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Doing Life With
Your Adult Children
Keep Your Mouth Shut and
the Welcome Mat Out
(A Practical Guide to Implementing Jim
Burns' Book)
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TABLE OF CONTENTS
Chapter 2: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome Mat Out
Chapter Summary.......................................................................14
Key takeaways............................................................................15
Quizzes.......................................................................................16
Reflective Questions...................................................................17
Affirmations.................................................................................18
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Chapter 4: How to Raise an Entitled Adult Child . . . or Not
Chapter Summary...................................................................... 24
Key takeaways........................................................................... 25
Quizzes...................................................................................... 26
Reflective Questions.................................................................. 27
Affirmations................................................................................ 28
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Chapter 8: In-Laws, Stepfamilies, and the Blend
Chapter Summary...................................................................... 44
Key takeaways........................................................................... 45
Quizzes...................................................................................... 46
Reflective Questions.................................................................. 47
Affirmations................................................................................ 48
Practical Exercises.................................................................. 54
All Affirmations.........................................................................56
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Relevance Of This Workbook
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Set Your Goal(s)
My Ultimate Goal
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My Action Timeline:
I will work towards my goal following this timeline
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Measures of Success
I will know I am making progress when
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Chapter 1: You’re Fired!
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
I leave a legacy of love and I will impact the children with this
legacy
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Chapter 2: Keep Your Mouth Shut and the Welcome
Mat Out
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
1. The best policy for parents with adult children is to: a) Give
unsolicited advice. b) Offer guidance even when they don't
ask for it. c) Bite their tongues and remain silent.
2. The transition from controlling parenting to mentorship
involves: a) Dictating decisions. b) Becoming their biggest
supporter. c) Treating them like children.
3. Healthy communication with adult children involves: a)
Asking open-ended questions. b) Giving orders. c) Avoiding
any dialogue.
4. The power of words can: a) Have no impact on relationships.
b) Bless or curse. c) Only affect children when they are
young.
5. Showing grace means: a) Being judgmental and critical. b)
Offering unconditional love and forgiveness. c) Withholding
affection.
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 3: Why Is It Taking My Kid So Long to
Grow Up?
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 4: How to Raise an Entitled Adult Child . . .
or Not
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 5: A Failure to Launch
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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How do you handle the balance between care and control in your
parenting approach?
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 6: When Your Grown Child Violates Your
Values
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 7: The High Cost of Money
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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Reflective Questions
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 8: In-Laws, Stepfamilies, and the Blend
Chapter Summary
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Chapter 9: It’s Party Time with the Grandkids
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Key Takeaways
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Quizzes
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End Of Chapter Affirmations
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Practical Exercises
Set boundaries and let your adult child take responsibility for
their decisions.
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Allow your adult child to take on a new responsibility, such as
decisions about their career.
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All Affirmations
I leave a legacy of love and I will impact the children with this
legacy
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I release my children with love, knowing they are capable
and resilient.
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