Last update: December 16, 2022

SLAA Fantasy Meetings - All Genders

(Wednesday) 3pm PST/6pm EST

(Wednesday) GMT 22:00
(Thursday) AEST 8:00
SLAA Romantic Obsession, Fantasy, and Intrigue meeting - All genders
https://us06web.zoom.us/j/87071004770?pwd=c0xLZmdPdGlwUXpENWUrLzNSellXZz09
Zoom ID: 870 7100 4770
Password: 903671

(Thursday) 4am USA’s East Coast Time

(Thursday) UK’s British Summer Time 9:00am
(Thursday) Berlin, Germany, Central European Summer Time 10.00am
(Thursday) Mumbai, India Time 1.30pm
(Thursday) Sydney, Australia Eastern Time 6.00pm
Fantasy Addiction Recovery Meeting
Zoom ID: 865 0943 3378
Password: 118457
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/86509433378?pwd=aUZiU3BVWEoybEdkSGRKKzIrQlFUZz09

(Saturday) 9:30am PST/12:30 EST

(Saturday) GMT 16:30
(Sunday) AEST 2:30
Fantasy, Romantic Intrigue, All genders, Speaker sharing
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/82771670289
ID: 82771670289
PW: 111571

(Sunday) 11:00am PT/2:00 ET

(Sunday) UK 7:00pm
(Monday) Sydney 6:00am
Cloud 9 Addicts
https://us02web.zoom.us/j/81354806671?pwd=T1ZZUnhzOEZpV1VzQmZ1Q
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Resources on Fantasy Addiction:

https://slaavirtual.org/fantasy-addiction/

Fantasy Addiction WhatsApp group - All Genders

● A fellowship-wide Group for recovery from Fantasy Addiction in SLAA. SLAA
Only. All genders. Please respect our boundaries.
○ We:
■ share our experience strength and hope
■ request outreach
■ share Recovery Meetings around the world
■ start Meetings where they are needed
■ develop new literature for Fantasy Addicts
○ To join our WhatsApp Group, download the app on your phone and use this
link
■ https://chat.whatsapp.com/ISfRrj2l86WBL9FvaNS9wi
 Characteristics of Fantasy Addiction
Not Conference Approved

1. We confuse fantasy for real hope, love, safety, joy, romance, connection,
intimacy, sharing, and being seen. Often, we attach these needs to a person(s)
or thing(s) we compulsively fantasize about.

2. We experience mood swings based upon how close or far apart reality is
lining up, or not, with our current fantasies.

3. We allow our fantasy to become the Higher Power of our lives. We set the
person or thing we compulsively fantasize about up in the penthouse of a
grand high-rise, and remain invested in slavishly believing the fantasies that
our addict endlessly doles out.

4. We lose the precious time, interest, and energy of our lives as they are
siphoned away into a vacuum of our addict’s constant making.

5. Our lives become immobilized by our fantasies and the consequences of

this makes our real lives out of control and unmanageable.

6. Our real life presence, satisfaction, joy, hope, goals, aliveness and present
moments are held hostage by the futile and even tragic fantasies of our
supplier addict.

7. We live each day in a disjointed schism between our fantasy world and our
real lives, which keeps us on a crash course between the collision of these
two realities at any moment.
8. We become unable to truly relate to, share, connect and even respect the
boundaries of the objects of our fantasies, since we have fashioned them
according to our own distorted perceptions of who they are, in order to suit
our stunted needs, rather than being able to see and be with, who they truly
are, what they really feel, and what they might need or want.

9. We experience deep pain and stabbing disappointment when our

fantasies are not met and especially when reality intrudes upon our fantasies
in ways large or small.

10. We become angry at all those we fantasize about for having their own
lives, which may or may not include us the way we want.

11. We become depressed or experience feelings of hopelessness or

defeat when those we fantasize about do not express the interest, caring,
desire, longing, jealousy or pining for us that we want from them and that we
feel towards them.

12. We use fantasy to soothe and distract us from realities we do not want to
face, including intense longing for deep connection and the emptiness that a
life of fantasy addiction continues to perpetuate. We become more and more
isolated as our fantasy life consumes more of our time and energy. We carry
shame and feel unable to admit this problem which, at times, might lead us
to other addictions.

Promises of Healing Fantasy Addiction

Not Conference Approved
1. We will no longer settle for fantasy as a way to meet our need for hope,
joy, love, safety, happiness, well-being, and being deeply gotten and
seen.

2. As we heal the schism in our lives between our fantasy world and our
real lives, we will feel more whole and connected to our core selves and
others.

3. Mood swings based upon reality intrusions will disappear since we will
not be trying to line up our lives to suit our current fantasies.

4. We will allow our Higher Power to be in charge of our lives. We will

invest in living in the present moment.

5. We will gain back our time, interest and energy to do with them what
our Higher Power asks of us… an experience of joy, connection and real
life contribution to ourselves and others.

6. Our lives will become manageable as we experience our non-addictive,

Higher Power at the helm of our decision-making and actions.

7. We will live each day in greater wholeness, as there is less, little, or no

separation between our inner worlds and our outer worlds. Nothing is
about to fall apart because our lives are a seamless whole.

8. We will become able to truly relate to, share, connect and even respect
the boundaries of others we care about and desire. We allow them to
be as they are, with their own feelings, needs and desires, that might
be different than ours.
9. We will experience less and little pain and disappointment since we
are not living based upon our fantasy’s expectations and hopes.

10. We will not become angry with others we have strong feelings for at
having their own lives. We will learn to support their right to live their
lives, separate from ours, and view this as healthy.

11. Although we may, at times, feel appropriately disappointed, we will

NOT become depressed or experience feelings of hopelessness or
defeat when people we have strong feelings for do not express the
caring, desire, longing, jealousy or pining for us we want from them
and that we, ourselves, feel towards them.

12. We will stop using fantasy to soothe and distract us from realities we
do not want to face. Instead, we will find healthy real world ways to get
our intense longing for deep connection met.

13. We will let go of isolation and shame. We will take actions that
reinforce self respect, hopefulness, empowerment, and a sense of
inspired life triumph.

14. We will come to understand fantasy, generally, for what it is, a thief,
robber of life satisfaction and love.

15. Having recovered from fantasy addiction, we live a life where the self
respect of being present and meeting our real needs is a life worth
living for!