Adolescence: How my experience changed my perspective in

life

As we continue growing older, our perspective in life and

how we see the world and the people around us changes
drastically. It took me a long time to realize that not
everything in life is meant to be a beautiful story. Not every
person we feel something deep and moving with is meant to make a
home within us, is meant to be forever. Life brings us different
colors in life; lively as red, sometimes blues and adversities.
We get through different seasons in life, and as we get there it
ought to teach us a different version of happiness. In our every
journey, there is always something new we learn in life.
During my childhood days, I was exposed to an unhealthy
environment. From sorts of discrimination in our community and
unfair treatment like favoritism inside our household. But I
learned to be optimistic and set aside my personal feelings, per
se, thought of it as part of life. I thought that the pain of
getting bullied, insulted, and feeling isolated like I don’t
belong in any circle of friends was part of growing up; a process
to becoming an independent individual. To be very honest, I
really didn’t think that life is as hard as what others would
describe it before. I was so young and naïve to understand the
world, but I kept an optimistic outlook regardless.
I remember I was being hard on myself at fifteen. Home
feels suffocating and the blame is always on me. From personal
problems, to family issues and school. School. I realized I
wasn’t doing my best when I noticed how most of my friends could
climb the stage together every moving up ceremonies at school and
how I remained in the ground, clapping for their achievements and
sometimes inside the classroom playing deaf and innocent just so
I could run away from an uncomfortable questions. I cried many
times and tried my very best to join my friends on stage. I
almost gave up from learning and improving what I’m bad at but
after giving it an effort, I made it to the honors’ list. And it
was also around that time when I started to take interest of
someone from our class and before I could even realize it, I fell
in love with him. We started off as friends, a close one. And a
few months later, we ruined our friendship and dated. It was
months of us and the bare minimum that we both enjoyed and we
called it love anyway. I find comfort and safety whenever I am
with him, we were each others’ querencia. Or so I thought. Just
like what other imperfect relationship has, ours was flawed.
Puzzled, not knowing what went wrong but after seven months, we
parted ways. One had gone cold, falling out of love. And when I
realized there was no room for me there, I ended what’s once
ours. I always thought it was because we were too young for it, I
never understood what love means. It’s upsetting, I know we
could’ve done better. After a year of moving on from a heart
break, my views in love never changed. Love is nothing but a word
someone came up with and bewitched an innocent heart. Until I
turned seventeen, my current age.
I learned a lot from my previous years. I couldn’t even
believe I had experienced those not until I wrote this essay. But
right now, I am slowly learning how to be alone. I am slowly
learning how to stop filling my voids with other human beings,
and instead, I am slowly learning how to confront the void
itself. How to heal it. I am slowly learning how overcome fear
and stepping out of my comfort zone to stand up for myself. I am
slowly realizing how capable I am to fight for my rights. I am
slowly learning how to forgive the past. How to accept that
sometimes beautiful things end, that sometimes the messiness of
life gets in the way. I am slowly learning what it means to be
human. What it means to make mistakes and learn from them. What
it means to be both happy and sad at the same time. How to stop
running from what is heavy and uncomfortable in my life. How to
grow myself, how to become a better person. I am slowly learning
that ending things aren’t something to be upset about, but
rather, I am slowly learning how to appreciate how lucky I was to
experience something real and hopeful and light in a world that
sometimes fails to be soft. I am slowly learning how acceptance
works.

But most of all, I am slowly learning to simply believe in

the person I am becoming.
Outline
I. Introduction
A. Thesis Statement - As we continue growing older, our
perspective in life and how we see the world and the
people around us changes drastically
II. Topic sentence #1 – As we continue growing older, our
perspective in life and how we see the world and the
people around us changes drastically

A. Realizing that not everything in life is meant to be a

beautiful story.

B. Not every person we feel something deep and moving with

is meant to make a home within us.

C. In our every journey, there is always something new we

learn in life.

III. Topic Sentence #2 - During my childhood days, I was

exposed to an unhealthy environment.

A. Learned to be optimistic and set aside my personal

feelings, per se, thought of it as part of life

B. Didn’t think that life is as hard as what others would

describe it before.

C. So young and naïve to understand the world, but I kept

an optimistic outlook regardless.

IV. Topic Sentence #3 – I was being hard on myself at

fifteen.
A. Home starts to feel suffocating

B. Personal problems, to family issues and school

C. Ruined a friendship and dated

D. When I realized there was no room for me there, I ended

what’s ours.
V. Topic Sentence #4 - I learned a lot from my previous
years
A. I am slowly learning how to be alone
1. Learning how to stop filling my voids with other
human beings and confront the void itself instead.
2. Learning how overcome fear and stepping out of my
comfort zone
3. Realizing how capable I am to fight for my rights
B. I am slowly learning how to forgive the past
1. Learning what it means to be human
2. How to grow myself and become a better person
C. Slowly learning that ending things aren’t something to
be upset about but rather learn how to appreciate how
lucky I was to experience something real and hopeful
1. Learning how acceptance works.

VI. Conclusion – My experiences dramatically changed how I

view life over the past few years, it had helped me to
simply believe the person I am now becoming.