The Big Rocks

One day an expert in time management was speaking to a group of business

students and to drive home a point he used an illustration those students will
never forget. As he stood in front of the group of high powered overachievers
he said, "Okay, time for a quiz." Then he pulled out a one-gallon, wide-mothed
Mason jar and set it on the table in front of him. Then he produced about a
dozen fist-sized rocks and carefully placed them, one at a time, into the jar.
When the jar was filled to the top and no more rocks would fit inside, he
asked, "Is this jar full?" Everyone in the class said, "Yes." Then he said,
"Really?" He reached under the table and pulled out a bucket of gravel then he
dumped some gravel in and shook the jar causing pieces of gravel to work
themselves down into the space between the big rocks. Then he asked the
group once more, "Is the jar full?" By this time the class was on to him.
"Probably not," one of them answered. "Good!" he replied. He reached under
the table and brought out a bucket of sand. He started dumping the sand in the
jar and it went into all of the spaces left between the rocks and the gravel.
Once more he asked the question, "Is this jar full" "No!" the class shouted.
Once again he said, "Good." Then he grabbed a pitcher of water and began to
pour it in until the jar was filled to the brim. Then he looked at the class and
asked, "What is the point of this illustration?" One eager beaver raised his
hand and said, "The point is, no matter how full your schedule is, if you try
really hard, you can always fit some more things in it!" "No," the speaker
replied, "that's not the point. The truth this illustration teaches us is: if you
don't put the big rocks in first, you'll never get them in at all." What are the
"big rocks" in your life? Your children, your loved ones, your education, your
dreams, a worthy cause, teaching or mentoring others, doing things that you
love, time for yourself, your health your significant other? Remember to put
these BIG ROCKS in first or you'll never get them in at all. If you spend your
time on the little stuff (the gravel, the sand) then you'll fill your life with little
things you worry about that don't really matter, and you'll never have the real
quality time you need to spend on the big, important things (the big rocks). So,
tonight, or in the morning, when you are reflecting on this short story
question: What are the "big rocks" in my life? ask yourself this Then, put
those in your jar first.

Gjerat e rendesishme ne jete

Nje dite nje ekspert ne menaxhimin e kohes po fliste me nje grup e studenteve
qe po mesonin per biznes dhe, per ti arritur qellimit, perdori nje ilustrim ato
student nuk do ta harrojne. Si ai po qendronte perballe grupit me nxenes me
arritje shume te larta ai tha, “Ne rregull, koha per nje kuiz.” Pastaj ai nxorri
nje kavanoz Mason një gallon me grykë të gjerë dhe e vendosi ne tavolinen
perpara tij. Pastaj ai zgjodhi afersisht nje dozine me gure zalli dhe i vendosi
me kujdes, nje nga nje ne kavanoz. Kur kavanozi ishte mbushur deri ne maje
dhe nuk zinte me gure brenda, ai pyeti, “A eshte i mbushur ky kavanoz?” Te
gjithe ne klase thane, “Po.” Pastaj ai tha, “Me te vertete?” Ai u zgjat poshte
tavolines dhe nxorri nje kove me zhavorr. Pastaj ai hodhi ca zhavorr dhe e
tundi kavanozin duke shkaktuar copa te zhavorrit te shkonin poshte nga
hapesire midis gureve te medhenj. Pastaj ai pyeti grupin dhe nje here, “A eshte
mbushur kavanozi?” Deri tani klasa ishte ne te. “Me siguri jo,” nje nga ato u
pergjigj. “Mire!” ai u pergjigj. Ai u zgjat poshte tavolines dhe nxorri nje kove
me rere. Ai vazhdoi te hedhte reren ne kavanoz dhe shkoi ne te gjitha hapesirat
qe kishin mbetur midis gureve dhe zhavorrit. Edhe nje here ai beri pyetjen, “A
eshte i mbushur kavanozi?” “Jo!” klasa tha. The nje here ai tha “Mire.”. Pastaj
ai mori nje broke me uje dhe filloi ta hidhte ne kavanoz derisa kavanozi ishte
mbushur deri ne gryke. Pastaj ai shikoi nga klasa dhe pyeti, “Cili eshte qellimi
i ketij ilustrimi?” Nje nxenes me arritje shume te larta ngriti doren dhe tha,
“Qellimi eshte, nuk ka rendesi sa te zene ta kesh orarin, nese ti perpiqesh
shume, ti gjithmone mund te gjesh kohe per gjera te tjera!” “Jo,” folesi u
pergjigj, “nuk eshte ai qellimi. Cfare me te vertete na meson ne ky ilustrim
eshte se: nese ti nuk vendos gjerat e rendesishme perpara, asnjehere nuk do ti
futesh me.” Cilat jane “guret e medhenj” ne jeten tende? Femijet e tu, te
afermit e tu, edukata jote, enderrat e tua, nje shkak i denje, duke u dhene
mesim ose duke mentoruar te tjeret, duke bere gjera qe ti deshiron, duke i
dhene vetes kohe, shendeti yt te tjere te rendesishem? Kujto te vendosesh keto
GJERA TE RENDESISHME ne fillim ose asnjehere nuk do ti futesh me. Nese
ti shpenzon kohen tende ne gjerat e vogla (zhavorrin, reren) ti do ta kalosh
jeten tende te mbushur me gjera te vogla qe ti merakosesh qe nuk kane
rendesi, dhe ti asnjehere nuk do te kesh nje kohe cilesore te shpenzosh ne
gjerat e medha te rendesishme (guret e medhenj). Keshtuqe, sonte, ose ne
mengjes, kur ti po reflekton kete histori te vogel, pyet veten: Cfare jane “guret
e medhenj” ne jeten time? Pastaj, vendosi ato ne kavanoz para gjithckaje.