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Training Overview
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Phase 1
Therapeutic Foundations
Creating conditions for therapy - e.g. therapeutic relationship, secure base,
supportive assessment & formulation Therapy Foundation
Phase 1 Psychoeducation: tricky brain (new/old brain), three system model (functional Creating conditions such
analysis of emotion), social shaping, not your fault as therapeutic relationship,
secure base, and Phase 2
formulation
What compassion is, common myths, fears - blocks - resistances
Psychoeducation: tricky
brain (new/old brain), Compassionate
three system model
Compassionate Mind Training (functional analysis of Mind Training
Body training emotion
Phase 3
Phase 2 Mindfulness Time What compassion is/isn't Body training
Putting the
Soothing Rhythm Breathing
Mindfulness Compassionate
Compassionate self and image Mind to Work
Compassionate self Self-relationship
and image
Putting the Compassionate Mind to Work Relationships with others
Self-to-self relationship (e.g. shame and self-criticism)
Complex emotions and
Phase 3
Examples Relationships
of Process: Socratic dialogues, with others
guided discovery, narrating, mind
memories
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First Psychology
The ability to notice, engage with, tolerate and
understand distress and difficulties
Explaining Compassion
a sensitivity to the suffering of self and others
with a commitment to relieve and prevent it Start with a friend…
Second Psychology
The ability to engage in wise action to reduce or
prevent distress and difficulties
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Compassionate Self
Self Other
To Self
Other Self
Each activates patterns of physiology and psychological states Each flow can have:
(e.g. attention, thinking, emotion, behaviour, motivation) 1. fears, blocks and resistances
2. things that facilitate or support them
CFT not just about self compassion…
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The Three Flows of Compassion
& Trauma
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What makes compassion difficult?
Fears of Compassion
Other FBRs Self
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Fear of Compassion for Others
Compassion is scary
Becoming compassionate will make me weak
Feelings of kindness from others are somehow frightening
I fear that if I am more self compassionate i will become a weak person
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Fear of Compassion Fear of Compassion Fear of Compassion
for Others from Others for Self
Shame 0.35 0.51 0.43
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Difficulties with compassion in trauma
Lawrence & Lee (2012) – qualitative study looking at peoples’ experience of CFT for
trauma (n=7; all met criteria for PTSD)
2.An aversive and alien experience: how it feels to develop self-compassion (e.g. self-
compassion as alien or non-deserved)
4.Self-compassion as a positive emotional experience (e.g. “it was like getting a drink
of water in the desert. Erm. Once I had kind of given up the addictions of blaming
myself it was like this whole guilt trip had gone”)
5.A more positive outlook in the present and for the future (e.g. enjoying life rather than
just living it; a new sense of hope for the future)
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Some compassion-based insights about trauma…
We do not choose any of these things - they are not our fault
CFT Theory & Trauma
It can be helpful to cultivate a compassionate mind - with its 1. The Three System Model…
ability to shape our attention, thinking, emotions and
behaviour - to engage in and help to relieve the pain the
trauma has caused
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Drive, Excite, Vitality Content, Safe, Soothed
Non-wanting &
Incentive & resource Affiliative focused
focused
Wanting, pursuing, Safeness-kindness
achieving, consuming
Soothing, Calming &
Activating Resting
Threat-focused Threat-focused
Thinking
Motivation
& Imagery
Exercise:
Attention
THREAT Physiology
How does threat system get
affected by trauma?
Behaviour Emotions
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Symptoms of PTSD & Threat System
Threat-focused
Threat-focused
Impersonal Interpersonal
Threat-focused
Intrusions Shame Hyperarousal Dissociation Injuries/accidents to others (e.g. child) Physical assault (e.g. mugging,
stabbing)
Anger Anxiety/Fear Disgust Self-harm
Emotion Your approach to therapy in CFT may be different dependent on whether
Self-criticism Shut down clients are more on the left or right of this table…(e.g. directly engaging in
dysregulation trauma vs phased based…)
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Complex Trauma – Trauma from other
people
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Shame as a Multi-Faceted Experience
1. A social or external component - a sense that others
see me as bad, inadequate, useless, a failure
Shame
Shame – thought to be related to a much older word that meant ‘to cover’
Intuitive sense to this – what do you want to do if you feel ashamed of your
body? …conceal/cover..
Linked to a type of social threat – sense that others will reject, criticise or
devalue, see us as inferior - rejection
The thing that we feel that others will do this for may vary massively e.g.
