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Chapter 2
Chapter 2
It felt like my whole 18th year was in grey scale. I couldn’t sit with my feelings and the pain
became unbearable sometimes. I was using other people to escape from that nagging sense of
loneliness that seems to creep in every time I was alone. Until I couldn’t anymore.
Gradually I’ve learned to be comfortable in my own company. I took a leap of faith into the
unknown and it brought me to places I’ve never could imagine.
It’s a strange paradox that in the wake of losing someone, we find parts of ourselves that were
buried under the noise of our lives.
But as much as solitude offers the time and space to reflect and grow, it’s not the answer to all
my questions. After all, no man is an island. We’re not made to live by ourselves. We are made
to form relationships and build communities. At times, I could still feel lonely and hate to be
alone, but I’m grateful to have friends that I’m comfortable with. They’ve made me realize how
effortless relationships can be when you’re surrounded by the right people and that I don’t
actually need to carry all the weight by myself. It’s ok to lean on people and ask for help
I started to appreciate the idea of finding balance in these days. Nothing is complete black and
white. There’s no need to glorify being able to do things alone as there’s no shame in seeking
warmth in companionship and asking for help. We can embrace both solitude and the company
of others equally and wholeheartedly as each has its own unique value and beauty.
Because it’s in these moments of quiet reflection and shared laughter, in the depths of solitude
and the richness of connection, that we come to understand the full spectrum of life