QUIT PORN LIKE A PRO

Why should you quit porn?

Before we get there, It’s important that you understand WHY you should quit.
The addiction you have, will pretty much affect your relationships with your
family, girlfriend, friends and with YOURSELF.

It starts with hiding it from them. You feel embarrassed because of the
addiction you have, because deep down you also know that you HAVE to quit.
You just don’t know how.

Pornography is not there to make you happy - it’s there to rob you. They are
stealing your emotions, connections, love, enjyoment, sex, desire, health,
self-love, expectations.

They are giving you the wrong picture of sex. Everything you see on your
screen - IT’S NOT REAL. Their emotions are not real, they don’t want you to
enjoy, they want to infect you with the lies they’re spreading.

You don’t pay them with money, but they still make money off you. They don’t
care about your enjoyment, they just see money in you. They don’t care about
you. They need you more than you need them. They need you so they can
earn money off you. Don’t give them that power.

Kids that didn’t have sex yet, but they watch porn, they will expect SO MUCH
from sex. But once they experience it, they will be disappointed.

You are not a kid anymore. you probably already had sex, but you still might
have some expectations (at least subconsciously) and then you won’t be
pleased like you wanted to be.

You will have a lack of confidence then. Are you really not THAT good? But
you did everything like you saw in a porn?

A lot of people start troubling themselves with getting horny in real life. You will
go home with a girl (or if you already have a girlfriend) and then you won’t get
horny. You will NEED porn to have sex in real life. Maybe that’s not you now,
but you will be if you continue it.
You will start having troubles with your girlfriend. She asks herself if you’re still
attracted to her, you say you are but you don’t know what’s happening (but
you do) and that’s how troubles in heaven begin.

You get in a fight, you may even break up, and then you will be left with porn.

And, as I already said, porn isn’t there to make you happy, to give you that real
life experience as a spouse can. Pornography wants to make an addict out of
you, because they need you for making more money.

People in porn are ACTORS. THEY ARE ACTING. So, whatever you see, IT’S
NOT REAL! You’re getting horny at some actors who probably make fun of
your weakness after they finish with recording.

Also, pornography is just a waste of time. Be honest with yourself, are you in
the place in life where you want to be? Because you could be in the next 6
months if you stop watching porn and instead spend your time learning,
improving your skills, and starting a business.

Masturbation lowers testosterone. Studies have shown that testosterone helps

in focus, desire to succeed and your achievement at the job.

Pornography also affects your social life. After some time, you forget how it
feels to hang out with other people. You shut yourself in, you don’t want to go
out, you start lacking the desire to do ANYTHING. You just stay at home,
watch porn and do nothing. That will lead you to depression.

Then, a lot of men will seek help - but they will be diagnosed with anxiety,
ADHD, etc. No one knows actually that the REAL problem is porn. It all started
with you watching porn. They will give you medicine, but for some reason, it’s
not helping you. It’s because you kept watching porn. But don’t blame
yourself, you didn’t know it’s all porn’s fault.

A lot of men are given the wrong picture of a good, quality woman. You don’t
know how to find, attract and approach, and to keep one. Porn destroys your
mind. It will put a blindfold on you and tell you to find yourself a woman. But
you can’t see that quality in a woman you want because porn made you blind.
Accept that you need help

Don’t be ashamed of yourself. Be brave and proud of yourself because you

decided to work on your addiction. You’re not alone and you won’t ever be if
you start working on this.

It’s all in your head. Porn is made to be addicted to. Your brain is producing
chemicals that will make you feel good. But your brain doesn’t know the
difference between real sex and porn. Have you heard of the expression
‘Brain doesn’t know the difference between a truth and a lie’? Because it’s the
truth, it doesn’t know. But you know. Your brain will produce the exactly same
chemicals (those chemical make you feel good) if you have sex, eat healthy
food, workout, etc.

When you accept that you need help, half the job is already done. It won't be
easy, but it will feel good once you finally succeed. That feeling when you’re
working out, and it really hurts but once you finish it, you feel so DAMN proud
of yourself? Yeah, that exact same feeling, even a better one, will come when
you stop your addiction. It will be a better feeling than the one when you watch
porn.

After your addiction, your life will improve A LOT. I don’t think you’re aware of
what is waiting for you at the end of the road. All the pain will be so worth it.
You will finally start living an actual life.

