THE RELATIONSHIP MANAGEMENT IN THE LIGHT OF ISLAM AND

PSYCHOLOGY.

AFNAN MUKHTAR, LAIBA NAEEM, SARAH MURTAZA AND DUAA SAEED.

BACHELORS CANDIDATES AT DHA SUFFA UNIVERSITY.

 ABSTRACT:
THE RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ISLAM AND PSYCHOLOGY HAS BEEN A
TOPIC OF DISCUSSION AND DEBATE AMONG SCHOLARS FOR MANY
YEARS. SOME MUSLIMS BELIEVE THAT PSYCHOLOGY IS COMPATIBLE
WITH ISLAMIC TEACHINGS AND CAN BE USED TO PROMOTE MENTAL
HEALTH AND WELL-BEING WITHIN THE MUSLIM COMMUNITY. ON THE
OTHER HAND, SOME CRITICS ARGUE THAT PSYCHOLOGY IS
INCOMPATIBLE WITH ISLAM AND THAT ITS PRINCIPLE AND PRACTICES
ARE CONTRAY TO ISLAMIC BELIEFS.

IN ISLAM, THESE GOALS ARE ACHIEVED THROUGH A SPIRITUAL

CONNECTION WITH ALLAH, WHILE IN PSYCHOLOGY, THEY ARE
ACHIEVED THROUGH VARIOUS PSYCHOLOGICAL INTERVENTIONS AND
TECHNIQUES. THIS PAPER COVERS HOW ISLAM AND PSYCHOLOGY CAN
HELP IN MANAGING OUR RELATIONSHIPS. IN TRUTH, ISLAM TEACHES
US LOVE IS KIND, NOURISHING AND PURE.
KEYWORS: RELATIONSHIPS, MENTAL HEALTH, WELL-BEING,
PSYCHOLOGY.

 INTRODUCTION:
ISLAM PLACES GREAT IMPORTANCES ON RELATIONSHIPS, BOTH WITH
 ALLAH AND OTHER HUMANS BEING THE FOUNDATION OF
RELATIONSHIPS IS BASED ON THE CONCEPT OF TAWHEED, WHICH IS
THE ONENESS OF ALLAH. MUSLIMS BELIVED THAT ALL HUMAN BEING
ARE CREATED BY ALLAH AND ARETHEREFORE EQUAL AND DIGINTITY
AND WORTH. THIS BELIVES FORMS THE BASIS FOR THE ISLAMIC
TEACHING ON RELATIONSHIP.
IN ISLAM, THE MOST IMPORTANT RELATIONSHIP IS ONE THE BETWEEN
A PERSON AND ALLAH. MUSLIMS ARE ENCOURAGE TO WORSHIP ALLAH
AND TO FOLLOW HIS GUIDANCE IN ALL ASPECTS OF THEIR LIVES. THIS
RELATIONSHIP WITH ALLAH IS BASED ON LOVE, FEAR, AND HOPE, AND
IT IS CONSIDERED TO BE THE FOUNDATION OF ALL OTHER
RELATIONSHIPS.
ISLAM ALSO EMPHASIZES THE IMPORTANCE OF MAINTAINING GOOD
REALTIONSHIPS WITH SPOUSES, FAMILY MEMBERS, FRIENDS,
NEIGHBORS AND EVEN ANIMALS. MUSLIMS ARE ENCORAGED TO BE
KIND, SOMPASSIONATE, AND REPECTFUL TOWARDS OTHERS,
REGARDLESS OF THEIR RACE, RELIGION, OR SOCAIL STATUS.
ISLAM TEACHES THAT GOOD CHARACTER IS THE KEY TO MAINTAINING
HEALTHY AND HARMONIOUS RELATIONSHIPS WITH OTHERS. MUSLIMS
ARE ENCOURAGED TO BE PAITENT, FORGIVING, AND COMPASSIONATE
TOWARDS OTHERS, AND TO AVOID BACKBITTING, GOSSIP, AND OTHER
NEGATIVE BEHAVIOURS TAHT CAN HARM RELATIONSHIPS.
YOU CAN MANAGE RELATIONSHIPS BY ACTIVELY WORKING ON IT AND
BY CONSTANTLY RENEWING IT. THE HOLY PROPHET(PBUH) SAID;
“FAITH WEARS OUT IN YOUR HEART AS CLOTHES WEAR OUT, SO ASK
ALLAH TO RENEW THE FAITH IN YOUR HEARTS.”
(NARRATED BY AL- HAAKIM IN HIS MUSTARDAK AND AL-TABARAANI IN
HIS MUJAM WITH SAHEEH ISNAAD)
  RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN ALLAH AND MAN:
In Islam, the relationship between Allah and human being in considered to
be the most impotence's relationship Islam teaches that human being are
Allah creation, Islam emphasize the impotence's of developing a close and
loving relationship with Allah through worship obedience and good deeds.
Muslims are being to encourage to pray regularly give Charity, fast, by
following the guidance of Allah and the example of the prophet
Muhammad(peace be upon him) Muslim strive to create a society based
on justice's compassion and mutual respect.
” WHEN HIS LORD REVEALED HIS GLORY TO THE MOUNTAIN ” (surah al
–Araf, 7:143)
There are the sentences in Samat supplication which says:
“By the light of your glory, you releaved to the mountain and thus sent it
down crashing …”
You did not throw when you threw (the pebbles), but Allah threw (surah al
Anfal, 8:17)
All this is the description of light and glory. If we ponder over this concept,
certain questions occur to our mind.

 RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN NEIGHBORS IN ISLAM:

In Islam, the relationship between neighbors is very important. We are
taught to be kind and respectful towards our neighbors, and to maintain
good relations with them at all times.
The Holy Prophet (PBUH) said;
“HE WHO BELEIVES IN ALLAH AND THE LAST DAY SHOULD BE KIND TO
 HIS NEIGHBOR” (SAHIH BUKHARI).
Islam puts a deep emphasis on our individual duty to our neighbors. In fact,
the Prophet Mohammad (PBUH) said;
“ANGEL JIBRIL ADVISED ME CONTINOUSLY TO TAKE CARE OF THE
NEIGHBOR TILL I THOUGHT THAT ALLAH IS TO MAKE HIM AN
INHERITOR”
We should take the initiative and value small acts of kindness. Helping one
another without being asked to do so is part of the culture. We should
spend some quality time with our neighbors. There are some ways in which
Islam encourages good relationship between neighbors:
1. KINDNESS AND RESPECT.
2. COMMUNICATION.
3. AVOIDING HARAM.
4. FORGIVENESS.
Muslims can help to create a peaceful and harmonious society. The
religion of Islam, as taught to us by Prophet (PBUH), urges kind and
considerate treatment towards our neighbors. They deserve our respect
and good treatment regardless of their religion, race and color.
The Messenger of Allah (PBUH) says,
“HE IS NOT A BELIEVER WHO EATS HIS FULL WHILST HIS NEIGHBOR
BESIDES HIM GOES HUNGRY’

 ISLAMIC RELATIONSHIPS BETWEEN FRIENDS:

Relationship management between friends is an important aspect of both

Islamic and psychology. Some principles that can help managing
friendship are,

Communication: effective communication skills are always an important

part in a friendship. Islam gives importance to speaking kindly and
respectably to others. As in psychology for maintaining good and strong
 relationship communication is essential.

Trust: In Islam for maintaining good friendship trust is the primary key, As
in psychology building trust require honesty and sincerely in one's action.

Solve problems: To forgive someone is the essential component for both

Islamic and psychological principles as it makes our friendship more
stronger.

Understanding: Empathy refers to the ability to put oneself in someone's

else shoe to understand their emotional state. For both Islamic and
psychology , empathy is important to have emotional closeness.

Respect: Respecting each other is an important factor in both Islam and

Psychology. Islam teaches us to treat other muslims with respect and
dignity, as in psychology it is important to to have positive relationship.

By involving all these aspects in our friendship we can make it work more in
our life.

Here are some important Quran sayings on the importance of friendship,

In the Quran Allah says:

"On that day, friends will be one another's enemies, expect for the
Godwary"[43:67]

The Holy Prophet (PBUH) while explaining the impact of friends says:

"Man is influenced by the faith of his friends. Therefore, be careful of

whom you befriend."

 ISLAMIC RELATIONSHIP BETWEEN A FAMILY:

Family is a very important part of one's life. Family provides us emotional

support and love. A person get identification because of his/her family .
Family provide us with food, love and support and a sense of
belonging.Below are some key points that highlight the psychological and
Islamic aspects of family relationships.

