Professional Documents
Culture Documents
Shusheng Li
Professor Smyrl
ESL117A-2550
genders has slowly improved with the rise of feminism, individuals in Chinese society are still
heavily labeled with gender. Men and women are sharply distinguished, with strict expectations
placed upon each gender. Since I was a child, I've been different from other boys. I never had
any interest in typical male hobbies, such as sports, car models, and robots. Instead, I enjoyed
fairy tales and collecting stuffed animals, which are traditionally considered female preferences.
In primary school, most children are not yet affected by strict gender perceptions, and they are
not able to understand gender labels. Therefore, I was not aware of my difference back then.
When I entered secondary school, I began to realize that I was "unique". Due to my different
interests and personality, it was difficult for me to establish close friendships with boys. I also
enjoyed interacting with my female friends more. Because of my supposed "feminine" qualities,
not everyone understood me, and even my parents questioned me. The oppression of gender
men" and "others." "Non-masculinity" refers to what is called "Femininity" If people do not
outsiders or "other individuals." This sort of thinking is deeply rooted in society, and people
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living in the same society often unconsciously try to change themselves to fit male norms. Even
in the subconscious of many women, being a man is a more prestigious existence, and they strive
to "become male" as a goal. I once forced myself to change for "male identification," but after
reading many social science books, I realized that today's gender identification is outdated and
not in line with current times. In particular, gender cannot be roughly divided into "Masculinity"
and "Femininity."
Learning the Social Meanings of Gender," Devor hit the nail on the
maintain the male group. Sojourner Truth's strong speech in 1815, "I
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plowed and planted and gathered in barns and no man could lead me
and ain't a woman. I could work as much and eat as any man when I
could get it and I could bear the lash as well,"(from 1:06 to 1:25)
woman's worth is considered to come from men, and that men are
"man box," can lead men to act in ways that go against their own moral
status within the "man box," and how this made him complicit in a
make it difficult for men to act according to their own values and
struggles to open a bottle, despite using great force and the woman
says”I’m just fucking with you”(53). He could easily ask for help from
the woman who is with him, but he chooses not to, because he wants to
ask for help shows how gender stereotypes can limit men's ability to
ask for the support they need and can prevent them from seeking help
when they need it most. These examples show that the gender
stereotypes that men create and uphold can limit their ability to act
ethically and to seek help when they need it. Men need to start
live more fulfilling and authentic lives. By doing so, men can create a
more just and equal society, and work to end the oppression of women
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stereotypes can we hope to create a world where men and women are
valued equally, and where all people are free to be their true selves.
Gender expression should be diverse, rather than being rigidly divided into two
Gender," Devor makes a point worth thinking about "In some cases, cross-gender behaviors are
ignored by observers, and therefore do not compromise the integrity of a person's gender display.
In other cases, they are labeled as inappropriate gender role behaviors”(475). This emphasizes
the subtle reactions to gender identity expression, where some behaviors are accepted while
others are stigmatized. In "We're All Someone's Freak" by Gwendolyn Ann Smith, the
protagonist asks a transgender friend about the potential discomfort of coming out publicly
(184). This emphasizes the complex dynamics within the transgender experience, underscoring
the intricate interplay of individual identity, societal perceptions, and the evolving landscape of
gender awareness. The multifaceted nature of transgender narratives reveals a rich tapestry of
personal journeys, resilience in the face of societal norms, and the ongoing quest for
understanding and acceptance. Roxane Gay expressed in "A Tale of Three Coming Out Stories,"
"We act like placing people who are different from others in categories will have some impact on
our lives, or that creating these categories is our responsibility when, most of the time, such a
taxonomy won't change anything at all"(178). The categorization based on subjectivity does not
have substantial significance, especially in our daily lives. Gwendolyn Ann Smith’s experience
supports Devor's concept of "social judgment and hierarchical structures." However, through
Roxane Gay's proposition, we should learn to eliminate subjectivity and "social judgment and
hierarchical structures."