Important steps to quit porn

1) Realize what makes you want to watch them. What causes you to start
watching porn? What activities are triggering you? You have to identify
your triggers. Stress, sadness, boredom?

2) Avoid those triggers. Yeah, it’s easier to say that to actually do it, but I
stopped my addiction with social media like this. It’s definitely hard, but
you’re stronger than your mind. Remember - you manage your brain
and not the opposite. If stress, sadness, boredom triggers you, there
are better and healthier ways to deal with them. PORN IS NOT AN
ANSWER.
 3) Don’t. Ever. Stop. You might fail, but it doesn’t mean it’s over. Keep
fighting even stronger and better than you did before. Yes, it’s easier to
watch porn than to quit it, but it’s also better to have a happy, healthy life
than the one you’re having with porn in your life. Porn will try to drown
your soul. That’s why you have to learn to swim, and not to let them
drown you.

4) Speak to someone about your problem. I know, you’re ashamed but let
me tell you something - when you have someone by your side, it will be
easier for you. Half the pain you’re holding on your back will be gone.
Tell them what triggers you, so when you feel like watching porn you
can talk to them. They will keep you busy, help you to stay strong and to
stay on your path. You don’t have to be in this alone.

5) Write everything down. That paper will keep all the secrets you have,
and it will help you. Write down your triggers, feelings, strategies, etc.

6) Keep yourself busy. If you know tomorrow you will be staying at home
all day, keep yourself busy. Make plans with some people, go ride a
bike, have a picnic, read a book, go to movies, paint something. It might
all sound stupid but it will help you. Find new hobbies that will make you
forget about porn. You just won’t have time for porn. Your mind will be
focused on something else.

Tips to quit porn

1) Use your computer only for work. Hide it from yourself, keep it at some
place that’s not visible. Put your internet browser on a USB and then
delete the browser from your computer.

2) Block EVERY porn site. If it’s not easy for you, ask your friend. If
Instagram/Facebook/Tiktok triggers you, delete them. Block and remove
any site that makes you horny and makes you want to watch porn.

3) If you have an erection, don’t jump to the computer. Instead, fight with
yourself and do some of the hobbies at home. Keep yourself busy until
the erection is gone. Don’t allow yourself to grab the computer and
watch porn. Just DON’T.
4) Start meditating. It sounds funny, but give it a try. When you have an
erection (if you have some privacy in your background) go outside and
meditate. The relaxation kills erections and gives you a peaceful state of
mind. Do it in a spot where it is quiet and where you can only hear the
wind.

5) Avoid your triggers. As I already said, find some new hobbies. Even
consider starting an online business so you don’t have any time for
porn. Remember, keeping yourself busy is the key!

6) Spend your time doing something that needs 100% of your focus. Star
hitting the gym, doing sports, anything that’s not related to sex.
Something where you have to keep your focus ON THAT. It’s better if
it’s something physical.

7) Find people online that struggle with the same addiction as you do. It
will help you to have some support from people who are in the same
thing as you are. You will know you’re not alone and it will be easier for
you to get over your addiction with having someone by your side who
understands you. Read forums, e-books, everything that will help you.

8) Go to a clinic or some kind of a program. If there are meetings near you

with people who also have this addiction, go there. Surround yourself
with people who are like you.

9) Keep your doors open when you’re on your phone/computer. That way,
it will be uncomfortable for you to masturbate if the door is open. Be
strong enough to forbid yourself to close it. Always have in your mind
what your goals are. Always keep going and stay the course.

10) Talk to yourself. Convince yourself everyday that you can do it.
Watch yourself in the mirror and tell yourself that you’re stronger than
this and that you can do it. Remember, your brain doesn't know the
difference between a lie and truth. Your brain will believe everything you
say.

11) Always have plans. When you finish with your work, don’t just go home
and lie on your bed thinking ‘I won’t masturbate, I will just chill.’ No, you
 will masturbate. Get up from that couch and MAKE SOME PLANS. DO
SOMETHING WITH YOUR TIME. KEEP YOUR MIND BUSY.

12) Teach yourself to have some other thoughts than the sexual ones.
Think about anything else. This isn’t that easy, it will be easier if you do
it while doing something physical. Learn how to think about something
else.

13) Start working on your other goals. You want to become rich? Waste
your time figuring it out how to become rich. You want to have a six
pack? Waste your time on working out. You want to learn how to cook?
Waste your time on cooking.