1. Love and Mercy:

Islam promotes love, compassion and mercy within the family. Prophet
Muhammad (Peace be upon him) stressed the importance of respect and
kindness towards family members. Respecting each other's opinions,
boundaries, and individuality is critical to maintaining healthy family
relationships. Communicating love and forgiveness to each other gives a
feeling that all is well and is a daily encouragement that contributes to
spiritual prosperity.

2. Communication:

Persuasive responses are the basis for strong family relationships.

Because Islam emphasizes open and respectful communication, families
are encouraged to express their opinions, concerns and needs. Good
correspondence helps you learn each other's perspectives, resolve
conflicts, and maintain emotional coherence within your family.
Communication is absolutely necessary to build strong bonds within a
family. Islam emphasizes the importance of listening carefully, speaking
kindly, and resolving conflicts peacefully while promoting open and honest
communication.

3. Trust and Forgiveness:

The foundation of strong family ties is trust. Islam encourages families to

be trustworthy and honest. Trust fosters a sense of security and emotional
well-being within the nuclear family. Forgiveness is also emphasized as an
important virtue in Islam. Families must be willing to overlook
imperfections, forgive mistakes, and be patient in difficult times. This
practice promotes an environment of understanding and tolerance and
prevents resentment. Practicing forgiveness helps loved ones avoid
conflicts and setbacks, and promotes emotional recovery and flexibility.

4. Support and caring:

 Islam emphasizes the importance of showing care and support to the
family. Family togetherness and solidarity are enhanced by sharing
responsibilities, participating together in daily activities, and receiving
emotional and practical support. Families are expected to help and comfort
each other during the exam. Providing emotional support and
understanding each other's feelings increases psychological well-being and
strengthens family cohesion.

5. Responsibilities and roles:

Islam prescribes clear duties and responsibilities for each relative. A

family's structure, purpose, and sense of identity are reinforced by defined
roles. Misunderstandings decrease and psychological stability increases
when everyone recognizes their roles and responsibilities.

6. Compromise:

Conflict is a normal part of human relationships and Islam offers advice on

how to resolve conflicts. Islam promotes the peaceful resolution of
conflicts through negotiation, dialogue and compromise. Conflict
resolution techniques effectively build psychological resilience and prevent
long-term damage in family relationships.

7. Growing up and parenting:

Islam attaches great importance to the role played by parents in the

upbringing of children. Children's mental health can be improved by
providing them with a supportive and nurturing environment. Islamic norms
help parents instill in their children values, discipline, and the ability to
appreciate someone on a deeper level, thereby contributing to their spiritual
development. Furthermore, upbringing also includes giving guidance,
training and daily affirmation while maintaining Islamic attributes and
precepts.

8. Positive Emotional State:

Islam recognizes the importance of immediate prosperity. Comfort, peace

and a sense of purpose are found through prayer, supplication and
remembrance of Allah. Additionally, Islam recognizes the importance of
mental health and encourages people to seek professional psychological
support if needed.

9.Spending Time Well:

It is essential to set aside specific time for family activities and bonding.
Participating in shared encounters, like feasts, trips, and conversations,
reinforces the close to home association among relatives and encourages
a feeling of fellowship.

10.Seek Information and Directing:

Psychology and Islam both advocate seeking knowledge and direction to

improve family relationships. Islamic lessons, directing, and mental assets
can give important experiences and systems to settling clashes, further
developing correspondence, and encouraging profound prosperity inside
the family.

In Islam, the importance of maintaining family is paramount. The Holy

Quran say,

"And be careful of [your duty to] God in whose name you demand [your
rights] from one another, and [to] the ties of relationship; surely God is
ever watchful over you!"(4:1).

The saying of Holy Prophet (saw) are,

"A dinar you spend in Allah's way, or to free a slave, or as a charity you
give to a needy person, or to support your family, the one yielding the
greatest reward is that which you spend on your family."

 The Relationship Between Men and Women in Islam is One of the

Controversial Topics Debated in the Modern Day.

The Qur'an welcomes individuals to create a family life and focuses out
numerous wisdoms and benefits of marriage.
"And Allah has given you spouses of your claim kind, and has given you,
from your spouses, children and grandsons, and has made arrangement
of great things for you. Is it at that point in vanity that they accept and
within the elegance of Allah that they doubt?" (16:72).