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With the widespread availability of the internet, the younger generation now has
Learning the Social Meanings of Gender," Devor rightly emphasizes that "Children learn that
they are both as they see themselves and as others see them" (474), suggesting that even at a
young age, children possess the capacity to grasp the nuances of gender identity. This awareness
is crucial in dismantling traditional gender norms. Jamaica Kincaid's "Girl" vividly portrays the
stark contrast in behaviors expected from males and females in the past. The instruction to
"WASH THE WHITE CLOTHES ON MONDAY and put them on the stone heap" provides a
glimpse into the restrictive experiences of young girls in bygone eras(476). This narrative
powerfully aligns with Devor's argument that "children will imitate the behavior of adults and
become what others think they should be." The implication is clear—adult behaviors
significantly influence a child's understanding of gender roles. In light of this, there is a pressing
need to prioritize education on gender identity for children. It is incumbent upon society to be
mindful of the behaviors exhibited in front of young minds, as these actions can either challenge
individual self-perception, we can contribute to a future where gender identity is understood and
Living in a society where masculinity holds sway, the burden on someone who identifies
styles and expectations of the "normal" male group is a constant struggle. I can relate to this
internal conflict, as the attempt to fit into a mold prescribed by societal norms often leads to a
sense of fragmentation and a loss of authenticity. In societies deeply rooted in Confucian culture,
challenging traditional norms can seem like an uphill battle. The weight of history and ingrained
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beliefs can create an environment resistant to change. Despite these challenges, it's crucial to
recognize that societal expectations should not dictate our identity. It's a journey of self-
discovery, and the power to define who we are lies within ourselves. I've personally grappled
with the conflict between societal expectations and my authentic self. The realization that
conformity only breeds internal discord pushed me to question and redefine my identity on my
terms. It's a process that requires courage and self-reflection, but ultimately, the freedom to
decide who we want to be is empowering. While societal norms may be deeply ingrained,
embracing our true identity becomes an act of resilience. Each individual has the agency to shape
their own narrative, breaking free from the constraints of predefined roles. It's a call to action,
encouraging us to be true to ourselves despite the pressures to conform. In essence, the journey
towards self-discovery and authenticity is a universal one. By recognizing that our identity is a
personal choice, independent of societal expectations, we pave the way for a more inclusive and
diverse understanding of masculinity. This self-determined identity not only liberates the
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Adrian, Tomine. “Chapter Two” Shortcomings. Ed. Drawn & Quarterly, 2009. pp. 43-74
Nonfiction. Ed. Melissa A. Goldwaite et al. 14th ed, 2016, (1993). pp. 172-76.
Devor, Aaron. "Becoming Members of Society: Learning the Social Meanings of Gender."
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Rereading America: Cultural Contexts for Critical Thinking and Writing. 10th ed.
Gay, Roxane. “A Tale of Three Coming Out Stories.” The Norton Reader: An Anthology
of Nonfiction. Ed. Melissa A. Goldwaite et al. 14th ed, 2016. pp. 178-83.
Kincaid, Jamaica. "Girl." Rereading America: Cultural Contexts for Critical Thinking and
Smith, Gwendolyn Ann. “We’re All Someone’s Freak.” Rereading America: Cultural
Contexts for Critical Thinking and Writing. 10th ed. Bedford/St. Martin's, 2016. pp. 184-
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I particularly enjoy the personal experience section, as it contains my authentic examples and I
As we need to do a lot of reading first, we have to find suitable sentences from the articles. Then,
we need to connect the quoted words with our own opinions well.
4. Based on feedback from your peers and myself, what changes did you make from your
In the peer review, Sana and Choi suggested that I reduce the number of sentences in my
introduction. As a result, I deleted some irrelevant sentences and ensured that each paragraph
b. Name at least 1 thing that I suggested that you changed (but you must incorporate all of the
Based on your feedback, I should switch up some of the verbs, so I have attempted to reorganize