BETTER SEXTING

WHAT IS SEXTING?
At the basic level, sexting involves two people texting each other about their erotic fantasies.

Keep in mind, “most men lead lives of quiet desperation” so creating sexual tension and the idea that you can
relieve that tension is a key skill that will keep our customers returning for more.
Many men experience a lack of fantasy in their lives - and so it's our job to give them what they crave. Many
have thoughts of sexual desires and experiences they would like to try but they don't dare discuss them in
their IRL relationships … this is where you come in.

Give them the knowledge that, when chatting with you, they’re in a safe space where they can explore
whatever fantasy that floats their boat (unless it’s illegal).
 CREATING A PERSONALITY
Many agents create generic messages and questions. This leads to the model sounding boring and mundane. We should
be creating models with different personalities. Some may be funny, or sassy, more serious, kinky or vanilla... all of it
though should still be customer lead.

Remember to always make her compatible and MAKE THOSE NOTES TO DOCUMENT THE IMPORTANT CHARACTER
POINTS FOR YOUR TEAM-MATES, PLEASE!
 STAY IN CHARACTER
Conversation goes wrong because an agent does not follow the characters profile. We keep conversations going by ensuring
we check trigger messages notes and the description when answering or asking questions. Ensure you fully understand the
conversation by reading the last 5 messages in order to get a understanding of the current conversation.
When you see terms or words that you do not understand, make a note and log out. Read up about the term so you learn how
to act on the next conversation that has the words and terms included. This will allow a more experienced agent to handle the
chat.
The trigger message created by the client to get the chat started is a good tool to use to understand the kind of personality
you are adopting for the chat. For the trigger messages “I am only here for sex and fun, I’m not looking for a relationship” or
“What would you give to slide your cock inside of my warm & wet cunt? we cannot be a conservative and modest wallflower
since the trigger message is written by someone outgoing.
It helps to be well-versed in sexual terms, kinks and fetishes. We need to ensure we can cater, understand and play on any
type of kink or fetish the client might have. Google is a good resource to start learning and there are a lot of erotic literature
resources out there that provide excellent inspirational tools for you to use.
 STICK TO HIS TOPIC AND LEARN THE TRADE
If the customer wants to talk about BDSM, for example, then the model should be curious or knowledgeable
on this subject. Again, read up if you don't know how to behave, act or keep the conversation going. It's your
job to understand the needs of our customers and that means understanding all of their fetishes and desires.
Sticking to the topic of his choice and not changing it will keep him talking a lot longer. This means that
questions should also be on topic.

Example
− He says: I love tying a woman to the bed and pushing her legs wide open so she's exposed to the world. I
can then take my time to make her cum while she is pinned down to my mercy.
− She says: Yes, I've never done that (make the notes) but I would love for you to do that to me. I would let
you do pretty much anything. I don't know if I would feel shy though with my legs wide open like that.
Would we have the light on? Gosh, I think that's a massive turn on actually now that I'm thinking about it.
My body is responding and my pussy is dripping.

(Remember questions can be at the start, middle or end)

 SHOW APPRECIATION AND ENTHUSIASM
Customers may at first feel shy or concerned about sharing such fantasies so make sure you reassure them
that you’re just as open minded and into the fantasies as they are.
Since the conversation is text based and customers, obviously, cannot hear the tone of your voice or see any
facial expressions or body language, it’s vitally important to go the extra mile for your chat partner to make
them feel comfortable, interesting, and attractive. Therefore, it’s important to make sure your content is comes
across as warm, sexy, interested in your partner and inviting at all times.

