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IN 16 WAYS
EMOTIONLESS-COLD
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How to Be Emotionless: 16 Ways to Lose Feelings & Gain Control
That can leave you feeling like a counselor to everyone you know.
Because you are a good listener and care deeply for others, it
canfeel like all of your emotional energy is being spent helping out
your friends and family members.
If you want to know how to be emotionless, sometimes, you just
have to not answer the phone or not be the one who drops
everything to help someone through their emotional crisis. Likely,
you have enough on your own emotional plate. [Read: 16 signs
you’re being taken for granted by the ones you love]
3. Stop internalizing
If you are a social-phobe, don’t stick yourself into situations that are
going to provoke high stress. Being emotional makes it more difficult
to be in tense or stressful social situations.
If you know that going to a family wedding is going to let out your
emotional monsters, then skip it. You don’t have to do things that
aren’t good for you. [Read: Too empathetic? How to detach yourself
and have a better life]
5. Put yourself first
No one knows you better than you. And yet, do you constantly go
seeking validation from others to make yourself feel better?
Love yourself, focus on yourself and believe in yourself. If the number
of social media likes or how many friends you had around you on your
birthday defines how emotionally happy you are, that’s a recipe for
disaster. [Read: When your friends don’t wish you happy birthday –
The power play games they’re trying]
As hard as it is, don’t rely on others to create the happiness in your life.
Love yourself and learn to create happiness from within. Do this, and
it’ll help you control your emotions a lot better.
Do you apologize to others all the time, for the smallest slights? Do
you find yourself obsessing over some mistake you did, even if it’s
something the other person doesn’t care about? Maybe now is the
time to learn to stop apologizing for things that aren’t directly in
your control.
When you apologize for everything, you take the blame for
everything that goes wrong. And that makes you more emotional,
guilty, and sad.
Own responsibility for the mistakes you make, but stop believing
that everyone deserves an apology because you choose to put
yourself first for once.
12. Implosive anger
Do you hold everything that upsets you inside, until you can’t hold
it anymore and then explode? Of course, if you’re doing this, you’d
want to learn how to be emotionless!
But you need to ask yourself here, do you want to be emotionless,
or do you need to learn how to express your emotions better?
If you can learn to speak your mind, honestly and politely, in the
first place, there would have been no reason for you to build your
rage to the point where you have to lose it!
Sometimes, it isn’t about learning how it be emotionless, it’s more
about learning how to express your emotions better.
13. Distract yourself momentarily
We’re human, we can think. But that doesn’t mean every thought
that passes through your mind is healthy for you.
Self-deprecation, self-hate, feeling like a loser, or hating yourself
for feeling too emotional – these are the thoughts you don’t ever
have to believe in, or give power to.
Every time you think something negative about yourself, say
something positive using your words to give strength to yourself
and your self-belief.