• something we’ve done
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Shame
Sometimes shame emerges in context of disappointments and/or feeling not Shame & Self-Criticism
good enough
Strong link between shame and self-criticism (r =.50 to .70 in non clinical
Not so much that we not lived up to our standards, but that we’ve become an samples)
undesired or undesirable self (both in eyes of others, but also how we feel
about ourselves)
Many people who experience trauma blame themselves, feel that it’s their
fault: “I deserved this”, “I caused this”, “I should have done something
Lidsay-Hartz et al. (1995) – participants described themselves as “I’m fat and differently”
Experience of trauma (and relational trauma) is significantly associated with Self-criticism - can fan the flames of trauma - like putting out fire with more
higher levels of shame fire
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Content, Safe, Soothed
Non-wanting &
Affiliative focused
Exercise:
Safeness-kindness
Non-wanting &
Affiliative focused
Safeness-kindness
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Thinking
Motivation
& Imagery
Exercise:
Behaviour Emotions
Non-wanting &
Incentive & resource Affiliative focused
focused
Wanting, pursuing, Safeness-kindness
Using the Three System achieving, consuming
Soothing, Calming &
Activating
Model to Formulate Resting
Threat-focused
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How are the three systems often balanced Trauma
Rumination
Fear of anger
Anxious
Submissive
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So, what’s the aim in CFT? To put it simply…
Reduce Red
Reduce Red
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Reduce Red
• grounding techniques
Build Blue
• exposure
• reliving
• restructuring memories
Build Blue
Grow Green
• Activity scheduling
• Behaviour activation
• Positive psychology
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Grow Green
• Mindfulness
• Breathing
• Body focus
Compassionate Mind Training
• Imagery
• Soothing activities
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Therapeutic Foundations
Creating conditions for therapy - e.g. therapeutic relationship, secure base,
supportive assessment & formulation
Phase 1 Psychoeducation: tricky brain (new/old brain), three system model (functional
analysis of emotion), social shaping, not your fault
Phase 3
Examples Relationships
of Process: Socratic dialogues, with others
guided discovery, narrating, mind
mapping, reflection, use of Complex
silence, MI, downward
emotions and memories arrow, chaining,
diagramming, thought experiments, behavioural experiments, acting, exposure
programs, chair
Presenting work,
problems emotion
(e.g. regulation
trauma, voice etc
hearing, depression)
Therapeutic Foundations
▪ Attention training
▪ Mindfulness
Compassionate Mind Training ▪ Body posture
Body training ▪ Soothing breathing
Phase 2
Grounding
▪ Compassionate smell
Mindfulness
Soothing Rhythm Breathing
▪ Compassionate colour
Compassionate self and image
▪ Compassionate objects
▪ Calm place imagery
Putting the Compassionate Mind to Work ▪ Compassionate memory
▪ Compassionate self
Phase 3
Examples of Process: Socratic dialogues, guided discovery, narrating, mind ▪ Compassionate other
mapping, reflection, use of silence, MI, downward arrow, chaining, ▪ LKM (metta)
diagramming, thought experiments, behavioural experiments, acting, exposure
programs, chair work, emotion regulation etc
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Using the body to support the mind Body Posture
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Soothing Rhythm Breathing Compassionate Other
Exercise Imagery
Links to research showing that bringing to mind people that ‘Compassionate other’ as reflection
we feel safe and secure with helps to manage distress
of secure attachment
It may be helpful to spend some time finding the type of
image that best works for you – the image may change over
time (e.g. adding different qualities or aspects to it)
Exercise: What do you feel are the key qualities that it would
be important for your compassionate other to have?
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ATTACHMENT FIGURE – COMPASSIONATE OTHER
CHILD ORIENTATED TO:
– AN IMAGE TO:
Safe haven – parent acts as Safe haven – acts as source Qualities of the Compassion
source of comfort, soothing & of comfort, soothing &
emotion regulation when emotion regulation when Other
distressed (threat system)
distressed (threat system)
Compassionate Self
Wisdom
They will be wise and understanding - and this will draw from
the psychoeducation we’ve explored. That this is just one
version of us - that if we’d been raised in our next door
neighbours house, we’d be a different version of ourselves.
That we didn’t choose our genes, our gender, our skin colour.
Wisdom also about helpful ideas about what might help with
these insights
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Strength and groundedness
Caring Commitment
Your compassionate other will be strong, grounded They will be motivated to do what they can to be
and confident – you’ll have a sense that they can supportive, helpful and caring to you. They’ll be able
tolerate your distress, that they will remain available to see clearly into the nature of suffering and have
and responsive no matter what your distress or heartfelt wish to alleviate it, and conditions that give
difficulties might be
rise to suffering
Evidence?
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Pattern of Compassion
Compassion as a pattern
Self-Identity
We can help people to reconnect with this pattern
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Why try and create a ‘compassionate
Developing Compassionate Self - Acting self’?
Evidence that imagining & practicing of a particular ‘self’ shapes
the mind
Conceptualise the key qualities of a character
Compassionate Self
Putting the compassionate mind
to work…
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Therapeutic Foundations Therapeutic Foundations
Creating conditions for therapy - e.g. therapeutic relationship, secure base,
supportive assessment & formulation
Phase 1 Psychoeducation: tricky brain (new/old brain), three system model (functional Phase 1
analysis of emotion), social shaping, not your fault
Putting the Compassionate Mind to Work Putting the Compassionate Mind to Work
Self-to-self relationship (e.g. shame and self-criticism) Self-to-self relationship (e.g. shame and self-criticism)
Phase 3
Examples Relationships
of Process: Socratic dialogues, with others
guided discovery, narrating, mind Phase 3
Examples Relationships
of Process: Socratic dialogues, with others
guided discovery, narrating, mind
mapping, reflection, use of Complex
silence, MI, downward
emotions and memories arrow, chaining, mapping, reflection, use of Complex
silence, MI, downward
emotions and memories arrow, chaining,
diagramming, thought experiments, behavioural experiments, acting, exposure diagramming, thought experiments, behavioural experiments, acting, exposure
programs, chair
Presenting work,
problems emotion
(e.g. regulation
trauma, voice etc
hearing, depression) programs, chair
Presenting work,
problems emotion
(e.g. regulation
trauma, voice etc
hearing, depression)
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Calm Place &
Imagery Compassionate
other
Sensory Smell +
Grounding
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Rescript for shame FB Compassionate rescript for shame FB
What would you like to feel/like to happen instead in the
What would you like to feel/like to happen instead in the memory?
memory?