One way of achieving this is to tell the customer how you are feeling and the positive effect chatting with the
customer has on your physical and psychological sexual arousal.
For example, blushing, wetness, increased heart rate, nipples and/or clitoris hardening, increased levels of
desire and sexual fantasy, etc.
 EXAMPLES
− You are making my pussy hot and wet right now. My panties are sticking to my pussy lips and I'm going
to have to take them off shortly. Goodness, I do wish you were here to pull them off with your teeth so
you can clean up my juices. My pussy hole is begging for your tongue. Are you going to lick me clean as
fast as my gash flows for you?
− My nipples are so hard because of you and I can see them through my T-shirt. Did I tell you I hate to wear
bras? I can feel my top grazing on my hardened nubs and it's making me want to finger fuck my gash. I
hope that you're going to be proud to see my nipples rock hard for you out in public?
− I'm aching for your touch. You are making my body tremor with need and desire. How can I feel so
strongly about you so soon? Gosh, I think that I'm going to cum just by rubbing my legs together. I'm
wanting to feel your strong body on top of mine, pushing my legs open with your thighs. I want to feel
your wet and hard cock ready to fuck me. How are you going to push it into my fuck hole, slow or fast?
 TRUST & DON’T JUDGE
Don't judge the customers for the fantasies they may have and ensure you present the profile to them as highly compatible with
their interests and fantasies.
A lot of customers will fear being judged for their fantasies and it's our job to make sure they all feel at ease and comfortable to talk with you
about all their desires and fantasies. Allowing them to do so enables us to learn all we need to know to deliver engaging content that will arouse
them, satisfy them and encourage them to come back for a repeat experience – so log the important info.

The customers should be able to share their fantasies, desires, and feelings without feeling like they’re vile, abominable creatures. They’re paying
for escapism and a safe place to explore their sexuality, so always present yourself as an open-minded person who will never judge them or
make them feel lesser for having the particular kinks that they have.

Many men have kinks, taboo thoughts, and fantasies that they feel they can't share with their wives, partners or anyone in general. If you can
present the profile you’re chatting with as the only person the customer can share these kind of thoughts and ideas with your response rate will
soar!

Never-ever make the customer regret opening up to you about fantasies they have by responding in a negative, mocking or judgemental manner.

Good motto to take on... if it's not hurting anyone else… then it's all good fun.

But remember........

Always stick to company rules regarding forbidden topics

 TAKE THINGS SLOWLY
Sexting is, in certain aspects, very similar to real life sexual connections. If you go straight for the hard-core
your man is going to pop over the edge quickly and you will lose his interest a lot quicker than you needed
to.
Use your imagination … do not place the emphasis on the customer for them to drive the chat.

Set the scene but make it evident to the customer that they’re chatting with someone who is equally aroused
and as up for having some sexy fun as they are. Try and take things slowly and build up tension. Allow
yourself time to build the fantasy up over a few messages, teasing the customer without giving them all the
details they want immediately.

With textual-sexual foreplay it’s important to take your time and get those extra messages in and if you do it
right, the customer won’t mind at all that they’re having to spend tokens to further explore the fantasy.
 TAKE THINGS SLOWLY – EXAMPLES
− You have got me going and I've not felt like this for a while. I think that my goosebumps are suggesting I
need you. Just imagine, you're here with me right now and I'm lying naked in front of an open fire. My
nipples are hard and I'm panting slightly. I look up and gaze into your eyes. Would you prefer me naked
or should I be in lingerie?
− I was lying in bed this morning with my cotton sheet wrapped around my legs and I thought of you
spooning up behind me. I could feel your legs up against my thighs and it made me sigh. I wanted to
push my ass back onto your hard cock. I felt desperate to feel you next to me, wanting me and needing
me. Would you please, tease me for a little while?
− I love having sex in open spaces and so I can't help but imagine you taking my hand and leading me into
a densely wooded area. You push me up against a tree and I feel the bark push into my hardened
nipples. I know that I want you right there but you slowly pull my panties down from behind, kneeling
down to lick my little squirter. Would you be open to playing in open spaces with me?
 LEARN THEIR LUST LANGUAGE.
Read what the customers write carefully .... What pet names does he like to use and have used on him? What
words turn him on? Are there certain words for his genitals that he likes? Read carefully, make note of his
preferences and follow on with what turns him on. It's all about reading, taking in what he is saying and being
aware of how your guy is responding to different scenarios or names etc.
Equally, he might find some things a turn-off. Again, read carefully, make notes and divert back onto
something he does like.
It's okay to ask questions but once he's told you, don't question him. Accept and, of course, as always, make
the note!
 BE SPECIFIC WITH YOUR SEXTS
Many agents will ask the customer to explain what he wants to do to her, placing the emphasis on the
customer to create the fantasy … this is a failing tactic and should be avoided at all costs! The responsibility
is on us to use our imagination to create a sexy fantasy scenario that will take life in the mind of the client.
We should be describing, in thrilling detail, what our desires for him are, what we want from the customer
sexually and what we will offer the customer sexually.
 BE SPECIFIC WITH YOUR SEXTS – EXAMPLES
− I'm feeling so horny right now that my slit is wet and I'm gagging for your hard dick. I want to feel your cock so
deep inside of me that your balls push into my asshole. I know that the ridge of your bell end will make me cum
as it rubs onto my g-spot. My pussy is soaking wet right now and I know that I would cum just with your tongue
sliding up my pussy lips. Would you want me to cum in your mouth or on your cock?
− I love doggy style because of the way you can grab my hips and fuck me deep. I hope that you love ass-play too.
I love to feel your finger in my butt at the same time as you fucking my juicy fuck hole! God, I need your cum so
badly. I want to feel you fill me up and then you can lick me out straight afterwards. Do you like the taste of your
own spunk?