14) When you’re in bed, and if you can’t fall asleep, think about all the
problems you’re having and find a way to fix them. It will keep your
thoughts busy and you won’t think about porn.

Your computer is your biggest enemy

Anything you have related to porn on your computer - DELETE IT. Literally
anything. Any browsing history, videos, pictures, memberships. Disable your
camera on the computer, stop renting porn DVDs (if you do that).

1) Don’t spend your free time on the computer. Keep your door open and
go to sleep when your family does.

2) Don’t be alone with your computer. If you have to use it for something,
grab him and be with your family while you’re on it. Plan for how long
you will use the computer and for what purpose. Don’t allow yourself to
use it for any longer than you allowed yourself.

3) Before using your computer, write down all the things that you need it
for. When you finish your list, turn your computer off and leave it
somewhere else.

4) Install filter pornographic web-content. It will be easier for you to have

something forbidding you to watch porn than fighting with yourself and
convincing yourself not to do it.
What If I start doing it again?

The biggest fear for ex porn addicts is the relapse. First thing first, you have to
realize that you can’t live with fear every day. Do you wake up every day and
you’re scared that today is the day you die? No, you don’t. Fear is blocking
you. Everyone wants to win this addiction, stop it, beat it. You will win it but
you will probably relapse too. But it’s not just you. Anyone who told you they
know a way to quit porn without relapse is lying to you. And they weren’t really
addicted to it.

It will be easier to fight relapse because you know how to do it and now you’re
stronger than you’ve been before.

Here are common reasons that people relapse:

1) You’re not social enough. Your social circle is too small or you’re not
close to enough. You’re wasting a lot of time alone and that’s not doing
you any favours. Having an active life or a supportive spouse will help
you A LOT.

2) You’re having troubles with your emotions. When you watch a lot of
porn, it will lead you to an emotional collapse. You hide your addiction
then you will feel guilt and shame. Those feelings will make you watch
porn more, because you want to get rid of those emotions. But you don’t
know it will make things worse.

3) You didn’t do enough. You can’t read just one course and think that you
don’t need anything else to do. There is a lot of work you need to do if
you really want to get rid of your addiction. You will have to sweat a lot
to see some progress. So, don't think this course is enough. Read
MORE books, tips, meet people who struggle with this too,

4) You lack self discipline. You will see some progress, but then if a
relapse happens - you just stop trying. No, you can’t do that. It’s
important to be motivated always and to not stop trying. Yes, you might
fail sometimes but it doesn’t mean it’s over and that there is no hope for
you. After every failure, you come back even stronger. Watch videos
that will motivate you, keep yourself healthy and find a way that will
always make you motivated. No one said this will be easy. If it were
easy, it wouldn’t be an addiction. Work on yourself so you can be strong
 enough to keep fighting. Learn to not lose hope after your failure. Find a
way to comfort yourself (don’t use porn). Everytime you fail, go for a run
or something so you don’t start another bad addiction. For example; If a
guy breaks up with his girlfriend, and he wants to find a way to cope
with it. If he starts to drink alcohol - every time he feels sad he will drink.
If he eats everytime he is sad - he will become obese. If you watch porn
every time you feel sad, you will turn into a porn addict. That’s why you
have to find a ‘healthy addiction’. Everytime you fail and you’re sad, go
run or walk, draw something, meditade, or ride a bike. So every time
you feel sad, you will do something healthy. Learn how to cope with
failure, don’t just give up.

5) Bad relationships. A lot of men will watch porn after they get in a fight
with their spouse. It’s a bad way out. Instead, learn how to deal with
those fights. Improve your relationship, find another way of dealing with
fights. You can use the ‘healthy addiction’ that I talked about. But just
don’t turn to porn, you will feel B A D after it. Porn is not a solution, but
finding a way to resolve those conflicts is. Start being more positive, use
more positive words, compliments, praises. Avoid negative people
because they won’t bring you any positivity. Calm down when you’re
fighting, think about the words that will come out of your mouth. It’s
better to say less in those situations. End it in a peaceful way so you
don’t have to calm yourself with porn.

I believe in you and I know you will stop this addiction. Don’t let anyone
reassure you. Believe in yourself and STAY STRONG.

You CAN and you WILL beat this!

I wish you all the best.