Initial response – “don’t know” (couldn’t even think about – too
Initial response – “don’t know” (couldn’t even think about – too overwhelming)…at this stage, bring SBR, compassion imagery
overwhelming) to help frontal cortex/reflective functioning
Want to feel powerful, strong – want to kill him, want him to Want to feel safe – to feel that someone there supporting and
suffer protecting me (attachment – connection – soothing system)
and that it is not my fault (undermine sense of shame and SC)
Outcome – helpful? Feel strong. Happy he suffered…but not
change fear and overall affect of FB overtime Outcome – helpful, feel strong but with sense of safeness/not
alone underpinning it. Realise not my fault. FB decrease.
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Compassionate Letter Writing Exercise: Compassionate letter writing
Different methods to practice relating to ourselves in a new way. It expresses concern and genuine caring
Many of us have an critical, hostile, denigrating or angry way of relating It is sensitive to your distress and needs
to themselves (internal stimulant of threat system)
It is sympathetic and responds emotionally to your distress
CMT interested in how we can cultivate new way – a compassionate,
caring, affiliative way – with ourselves.
It helps you face/tolerate your feelings and become more tolerant of
them
One way of doing this is through expressive writing - Pennebaker – It helps you become more understanding and reflective of your
writing about facts & feelings of difficult experiences for 20 minutes on feelings, difficulties and dilemmas
four days led to significant benefits on physical health vs control group
who wrote about neutral topics It is non-judgemental/non-condemning
Evidence of benefits across range of health & psychological outcomes A genuine sense of warmth, understanding and caring permeates the
whole letter
Recent adaptations of paradigm – e.g. ‘positive writing’ but of course, It helps you think about the behaviour you may need to adopt in
compassionate letter writing! order to get better
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Conditioning and Threat Emotions
How emotions and desires can become non-conscious
(Ferster 1973)
Anger Punishment
Multiple Selves
Anxiety
Conflicts of Emotions
Which emotions are missing when people
blocks have suffered interpersonal traumas?
Anger Anxiety
bl s
oc ck
ks blo
Sadness
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Anger Fear
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ANGRY ANXIOUS
Thoughts Thoughts
Body Body
Action Action
Memory Memory
Outcome Outcome
SADNESS COMPASSION
Thoughts Thoughts
Body Body
Action Action
Memory Outcome
Outcome
Thoughts: Thoughts:
Body: Body:
Action: Action:
Memory: Memory:
Which emotion did you find easiest to
Outcome: Outcome:
connect with?
Anxious Self
Thoughts:
Body:
Action:
Memory:
Outcome:
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“Holding onto anger is like drinking poison and expecting the Anger is just sad’s bodyguard…
other person to die.”
• What does your angry part think & feel about your
anxious part?
• What does your anxious part think & feel about your
angry part?
• What does your angry part think & feel about your
Which emotion did you find hardest to sad part?
connect with?
• What does your sad part think & feel about your
angry part?
• What does your anxious part think & feel about your
sad part?
• What does your sad part think & feel about your
anxious part?
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Multiple Selves
ANGRY SELF
ANXIOUS SELF Get back in to your compassionate self – wise, strong,
Blame other person
What if I caused this?
It’s their fault
They might not like me now caring part of you
They shouldn’t have done that
Wish this never happened Need
Get my own back/make
to appease them
them apologise Take two minutes to note down what your
compassionate self (that is wise, strong and caring)
thinks or understands about:
ARGUMENT
• The reaction of your angry part to the argument
COMPASSIONATE SELF
SAD SELF
Mindfulness and stand back
They hurt me • The reaction of your anxious part to the argument
They have damaged the Understand & validate my other ‘selves’
& other person’s experience
relationship
Consider what would be helpful
Loss - Withdraw
Kind voice - stillness
• The reaction of your sad part to the argument
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Embedded
Embedded
Embedded
Embedded
Emotions
Emotions
Emotions
Emotions
- Depression
---Trauma
Rejection
Trauma
ANGRY ANXIOUS
Thoughts Thoughts
Body Body
Compassionate Mind Action Action
Empathy - Validate - Tolerate - Accept Memory Memory
Outcome Outcome
Trauma
Disgust Sad Anxiety Anger
SADNESS COMPASSION
Thoughts Thoughts
Body Body
Action Action
Memory Outcome
Outcome
Trauma
www.selfcompassion.me/
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Dr Chris Irons
chris@balancedminds.com
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