FAMILY

MANAGEMENT &
PARENTING
1911532 Aina Amira Binti Khairul Nizar
1914156 Illya Nadzhirah Jaafar
1914402 Nur Hasana binti Othman
1916214 Nor Azlini binti Mohamed
 Table of Contents

Family Management
& Parenting
Islamic perspective
Meaning of family,
●
on concept of
01
family management
and parenting marriage
● Roles and function of
family ● Concept , objective and
● Importance of family
management and
02 benefits of marriage in
Islam
parenting ● Criteria of choosing
spouse
● Element of successful
marriage
● Issues and trends in
modern families
What is family?
Any group of persons closely related by
blood and can be extended that
include grandparents, uncles and
relatives.
What is Parenting?

The process of
raising and
supporting the
physical, emotional,
social and intellectual
development of a
child from infancy to
adulthood
 What is family management?
Refers to the process, ways and activities undertaken by
parents and family members to manage the family.

Basic element of family management

Communication Routines and Share tasks Share affection

ritual and chores and respect
Establish respectful ways of
Establishing good Sharing the load can Showing the children
dealing with family issues
routines allows for reduce stress on any how much you care for
Allow children the space to
predictability and create one person them
be able to discuss their
times when family spend
concerns with adults.
time together
Roles and function of family
Religious function
Family is the center of of all
religious activities.
All the family members
perform their prayer
together.
Health related function
Family as primary social
group perform several
health function for its
member by taking care
aged person of the family
or providing nutritive
foods.
 Roles and function of family

Recreational Economic Educational

function function function
The family members Fulfilling all the Family performs many
get together economic needs of educational functions
organize family members such as for its members as
feasts, visit family food, clothing, parent mould their
relations and housing.Others like children career and
organize family purchasing, characters. Mother
protecting and act as the first and
picnics such as
maintaining property. best teacher.
going for holiday.
Characteristics of
good parenting
and family
management
 Parenting Parenting or child rearing is a process of
raising child. It is a skill that need to be
learned and developed over time involve
Parenting style is the
emotional climate in deal consistency and routine
which parents raise
their children

Parenting
practices are All children are different and need
different parenting practices
specific action that
parents employ in
their parenting
 4 Parenting Style
Authoritative/
Assertive

Neglectful/
Uninvolved

Permissive Authoritarian
Characteristics of
Good Parenting
● Warm and Responsive
● Clear Rules
● Value Independence
● High Expectation
 Characteristic of Good Parenting
Warm & Clear Rules
Responsive
● Outwardly express love, caring affection
● Discipline
Encourage, nurture, show affection with
Good parents consistent and clear in
words and actions
enforcing limits and consequences
E.g. praise children’s actions and when the law are broken to turn them
achievements. into learning opportunities. They differ
● Communicate genuinely and clearly Discipline VS Punishment

Parents’ communication need to show the

E.g. using warning for minor issues
children that they value them.
where children may lose privilege if
E.g. parents need to listen to kids with full rules are violated
attentions for example on what they want and
then take to consideration
 Characteristic of Good Parenting
Value High Expectation
Independence
● Foster independence and
● Show good example
development on passions
Every good parents want their
Giving kids choices and letting them do
children to have a good life but every
age-appropriate activities by themselves
children is different hence parents
helps them develop healthy
need to have limits on what they
self-confidence. Experience is the best
want their children to be
teacher
E.g. If parents want their child to
Eg.Parents can expose their children on
read more often then parents need
things for their age and let them choose
to make sure they are reading just as
activities to do, and give them
often as they like the children to
appropriate leeway to explore on their
read.
own.
 Family
Management
Family management is a family
organisation that offers guidelines
to regulate and deal with every
family members to run a family.
Good family management is
important to create better
environment for the family
members
Characteristic
of Good Family
Management
 Characteristic of Good Family Management

Have clear routines

•

Have a clear channel of

and ritual
communication

Routines are activity that you

It is essential as a way to
deal with family issue
E.g. set clear boundaries
on how to handle any
issues arise
do every day
while rituals are routines that
are special and specific.
E.g. enjoy quality time
together after a long day at
work
 Characteristic of Good Family Management
Shares tasks and
chores
Enlighten the members of
responsibility at their
age-appropriate and reduce
load
E.g. Arrange shifting chores by
week and reward the children
(optional)
Share affection and
respect
To show love to family
members
E.g. Show up on their
important day or event and
respect others privacy and
opinions
Characteristic of Good Family Management

Good Finance
Management

Savings must come first along

with smart allocation on the
needs and wants

E.g. Have saving for children’s

future or emergency
Importance of
Good Parenting
and Family
Management
Importance of Good Parenting and Family Management

Stress and anger Boundaries and behavior

management management

Family management Establishing clear

decreases family stress and boundaries is to separate
create wellbeing and positives from negatives
happiness in general
Importance of Good Parenting and Family Management

Value Facts and Feelings Validation

If a problem occurred, To understand children’s

people tend to look for thoughts and feelings as
facts to understand they have yet fully develop
however, fact does not an understanding on
always explain feelings reason they feel certain
way
 WHAT IS MARRIAGE ?

Marriage in Islam is a recommended as a religious requirement.

