
AKNOWLEDGE YOUR PARTNER
Little things go a long way...
Share in person or text : “Hey love! I was just thinking
about you and how much you do for the kids and me.
Thank you so much for always helping me get them to
bed - you are so sweet with them. And thank you for
emptying the dishwasher this morning! That was so
thoughtful. I love you so much, can’t wait to see you!”
DAY 5
TURN JUDGMENT INTO CURIOSITY
Start to notice...
when you are judging your partner. As soon as you
Day 1: Your Secret Sauce
judge, you are creating disconnection. Instead, see if
you can get curious about WHY your partner might
say what he said or do what he did. This is an opportu-
nity to practice compassion and understanding.
DAY 7
RELEASE RESENTMENT
Become aware...
What are you feeling resentful about? How is your
quiet and connection-destroying resentment breaking
down your relationship? What needs to happen for
you to release this self-sabotaging feeling?
TRY: Sharing what is bothering you with your partner.
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DAY 2
SHIFT ATTENTION TO THE POSITIVE
Implement the 5-to-1 ratio
As found by relationship researcher, Gottman,
successful couples had 5 positive interactions to every
1 negative interaction. Can you start moving your
attention to what you love about your partner and
see if you can increase your positive interactions and
communications?
DAY 4
TURN HARSH START UP > SOFT START UP
INSTEAD OF:
“You never remember to do what I ask!”
TRY:
“Hey love, would you please put your shoes away?”
DAY 6
TURN CONTROL INTO TRUST
Start to notice...
when you feel the need to control your partner or
your environment. Stop and take a moment to uncov-
er the root of your need to control. Where did this
come from? Does control make you feel safe? Is there
something you don’t trust your partner to do?
What is behind your need to control?
BONUS DAY! YAY!
PLAN AN EXCITING DATE
with yourself...
The most important relationship we have is with
ourselves. Your romantic relationship is a reflection
of your relationship with yourself. Give yourself the
space to reconnect with your true essence.
with your partner...
New, fun experiences create connection like no other!