The Qur'an sees marriage as a genuine commitment on the part of the

spouse and spouse; it may be a contract between the husband and spouse.
It talks of the rights of the spouse and the spouse.

"In case you want to separate one spouse and wed another, don't take
from her the endowment you have got given her, indeed on the off chance
that it be a ability of gold. Is it suitable to require this by making up
reasons for separate and intentioned erring? How can you take it back
once you have lain with each other and put your heads on the same pad
and entered into a firm contract? That would be inappropriate and terribly
unreasonable" (4:20–21).

In expansion to this, the Sacred Book in rule emphasizes what is nice and
reliably pronounces that spouses ought to do what is nice towards each
other.

"O you who accept! It isn't lawful for you coercively to acquire the ladies
(of your perished family), nor (that) you simply ought to put limitation
upon them merely may take absent a portion of that which you have got
given them, unless they be blameworthy of blatant salacity. But associate
with them in benevolence, for on the off chance that you abhor them it
may happen that you just abhor a thing wherein Allah has put much great"

In arrange to reinforce the ties of marriage, the Qur'an places more duty
upon the husband's shoulders. It too forces portion of the duty upon the
community, within the case of a difference between life partners. It sees
 separate, which God detests, as the final resort when compromise
becomes impossible.

"O Prophet! After you (men) separate ladies, separate them for their
(lawful) period and figure carefully the period, and keep your obligation to
Allah, your Ruler especially around the rights of your spouses. Oust them
not from their houses nor let them go forward unless they commit an
shamelessness such as infidelity. Such are the limits (forced by) Allah;
and whoso transgresses Allah's limits, he verily wrongs his soul. You
know not: it may be that Allah will a short time later bring a few modern
thing to pass. At that point, when they have come to their term (a three
month period), take them back in benevolence or portion from them in
benevolence, and call to witness two fair men among you, and keep your
declaration upright for Allah. Whoever accepts in Allah and the Final Day
is admonished to act thusly. And whosoever keeps his obligation to Allah,
Allah will delegate a way out for him."

Another Qur'anic verse says,

"After you separate your spouses, hold up them where you stay according
to your riches, and don't weight them to take off through badgering. And
in the event that they are with child, allow them their costs until they
provide birth to their child. After you cut your relationship with them, in
case they proceed to suckle your children, grant them their due
installment. Resolve the issue of installment due with benevolence among
yourselves concurring to your legitimate traditions. In case the mother of
the child, by not suckling the child causes issues, the father ought to pay
for another lady to suckle his child. Those who are affluent ought to
donate concurring to their riches. Those who have restricted wage, let
them allow agreeing to their riches from what God has given them. God
makes individuals mindful as it were concurring to their capacity. God
 presents ease after trouble"

Hence, the Qur'an, as in numerous cases in this matter, in expansion to

reminding companions approximately their obligations towards one
another, emphasizes the most standards of human ethical quality, and
welcomes people to be aware to God and ethical towards each other. Such
an climate of regard is fundamental for the continuation of humane and
lawful relations. That's since educate such as marriage with a one of a kind
perspective of security can barely be controlled by outsiders. As a matter of
reality, it may be a significant issue to allude to a judge or a official within
the case of difference between life partners. However, the elemental issue
is to anticipate the issues from the exceptionally starting, or to illuminate
them at the exceptionally time of event. Typically in incredible portion
related to the identity, ethics, and characteristics of the two parties. It is
profoundly troublesome to keep the agreement of hitched life through
different philosophical and lawful orders without putting the confidence of
God within the heart without a sense of self-criticism and regard for
individuals.

The Qur'an, in different places, draws consideration by means of

accentuation on the warm environment of the domestic

"And one of the signs of His presence and control is this: He has made for
you aides in arrange to form you are feeling comfortable with one another,
and He appointed between you adore and kindness. There are lessons in
this sign for those who reflect" (30:21).

Islam addresses ladies and men similarly and raises ladies, with its
momentous breath, to a favored position. It has taken ladies from being
objects for men to the level that heaven lay beneath their feet. After the rise
of Islam, no one seem drive such tender animals to infidelity, whoredom,
and debasement. She would not be treated as property; she might not be
charged of pollution. Such an allegation would result in a serious discipline
 on the portion of the informer.