− I love BDSM and would love to suck your dick from behind you. I want you bent over so I can pull your balls back
while they are full and ready to explode. I want to pull your cock right back and tease the fuck out of it. I'll use
my tongue to start with but after that, you're going to want me to jerk you so fucking hard that you will be
begging me. I hope that you're open-minded enough to do this.
 GIVING IT A FEEL OF REALITY
Often a sexy scenario can go wrong purely because a chat agent hasn't engaged their imagination enough
and they lead the scenario down a path that isn’t logically possible.

For example, the woman you’re playing in the scenario bend over, presenting her pussy and begging for the
customers cock to enter her, but then, with no explanation on how this turn of events has transpired, the
woman is suddenly on her back with her legs spread open.

So make sure you picture the scenario in your mind beforehand and run through the logical steps onto the
next possibility.

Allow the fantasy to flow freely but with make sure you retain an element of reality as the backbone to your
chat dialogues.
 POSITIVE VALIDATION
Making our customer feel wanted and needed sexually and in other ways is going to keep him coming back
for more.
Suggesting she “can't wait to feel his cock deep inside of her”, or “you turn me on so much” is going to make
him feel special, wanted and sexually needed. He may not have felt this for quite some time in his life.
 SHARING FANTASIES
Make sure that your model has her own fantasies. Far too many agents push for the customer to talk about his fantasies alone
but if you make your model sexy and fun, open-minded and ready to talk about sexual ideas herself, he's much more likely to
want to open up himself.
Examples

− I've often thought of something that turns me on, I've never felt like I could share this before but I feel close enough to you that I can. I love the
idea of a man wanting to share me with his best friend. I just love the idea of being pleasured by more than one guy. My ex wasn't very good in
bed and so I didn't get the satisfaction I was looking for. I think this might be where this fantasy has come in. Does it turn you on or off?

− I must admit, I've never had anal sex but often fantasized about it. I love the idea of having my butt taken for the first time but in a loving and
gentle way. I think about how sexy but also dirty this would be. Do you find yourself cumming too quickly though with it being so tight? Or
have you also not ever had anal sex?

− I can't stop thinking about you eating my pussy out. I hope you don't mind me being so open and honest with you but I find you so very sexy
that my panties are wet nearly all of the time since I've started talking to you! Do you think you would be able to keep up with my very greedy
pussy?

− I love the idea of me getting down onto my knees and slowly taking your cock out of your jeans. I want to see it tense and quivering in front of
my face. I'm going to lick from the base of your dick right to the tip until you beg me to take the whole lot into my mouth and down the back
of my throat and I'll show you then how much I want you! Do you want me to choke on your cock?
 PRACTICE MAKES PERFECT.
There's a learning curve with any new skill, so don't worry if you feel a little awkward or silly at first. You'll get
the hang of it. Confidence is key and when you’re doing it well it will become clear! You’ll receive positive
affirmation from the user and your confidence will grow.
Remember that your sexting confidante is not expecting award-winning literature or photos. Part of what
turns them on is the idea of who they’re sexting with and that they’re sexually attractive and desirous for him.

If you need more support, come and ask one of the coaches who will be more than willing to take the time to
support you in this area.