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An author reflects on her pre-pandemic pronouncements about children’s technology use and offers new
advice, like focus on feelings, not screens.
Before the pandemic, I was a parenting expert. I delivered conferences and told worried parents about the nine
signs of tech overuse, like ditching sleep for screens. I advised them to write a “family media contract” and
trust, but verify, their tweens’ doings online. While I was on the road, my two daughters were enjoying modest,
cute little doses of Peppa Pig and Roblox, in between happily attending school, preschool, after -school activities
and (1) play dates, safe in the care of their father, grandmother and our full-time nanny.
My point being: I have never, ever, spent this much time with my children, or anyone’s children, as I have over
the past four months during shelter-in-place orders. Nor have I contemplated working full time, while my
husband also works full time, without sufficient child care, let alone while dealing with multiple weekly
deadlines and 5 a.m. live radio hits, in an insanely stressful 24-hour news cycle where it’s actually, kind of, my
job to (2) doom scroll through Twitter (well, at least it’s job-adjacent).
I want to take this moment to apologize to anyone who faced similar constraints before the pandemic and felt
judged or shamed by my, or anyone’s, implication that they weren’t good parents because they weren’t
successfully enforcing a “healthy balance” with screens, either for themselves or their children.
An immediate consequence of the pandemic is that strict screen-time limits — which were always largely the
province of more privileged families, like mine — went out the door, everywhere. In March, when most
children in the United States were sent home from school, traffic to Zoom more than tripled and more than
doubled for Google Classroom.
But on reflection, some of the ideas and principles I used to intone so confidently have actually shown their
mettle in new ways in this new world. I offer them to you now, humbly. I speak softly and do not carry a mic.
Go slow
Decades of research on graphic violence in movies and video games has suggested exposure can foster fear and
desensitization. In children, extremely fast-paced media are suspected to challenge attention spans. And a lot
of popular video games and many children’s apps have bells and whistles that can make them very hard to stop
playing and also can hurt our children’s developing attentiveness.
Look for media that are slower. They are harder to consume compulsively and make the brain do a little more
work. For littles, YouTube is full of read-aloud videos by the likes of the former first lady Michelle Obama and
the actor Josh Gad.
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Older kids do better with audiobooks and podcasts. On rainy days, my big girl can clock hours with her favourite
dragon book series while drawing or colouring on the iPad, and the little one will sit next to her and listen for 30
blissful minutes at a time.
Vocabulary. Find the words or expressions that match the following definitions (they are all among those
highlighted in yellow):
1 (phrase) used after a statement, usually a negative one, to indicate that the statement is even more true of
the person, thing, or situation that you are going to mention next. LET ALONE
Write below any other vocabulary from the text you consider worth learning:
For example:
Coping strategies (to cope)
To be glued to (something)
Play dates
Doom scroll
On reflection
Attention spans
To go out the door
etc
1 Do you think children spend too much time glued to screens? Or do you think adults exaggerate?
2 Should adults limit the time kids spend on screens? Or should they just let kids go with the flow? At the end
of the day, adults are also glued to screens.
3 What the author proposes to combat addiction is not to eliminate the use of technology, but to reduce and
repair. What’s your opinion on that?
4 How do we solve the problem of being on lockdown and entertaining children?
5 What moments of the day should be device-free at home?
6 Should children have mobile phones? What is the best age to start using a mobile?
7 Read the following extract of an interview to a University professor and then explain why you are in favour or
against his approach:
Jordan Shapiro, a Temple University professor whose background is in philosophy and psychology, has a
prescription that might surprise you. In his new book, The New Childhood, his argument is that we're not
spending enough screen time with our kids.
"One of the things I suggest in the book is that kids should be starting on social media much younger," he says.
And, play more video games with your kids, too.
After Shapiro's divorce, he found himself solo parenting two little boys (now 11 and 13) who were obsessed
with video games. He started playing the games simply as a way to connect with them. Then he discovered
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connections between the emotional catharsis and interactive storytelling on the screen. He came to realize that
part of his job as a parent was to help his children make sense of their online experiences and teach them how
to uphold enduring values in the new world they are living in.
GLOSSARY
(1) Play date or playdate is an expression primarily used in the US for an arranged appointment for
children to get together for a few hours to play.[1] It should not be confused with dating as there is not
an implied romantic component to it.
(2) Doom scroll is when a person scrolls through his newsfeed online to find the latest information about
the COVID-19 pandemic. The term became popular in April of 2020. ... People often scroll newsfeeds on
social sites, like Facebook and Twitter.