"And those who denounce honorable ladies but bring not four witnesses,
tribulation them (with) eighty stripes and never (a while later)
acknowledge their declaration — They without a doubt are evil-doers.
Spare those who a short time later atone and make corrects. (For such) lo!
Allah is Pardoning, Forgiving. As for those who charge their spouses but
have no witnesses but themselves; let the declaration of one of them be
four declarations, (swearing) by Allah that he is of those who talk the truth;
And however a fifth, conjuring the revile of Allah on him on the off chance
that he is of those who lie" (24:4–7). Female children would not be looked
down upon.

Child murder would be denied.

"Kill not your children, dreading a drop to destitution, We might give for
them and for you. Lo! The killing of them is awesome sin,"

The Qur'an has announced. Indeed on the off chance that she is physically
diverse, this is often not a reason to be looked down upon. Within the
Qur'anic see of creation, Adam is made to begin with and Eve is made from
the same raise (7:189). This Qur'anic picture reminds us that men and
ladies are both similarly people. They are two substances that total one
another, as the Qur'an presents. The difference between both is based on
certain purposes and plans and isn't ontological. The Qur'anic verses that
deliver the impression of the predominance of men over ladies are
expressions with respect to certain capacities.

"Don't crave something that God has given more of to somebody else
other than you. Men have the share of what they have earned, and ladies
have the share of what they have earned. (Envy not one another) but
inquire Allah of His bounty. Lo! Allah is ever Knower of all things." (4:32).
The Qur'an reminds us of these differences, which being from a certain
sex ought to not be seen as a reason for complaint. There's no contrast at
 all as distant as human connections are concerned. Whoever picks up,
picks up for him or her ."

As expressed over, with respect to humankind and human connections

with God, there's no distinction between ladies and men. They are breaks
even with concerning their rights and duties. Lady is equal to man within
the rights of flexibility of religion, flexibility of expression, flexibility to live a
conventional life, and flexibility of back. Correspondence some time
recently the law, fair treatment, marriage and establishing a family life,
individual life, protection and security are all among the rights of ladies. Her
belonging, life and nobility are guaranteed like that of men. Infringement of
any of these rights comes about in extreme discipline. Yes, lady is free and
autonomous some time recently the law. Her femaleness does not
constrain or discredit any of her eligibilities. When her rights are damaged,
she can look for equity fair as men can. In the event that somebody takes
her belonging wrongly, she has all rights of recovery. Considering a few
qualities of ladies and men, Islam has created certain legitimate medicines:
for case, ladies are exempted from certain charges such as military
administrations, reaching to war, taking care of the money related
commitments of a family and herself, etc.

As for declaration, yes, the Qur'an says that after you cannot discover two
men to affirm, discover one reliable man and two ladies, for in case one
overlooks the other, the other will remind her (2.282). It isn't worthy to infer
any meaning from this verse to indicate the prevalence of men over ladies
in humankind and in esteem. The basic issue here is the realization of
equity. Typically not a matter interesting to ladies. The declaration of a few
male Bedouins has been rejected when the matter is related to the rights
and realization of equity. The issue of declaration is related to a solid
commitment to communal life. The inclusion of witnesses in all portions of
social life — indeed nowadays a reality — the need of seeing numerous
 perspectives of the life of individuals are continuously conceivable for a
few men and ladies. This issue of declaration within the Qur'an relates to
verbal declaration with respect to monetary things and advances.
Something else, the declaration of ladies in composing, when required, is
acknowledged as rise to by a few researchers of Islamic law.

CONCLUSION:

Islam and psychology in relationship management offer valuable guidance

for individuals seeking to cultivate health it emphasizes the importance of
respect kindness relationships and it includes active listening yet respectful
expression understanding and resolving conflicts it resolution should be
approached with patience forgiveness and a willingness to seek
reconciliation. it also lights up the self-improvement and personal growth
that are encouraged in both Islam and psychology. and also balancing
individual needs and the needs of the relationship is importants, emotional
support is variable in building emotional connections.psychological insight
provides a comprehensive farmework for relation ship
management,recognized each other relationship is unique my individual
approachesrelationship based on cultural backgroundpersonalexperiences
context applying these dynamic of each relationship.

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