Alex Mathers

@alexmathers84

7 behaviours that make people

attracted to you
I’ve spent most of my life awkward and in my head.

I always wanted to make a good impression, so I

learned a ton from my mistakes and did everything
possible to improve my relationships.

Here are some curious things I learned:

1. Have a calming influence.

It’s easy to fall into the habit of self-directed concern

when in social situations. ‘How am I coming across?’
‘Do I look stupid?’ Etc.

Choose to enjoy your interaction and allow your calm

aura to relax those around you.
2. Quit habits that bring you shame.

Much of our sense of confidence is developed in

moments when we needn’t perform.

‘We create an identity when we do things that make us

feel bad about ourselves.

A poor self-image will flood into all areas of life.

Live well and with pride, and you will exude an

attractive energy.
3. Listen beyond the words.

Most people are not present in conversations. They’re

too busy thinking about the next witty thing to say.

This is why you set yourself apart by listening. I mean

*actually* listening.

Why? Because a vast amount of communication is non-

verbal. You’ll surprise people by how well you read
them when you truly listen.
4. Reveal less about you.

What happens when you’re hell-bent on telling

everyone about every dirty aspect of your life?

People know exactly who you are.

There’s no mystery here.

For attraction to flourish, we can’t know everything

about you.

Be mysterious.
5. Open up physically.

You may be nervous, but if you’re closed to another

person physically and psychologically, this will unlikely
be felt as warmth by others.

Drop your shoulders, loosen up physically and take up

more space.

This not only signals a welcoming aura, but it will relax

you, and your mind will still.
6. Soften your face.

I’ve been known to tighten up when speaking with

people, and my expression can be too intense.

You needn’t smile like a crazed ape who’s eaten too

many bananas, but you will appear more attractive by
softening your expression with a light smile.
7. Make others look important.

A counterintuitive concept in human behaviour is that

those who appear important often make others look
important.

Insecure people highlight faults in others.

Attractive leaders forget themselves and make others

look and feel great.
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