"Marry those among you who are single and (marry) your slaves, male and
female, that are righteous" (Quran 24:32)

Marriage means "contract". ("Aqad in Arabic). The Quran specifically refers to

marriage as “Mithaqun Ghalithun,“ which means "a strong covenant". It is
legal contract between a man and a woman. Both the groom and the bride
are to consent to the marriage of their own free wills.
THE CONCEPT OF MARRIAGE
Quran gives its philosophy on Islamic Marriage as:

“And among His Signs is this that He created for you spouses of
your own kind, that you may dwell in tranquility with them, and He
Mercury Mars
has put love and mercy for one another: verily in that are Signs for
Mercury
those who is the closest
reflect.” planet30:21)
(Quran to the Despite being red, Mars is a cold
Sun and the smallest one in the place. It’s full of iron oxide dust,
Solar System giving the planet its reddish cast
● This ayah refers to Hawa , Allah created her from Adam, from the
short rib on his left. If Allah had made all of Adam's progeny male,
and created the females from another kind, such as from Jinn or
animals, thereVenus
would never have been harmonyNeptune
between them and
their spouses.
Venus has a beautiful name, but is Neptune is the fourth-largest
terribly hot and its atmosphere is planet in the Solar System and the
● There would have been revulsion if thefarthest
extremely poisonous spouses one had
from the Sunfrom a
been
different kind. Out of Allah's perfect mercy He made their wives from
their own kind, and created love and kindness between them.
 OBJECTIVES OF MARRIAGE

-To generate a family where can abode with

-Producing a new generation and bringing
their spouse in tranquility in achieving a goal
up healthy, faithful and vitreous children
of ‘Muwaddah’ (love) and ‘Rahmah’ (mercy).

-Marriage matures a man’s character

-Intends the Muslims to develop a society
through the responsibilities
where every member dwells in peace and
tranquility to develop their hidden potentials.
-To provide spiritual and legal foundation
of the family
-To preserve his/her chastity and offers one a
lawful means to satisfy their sexual desire.
 Benefits of faith
Bringing together a husband and wife as
believers in their Lord, walk the path of Islam
together in submission to the Creator of the

BENEFITS OF Universe.

Benefits of family
MARRIAGE IN Bringing two families together, encouraging
reconciliation, protecting the rights of women

ISLAM and children, and producing righteous

offspring who will be happy in this life and the
Hereafter.

Benefits of Love and Companionship Benefits of society

Fostering love and companionship Strengthening the common good
between a husband and wife, promoting through stable family relationships,
reconciling Muslims with the peoples of
their happiness, and respecting their
the scripture, and emancipating slaves
complementary nature.
.
 CRITERIA IN CHOOSING A SPOUSE
The Quran enjoins Muslims to select partners who are good and pure (tayyib)
"Women of purity are for men of purity, and men of purity are for women of purity "(Quran 24:26)

Select those partners who are best It has a deep effect on attaining
in religion (din) and character.
REL IGION the progress of life, performing
marital duties and the bringing

KNOWLEDGE
up and training of children.

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such as soft conduct, trustfulness and someone is equal to a bond with a family,
talking respectfully ) tribe, and a race.
 PREPARATION FOR MARRIAGE
● Marriage is always a risk-Always be prepared for changes because our
life can change in an instant.
● Requires commitment and love -Not being emotionally connected with
your spouse
● Marriage requires sacrifice -Being part of a team and there will be
times you have to make sacrifices and give all's yours
● Don’t focus on spouse’s weaknesses and imperfections
● Study of the religious practices and traditions so that the believer has
knowledge of Islam in its various facets including marital life.
● Talk about your expectations for marriage.
● Seek out opportunities to help each others.
MARRIAGE CONTRACT :
1. In Islam, marriage contract
which is nikah, is a legal
agreement between a husband
and a wife
 PARTS OF THE MARRIAGE CONTRACT

HUSBAND WITNESS AKAD

01 02 03 04 05

WIFE GUARDIAN
ELEMENTS OF A SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE
COMMITMENTS
COMMUNICATION
Key to making any Decision to be
relationship last committed lasts
forever

SELFLESSNESS TIME
Requires intentional,
The root cause of all
quality time together.
problems is selfish
OTHER ELEMENTS OF A
SUCCESSFUL MARRIAGE

➢ Patience

➢ Honesty & Trust

➢ Knowledge

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COMMON ISSUES IN MARRIAGE
1. MISCOMMUNICATION
➢ SPEAKING DIFFERENT LANGUAGES
○ Don’t take words literally
○ Try to understand the underlying issues
➢ MEN GO TO THEIR CAVES AND WOMEN TALK
○ Understand people need space sometimes
○ It’s the little things that count
➢ MR. FIX-IT AND THE HOME IMPROVEMENT
COMMITTEE
○ Don’t give unsolicited advice
○ Show compassion
○ Listen
COMMON ISSUES IN MARRIAGE
2. STRESS
➢ FINANCIAL, FAMILY, MENTAL & HEALTH
○ Financial problem may stems from a spouse
losing their job
○ Stress from family includes the children,
problems with the family or the spouse’s family
COMMON ISSUES IN MARRIAGE
3. JEALOUSY
➢ SENSE OF FEAR
➢ INSECURITIES
➢ SELF-DOUBT
➢ TRUST ISSUES
COMMON ISSUES & TRENDS IN MODERN FAMILIES
MISYAR ELOPED
MARRIAGE MARRIAGE
Eloping = running away.
Not in line with the to get married without telling
good interest of an anyone, especially your parents
Islamic marriage

UNDERAGED
MARRIAGE
marriage of a girl or boy
before the age of 18 and refers
to both formal marriages and
informal unions
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